Back to the Diva Cup

Iridescent - posted on 03/08/2011 ( 38 moms have responded )

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Ok...so I got one, and it's time to use it, and I've placed it a few times and it HURTS. What am I doing wrong? How far out (or in) is it supposed to sit? I've figured out that the angle pretty well sets itself, but depth? Or is it the wrong diameter to hurt like it is?

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Jenny - posted on 03/08/2011

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Kati, try buying some Ben Wa balls and practice holding them in. Or just use the same muscle motion you would use without the balls inserted. Hold for 10 seconds and release, do in sets of 10 or so throughout the day when you think of it.

Jenny - posted on 03/08/2011

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Teresa, you have to embrace your vagina, it is your friend! Ha ha ha ha

Iridescent - posted on 03/08/2011

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I've also been running it under water first. Really helps! And I've certainly learned a lot more about the shape of my body than ever before. In my case, it sits pretty close to the outside, so not an issue for putting it in now that I know where it goes; I wouldn't even object to my girls using them when they start their periods (in around 10 years), although I would never allow a child that age to use a tampon.

Bonuses for today - I don't smell like "period"! I haven't bled through any clothing, although I do have a pad in at the moment "just in case". I learned I have to dump it every 3 hours for now, but it's simply full, not leaking. My cramps...I was worried about them to be honest, since some said they got worse when they started with the cup, but I was able to function today! They aren't as bad as I'm used to, and I haven't taken any Midol or Flexaril to deal with them. Many positives, and I am glad I bought it.

I really appreciate the debate thread that was on about these last month! It has paid for itself already in saved clothing and comfort...now that I can get it in and out!

Minnie - posted on 03/08/2011

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To remove my cup I just push it out a bit (like you are pushing out a baby) and then pull the stem a little and squeeze the sides to break the suction.



It was weird, Jenny, following the directions I could NOT get it to catch anything. But by shoving it all the way in and making sure my cervix is sitting inside the cup I don't leak one bit. I also haven't had to trim the stem at all.

Tara - posted on 03/08/2011

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Yep I would say it's too high, especially if you haven't trimmed your stem, lol
Get the fit right inside and then trim anything left hanging down and sticking you, leave a little piece to hold as you pull it out.
But that stem is meant to be trimmed! I've never met anyone who didn't trim it!
Try it lower down, but don't just try adjusting it, just start all over. Good Luck, there are some youtube vids showing correct insertion.

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This post is just continuing to reaffirm to me that I will never get one of those things. ;) lol

Minnie - posted on 03/08/2011

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Yep, Cathy, that's what I do, run it under water first.

Johnny, I found my cup helped me learn a lot about my body too! I have to push it very low and at a deep angle downwards. I also point it to the left.

Johnny - posted on 03/08/2011

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Kati, if you have a dildo or vibrator you could insert it and just try squeezing the muscles to push it out.

Mine sits quite low too and on a real angle. I was surprised. It really helped me learn about my body though. In my case keeping it low also helps to avoid the urinary tract pressure, which is a big deal for me because I've had a lot of problems in that area.

Minnie - posted on 03/08/2011

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April, I got mine for $23 on Amazon.

I've always had difficulties with tampons too, but I think it's because they absorb moisture- but the Diva cup is just silicone- you fold it and insert it. If you have sex you can fit it in ;).

April - posted on 03/08/2011

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Well Aunt Flo is here today for me and I am not happy about it. I am considering buying the diva cup today! Do they sell them at CVS? I am worried about paying for something that might not work for me. I could never use tampons because I could never get them inside (and believe me I've tried!) .

Minnie - posted on 03/08/2011

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Well, you basically use the same muscles for pushing out a baby as you do to take a poo. That's why you can push out tampons and the Diva cup. It's your vaginal muscles that are pushing things out.

Rosie - posted on 03/08/2011

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i bought one months ago and used it for one day and i leaked and leaked and leaked. this is TMI but essential to this conversation, but if i have a bowel movement i can push my tampons out of me. i have no vag muscles. how do you do kegals? i've heard the same description over and over again, and it doesnt' seem like it's the right thing. i don't know, i'm just gonna be loosy goosey until i die i suppose...

Iridescent - posted on 03/08/2011

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I know it! I was teaching her about Kegals...she's had 7 kids, vaginal births on all, and it's taken a toll.

Iridescent - posted on 03/08/2011

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How are you able to reach in and grab it out again? Mine wasn't all the way up, and was difficult to break the suction to remove again because it was far enough... Although people are different sizes, too; a friend of mine has her cervix nearly falling out and I don't think this would work for her as a result.

Minnie - posted on 03/08/2011

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Personally, I DO put mine all the way up with my cervix sitting inside it. That is the way it is most comfortable for me, and how I create a proper seal. It works perfectly for me that way. And I have to shove it back and downwards a bit, toward my butt.

Iridescent - posted on 03/08/2011

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I'm feeling so much better! And have hope of actually swimming on "those" days this coming year!

Jenny - posted on 03/08/2011

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Glad you figured out a way to make it work for you. I've read on other forums that some women prefer turning it inside out too.

Iridescent - posted on 03/08/2011

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Holy cow! I worked up the courage to try it again...and wow! It's MUCH lower, pointed almost straight back instead of more up and down, and it doesn't hurt anymore. And the stem tickles, so I'll have to definitely cut it but don't want to risk lobbing off flesh so it will wait. Thank you so much!

Iridescent - posted on 03/08/2011

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Good suggestions! I found a new way to fold it - maybe that'll help (I'll try it). And really good point about it being new, so gotta adjust!

Iridescent - posted on 03/08/2011

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thanks, Cathy! It hurts up at the top, around the open area. Rather like it's digging in, and it's making my bladder go nuts.

Iridescent - posted on 03/08/2011

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Yea, I got the larger size because they kept saying 30 and over, larger, and multiple children, larger, even if all were C-sections like mine were. Now I'm wondering if that's why? But the size difference is only a couple millimeters...

Amy - posted on 03/08/2011

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i know they have two sizes. well, they used to. i've been pregnant or nursing forever. lol. So I never bought another one. Wish I could be more help. :(

Iridescent - posted on 03/08/2011

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I've never been able to wear tampons, so no comparison there. Or a diaphragm. It's not near the cervix though - I was thinking it was too low but when I tried to move it higher I was having a hard time with the suction stopping it so thought it was where it "wanted" to be?

Iridescent - posted on 03/08/2011

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I haven't trimmed the stem yet - I don't want to lose it, lol! It could be too far in, but is part (besides the stem) supposed to be sticking out? And yup, I did turn it and get suction! At least that part is working!

Tara - posted on 03/08/2011

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The bottom of the trimmed stem should sit just inside your vagina, about a knuckle in I guess, it shouldn't be high up near your cervix the way a diaphragm would fit. Or a tampon, it's not suppose to be high like a tampon at all.

Tara - posted on 03/08/2011

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Does it hurt at the bottom end, where the stem is?
Did you trim it?
If it hurts up top, it's probably too far in. If it hurts at the top and bottom it's too far out. Did you give it a turn to create suction?
In most cases it's the stem being too long.

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