Am I the Evil Stepmother?

Jess - posted on 11/11/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )




I am engaged to an amazing man. We have decided to unite our families this Summer. Sound great right? Well....

We are both single parents raising our children alone.
When i met his daughter the first few times, i noticed the way he treated her and i just thought he was very loving. Until all of our children met and began to socialize.
I am the mother of 2 boys ages 10 & 7. My parenting is both loving and strict. My children have rules and chores that they must follow them before our favorite time of the day "family time"
My fiances choice of parenting his 7 year old daughter is a lot different. He does everything possible to overcompensate for her mothers absence. She has no chores, no responsibility, she does not share. She pretty much rules his home. Some would call her a spoiled brat (that felt bitter-sweet)

We have almost not other relationship problems. He agrees with me and has told me that she needs someone like me in her life.

Am i am awful person for not loving this child and even disliking her most of the time?


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Raye - posted on 11/20/2015




You are not awful, but maybe you're not in the right relationship. You don't have to like what she does, but if you can't find it in your heart to love this child, then you should not marry her father. The child is not at fault here, the parents made her into a spoiled brat. It's is probably true that she does need someone like you to get her back on track for being a respectful child. But it shouldn't fall to you alone... the father must also do his part. If you're going to stay with and marry this man, you both need to be on the same page with parenting, and back each other up. You need to find a way to open your heart to this girl and find redeeming qualities in her.

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