being a housewife is a form of prostitution????

Tah - posted on 10/28/2010 ( 65 moms have responded )

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So i flipped throught the channels...left it on hbo to see what was coming on and went in the kitchen to clean....i hear someone say..."being a housewife is a form of prostitution"..so of course i came in to see what i was hearing...and it was a hooker saying that what she does is just a quick version of what a stay at home wife and/or mother does..apparently..housewives screw to get their bills paid, hair and nails done..but at a slower pace...and all this time..i thought you guys loved your husbands...

what are your thoughts??

is there any comparison???

If you didn't give it up, would he eventually leave and start paying bills for someone else???....not my words..don't be mad at me...lol

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Amie - posted on 10/28/2010

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There is no comparison. To think so is naive. Housewives bring a lot more to a relationship than just sex. Sex is a need but if that need isn't being met, there are other issues to look at.

If sex is lacking there's generally something else wrong with the relationship. When I get upset with my husband, the last thing he knows to try is for sex. He can go fuck himself, literally. If you want me to be in the mood, don't be a douche bag. It's simple. I ask for little, I take care of a lot. All four of our kids, all the appointments, all the taxing around, the house work, the yard work, I cook, I do the laundry, his appointments I set up, I run errands for our family as well as my brother, I even take care of all the finances. He earns the money. He works hard and I try to give him a break. When I say, I'm tired, I need help. He will give it, most of the time. Every once in awhile his douche baggery will set in and I completely shut down. It's either that or cause a great big fight ending in me hitting him with something heavy. When I'm calm, then we can talk it through.

The day a hooker does all that day in and day out for a man, I will see the comparison. At the moment all she does is lay on her back and moan for an hour, at most. Then takes her money and leaves. Ya, that was so hard.

If it was only that easy to be a housewife.

Amie - posted on 10/29/2010

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Even in loveless marriages a housewife does more than a prostitute does Laura.

I'm sure anyone in that situation though would love you equating them with a prostitute. =/

Johnny - posted on 10/29/2010

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For all we know she is in a loveless marriage and that's where she got the idea. Being a prostitute doesn't automatically mean someone is unmarried.

Isobel - posted on 10/29/2010

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I think it's also kinda sad that the prostitute in question is soooooo lacking in knowledge of what a loving marriage really does entail...she just assumes that sex is something that is to be traded for something.

that, to me, is heartbreaking.

Kimberly - posted on 10/29/2010

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Laura's right, in that regard. Women that marry for money and not love -are prostitutes.

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Trish - posted on 12/30/2010

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What!!! If it is...I better get me a higher payer client...cos I'm getting paid diddly squat to clean the house, look after baby, cook, do laundry, scrubbing toilets and working part time in an office. I think the prostitutes are getting paid more for lying on their backs. Can we organise a union please for house wives. I feel so ripped off right now. Damn you call girls.

Tah - posted on 10/31/2010

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@Vickie...you can't forget about the husband now that the kids are here....thats what the hooker was saying about some of the johns..they have wives who put them way back on the burner noe that the kids are here..lol..just saying...

Jenn - posted on 10/31/2010

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I guess I'm just a horny toad - I was ready for a roll in the hay 3 weeks after my twins were born LOL!!

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blech...sex? what's that? maybe once my babies (twins - 1 yr) grow a bit I'll get the hang of the sex dept again but for now I baarely have time to shower nevermind time to think about sex and/or being sexy. exciting, I know. As for cooking...thank god my husband was raised in Italy cause the only cooking I do is for the babies at the moment!

Jenn - posted on 10/30/2010

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He doesn't pay me for sex. He doesn't pay me for anything. We both contribute to our family equally in our own way. I put out because he makes me horny! LOL!!!!

Leah - posted on 10/30/2010

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Yeh, I pay the bills in our house, so does that make him my hoe? Or just a lazy SOB? lmao

JuLeah - posted on 10/30/2010

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For most housewives, this is not true. Their marriage is a partnership, sex is enjoyed and wated by both, and the man in this equation, loves all aspects of his life (not just sex) but paretning, house upkeep, vacations, holidays ......
For some housewives, like my mother for example, yah I think this is true. From the time I understood was a porsitsution was, I felt my mother played that role (she was way underpaid)

I don't think my mother felt she had a choise. Theirs was a relationship of DV and I doubt she ever had the real option of saying 'no' and if you are not allowed or can't say 'no' then you can't say 'Yes'

Amie - posted on 10/30/2010

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OH adding kids to the mix only adds to the work for the first couple of years. Then they start learning to pick up after themselves. At least over here. Our 19 month old picks up her toys better than her older siblings some days. lol

I don't know what else my gramma did during the day. I never bothered to ask but I'm sure she had hobbies. My other gramma liked to knit, sew, do crosswords and watch hockey. She was probably the biggest Habs fan of all time. LOL

Tah - posted on 10/30/2010

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you know what..maybe there is..but since i have never been in a 2 person home..lol..i just wonder..the errands, laundry,cooking..cleaning is a job for anybody to be sure..but of course it's probably dramatically less then when you add children into the picture...I was watching a show where housewives without children were losing their minds because it was only so much they could cook, or clean for a husband that didn't come home until nightime..both ended up getting part-time jobs for their sanity..one husband was supportive...of course his first question was "will you still be able to cook and clean?"...lol..but he helps fold their little basket of laubdry now...when first..when she was home..he didn't...The smallest household i lived in was 3..myself, my ex..and my oldest son..after i came from a household of at least 9..on a good day....

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If the work housewives did could be calculated for wages, I think we would find that housewives contribute more than the average working husband.

Amie - posted on 10/30/2010

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Tah, my gramma was a housewife. Before they had kids and after the kids left home she still stayed busy.

Those old shows that depicted a woman baking, gardening, tidying the house just so, laundry each day, cooking, cleaning, the errands, etc. That was my gramma. Only a lazy person sits around and does nothing all day. Housewife or not, there is always something to do, even in a two person home.

Tah - posted on 10/30/2010

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to be honest...she didn't say sahm..she said housewives..lol....and their are wives who stay home, without kids..so i am sure they are screwing....i can't figure what else much is being done if their are no children..i guess maybe volunteer work and schooling...but yes as moms we do those things..and i guess you can say i pull double duty if you lok at it from her point of view...but i also contribute to bills....far fewer than my husband..lol...but when things come up..i may need to dip in the secret stash that having a job and a husband who pays my bills allows...lol...so i guess she said housewives specifically because They are more dependent on him to pay the bills since financially they don't contribute at all....

Desiree - posted on 10/30/2010

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If that the case I am not being paid enough housewife or just wife. What idiot thought that one up. Trust a hooker to justify her crappy job, then what does it mean if you are a working mom. You pull double duty? Considering that most moms whether they work or not spend alot of time being more than just mom. Lets see. Doctor, Cleaner, Nurse, Physcologist, seamtress, cook, baker, accountant, teacher, driver, costume designer, homework budy, play toy, friend, mom in some cases dad, tutor and this list can just keep on going. Please as parents we have the most important job in the world we don't need thankless idiots to minimise our chosen career because They need to justify their own crappy choices.

Tah - posted on 10/30/2010

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as i recoup...and type...i guess you could look at it that way..what usually happens when you open that jewelry box...those Godivas....etc...how do we show our appreciation...yeah..you know it....and even if we think we are going to sleep after you open that matching diamond necklace and ring set, that birthstone and diamond tennis bracelet...does he not start rubbing on you...moving really close in bed...etc...i do think that you can say sex is traded...men would much rather have a good time then a thank you card....lol..i know plenty of people who have sex with their spouse for valentines day, after she opens her store bought gift...

Jodi - posted on 10/29/2010

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I think it's kind of funny she says that since recent studies showing that approximately half (just under) of married couples dont' even sleep in the same room and little less than half are in sexless marriages!
If you really want to look at it from her perspective...aren't all girlfriends, fiances and most wives prostitutes then? It's not often a man doesn't buy a woman jewlery, take her out to dinner, buy her flowers and chocolates on V-day and anniversaries, take her to the movies, buy her dinner etc etc etc etc. At the early stages it may not be bills and hair and nails...but trading sex is trading sex if you're looking at it that way be it bills or dinner for two.

Tah - posted on 10/29/2010

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well ladies...the bills were paid today...money in the bank and i was taken out to dinner on a date.....time to earn it.......SHOWTIME....GOODNIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Jamie it is laughable coming from a prostitute...considering she doesn't seem to comprehend what a loving marriage is!

Isobel - posted on 10/29/2010

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my ex hired a hooker while I was pregnant...found out about that during the divorce...what a prince that one was :|

Tah - posted on 10/29/2010

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according to scarlet letter, the husbands wives and s/o don't have sex often enough, aren't freaky enough, don't want to try new things...have traded him in for the new baby..etc...they said that sometimes the johns get clingy and want a relationship with them, they want to talk and cuddle and they have to remind them that its a business..they also talked to some guys and did a sting where they were arresting guys with wives etc for picking up hookers..can you imagine getting that call from your husband..can you post my bail..i'm locked up for trying to pay someone to have sex with me in the car we drive the baby around in....HA

Tah - posted on 10/29/2010

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@Kimberly..you are right...i had marriage proposals, rings, money, etc from guys who didn;t even get close..lol

Kimberly - posted on 10/29/2010

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You don't have to Ho out to get any of that stuff. That girl needs game. haha

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Carol . has it down. The problem with what this woman is saying is that the purpose of relationship sex isn't to get bills paid, hair and nails done, etc.

Amie - posted on 10/29/2010

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Ah ok, so now it's women who marry for money. That I can stretch my mind to comprehend.

Carol, I can't imagine a prostitute being married but I suppose it does happen. =/

Sharon - posted on 10/29/2010

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ah Laura - I pity her a little but not much. She can't miss what she doesn't know.

Jessica - posted on 10/29/2010

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Well in my opinion she is probably screwing the men who are in loveless marriages where the man married the woman so he can have someone on his arm and the woman married him so that she can have nice things and be taken care of without having to really life a finger...maybe in her world and the men she is with are in their own ways have wives that are basically selling their services.

This could really go either way b/c no realtionship is the same...I have been in loveless relationships for some sort of support and comfort...unfortunatly never for money!? I must be stupid...but when the fun ran out and their was no sex the relationships always went sour real quick and didn't last much longer then that.

But then you go to the few people that still marry for love b/c it isn't really all too common any more when you look at the amout of total people who are married and how many of them actually TRUELY love the person they are with! So maybe a large portion of housewives settled their ways into a "form of prostitution"

She has some sort of point but I still do think it is her way of trying to justify what she does for a living.

Sharon - posted on 10/29/2010

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I enjoy sex with my hubby. I have sex with him because I'm horny not because I love him. But sometimes we make love, a bit more rare.

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Yes what Laura said is a form of prostitution, for those woman that do it only for the money not all housewife's are like this so for her(the prostitute woman) assuming that being a housewife in general is a form of prostitution is wrong.

Dana - posted on 10/29/2010

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I still wouldn't call them straight up prostitutes but, yes, I can agree that women who marry for money is a form of prostitution.

Dana - posted on 10/29/2010

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I think we're all aware that some women marry for money but, to say that being a housewife is a form of prostitution is rather ignorant.

Isobel - posted on 10/29/2010

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why do you guys assume all women are like you? I know plenty of people in loveless marriages...and yes, they (in my opinion) are prostitutes.

Dana - posted on 10/29/2010

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I think it should definitely be laughable since it's coming from a prostitute, why wouldn't it be...

Dana - posted on 10/29/2010

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What an ignorant bitch. Those are my thoughts. ;)

There's no comparison, whatsoever since it's more than just "screwing" your husband.

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Haha it's laughable coming from a prostitute. I think she's just trying to find a way to make what she does morally accepted, when in my opinion and many others it isn't.

Bonnie - posted on 10/29/2010

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As a few others have said, I feel she is looking for justification for what she does to make it sound better. There is no comparision. A prostitute's job is to have sex and there is no love, get paid, and leave. I love my husband and I can go without sex...so there! And when we are done, I don't leave! Not only that, we are more than just a housewife, we take care of our children.

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Hahaha! At first when I read this I thought, what? That's crazy! Then I read the prostitute's point of view and it actually makes sense. Not with me, though, being fat and pregnant and all. No sex for my hubby :(

But my hubby loves me and it's just all the more reason to be excited when the baby gets here in January xD

My hubby has always said he's not with me for the sex, but I know that he's a guy and he certainly wouldn't be happy if we didn't do it at least once in a while. I mean, I wouldn't be too happy either, hehehe...

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There is no comparison. A prostitute has sex with a man for money I do not I have sex with my husband because I love him, he pays the bills and keeps a roof over my head because as well as him loving me, I look after our child instead of having to pay for him to go to daycare.

Louise - posted on 10/29/2010

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I think I am underpaid then! If a hooker gets £50 for a quickie then bloody hell over the last 25 years he has amassed a huge bill! I will talk to him about this tonight! If man are paying that sort of rate for my time then God the laundry alone is 3 hours from start to finish! I'm in the money yeah!!!!!!!!!!!! Hope he wins the lottery this weekend then to settle up. lol

Sal - posted on 10/28/2010

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i'm sure my hubby thinks it is cheaper in the long run to get a hooker rather than a very pricey SAHM....but i guess you get what you pay for, just want sex get a hooker want a mum, a wife, a cook, a cleaner and a hooker get married......what did mae west say something along the lines of be a cook in the kitchen and a whore in the bed room....

Johnny - posted on 10/28/2010

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I suppose I might agree if it was a one way street. But I know a few single men whose women left because they failed to put out. So it can go both ways. As much as we love to portray ourselves as these high moral characters, sex is a NEED thing. Some people need it more than others. Those who don't are not capable of understanding and getting along with those that do, and vice versa.

I think she may also be missing the part about all the other things that the housewife brings to the table. Like child rearing, laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc, etc.... Of course because those tasks have traditionally been devalued because they were done by women, she may not remember their importance. She sure would make a shitty feminist.

Tah - posted on 10/28/2010

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look..i love my husband..but i am not disillusioned...i know i am a great wife...i listen...support..blah blah blah..but his last girl stopped putting out....and here i stand..lol...i know that the frequent, crazy, experimental, dressed up..dressed down....playful..serious...never say no to anything sex we have is one of the reasons i don't even know exactly what my truck note is..because he has paid it since day one..the roof that kept me dry while i slept yesterday..that's on him....me talking to you guys on here..yep..you guessed it..etc...i know that there are other reasons..more important...but i wonder if i stopped putting out...would i be paying half on this expedition...lol..i am going to ask him tommorrow..he's sleep in his chair at work right now..(protecting the country)..lol...jk

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Is she getting the better deal? Depends on which day you ask! Kidding...sure she doesn't have to cook, clean and wipe poopies, but she doesn't get any emotional support or help in return. A husband and wife are a team. Not so much with hookers.

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