Bambi

Meghan - posted on 02/24/2011 ( 65 moms have responded )

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One of my FB friends (who doesn't have kids) made a post about the re-release of Bambi. He commented that on the commercial they said it was a "wonderful childhood experience" then went on to ramble about how it exposed our whole generation to death (which is weird cause I am pretty sure Bambie was originally made more than 25 years ago...could be wrong). I just said that I still find it to be far less offensive than most of the things kids now are exposed to.

So I know we often talk about explaining death and the whole Disney corporation before. I know that parts of Pinocchio scare J, but I don't boycott the whole movie-I just fast forward those parts. Even if he see's it and gets a little scared, were any of us SCARRED by seeing Bambi's mom die? Are Disney movies really THAT bad???

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Jenn - posted on 02/25/2011

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Why on earth would it be an issue to expose kids to the concept of death? Death is a part of life. My 5 year old son knows that ALL living things die: plants, animals, people. If it's alive - one day it will be dead. That's just how it works. We watch Bambi, Old Yellar, Sleeping Beauty - and many others - no issues yet. Some people like to over analyze everything instead of just enjoying life.

Isobel - posted on 02/25/2011

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I haven't read any responses yet but...I find it amazing how many people claim to "remember" seeing Bambi's Mom die...cause you don't. She and Bambi are running away together, focus on Bambi, he hears a shot and keeps running...and when he gets to the hiding place she just doesn't arrive with him.

It is a far less obvious death than most Disney movies show these days.

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Denikka - posted on 08/22/2013

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Well...my kids are 4.5 and 2.5 years old (newborn doesn't have an opinion on movies yet :P) and three of their favorite movies are Coraline, 9, and The Nightmare Before Christmas. Never had a nightmare from them, never had any issue with them at all.

I never had a problem with any Disney film I can think of. Not a problem with being scared anyways. It was much more traumatic for me with some of the sad scenes (Bambi when his mom dies was worse for me because his mom was gone, not because she died. Dumbo, when he went to see his mom in the cage (still cry every time), Fox and the Hound, when the lady leaves Todd in the wild (still cry), etc)
Those types of scenes were always much worse for me than any of the supposed *scary* scenes.

I will admit that I'm a fan of horror, and pretty happy that my kids seem to be following in my footsteps on that one.

I've never hidden death from my kids, and I don't intend to. They don't understand it yet, but I explain when questions come up. We haven't lost any people and don't have any pets, but there have been occasions on TV (commercials or whatever) or walking through pet stores when we see dead fish in the tanks or whatever. They ask, I answer. Death shouldn't be a scary thing. A sad thing, yes. But not really scary.

Chet - posted on 08/22/2013

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A lot of the older disney movies were never aimed at preschoolers. They have dark elements, but it's the sort of stuff that is exciting but not too scary for your average school ager. That said, Disney didn't event death as a device to advance the plot. There are countless examples of orphans in children's movies and literature.

Amanda - posted on 08/20/2013

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I wasn't scarred by any Disney movie..... however I was scared by scar in the lion king when I was little. It was never fast forwarded when he was on there but it was something I just got over.

Carol - posted on 03/01/2011

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I saw Bambi when I was a kid, Im 21 now. I love that movie, but looking at it now. It has its violence but people let their kids watch way worse. I think its just parental prefrence.

Natasha - posted on 02/28/2011

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The only disney movie that I remember scaring the crap out of me when I was young was The Black Cauldron. It took years before I could watch it again, and didn't really enjoy it that much then. I do own it, I have a slight addiction and feel the need to own them all.

I don't actually like Bambi at all. Never have, not even as a little kid. It's like Dumbo, they are just movies that I didn't like. I know that for the longest time I didn't even register the fact that Bambi's mom had died... I don't know what I thought, I just know that it had nothing to do with death.

Amber - posted on 02/28/2011

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i think i was scared of Bambi, but i'm not sure it's because the mother deer died per say...i don't know, i just know i have not watched it with my son yet. He watched Jurasic Park at his fathers house and that peeves me off, i was scared of that movie at five years old for sure. it's terrifying. i remember being terrified of the movie The Neverending Story. I want my son to see it but i'm holding out until he's older, because i remember it scared me a lot. oh, and the thing about Disney princess beaty....i was very disappointed when i didn't grow up to look like Belle. i was convinced that's what girls were supposed to look like. with giant eyes and tiny waists. :(

Jessi - posted on 02/28/2011

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im in agreement with pretty much everyone here. nope i wasnt scarred by bambi! or any of the other movies really.
im glad most of the people here who have posted seem to say that as well because there are a lot more things our kids see every day than just an implied death scene. or a real one like in the lion king. i think the important part is how its handled. if the child is upset, talk to them and explain. its just common sense. some kids are more sensitive than others and in that case the parents would probably know that and screen what they watch suiting their needs. what bugs me is the parents calling for a ban on disney shows etc for any reason.
most recently i saw a big debate about how disney movies are terrible because the princesses are "anti feminist" and all that. i think it mostly boils down to the same thing- communication with out kids. we cant let them watch whatever they want with no dialog about it. this is true in my house hold for everything not just disney movies- my daughter was sad the other day because she wanted to be a superhero but she cant fly (after watching an episode of the backyardigans) so we just talked about it.
just like ill talk to her to explain and hopefully she isnt too disapointed to learn that princesses still have to go to school and not to think beauty is everything etc. :)

Cyndel - posted on 02/27/2011

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We shelter our selves and our children from death or the thought of death far too much. Then when it comes it is that much more devistating as we don't know how to deal with it or help our children deal with it. I know I will face death, not just my own in time, but also that of loved ones, such as right now we are waiting on test results to find out if my son has a seriously dangerous illness or if it is just an allergy. A scary situation.
We don't need to dwell on death all the time. But having an idea of how we will deal with telling our kids about death, before the questions or situation comes up is a good idea. And sometimes movies like Bambi are a good way to bring up the subject so that the first time it is mentioned isn't explaining why they will never see Grandma again.

Amanda - posted on 02/27/2011

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growing up i watch all disney movies including bambi i think its great thier re making them :D however i wouldnt alow my daughter to watch until she was around 6 years so we discuss those topics such as dealth together :D

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I find toy story more terrifying then disney.
Toys that come alive?? No thanks.
Amy, i havent seen toy story 3 yet.

Amy - posted on 02/26/2011

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Bambi was way less scary than all the toys about to be burned in toy story 3. That was downright depressing. We watched Bambi before - daddy hunts with bow and arrow and it's the meat we live off of. We explained about good hunters/bad hunters and responsibility as well as death.
scarred from bambi? not likely, scarred from the one scene at the end of Fantasia with the demon guy -most definitely!! lol.

And, if I recall, you don't actually see her die or even fall - just a gunshot, much less get gutted, skinned and cut up/ground up. My daughter should have been horrified at going along hunting with daddy, but she thanked the deer for the meat he/she is giving us and was right there helping. Didn't upset her at all. Was a part of life.

only beef i have against disney is making girls think by 16 they will find prince charming. ;)

Mary Renee - posted on 02/26/2011

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I remember watching Bambi and that the mom died and it was sad, especially when you rewatch and see the mom tenderly teaching him how to walk (so cute) - but pretty much every other movie has that same thing. Cinderella's mother died, Snow White's mother died, and Shirley Temple was an orphan in like every single movie she made.


That said, I remember when my parents divorced when I was 5. It was still long enough ago that it wasn't so common for everyone's parent's to be divorced, and I was young enough that I only knew like one other person with divorced parents. It was actually books I read and movies I saw that had divorced parents that helped me to feel like I was normal. I mean, one day in life, your kids are going to meet kids who ACTUALLY have dead parents, should we censor them from that? Or heaven forbid it happen to them.

Death is a part of life. In some cultures death is out there in the open like anything else - in Western culture it's hidden away and no body knows how to talk about. I remember when my boyfriend died, all I wanted was for my friends to come hang out with me and spend time with me and a few did, but a lot of them stayed away from me for months and they told me later that they honestly had no idea what to say.

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My daughter knows what meat we are eating came from what animal and we talk about it in front of her often. We are getting short on meat lately and have little money so i'm trying to convince my dad that one of his sheep or cows wouldn't go astray and my daughter has seen us butcher one and then cut it up and she ate it with us.

Michele - posted on 02/26/2011

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I am all for Bambi! We have deer in our neighborhood and have had the discussion with my 4yo about hunting and all different kinds of meat that we eat. Right now his big fear is sharks and I have no idea where that came from - no Jaws or anything. Maybe a picture in a book?
The one that always makes me cry is Dumbo!

Jodi - posted on 02/26/2011

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I have to giggle, this was BY FAR one of my favorite childhood movies. I know I couldn't have been more than 4 yrs old the first time I saw it.

I was raised (and still live) in a pretty big hunting community in the mid-west (Wisconsin). So, I can remember asking my mom if the hunters ate Bambi's mom after she died. My mom, trying to be sensitive, told me no...I freaked out because to me, that meant that they just murdered Bambi's mom for nothing! I grew up around deer being shot, chickens, pigs and rabbits being butchered and it was all just a part of life for me. None of it scarred me and the movie bambi certainly didn't scar me either!

I think Disney does a wonderful job with their movies, there are parts of many of their movies that go waaaaay over my 2 year old's head and parts that are too scarey or upsetting for her...but 2 years old is not their target age group so I expect this. I love Disney and think do not think poorly about any of their movies!!!

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It wasn't untill watching alot of things later on in life that i actually realised what was going on as a kid yout just to innocent to really know, im amking sure zakk watches disney cos i dont wont him to miss out on how good they are all the CGI in the world can't replace that.

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Not really. Compared to the 'original' Snow White, or Cinderella stories, Disney has seriously sugar coated the whole thing. I was never scarred by any Disney movie and I still love watching them with my Daughter. I think that parents nowadays are so worked up about hiding their children from any sort of sadness or violence or whatever. Especially death, it is a part of life and children will need to understand that eventually. I think people are retarded if they think that they can hide their kids from that sort of stuff forever. >.>;

Sarah - posted on 02/26/2011

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I personally think that death is a natural part of life and anyone claiming that bambi traumatized them doesn't even know the meaning of the word.

Jenn - posted on 02/25/2011

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JuLeah - you're right. I know I've heard people tell their kids lies about the food on their plate - I don't get it. My son knows that when we're having steak, it's cow; pork chops is pig, etc. He knows that honey is basically bee barf, and that milk comes from a cow's "boob" (udder) just like how I made milk for him and his sisters. I don't understand why parents try to "protect" their kids from truths.

Danielle - posted on 02/25/2011

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Bambi is like my all time FAVORITE movie. I'm 28 yrs old and still cry when Bambi's mom dies. I live in the south so Bambi dies alot here lol. I think death in cartoons helps kids understand a little bit better. As a matter of fact at this moment the princess and the frog is on right now and I just had to explain where Tiana's daddy went to to my four yr old. It makes them ask questions that as adults we usually don't think or want to bring up to our children.

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Jackie-Rae you are right, I don't know why I've never realised that considering we used to to read all the Brothers Grimm stories, I suppose I was just looking at the context of the Disney movies (as to be fair Walt died in 1966, I think, so he hasn't been involved in all the newer films such as The Lion King) and the fact they are fantastic in showing children a host of negative emotions - really that was what I was getting at. :-)

JuLeah - posted on 02/25/2011

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I am not sure we ought to sheild kids from death or sadness. I fear we, as a people, are far too removed from the natural world as it is. Most kids don't even know where milk, eggs, meat, and honey come from. Death is a part of life and I don't want my daughter to fear it ... she has already dealth with it on some level. The father of her best friend passed. Our idea of death is that a person transitions. Our bodies, that we live in while here, sometimes get to old or injured, or sick for us to live in any more. So, we have to move out and return to our natural state (energy) ... but, well, I don't fear death. I hope my child doesn't.

Isobel - posted on 02/25/2011

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I'm pondering whether or not to show that to my kids (barely 8 and 9)...that and Labrynthe.

it's funny cause at their age I was allowed to watch Friday 13th and Nightmare on Elm st.

Isobel - posted on 02/25/2011

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Jackie Rae, are you thinking of Legend? with Tom Cruise? They have to save the last unicorn :) AWESOME MOVIE

Jackie - posted on 02/25/2011

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You're probably right Cathy. I haven't seen it since I was a kid. But if I had to imagine a devil, that's what it would look like :)

Jenni - posted on 02/25/2011

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It was in October and my 3 year old SD was just about to go to bed. So I was scanning the guide for a halloweenish movie for me and my SO to watch after she went to bed. I accidently clicked on Urban Legends right on the scene where this guy gets impaled through the head. Really gory. My SD laughed and said: "Hahaha that guy just got killeded!" I did a double-take..... makes me wonder what her mom lets her watch at home. I know she lets her stay up to 11pm on wednesdays to watch Law and Order with her. :/

Jenni - posted on 02/25/2011

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That weird bird like creature that ate the witch totally gave me nightmares.

Jackie - posted on 02/25/2011

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Isn't The Last Unicorn the one with the realist looking devil ever in it. I used to LOVE the movie and had totally forgotten about until now. I gotta go get it

LaCi - posted on 02/25/2011

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Meh. I was watching horror movies at the age I was watching Bambi. So I was exposed to death regardless, and it never bothered me.

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Hmmm...I was ready to skip to the store and buy it for my daughter. One of my all time favorites! That and Beauty and the Beast which has also just been released...which one to choose? Eliza loves Snow White and Sleeping Beauty and The Wizard of Oz, so I'm pretty sure she'll be able to handle Bambi...which is pretty tame in comparison.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/25/2011

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Katherine, the Last unicorn was my all time favorite as a kid!

Katherine - posted on 02/25/2011

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I must be the odd one out because Bambi did scar me. All of the *sad* Disney movies did. I got scared watching The Last Unicorn too, not sure if that was Disney. Snow White scared me though. The hunter in the woods who is about to kill her and the wicked step-mother....I was such a wuss.

Tara - posted on 02/25/2011

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Funny cause she is never seen dead and Bambi never sees her shot or dying or dead. His dad simply comes and tells him they must go now. She is gone.
Many adults think they saw Bambi's mom shot by the hunter, but the fact is the movie did not show it, those "memories" are based on the fact they saw the movie and assumed she had been shot, thereby creating a scene from the movie that doesn't exist at all.
I don't think Bambi is that bad. Hunters shoot deer, that's a fact. Sometimes the world is harsh, but it's a lot more of realistic view on death than some of the other examples on TV and in movies now.

Sharon - posted on 02/25/2011

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nah - you're right - I phrased it wrong - its when bambi is alone and realises his mom isn't going to join him because she's dead. I haven't seen the movie in YEARS but I don't think he says his mom is dead even, I think he says she's gone. ugh now I need to watch it.

Isobel - posted on 02/25/2011

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I know...but most adults claim to have seen it happen...just one of those weird study things I read somewhere.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/25/2011

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I definately think there are some pretty sad ones out their...has anyone seen "Up" ? I was freaking bawling like the first 30mins or more....then the whole ending...it was terrible and I will never ever watch it again. For people that don't want their kids to watch "bambi" or other movies like it...guess what? You don't have to . Don't try to ban it so no one else can enjoy it.

Jackie - posted on 02/25/2011

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"Bambi didn't scare me (OK the fire part did a little) but I did sob my heart out everytime Bambi's mom died. Walt Disney was a genious and made some amazing stories "which cover a lot of different emotions including negative emotions, which is important because children need to know about them, and how to deal with them. " - Toni



I didn't read ALL of the replies but actually Walt Disney took most of the ideas for the movies from the Brothers Grimm. The were German folk tale writers. Even the new movie Tangled was about Rapunzel, The Princess and the Frog is a version of the Frog Prince. The stories are kinda twisted because the original stories were written in the 1700-1800. I love all of the stories and I was never scarred from watching them. In fact, my 2 yo fav movie right now is Snow White.



Which - I also came to the realization that, that movie will be 100 years old when my daughter is roughly my age! 1937

Joanna - posted on 02/25/2011

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Honestly, although it didn't scar me, I still cannot watch the Lion King. After seeing Mufasa die, I was done. In the days of VHS I could fast foward but I'd still see it happen very quickly. But even now on DVD I can skip ahead, but I get this sick feeling in my gut.



But scar me? No. I was scarred from watching Leprechan and Candyman at a sleepover when I was about 9. Or when I got suckered into watching some show with my brother (not sure what it was but I dreamt of killer ninja zombies for weeks).

Jenni - posted on 02/25/2011

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I wasn't scarred by Bambi....

What I was scarred by was The Empire Strikes back (my dad was a star wars/trekki geek) when Luke gets his arm cut off. Until then I wasn't aware people could lose limbs. And to boot they came out with this commercial where an android is jumping through all this machinery and gets its arm sawed off. At the end of the commercial he says: "I am a robot. I can put my arm back on. You can't! So play safe." I mean WTF? That scarred me. Then I started kindergarten and there was a boy in my class with a prosthetic arm. I admit I was afraid of him.

I'm an adult and still afraid of death. But that's life. Why shield our kids from something they're inevitably going to find out about anyways. Better to find out young when it's easier to absorb. We can't protect our kids from life. My son was curious about Bambi's mom, Nemo's mom, and Simba's dad, he wasn't disturbed by it. He gets that something isn't quite right but I think that's as far as it goes in his 2 year old mind.

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Bambi didn't scare me (OK the fire part did a little) but I did sob my heart out everytime Bambi's mom died. Walt Disney was a genious and made some amazing stories which cover a lot of different emotions including negative emotions, which is important because children need to know about them, and how to deal with them.

Desiree - posted on 02/25/2011

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Please i heard everything now. there are some disney shows that are a little bit much, but overall i don't see any problem. We see alot more in other shows that what bambi could possibly show. Death has to be taught and shown to be normal part of life. and the best way for any one to deal with it is to accept it.Beside most children are dehumanised when it come to death in movies because there is just too much of it, and not all of it actually most of it is not even in respectible ways. Its always violent and cruel. BAbmie has nothing on the new stuff.

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My daughter first i guess knew of death 2 years ago. My parents own some acerage and had a cow that couldn't get up and the kids knew that cow and then when the cow was gone i had to explain what had happened.
Now everytime an animal dies or a person they are in the sky with Annabelle (the cow). We do make it tame and age appropriate but i would never hide death from my children.
I love Disney movies and wont keep them from my kids.

April - posted on 02/25/2011

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I remember my sisters and i were about to watch it, and so i warned my youngest sister that Bambi had a "sad" part in it. When it got to that scene my sister didn't react so i asked her why. Her reply? "Oh was that supposed to be sad? Awww", sigh. The part that still makes me laugh is when we got to the scene when Bambi has a crush on a female deer and the first thing out of my sister's mouth was "Why is she flirting with a girl deer? I wanted her to be with the rabbit" LOL. When i told her Bambi was a boy, the way she reacted i wish i had taken a picture of her face. LOL

Jodi - posted on 02/24/2011

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Bahahaha, my daughter's friend told her mother she doesn't need to learn to read because she is going to marry a prince!!! But on the other hand, my daughter asked me if there are real princesses and princes, and accepted the honest answers that there are, but they are kind of normal people like us, and showed her some pictures. She was most unimpressed, but knows the stories aren't real. So go figure. I think each kid thinks differently about it.

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