Appropriate Bedtimes

Ez - posted on 12/03/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )




There are a lot of children living in my street, and it never fails to astound me how late some of them are still running around. It's 9.20pm here right now (school night) and the little girls from across the road are still running around outside playing (they are primary school aged).

I had an 8.30pm bedtime until I went to highschool (12yo)!!! And even then it only moved to 9.30pm til I was about 15.

So what does everyone think? Should kids be in bed, or at the very least settled inside chilling, at this time of night?

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Hermione - posted on 10/09/2012




Yup, my kids are aged 1,3,6,9,12 and 14.

they go to bed at

1&3= 7.00pm

6 = 7.30pm

9= 8.30-9.00pm

12&14= 9.30pm- 10.00 pm

My 9 year old isn't allowed to go out after 8.00pm, on school nights.

Sarah - posted on 12/08/2009




The amount of kids i see out and about late in the evening is insane!
I work in a supermarket and every single night i work i see kids of all ages shopping with their parents at 10-11pm!!
Lot's of times they are throwing tantrums or being naughty.....hmmm....i wonder why?? Tiredness perhaps!!

My two go to bed between 7pm and 8pm and it will stay that way for the forseeable future! :)

Johnny - posted on 12/07/2009




It always boggles my mind when I run out to the mall quickly after putting my daughter to bed and see little kids there with their parents. One of our local malls is open to 11pm right now, and I went over to do the rest of my X-Mas shopping while it was quiet. There were little kids (under 10) all over the place with their parents. I was very surprised.

Charlie - posted on 12/06/2009




LOL it was 8 : 30 pm for me ( i could lie in bed and read till midnight though haha ) until i moved out of home , which was when i was 17 even then i still went to bed early because i was still at school and needed sleep .
Coopers bedtime is 7 : 30 i think that's late enough , i cant believe how many kids are out so late either .

Jodi - posted on 12/04/2009




6pm is pretty much the "pack up and inside now" time around our house. I punch them (LOL, not literally) through showers and baths while I do dinner, and then after dinner time is a bit of family time together before 8:30pm bedtime. This applies to the 4, 10 and 12 year olds. My 17 year old step-daughter obviously has different rules!!

Occasionally, if there is a family movie on over the weekends, I will let them sit up a little later to watch it (but only until 9:30pm). Even over school holidays I stick to these bedtimes, unless we have visitors, or one of the kids has a friend for a sleepover, then I make exceptions. I will probably move Jayden's bedtime in a few months when he starts high school, but it will be entirely dependent on whether he can handle the later nights or not. If he starts getting cranky, bedtime will be back to 8:30! But he will still be required to be home by dark no matter what time his bedtime is!! It will be another couple of years before I will be thinking about the after dark thing I think.

ME - posted on 12/04/2009




My sisters and I had to be in our bedrooms by 7:30 during the school year, and 8:00 during the summer. We didn't have to go to sleep exactly; we could read or listen to music quietly for a little while...but in any case, I don't think it hurt us. Once we had more school work to do (jr. high), we could stay up later to do our school work, but that was the only reason. To be fair to my parents, there were 5 of us...I'm praying for 7:30 to arrive with just the one, so, I can only imagine what they were going through...

I don't plan on letting my child out alone after dark ever! least not until he's 12 years old...and then it will be with lots of information...and only based on the establishement of trust. I think this makes me smart...and kids will realize that as well...

Lindsay - posted on 12/04/2009




That is absolutely crazy for kids to be out playing that late on a school night!!!

Since it's winter time right now, it gets dark around 4:30 and the kids are ready for bed earlier than when it's warm out. We typically eat dinner around 5 or 5:30 and then they pick up their toys and mess from the day and get ready for bed. Lately, they've been in bed by 7:30.

In the summer though it's usually daylight until about 9 and we often are outside after dinner (if we even went in for dinner) and the kids are either swimming or just playing in the yard. I'm not strict on bedtimes in the summer when there is no school to get up for. And now, on weekends or holidays when they don't have school, I don't push a bedtime but since they are so used to their bedtimes, they stay pretty consistant.

Dana - posted on 12/04/2009




During school I think kids should be in the house and settling for the night after dinner. If it were summer time and no school then I see no problem with it. My best memories being a child were running around during the warm weather, at night playing hide and go seek.

Ez - posted on 12/03/2009




Phew.... so glad it's not just me then! Obviously my daughter is just a baby, and I'm not in any way referring to babies in this thread. I just think if parents can't instill a decent bedtime, and remain consistent with that, what hope do they have?!?!? My daughter will not be choosing her own bedtime, I can assure everyone of that lol. Right now she has an 8pm bedtime, but we start settling down right after her dinner at 6 (bath, books, bottle etc). Once she's older, there is no way in the world she will be outside playing after dinner, and certainly not after dark!

Amie - posted on 12/03/2009




That is ridiculous. My kids have a schedule, it helps them immensely and keeps me sane too. Our baby goes down at 7 (wakes up once a night somewhere between 11-1 for a bottle and cuddle then back to sleep) our two middle kids go to bed at 8 and our oldest goes to bed at 9. The only two days this differs throughout the week is Scouts night for Jonathan (he's in bed a half hour later) and Cadets night for Nicole (same thing a half hour late). On weekends they do get to stay up till 9-10 but they aren't outside! They aren't even allowed outside after dark! And right now it's dark by 5 p.m.

Summer holidays are different, they can play outside until 8 p.m. but then it's time to come in and bath and get ready for bed. All of them have an hour later bed time during the summer.

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Yes!! It's sometimes 10 or 11pm before I leave work and it pisses me off to see people out shopping with their kids at that hour especially on a school night. I want to scream at them. I don't remember my bed times but I can remember lying in bed, trying to fall asleep when it was still light outside. I hated that.

Esther - posted on 12/03/2009




My parents never allowed me to go outside after dinner. And we had dinner at 6 PM. On a very rare occassion in the summer, I might be allowed to play a bit with the girl next door, but even then I don't think it ever went past 8 PM. And that would have been on a weekend (again, even that was rare). I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I don't have the slightest intention of letting Lucas out of the house after dinner either unless there is a specific reason for it. I don't quite remember my bedtimes anymore, but I do remember that my mom would let me watch Gonzo blow the bugle on the Muppet Show (opening act) and then I would have to go to bed. I can't imagine that that was past 8 PM. When I was a little older (early teens) she would let me watch Dynasty on Friday evenings. That probably started at 8 and ended at 9 PM. I think it wasn't until my mid-teens (15/16) that I could kind of go to bed when I wanted to. That's not to say that I could go out after dinner though. That was still prohibited.

Sara - posted on 12/03/2009





Sleep is important. I am not of the school of thought where you let a kid decide their own bedtime, they need structure and you as a the parent are supposed to provide that for them. As they get older I think it becomes more flexible, but at the very least a child should be inside preparing for bed at 9pm!

Isobel - posted on 12/03/2009




Yup...we have the same thing here...and I'm sure their moms can't figure out why mornings are sooo difficult. My kids have their bath and/or put on their pajamas straight after dinner. Then homework...the boy is in bed by 8, the girl by 9 (but it's only 9 for her because she couldn't fall asleep at night, asked for books, couldn't sleep, got up to use the bathroom, etc...and still jumped out of bed at 7 am, bright eyed and bushy tailed)

Jackie - posted on 12/03/2009




I totally agree!! Bedtime is important!! Sleep effects so many things in our lives, growth, health, immune systems, behavior, brain function. It is a very simple thing to provide your child with good sleeping habits while growing up to help prevent poor sleeping habits later in life.

Our bodies need to hit rem sleep every single night to help repair the damage we did to our bodies the day before and sort out all the things our brains experienced. Its also one of the first ways to teach children self control and a bit of self responsibility. My children begin getting ready for bed at 6-7. They may read a book before bed or watch a bit of a movie together. Depending on the day of the week and how they are... its lights out between 7-9 pm. My children are very rarely awake after 9 pm.

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