Are the French Better Parents?

Mrs. - posted on 02/12/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )




Read an interesting article about the differences between French parents and North American parents. I found it interesting because some of what she says, especially about diet, are things I've done with my daughter and I think are the reasons my daughter's favourite foods are not Oreos and Cheetos.

It also reminded me of the conversations I've had with my ex-pat French friend, Thomas and his wife about the culture in France encouraging parents to still have full lives outside of their kids.

So, what do you think? Is the French way of parenting optimal? Would you like more programme like they have in France? Do you see fault in the general parental views expressed in the article?


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There are incredible parents doing a fantastic job all over the world.Who are raising or have raised wonderful children.By having a balance and a little fun along the way.Don't be hogging the spot light France lol.

Tina - posted on 02/12/2012




I think most of this is commen sense atleast it was for me growing up. I knew never to enter my parents bedroom or anyone as a matter of fact unless given permission. I new I had to atleast the food that was put in front of me. I think parents could learn a thing or to from the French. But there are plenty of place that practice some of the French parenting styles. I do think parents do need to spend time away from their kids to unwind and also focus on their relationship. Otherwise by the time your kids are grown up you're practically strangers.


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Tina - posted on 02/14/2012




It's like asking which is better a dog or a cat. Neither both are good and loving companions. But people would still argue till their blue in the face. Doesn't matter where you are in the world everone is going to have different parenting styles the person next door would be doing something completely different to you doesn't mean they're better parent.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 02/13/2012




I say neither! Both are doing very similar things... I think a lot of us (Americans/Canadians) do many of the same things as the French, they just don't see that on the french side of things, I guess.... ;) Funny how we notice it on the North American side though, eh'? LOL

Sherri - posted on 02/13/2012




Well I am American and do many of the exact same parenting so who is better the french mother or the american mother?

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 02/13/2012




I don't think the french are any better, maybe they are better than some parents (some parents just shouldn't have children anyway) but I pretty much follow every single thing listed in that article. The only 2 parts I have not followed is giving my children baby cereal as their first food. Both my children got bland old cereal. LOL The 2nd part being making French gourmet foods, I do however only make homemade foods (we rarely ever eat out). My 13 year old's favorite food are fruits and veggies. She loves steamed broccoli, cauliflower and even asparagus. Everything else listed I most definitely do and am stern with each one of them, even the relaxing part. ;)

However, I did co-sleep with my first child but not my 2nd (after 3 months of couch time). ;)

Amanda - posted on 02/12/2012




I don't know that I would say the French are better parents, I apply similar parenting styles with my children.

We have done the same thing with food with my 2 and given the choice they will take fruit over biscuits and crisps the majority of the time.

We have had a strict bedtime routine and I have never wrapped my kids in cotton wool. There maybe a bit of truth in not jumping to an infants every squeek and maybe even co sleeping. Both kids were in their own rooms at a few weeks old and both slept through the night from a very early age.They are both very strong willed independant kids.

I know my hubby and I don't spend enough time together, but he's a shift worker so it's hard.

That being said I don't think you can apply this to every child and every family, what works for one doesn't always work for another.

Stifler's - posted on 02/12/2012




I don't believe that all french parents or all north american parents are exactly the same. I agree with the philosophy that no one part of your life should overwhelm another. I don't even think those principles are "french".

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