Birthday Gifts for Other Kids

Jodi - posted on 04/30/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )




I am just curious. I am on my way out to purchase some birthday gifts for girls whose parties Taylah has been invited to over the next few weeks (one of which is this afternoon, so I have to move my butt).

Taylah is 5 and is at the age where birthday parties are larger, and there is a lot of competition. I really don't care about the competition. I spend AU$20 on birthday gifts, and that is my upper limit. But a friend of mine recently had a party for her son (age 8), and the boys he invited brought gifts that would have been AU$60 or AU$70 to buy. We both freaked out!!! I just think that is pure extravagance, but that's me.

So my question - what would you consider a reasonable limit, or what do you spend? Any why? It is pure curiosity on my part. I won't be changing what I do :)


Celia - posted on 05/01/2010




I stay under $20 and try to not buy anything plastic. Love the wooden toys but then my son and his friends are all under 2. I love the regifting and Ashers favorite toy we got from the commie Canadian gently used :D A mirror that plays rockin baby tunes with lights!

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For my nieces and nephews my upper limit is $40, but i rarely go that high.

For everyone else:

I have a "gift closet" at my house. When I find good toys or books on sale, I'll buy a few and stick them in my closet. Then when we're invited to a party I'll go shopping in my closet. I also keep gift bags and tissue paper from my daughter's birthdays and Christmas and re-use them if they aren't torn or wrinkled. And I help my daughter make cards. Saves a lot of money. I usually only spend $5-$10 on a gift, wrapping and card included.

I've even been able to give things I've gotten for free. Diapers, yogurt and a few other products of reward point programs online where you can get free books and toys for a certain number of points. Takes a while to earn something, but it helps!

Swagbucks is another great way to get free stuff. It's a search engine that randomly rewards points for doing searches. 450 points will earn a $5 gift card from Amazon. I've earned $15 since February just by doing online searches. I'm saving the gift cards to help with Christmas presents.

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My son has been invited to 3 b-day parties within the last 6 weeks! Our limit is also $20, as they are simply friends, and not super close friends. For the 2 boys, my son wanted to get them super soaker water guns. They were priced at $18 and $20. For the girl in his class, we got her a sand art craft kit + a set of glitter markers. Total was about $16. I usually hit the dollar store for wrapping paper, and we also make homemade cards here with plain old construction paper.

Jess - posted on 05/02/2010




$20 would be my absolute limit ! Last year I bought a Barbie for a friends daughter's B'day. It was $20 down from nearly $100 !!! But her mother knew the original price and nearly died.... I felt the need to explain the reason behind my purchase ! I would hate for her to think she had to drop $100 buying a gift for my daugher.

Jodi - posted on 05/02/2010




Karissa, I don't feel bad about how much I spend at all!!! i was just curious, because I was actually quite astounded at how much some people spent and was curious as to how others thought of it all :)

Jenny - posted on 05/02/2010




"and try to not buy anything plastic"

Yes! I think this is what my root issues with toys come down to.

Karissa - posted on 05/01/2010




Don't feel bad about how much money you spend. If the people you are buying for gawk at only $20 then maybe they aren't appreciative. I just went to a birthday party for a 12 year old and he wrote in the invitation no presents. He told his mom not to get him anything. Humble and kind. People should be grateful for anything they get.

Rosie - posted on 05/01/2010




for other kids i won't go above $15 (american), and i usually don't spend that much, i usually get by with $10. no way in hell will you catch me spending more than that on another kid, i barely spend more than $35 on my own kid, well if you add in the food and tokens for chuck e cheese it's alot higher, but still, i'm not a big spender on presents.

Emma - posted on 05/01/2010




My limit is R50 which is about $7 lol
sounds really stingy when you convert it
If it was my kids best friend i might go up to R100 - $14
We spend R500 on our own kids presents -$70

Jenny - posted on 05/01/2010




My daughter makes most of our cards. Nothing too fancy, a drawing on craft paper, maybe some glitter or stickers. It uses up our overflowing craft goody supply, helps her be creative and doesn't cost extra money. I never buy cards anymore.

Jodi - posted on 05/01/2010




This is interesting :) I must admit, I usually spend a LITTLE more for my son's friends, because he isn't invited to as many parties (at his age, they kind of are a bit past it, although this year that seems to be changing because they are all turning 13), but my daughter has 3 invitations this month, and I just can't justify more than $20 because I can get some good gifts for that sort of money for a little girl!!

Kylie, I make the cards too :) And with wrapping, I usually buy it by the roll, so it works out much cheaper. I always have a heap of rolls in the cupboard here somewhere.

Kylie - posted on 05/01/2010




For school friends i only spend $10 plus the wrapping and we make the cards because she has been to 6 school friends parties already this year and i literally can't afford to spend more than that..for special family and Lil's close friends $40- $50 is the limit.

Amie - posted on 04/30/2010




It depends on whose other kids it is. Kids who are close friends to my kids we've been known to spend $40-50 on them. We also know their parents and get on well with them.

If it's a new friend we don't spend more than $20.

On relatives, (nieces, nephews) we spend the same amount as we do on our own kids, almost. LOL!

Suzette - posted on 04/30/2010




I never thought of having a limit really, but then again my little one isn't born yet. I've always spoiled my niece with things when I was able. But she knows the difference between when her Tia is able and when she's not. For Christmas this past year she got clothes (she's in LOVE with clothes). She needed a new robe and some jammies so that's what she got, and she was ecstatic. I think I spent about US$40 or 50 on that total. The Christmas before that I got her a guitar that you can use on the television, it was $20 at one of those discount stores. She went nuts, lol. But I never set a limit with her before, and she's never minded when it was something that didn't cost much either. When it came to other kids, I usually don't have the money to buy for them. She was the only kid we bought for because we didn't really have the money to buy for any other kids.

I know that when my little one is born I'm going to have to set a limit so I'm likely going to do a separate one for family and best friends than just for acquaintances. Our families combined are pretty large, heck just my Dad's side of the family is huge (he has 6 brothers/2 sisters and I couldn't tell you how many cousins I have or how many kids they have). So I don't think we're going to be buying for everyone... LOL!

Jenny - posted on 04/30/2010




My limit is also $20. I usually buy books or a craft kit. Costco is good for neat things for cheap.

With select people I have started regifting gently used toys. Money doesn't need to change hands to give a great gift. We gave a cousin of ours a barely used Dora House complete with tons of gear. I have also requested used gifts or books for my kids. Being green and all that jazz.

Isobel - posted on 04/30/2010




regular friends I spend about $20, for best friends (that are almost family) I can go as high as $50.

Christa - posted on 04/30/2010




I think it depends on the relationship. For my family (whenever they finally have some kids) or my best friends I want to spend a little more. For people I'm not too close with, I usually try and find a great deal on the clearance rack or at Ross. Just as good of a gift without the big price. :-)

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I usually spend around US$40. When he was younger and most of the parties were for toddlers and infants, I would only spend around $20, but now that he is older, it is difficult to find gifts for their age group (5-7 yrs) for so little, so I spend a little more, but we decline a lot of parties. I try to limit him to 3 a month and I let him pick which 3 he wants to attend (except for relatives, I have final say on those!)

Dana - posted on 04/30/2010




It really depends. I haven't had to buy things for Ethan's friends but he has two cousins. For Christmas I spend US $30.00 each and this Easter I spent about $15.00 total. If it's one of their birthday's I spend $20-25 and then get the other one something small for $5-10. No way would I spend more than $20.00 on a friends gift from him though.

Carolee - posted on 04/30/2010




I'm rather cheap. My limit is around $5-10 (US). Usually, if I can't get it at the Dollar Store or Walgreens, I don't.

Sharon - posted on 04/30/2010




Oh i want to add.. I'd just prefer the kids SHOW up, with no gift at all and a homemade card... those homemade cards touch me!

Sharon - posted on 04/30/2010




My limit is $20 as well. $20 for the gift, card & wrapping. I prefer to spend the most on the gift so usually I get a gift bag and a card from the dollar store.

I have bought gifts that normally retail for $50+ by shopping at a discount retail store. I'm sure that has floored some of the parents but its just careful shopping my part.

LOL now.... it helps that I work there and I get a discount too. I try to buy things when I see them... either my own kids will like them or we can gift them.

Charlie - posted on 04/30/2010




My limit is $20 and i never expect anyone to give a present let alone spend insane amounts of money on my child , i think some parents are far to competitive but i find the ones that are , are usually competitive over everything .

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