Are you an Organ donor?

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 01/25/2011 ( 53 moms have responded )

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Or are you NOT for the idea?

How about your children, would you donate their organs…why or why not?



I am a proud organ donor; I choose to be one because if the tables were turned I would want to get whatever body part I needed. And I would feel the same way about my son’s.

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Mary - posted on 01/26/2011

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I am most definitely an organ donor.

Sherri, I think you're fear that you wouldn't be "saved" just because you were an organ donor is just a tiny bit paranoid and unfounded.

If you really do intend to donate your organs, you NEED to have in on your license. There is a good reason I know this...

My 64 year old mother died suddenly and unexpectedly in April of this past year. She had no chronic health issues, and was quite active. After much reflection of the events, I am 99% sure that it was ventricular tachycardia...in other words, not a heart attack, but a malfunction with the electrical conduction system in her heart. She woke up in the morning, collapsed while brushing her teeth, and died in the ambo en route to the hospital.

I live about two miles from parents house, and arrived just as they were taking her out of the house. I drove my father to the hospital, where we were told she had died. Needless to say, we were devastated, shocked, and pretty fucking dysfunctional.

We got back to his house about 2 hours later, and within an hour, I answered the phone at their house. It was the Living Legacy Foundation. My mother (also an RN) was a registered organ donor. Now, obviously, things like her heart and lungs were no longer usable, but there was still a lot that could be harvested, but time was of the essence. It was not exactly an easy or convenient time to be answering all of their questions, but, despite her registration, they still needed my consent, as well as her health history. I was still fairly shocky, but I knew in my heart that my mother would have wanted me to do this.

I cannot tell you how good it made me, my father, and sister feel about two months later to receive a letter from them, telling me her corneas, skin, and some bone had been used to help heal another. It was a gift to US. It warmed my heart to know that even in her death, my mother was still capable of doing what she loved most - helping and caring for those in need. It was a great comfort, and a bit of a spiritual hug when that letter arrived.

Had she not been a registered donor, it never would have happened; I was in no position to be thinking of that at the time.

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I know this isn't gonna sit well with a few of you but....I don't care if they take my liver and give it to a convicted (fill in the blank) or someone who doesn't take care of their body. To me, that isn't the point of the gift. The point of the gift is in the giving. To put it on a smaller, more tangible scale. You know how at Christmas time some stores have "Angel Trees" and such? You pick a child's name and donate a toy, it goes specifically to that child. Would you still donate a toy if you knew the child wouldn't take care of it? Or would the gift for YOU be in knowing you made a child happy? Once it becomes theirs, it's theirs to take care of (or not). To me, it's the same with my organs. The gift is in the giving.

Cassie - posted on 01/26/2011

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I am an organ donor and my children would be organ donors if anything were to ever happen to them.

I think it's a slippery slope to be on in saying that you wouldn't want someone who didn't "deserve" your organs to get them. How does one "earn" your organs? What is your criteria? etc, etc? If you wish to donate your organs to save another then that's what it is; no strings attached no contingencies.

Becky - posted on 01/25/2011

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Yep, I am and I would donate my children's organs as well, although I hope with everything in me I never have to!!
As for why? This body isn't me, it's just my shell. When I'm dead, my shell doesn't matter anymore. There's no need to keep it intact. If it can save someone else, then I'd love for it to do that. Same for my kids. Refusing to donate their organs isn't going to bring them back to me. If their organs save another child's life, then in a way, they live on.

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I think the point Kati's mum was making was that the children who have the transplants have a poor quality of life, with being in pain and such and so may not have chosen that path if they had realised, rather than somebody else wanting more time with someone who needed a transplant because regardless of why our loved ones die we would all want more time with them if we could. Sometimes we need to consider that it may be better for them for their life to end, what we want shouldn't come into it.

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Rosie - posted on 01/28/2011

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that's exactly it toni. the problem is, you never know how someone is going to react to the transplant, physically or emotionally. i'm not sure that i could make that decision for my children. and i'm not sure i want to be the organ donor making someone elses life horrid. IDK. it could turn out perfectly wonderful though. i just have no clue right now, i'm very torn.

Sal - posted on 01/28/2011

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i do see the point that katies mum makes but i'm pretty sure my friend would of loved a little longer with her boy, i never thought about live donation but seen as i only have 1 kidney i often joke with my sister that if i need one i bags hers, she also jokes that if anything happens to her i am to get hers put in just in case i need it later....i also heard an interview with some one who worked in a ward who remove the organs and he said it was the most traumatic job ever, he felt he was essentially killing people, i can see his point too seen as he wasn't the one saving someone.

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Kati, I can see why your mom would feel negatively towards donation, however, I know a girl who had a life saving transplant when she was in school, she is more suseceptable to illness than a healthy person is, but she loves life - she loves the fact that she is still here and able to live a pretty normal life (for the most), she would rather have had the transplant and live the life she has than not and die, even with the hospital stays and illnesses, she may be in the minority though I don't really know because I've only known one person who's had a transplant.

Jodi - posted on 01/27/2011

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I am an organ donor, my family knows this, just like they know I want to be cremated. I like to think I would donate my children's organs, but I can only imagine how hard that would be to give up any little piece of them in that situation and can only hope that I would have the strength to try to prevent someone else's child from dying. My husband is NOT an organ donor, there is something about it that bothers me, but I can understand too and don't fault him for it at all.

Jocelyn - posted on 01/27/2011

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@ Mary; in Alberta we just check a box on the back of our health cards. But it's different in every province. BC has a donor registry that you have to sign up for.

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And besides....the doctors who are treating the patients, or killing/allowing them to die, have no knowledge of where the organs will be going. That is just silly.

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I'm curious, what makes any of you think that a doctor would kill someone, or even allow someone to die just to potentially save someone else? That doesn't even make sense.

Tiffany - posted on 01/26/2011

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This is something hard to talk about for me. I never used to be an organ donor, but 3 years ago I switched it on my license...hearing about Katherine Heigls brother dying and donating his organs is what changed my mind to be honest. She is an advocate for organ donation and I started looking into it more. The whole thought just creeps me out...I worry that I may be seen by doctors that are vultures who wouldn't save my life if they knew someone else could live with my organ. I know, morbid and ridiculous lol...but if my organs could save someone then so be it. I'm not okay with them taking my skin and tissue though, or keeping my organs in a jar to study. Just not something I'm comfortable with. I'm hoping I'll change my mind, but it just weirds me out. As for my daughter....I don't even want to think about that. I do not think I could let them take her organs. But at the same time to know if God forbid something happened to her that she could save some other child, that would be the best gift to give to another parent.

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@Mary, I dont mean steal my organs...If i was in critical condition and i had ALREADY consented to it, the doctor may decide to let me die to save others in the hospital.. The human condition is a terrible thing some times. The doctor may decide to save the other people more important.

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Sorry, Mary -- I didn't mean to overlook that in your post. I was pretty sure that someone had already said that, but when I left the computer and came back to finish responding I couldn't remember where or who said it and I was too lazy to go look. My bad!

Mary - posted on 01/26/2011

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I have no idea how it works in Canada, but to assuage those who worry that your life would be prematurely ended for your innards....YES they need the consent of the family (or legal next of kin) before harvesting ANY part of you. Not only that, but the family must stipulate what can be harvested, and for what purposes.



When Living Legacy contacted me, it was a very detailed list of questions about what parts of my mother's body I was willing to approve for harvesting. They also explained to me how taking certain body part could affect an open casket viewing. Even though my mother was an unrestricted donor (meaning she had registered for her body to be used for any thing from donation to a living recipient to research), I also had to consent to specifically what it could used for.



I have to say, the person I spoke with was very well trained. There was absolutely no pressure, and he was very compassionate. Considering the circumstances, it was a painless as something like that could possibly be.

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Yes, I absolutely am a donor, and so is my husband. In all honesty, I never even thought about my son, but 100% yes his organs would be donated if God forbid something happened. My mother received 2 kidney transplants. The first one failed in 1993, and then her final one in 2000. My borther had a kidney transplant in 2004. My sister is waiting for a kidney but she won't take mine. MY kidneys are currently healthy, but no one in my family wants me to donate to my sister except me.

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DMak, I'm pretty sure you're right. Did you see Mary's story? She had to give permission, even though her mother was a registered donor.

Cyndel - posted on 01/26/2011

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I am, and yes I would be willing to donate my childs. After all why should another set of parents go through the grief of losing a child too if I can help it?

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I can't remember if someone said this already but being an organ donor on your license is not enough, and telling your family and friends is also not enough. You need to do BOTH! Even when you are a registered organ donor, they still need written permission, don't they?

Charlie - posted on 01/26/2011

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I am a donor and if something were to happen to any of my children I would donate theirs too , the gift of life is the ultimate in giving how could I refuse someone else needs to keep something I can't use.

Krista - posted on 01/26/2011

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I'm listed as an organ donor as well, and I would definitely donate my child's organs if (fates forbid) anything were to happen to him. It's not like you need that stuff when you die, and if part of my body can save someone's life, then I think that's just an incredibly beautiful thing.

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Another point about who "deserves" your organs etc. -- correct me if I'm wrong someone but isn't that why there is a screening process and an ENORMOUS waiting list. You have to meet certain criteria to make it on the transplant list, or is that just in the movies? ;)

Barb - posted on 01/26/2011

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Mary, that is so helpful and such a beautiful and moving story.
Thank you so much for sharing that.

Rosie - posted on 01/26/2011

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she obviously worked with kids who had transplants, who would come into the clinic. having to take medication after medication, be hospitalized at the drop of a hat because they would get infection after infection. she doesn't feel the quality of life after transplant is good enough to want over death. she wouldn't want to put her own child through that type of life after seeing all of those kids come in fighting for their life.

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Kati, can I ask why your mum has scared you a bit about organ donation, what are the rest of us not getting?

Rosie - posted on 01/26/2011

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i'm conflicted. my mother is a nurse, and worked in the peds specialty clnic for years. she has totally been turned off of organ transplants since working there, and has scared me a bit from them.
i cannot say i would want to donate mine. i cannot say i don't want to donate mine. i just don't know at this moment.

Sarah - posted on 01/26/2011

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Yep, I'm an organ donor, and yes I would donate my kids organs if it came to it.

I like the idea of helping someone else live on after my death.
I certainly won't be using my organs, so why not!!

The only thing I've said I won't donate is my corneas, I don't know why, but that freaks me out. Which kinda contradicts what I said earlier I guess, but I can't help it! lol

Janessa - posted on 01/26/2011

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I am not an organ donor but I want to but I am conflicated if someone who does not deserved it get it. Like someone who abuses their bodies I would not want my organ to go to them. I wish I could say who I could pick to recieve my body parts I just do not want someone who does not deserved it.

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@ Jocelyn ~ ROFL You watched Jerry Maguire too many times....that's friggin' HI-LAR-I-OUS!!!
@ Sherri ~ No offense girl but....that's a little paranoid if you ask me lol No one's gonna stand there and watch you die so they can steal your liver. That only happens in Lifetime movies lol

Johnny - posted on 01/26/2011

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I am an organ donor. I have absolutely no fear that I will be killed off to save another human. I find that really ridiculous. There are extensive safe-guards to prevent that.

Jocelyn, you've got me laughing so hard right now that I may just expire from lack of breath.

Sherri - posted on 01/26/2011

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My family all knows I am but I don't have it listed on my license I don't want them not to save me to get my organs.

Jocelyn - posted on 01/26/2011

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Omg I should elaborate so you don't think I'm nuts :P

Not because it will prevent me from turning into a zombie or a vampire (lol) but because I've always wanted to know exactly how much my head weighs.

Jocelyn - posted on 01/26/2011

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ALERT!
A random memory has been triggered by this convo!!!

Is it weird that ever since I was really little (like think single digits here) I have ALWAYS wanted to have my head cut off when I die?

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I am an organ donor and if anything were to happen to my son (knock wood) he would be also. When I die, I want them to harvest what they can, use what they want for research and burn the rest. Sprinkle me in the ocean and return me to the bottom of the food chain :)

September - posted on 01/26/2011

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Yes I am and yes I would donate our son's organs as well. I would also give an organ to a close family member while still living if it meant saving their lives.

~Jennifer - posted on 01/26/2011

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Yes, I am. If i'm not using it and you need it, take it.
(although being a smoker and enjoying my wine, I'm thinking my lungs and liver will probably go in to the crematory with me)
=)

Tara - posted on 01/26/2011

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yes i am and yes i would.
because if i or my kids needed an organ i would really really wanted them to have what they need to live and as far as I am concerned, once you are dead, your body is no longer important. So if it can be used to benefit any one else, it should be done.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/26/2011

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I feel the same way as Julianne...like I know they really won't do it...but do I want to take that chance?

On that note, I will become an organ doner the next time I renew my license. I would absolutely in a heart beat donate an organ to my family. But, and here is a BIG but...one of my sisters had forced herself into alcoholism...if she needed a new liver....geesh,,,,I would really have to dig deep in my sould to help her with that. If she needed a kidney....I would pop one out for her.

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Yes and yes. We don't need our bodies when we are dead, so might as well use them for some good.

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I'm not an organ donor on paper, but my family knows i would donate upon death. I'm slightly paranoid, if i was in critical condition and someone needed an organ....would the doctors let me die so others can live?? I doubt that would happen, for my own piece of mind that's why its not on my health card to donate. If one of my family members needed an organ while i was alive, you bet i would donate to them. I'm a universal donor too.

Jenn - posted on 01/26/2011

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I am, and my family all know my wishes. I would also donate my kids organs. We're dead, we don't need them anymore, why not help someone who does?

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My family is all organ donors but only upon death. I refuse to give up kidneys or anything else until I die in case one of my kids needing it.

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Yes I am, as is my husband and god forbid anything ever happened to my children so would they be, if I can help make someone elses life better than it is worth it.

I have also made sure that my hubby knows that I want to be an organ donor so if I die he will follow my wishes!

Ez - posted on 01/25/2011

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I sure am an organ donor. I don't need that stuff once I'm gone. I would consent to my child being an organ donor too.

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Quoting Becky Franklin:
"If their organs save another child's life, then in a way, they live on."

LOVE that way of putting it!

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Yup for me and yup for my kids. I'm not using them anymore (and if, God forbid, something happened to one of my kids they wouldn't be using them anymore either), so why not help someone who needs it? In fact, the second voice box transplant in the world just happened last week in my local hospital and I thought it was wonderful that the man gave his deceased wife's voice box to another woman in need.

Sal - posted on 01/25/2011

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i am, and so are the kids. I had never thought about the kids before (as it is just too hard and horrible to even contemplate) until a friend of mine buried her son while he was waiting for an organ transplant, it was the most horrible day i could imagine and i remember thinking somewhere some other family is burying a child who couldn't be save but could of saved this dear little boy, and told my husband that day that is what i would do...

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