attracted to different races?

Rosie - posted on 04/28/2011 ( 94 moms have responded )

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in the interracial marriage thread someone mentioned they aren't attracted to different races other than their own. are you attracted to anyone outside of your race? if you are is it more or less or the same as your own and why?

i find all races equally beautiful when i think about men. however when i am talking about women i am attracted to latina and asian women more than my own race. not saying i wouldn't date or do the nasty with anyone other than these specified races (if i were to ever date a woman), just that i find these particular races more pleasing to look at.

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Krista - posted on 04/29/2011

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You do have a point, Janessa.

A lot of people use "Latino" and "Latina" to describe someone, but are they talking nationality, or race? There is no homogenous Latin state. And yes, there is a broad racial diversity within Latin American countries.

But I wasn't trying to be offensive, nor was Kati, I'm sure.

It's just that if we're describing physical appearance, we don't know WHAT word to use.

I mean, we're talking about interracial attraction here, so I can say that for black guys, I like Shemar Moore and Taye Diggs. For Asian guys, I like Daniel Dae-Kim and Naveen Andrews. But what do I use when describing the looks of Salma Hayek or Antonio Sabato Jr., or Gael Garcia Bernal? They're not white. They're not black. They're not Asian.

So what is the right terminology to use when describing someone who looks like these folks?

Iris - posted on 05/03/2011

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Janessa, the same can be said about African American. You can both be black or white or everything in between and be an African-American.
The human race just comes in many different shades.

Charlie - posted on 04/29/2011

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Well calling someone "white " or "black" is also very general ......

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Jennifer T., I do remember the two finger kisses! It warms my cockles that he's on tv every week on the hack version of NCIS. Can't stand that LA version, except for him. I like drooling over Mixhael Weatherley from the original NXIS too.

I think talking about skin tone is easier. One thing that still gets me is what is considered "black" here in Australia. Aboriginals and Islanders?! Most Islanders I've seen, and I live in an area with a huge Islander population, are milk chocolate colour. I'd say those two groups should be called brown or med-dark. They have the loveliest skin.

New classification: Cadbury's! Yummy like milk chocolate.

Kate CP - posted on 04/30/2011

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From Mariam-Webster:

Definition of LATINO

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: a native or inhabitant of Latin America
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: a person of Latin-American origin living in the United States
— Latino adjective

Also from Mariam-Webster:
Definition of LATIN AMERICA

1
Spanish America & Brazil
2
all of the Americas S of the United States
— Latin American adjective or noun

There. We have a definition for latino/a.

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Etheena - posted on 05/04/2011

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I am attracted to men of every color and race...I had a mental harem in my head of all the men I had a crush on when I was 14. It was Johnny Depp, Blair Underwood, Antonio Banderas, John Stamos, LL Cool J, and some others that I am forgetting. As for women it is the same with the men. Although there was no mental harem for them, lol...I went to school with a girl whose dad was half black and half irish, her mom was half puerto rican and half asian. The girl just called herself a mutt, lol.

Natasha - posted on 05/04/2011

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I have dated guys from all races and it was never an issue. I can't say I've been attracted more to one race than another. It's always been the guy, not where he was from.

Amber - posted on 05/03/2011

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I'm all over the place :)
I've dated a Korean American (he was 6'5...not your avg Asian lol)
I also dated an African who was going to college here, a Native American, and a Latin American.
And none of them really looked like each other either....they had fairly similar personalities though. It seems that with each new relationship I took a step forward until I got all the qualities that I wanted :)

I finally settled on a white, mostly Irish heritage, guy and I couldn't be happier ♥

Janessa - posted on 05/03/2011

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All everyone has to do is look up the nations who are part of the latin brother hood and French,Italian, Spanish and Porteguese people are all Latin. It just that I do not follow the America way of saying who is Latin American defination of peope who look mexican or are light skin which is so wrong period. Yes French people are latin always and always will be. I am just trying to educated people who may not know because not one person skin color can tell who is what. Anyways interesting conversation ladies. White man always been attractive to me so I only went out with them plus culture had to do allot with. Many Itlian men and French I love those two cultures.

Lady Heather - posted on 05/03/2011

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I don't seem to be particular. I could probably find a guy from every corner of the globe that was attractive to me. I did date almost all white guys (and one black), but I think that is mainly because I lived in a place that lacks diversity. The white guys I dated did not look anything alike. Short, tall, skinny, muscle-y, blond, brown, black and red hair. Yeah, I do not have a type. Unless you ask my husband. Then he's it. Hehe.

Mary Renee - posted on 05/03/2011

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Oh yeah, and my daughter's father is Italian, but I was the first "white" girl he ever dated! All his girlfriends before me were Asian or Latina. I thought I had no chance with him, and now when his friends see his daughter they're always like "I can't believe you have a little white baby!" haha



I'm always like "He's Italian! That's practically white, isn't it?" But I guess he really wasn't attracted to white girls before.

Mary Renee - posted on 05/03/2011

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I am attracted to men of different races equally (if not MORE) than I'm attracted to my own race. I grew up in a very diverse environment (Washington DC) and I went to school in equally diverse environments (New York City, Honolulu, Hawaii) so being around men and women of different races has always been the "norm"

That said, I am blond but I don't know that I could ever date a blond guy. I think I'm attracted to men for everything that makes them different than me (broad shoulders, bigger arms, rugged facial features, that Trapezoid shape, that V indentation where their torso turns in to their "other" area) so that said, I'm not attracted to guys that look like me.

When I am attracted to my own race, I'm more likely to go for the Italian guys, which even then is nearly another "ethnicity" (Mediterranean?)

But yeah, I've totally had crushes on black guys and was in LOVE with this Peruvian guy (oh my god, I swear his eyes were PURPLE!) and I dated this guy that was half Korean half white. In Hawaii I've been attracted to Pacific Islander. I'm not usually attracted to Asian guys, but hey! I've still dated them, haha.

To be honest, I think the most "attractive" races are the mixed race guys. Oh my god. That golden skin and slightly textured hair, or half white half asian or pacific islander and white or black and latino - oh my god, I don't know why, I think "hapa" boys look SO GOOD.

Merry - posted on 04/30/2011

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Dark skin, medium skin, light skin. There's lots of nationalities in these three categories so Im talking broad terms.

Some dark nationalities could be most southern African countries, native Australian, some island nations in the south, some south American countries, black Americans...... Etc

Kate CP - posted on 04/30/2011

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"French Canadians are actaully Latinos"....huh?

So you're telling me that poutine is a lie? *goes off to cry in a corner*


^^^^^ I guffawed. xD

Jaime - posted on 04/30/2011

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"French Canadians are actaully Latinos"....huh?

So you're telling me that poutine is a lie? *goes off to cry in a corner*

Rosie - posted on 04/30/2011

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ever notice how benicio del toro is super nasty sometimes and other times, he makes you melt? my bestie and i were talking about that a while back, lol. you just never know what you get with that man...which makes him more attractive, hehe.

Kate CP - posted on 04/30/2011

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And to answer the OP: I think people of all races can be hot. Depends on the person.

Merry - posted on 04/30/2011

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http://www.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http...,len.html&usg=__od--GK8WZuga2DF88l3ER4gnfoM=&h=450&w=300&sz=16&hl=en&start=3&zoom=1&tbnid=f30qL2Y5EsQgrM:&tbnh=127&tbnw=85&ei=5QS8TYvuLsO2tweWtYy5BQ&prev=/search%3Fq%3Dusher%26hl%3Den%26safe%3Doff%26client%3Dsafari%26biw%3D981%26bih%3D661%26site%3Dsearch%26tbm%3Disch&itbs=1

*hottie!*

Sara - posted on 04/30/2011

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Oh man, you know who I just think is a total hottie? Javier Bardem...come to momma!

And also, I think Benicio Del Toro is a panty dropper. Sexy.

Merry - posted on 04/30/2011

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I'm only a few years older then Taylor lautner! Lol he sure is hot for a teenager :)

Merry - posted on 04/30/2011

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I'm usually only attracted to white men. The occasional hispanic man or dark man will catch my eye, but usually only the ridiculously fantastic looking ones who are famous, Mario Lopez, will smith, usher, :)

Women, I'm attracted to mostly white as well, Tyra is hot though :)

My sister is mostly attracted to dark men, so I know it's different person to person, even in the same family!



But I married my first boyfriend who is white so I have no real experience other then daydreaming about hotties

Krista - posted on 04/29/2011

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@Loureen: True. And that's part of how our language will have to evolve over the next while. While some people still fit neatly into those descriptors, many do not.

It'll be very interesting, I think, to see how those descriptors will be different by the time you and I are old ladies.

Johnny - posted on 04/29/2011

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Did someone say Shemar Moore? I love me some Shemar! I hate Criminal Minds and I sit through it each and every week just for him.

Daniel Dae-Kim is more my style than Rain. I like my men masculine and not so much like the slouchy teenage kid from the local high school surfing manga websites with his buddies in Starbucks.

Alexis - posted on 04/29/2011

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I am white but normally do not find white men attractive, nor do I find black men attractive, which is funny because black men tend to be very attracted to me. I like Latino and some Asian men. (by Latino I mean darker skin, eyes, hair etc.) Even then I am very picky. I don't find a lot of people attractive, average yes, but not attractive.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/29/2011

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I am attracted to men that are good looking, but they have to be 6ft or taller. I am just under five foot, and I don't want no short short man.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/29/2011

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Krista, you are right on with Latina/o. It is just a very general reference. In my area, it means of hispanic decent. I guess hispanic would be more of the correct terminology, unless you know for sure that they are Mexican, Spanish, Puerto Rican. My husband who is Mexican said either is fine to describe him. But some people do take offense to the differences.

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Yea im Mexican and usually only date hispanics. However im open minded no matter what race if a guy is hot then they are hot! however to be honest i dont usually ever get involved with the African American group. But thats just me its not really my preference.

Jennifer - posted on 04/29/2011

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I'm white and tend to be attracted to darker skinned men. Really anyone who doesn't look and act like my own father is fine.

Rosie - posted on 04/29/2011

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yes, someone who looks like salma hayek is what i am describing. thank you krista.

Janessa - posted on 04/29/2011

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Kati White what is a Latina women I am black and from Haiti I am considered a Latina.Latina women can be black, white, mixed race of white and native and white and black ect Latino is a lanuage and culture French Canadians are actaully Latinos. I am so sick of people using the word when there have no idea what it has to do. Anyone can be a Latina.

Krista - posted on 04/29/2011

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Good thing I wasn't there. It wouldn't have been good for me to be kicked off set for licking Naveen Andrews.

Mrs. - posted on 04/29/2011

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I was actually on set with Naveen Andrews shortly after The English Patient. We were sitting at the same table and he is quite a good looking man in person. Just so you know.

Veronique - posted on 04/29/2011

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I think that every race has there beautiful one just like there ugly ones. Thats said i think that Libanese women are very attractive. They have bodies to die for and they always have these nice healthy hair. But i like everyone all the same so i guess who ever happens to catch my eye :D but i'm married hihi so just looking lol

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My hubs is Latin and he is a knock out. Love, love, love my sexy latin lover! :D My sexy beast of a man with his tan skin and black hair, his strong arms and his protective manner. I feel like I'm writing a romance (porno!) novel lol. I'm not so attracted to 'white' men. Mostly latin. I did date an Israeli guy, who looked pretty much the same as a latin, with dark hair, dark skin and eyes.

Bonnie - posted on 04/29/2011

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I am attracted to any race. If they are good looking, they are good looking no matter what.

Krista - posted on 04/29/2011

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If the guy is hot, I don't give a damn what race he is. I miss watching Lost, because of all of the different flavours of yummy on there. When Daniel Dae-Kim and Naveen Andrews were in a scene together, I always happily daydreamed about being the filling in that particular sandwich. And Shemar Moore and Taye Diggs? Yes, I'll have some of that, please!

I've pretty much only dated white guys, but it wasn't due to a specific preference -- I just never met many guys of different races. My first boyfriend was black, and he was a CUTIE.

As far as women go, yeah, Latina women are definitely hot. I tend to also be attracted to slim, dark-eyed brunettes. If I were to "go there", Rachel Bilson would definitely be my type.

Jenni - posted on 04/29/2011

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Well she's 10 years older than me. This happened back in the late 80's-early 90's. ;)

Jenni - posted on 04/29/2011

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Oh Cathy. I had a friend who had a 'liason' with Lou Diamond Phillips. lol

Jenni - posted on 04/29/2011

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@Donna- haha I had a thing for LL Cool J too. Remember his kiss with two fingers?

Jenni - posted on 04/29/2011

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I think latino women are beautiful. I also think asian women are beautiful. I have a weird fascination with asian women. haha I just love to look at them. :s So I'm not the only one? :)
I've had crushes on a few black men. The one that stands out in my mind was the friend of my bf when I was 12. He was gorgeous in my eyes. He had beautiful hazel eyes and there was just something so smooth about him. I actually bumped into him quite a few times recently. Once at my OBGYNs when I was pregnant with my daughter. He was there with his gf who was also pregnant. It's funny because years later I still had those school girl giggles and shyness when talking to him. He just has this allure about him and makes you feel so at ease. ;) teehee.

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I've tried quite a few flavours myself,but like Loureen, I've never found myself attracted to my own (well, half) race. Never once went gaga over an Asian man, ever. Japanese men remind me of my cousins.



I married a white man, so I suppose I am attracted to at least one half of my own make up. My husband knows I perv on men, like he pervs on women. Nothing wrong with looking.



The top of my list would have to be LL Cool J, Taye Diggs, Hugh Jackman, Guy Pearce and that guy with the three names I can never remember from the Penelope Cruz movie about Barcelona. Oh, the guy that played Che Guevara in Morotcycle Diaries is a hottie too. OH oh oh... Vin Deisel!

Charlie - posted on 04/29/2011

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Tawny is a Farmers tan a tanned on singlet ? My fiance has one of those LOL .

We went swimming once and this lady at the beach said " you should take your singlet off before you swim " hahaha he had no singlet on of course .

Becky - posted on 04/29/2011

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I'm attracted to black men. Maybe it's cuz I grew up in Africa, I don't know, but even now that I'm married... Don't tell my husband that! :) He's white.

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