Are internet relationships/friendships real ?

Charlie - posted on 09/17/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )

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I can personally say i have met some amazing people on COM , people i would call friends .
But are internet relationships/friendships real ?

some people do not believe that it is possible for someone to fall in love online, suggesting they have not felt real chemistry and can't be sure of who the person they're talking to really is. Because of this, people disregard online relationships as not real, or as a fake. , skeptics of the subject are not convinced that dating online can lead to a successful outcome. Many people in online relationships have to endure ridicule and criticism from family, friends and even strangers on the internet itself because it's considered unsuccessful. However, in spite of this, many people who have experienced successful internet relationships feel that it is better for them than first meeting in person. This is due to the fact that, for the most part, you do not see the person first, and instead get to know their personality.

One of the aspects of internet friendship or relationship in general is that online relation gives an opportunity to reveal personal details of one's life that usually people would feel uncomfortable revealing in face-to-face conversations , but it also gives opportunity to become whoever you want to be EG . hi i am sally , 32 4 children and a doctor .
hey presto i am a mum of four and have a medical degree !!


So are internet relationships and friendships real ?

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Charlie - posted on 09/20/2009

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I am astounded how many people met their partners online , thats amazing !!

Sharon - posted on 09/20/2009

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Nope. I met my husband through work. I worked for a roofing & painting company and he worked for a store in outside sales. We met October 30 at the SAMHA show. Southern Arizona Multi Housing Association - basically apartment supply stuff. People dressed in costumes. I was dressed as a comic book elf queen witch - SUPER sexy costume, 4 inch peep toe black patent leather heels, with a slit in my gown that went to my lowest rib and white fur ruff and a crown of feathers & crystals....



He was the only guy who had the guts to ask if I was wearing underwear.

Brenda - posted on 09/20/2009

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LOL Has everyone met their husbands online? This is funny. I met my husband online before it was cool... 12 years ago. Yes, we are divorcing now, but it has nothing to do with how we met obviously. I have also met several internet friends in real life and would consider them some of my closest friends since I often feel more comfortable writing how I feel vs speaking aloud sometimes.

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I can say that personally I believe they can be real. My husband and I met online. We talked online for a month, then gave eachother our phone numbers and talked on the phone for 2 weeks, then we finally met in person (we lived in different states). 2 months after we met in person, we were engaged and 6 months after that we got married (and were 2.5 months pregnant at our wedding). We have been married for 2.5 years now and we have our three kids (2 are ours together and his daughter from a previous relationship - who I knew about from our very first email). I also know of three other people who got married to people they met online and one of my best friends is currently dating a guy she met online (we all think he's going to propose any day now). I think it gave my hubby and me a great opportunity to get to "know" eachther before we met, therefore making sure our first face-to-face meeting was way less stressful than any first date I've ever been on. I loved it and I recommend it to everyone who asks me if they should go online to try to find someone.



I also have had some very meaningful friendships online. A while back I was a part of a community called "The Gutter Hotel" and I loved the ladies I met on there. Yes, it was a community for women to get together and talk about ANYTHING (thus the name as our minds were usually in the gutter... and it all started from a not-quite-so-innocent discussion about the amazingness of Josh Groban's thighs on a message board linked to his site... we had to move it to our own site though as his sight termed our "discussions" way too "R" for some of the people on the boards... :P ... tee hee hee...). Unfortunatelly, the person maintaining the site had to stop as her mother got very gravely ill and she had to take care of her, but I still do email quite a few of the women on that site and I have met one when I was in DisneyWorld a few years ago (she lives in Orlando and sugested we get together while I was there).



I have had a lot of luck meeting people I realy can connect with online, and I find it's a great tool to keep in touch with my family since I moved over 200 miles away from them and my bestest friends when my hubby and I got married! :)

Sara - posted on 09/18/2009

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Sharon, you can do stuff like that as long as you're wearing your tin foil hat.

Sharon - posted on 09/18/2009

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you know? For fun in the chat room I liked to hang out in, I would randomly toss in "kill the president" "white house explode blow up" shit like that.

?? - posted on 09/18/2009

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No the point of a social networking site is so that the government can peek into our lives and collect information about our daily lives :o

totally off topic but I couldn't help the jab, sorry hehehehehehehehehe

Sara - posted on 09/18/2009

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I think that internet relationships are real. I met my husband online and I have a couple of very good friends that I initally met on the internet. I think that it is true there may be room for deception, but you can usually sniff those people out pretty quick.



What it boils down to is that technology is changing the way that people interact with eachother...while several years ago it may seem kind of strange to form relationships online, now it's one of the ways that people communicate and interact with eachother. I mean, I have met some great ladies on COM's that I hope to have long friendships with. And isn't that the point of a "social networking" site in the first place?



Good question, Loureen! :)

Mel - posted on 09/17/2009

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lol ive met some freaks before finding the right guy. some who were just mentally unstable and others who were complete scum like my ex who i felt for hook line and singer yet he was a liar and a cheater. hes married now and already cheated on his wife with her best friend. But that said Ive met some great people online female and male and some have become such great friends

?? - posted on 09/17/2009

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I moved to Montreal (which is across the country) with a guy I met online when I was 17... we were together for 2 years... I came home when my aunt fell ill with cancer and he told me to not bother going back so he bought out my half of our record label and I stayed here.



Then when I was 19 I moved to Australia to be with Jake who I met through a chica I knew in Aus who I had met when she was on vaca here in Canada. Jake and I spoke online for a little under a year, online, on the phone, and I had a background check run on him, I talked to his sister (who freakishly enough had the same name as me only spelled Jodie Leigh), and his mom and his uncle. I was there for 3 months and I got to see a lot of things I otherwise never would have (my dream when I was little was to go to Aus - dream come true) and when I got back to Canada...... on my birthday... the prick told me he knocked up some whore he'd been bangin the whole time.



And then after that I stuck to guys I knew in real life lol and found 'the one' through a guy I went to school with, while I was dating him he introduced me to Devon and it wasn't until 2 years later that Dev and I started dating.



I don't REGRET goin to Montreal or to Australia - some of my fondest memories and lessons learned are from those 2 experiences in my life and going to those 2 places I saw a lot of things a lot of people only dream of seeing.



Relationships are relationships. Online is an extension of real life. You're gonna meet fake people online and you'll meet fake people in real life. I think talking to people online - having that distance and the communication is one of the best ways to make a base of a lifelong friendship.



I have met some wonderful people online - 2 of my longest friendships, and my best friendships are people I met online. Years of talking to someone, you get close to them. And the people who ARE fake - you can usually figure it out pretty quick.



Take Amanda Passmore for example - that broad can't even go a day in a fake persona without numerous people singling her out the second she JOINS a community let alone posts in it!



So yes, I think internet relationships are just as real as "real life" relationships.

Jodi - posted on 09/17/2009

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Quoting dana:



Quoting Jodi:




Quoting dana:

Wow, I'm surprised by how many of you have met your significant other online. Prior to reading this I thought it wouldn't be so easy or real. Now I don't know.








LOL Dana, I think a few of us probably met some freaks on the way!!  But honestly, it is possible.  I personally found it the best way to meet people as a single mother with a very demanding job.  I couldn't afford babysitters all the time to go out and meet people, and my son needed a healthy bedtime schedule, so dragging him around wasn't an option for me. I found hanging out online after he was in bed a good way to meet people and fulfill my social needs.










I WAS wondering how many freaks you all met before you found" the one".





 I actually only met one really freaky one.  The worst part about that was that he was a police officer in the Australian Federal Police.  After a few conversations with him, I realised he was a bit nuts and ended it.  I met one that was married but told me the marriage was "unhappy" and he was only staying with her because she had health problems.  I'm smart enough to know what a crock that one is!!



Others I met were nice enough guys, but just not really my type.  I'll be honest though, I think the fact that hubby and I spent so much time emailing, we formed a very real and close emotional connection before we met. 



My cousin did the same thing.  He is now married to a German girl he met online.  They communicated by email and web cam for about 12 months and he was totally in love with her.  She came out here on holiday to visit him, and the rest is history! They have been married now for about 10 years I think. 

Jodi - posted on 09/17/2009

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Quoting dana:



Quoting Jodi:




Quoting dana:

Wow, I'm surprised by how many of you have met your significant other online. Prior to reading this I thought it wouldn't be so easy or real. Now I don't know.








LOL Dana, I think a few of us probably met some freaks on the way!!  But honestly, it is possible.  I personally found it the best way to meet people as a single mother with a very demanding job.  I couldn't afford babysitters all the time to go out and meet people, and my son needed a healthy bedtime schedule, so dragging him around wasn't an option for me. I found hanging out online after he was in bed a good way to meet people and fulfill my social needs.










I WAS wondering how many freaks you all met before you found" the one".





 I actually only met one really freaky one.  The worst part about that was that he was a police officer in the Australian Federal Police.  After a few conversations with him, I realised he was a bit nuts and ended it.  I met one that was married but told me the marriage was "unhappy" and he was only staying with her because she had health problems.  I'm smart enough to know what a crock that one is!!



Others I met were nice enough guys, but just not really my type.  I'll be honest though, I think the fact that hubby and I spent so much time emailing, we formed a very real and close emotional connection before we met. 



My cousin did the same thing.  He is now married to a German girl he met online.  They communicated by email and web cam for about 12 months and he was totally in love with her.  She came out here on holiday to visit him, and the rest is history! They have been married now for about 10 years I think. 

Dana - posted on 09/17/2009

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Quoting Jodi:



Quoting dana:

Wow, I'm surprised by how many of you have met your significant other online. Prior to reading this I thought it wouldn't be so easy or real. Now I don't know.






LOL Dana, I think a few of us probably met some freaks on the way!!  But honestly, it is possible.  I personally found it the best way to meet people as a single mother with a very demanding job.  I couldn't afford babysitters all the time to go out and meet people, and my son needed a healthy bedtime schedule, so dragging him around wasn't an option for me. I found hanging out online after he was in bed a good way to meet people and fulfill my social needs.






I WAS wondering how many freaks you all met before you found" the one".

Jodi - posted on 09/17/2009

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Quoting dana:

Wow, I'm surprised by how many of you have met your significant other online. Prior to reading this I thought it wouldn't be so easy or real. Now I don't know.



LOL Dana, I think a few of us probably met some freaks on the way!!  But honestly, it is possible.  I personally found it the best way to meet people as a single mother with a very demanding job.  I couldn't afford babysitters all the time to go out and meet people, and my son needed a healthy bedtime schedule, so dragging him around wasn't an option for me. I found hanging out online after he was in bed a good way to meet people and fulfill my social needs.

Dana - posted on 09/17/2009

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Wow, I'm surprised by how many of you have met your significant other online. Prior to reading this I thought it wouldn't be so easy or real. Now I don't know.



As far as friends, yes, I think you can. Friends are different b/c you don't have to worry about being attracted to them, they're just your friends. I like to think I've found great friends on COM.

Mel - posted on 09/17/2009

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Yes it is possible! I have fell in love online twice, one being my fiance. Plus have made some great friendships online with people I may or may not meet one day

Sharon - posted on 09/17/2009

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Yes & no. I can't say I feel real friendship with everyone I meet online. I have made an excellent friend online. We've had "who has the messiest kitchen?" contests, who has the worst bedhead contests, we have talked for 12 hours on the phone, we're so comfortable we can sit in silence on the phone and watch a tv show or movie together.

We "clicked" in our second or third meeting each other in a chat room. We often finish each others sentences, have the same nutty sense of humor, and if I can't find the word I want - she has it, lol.

We send each other little gifts all the time, I sent her a tourist "camera" where you look through the view finder and see images of Arizona, I made sure it was on a scorpion. She sends cards and little trinkets all the time and never forgets my kids birthdays.

I have another friend who is nearly as close but she's in australia and we don't talk on the phone, lol, there not an unlimited calling plan for that yet. I have another friend I clicked with - but she's in Canada... We have all shared some seriously intimate details with each other, um anal itching, bad sex experiences, lol, but no, not all online friends are real and I take care to remember that.

Kylie - posted on 09/17/2009

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Yeh, i met my hubby through the internet, been together 9 years. Can't say there was any chemistry online, we chatted a handful of times and then met by chance when a friend of his, who i had chatted to for years, started "stalking" me..long story.
I have a mate who has been trying to find love on the internet for over a decade, he's been hurt and tricked so many times and hes even flown a girl over form England so they could be together and she turned out to be nothing like she described and really messed up. He's still single and pretty bitter about the whole internet relationship thing but he's still manages to "fall in love" with some hottie every now and then.
I also have a few ladies on FB who i consider my friends whom i have never met...one gorgeous girl messaged me through COM and we have heaps in common so we swapped numbers and have chatted on the phone and want to meet up when shes in town next. I like face book because you can generally tell if a person is real and what they are like, it's sort of a snapshot of their life even though they have total control what they publish and put out there.
It's very easy for people to be fake or talk themselves up or be funny and confident when they are typing in a chat program or on forums when in reality the are shy and quiet and would never say those things to your face.
My husband and I have only told his Mum how we really met, i was way too embarrassed to admit we had met online..there's a certain stigma around it..especially years ago.
so yeah i think internet relationship can be real, but there are so many dodgy, fake people who get off messing with people online because they can. I used to jump on IRC years ago and pretend to be 15/f/fremantle and get 45 messages from random guys and I"d fuck with their heads, get their numbers and then prank call them or give their numbers to other guys looking to hook up, thats before i realized i should have probably reported the majority of them for wanting to lure a 15 yr old to have sex....

Jodi - posted on 09/17/2009

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Well, I met my current husband online. We have now been happily married for nearly 6 years. What more do I need to say?



We spent 6 months communicating (originally by email, and eventually by phone and text message) before we even met. But we already knew it was a relationship that was going somewhere :)

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