Breastfeeding revelations

Lady Heather - posted on 11/22/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )

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So I know the whole breastfeeding thing has been done to death. I was always pretty solidly convinced that despite my very best efforts my first daughter was probably never going to breastfeed but there was always that nagging doubt. People tell you breastfeeding is always hard and everyone has problems and with the right support anyone can do it. Wellllll...this time I'm doing it. And now that I know what normal problems are I am even more convinced that it was not going to happen before. Because it is hard. It's tiring, I had to correct some latching problems, I had some cracking and bleeding. But man oh man - it was nothing like the last time. This time I even managed to fix all my problems without any outside help beyond and LLL book. and a couple visits from my midwife who just said I was doing a great job. Last time I had people all over trying to help. I had cracking and bleeding that a week on a shield couldn't solve. The kid not only wouldn't latch properly, but she wouldn't even stay on for more than two seconds. I was mentally ill vs. normal hormonal ups and downs this time. I had major recovery problems that left me unable to feed comfortably last time. This time I recovered perfectly.

About the only major obstacle this time was my fibromyalgia but in the absence of all the other things I was able to deal with it (which I personally think is a big deal given how painful it's been for overnights). Anyways, go me. One month and one day of exclusive breastfeeding. No bottles!!! And shove it to anyone who said anything nasty or judgmental to me the last time. I now know just how wrong you were.

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Denikka - posted on 11/23/2011

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Congratulations :)
I absolutely have all the respect for any woman who at least tries to breastfeed. Some can't, for whatever reason. But at least you tried :)
It's so nice to hear someone come back from a negative experience and have a positive one :) Very encouraging :)

Stifler's - posted on 11/22/2011

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And everyone gives you all this advice as if you haven't tried everything. What do you want me to do... let my kid starve and my die of fatigue?

Stifler's - posted on 11/22/2011

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I know exactly how you feel. My kid would never latch, she chomped, I bled, it hurt so badly to feed that I don't think there's any possible way I could have fed even though I had nagging doubts. It was hard enough to feed both of my kids a bottle with the pulling away and screaming without trying to relax enough to bring milk in, which never happened either time.

Vicki - posted on 11/22/2011

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I remember when my sister-in-law had just had her baby, and every midwife and person on the street was telling her something different and she just wanted to shout at everyone to go away! It is so difficult when you are having troubles and everyone has something to say about it.

Breastfeeding is natural, but it doesn't come naturally every time and can be bloody hard work! Huge congratulations - a month is a brilliant achievement :)

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I personally think that we do women a great disservice when we downplay how difficult nursing can be. Maybe some women find it easy, but it's certainly not true for everyone. I had latching issues, tongue-tie, repeated yeast infection, repeated clogged ducts, bleeding nipples, etc. with my first set of twins. It was a nightmare. I spent more time crying over nursing and feeling like I was failing like babies than bonding with them. It would have been better for them and me if I had thrown in the towel and pulled out some bottles. So I hear you!!

Christy - posted on 11/22/2011

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KUDOS to you! I tried to BF with my oldest, and he had acid reflux and allergic to dairy.. I could not adhere to the no dairy diet since I am type 1 diabetic. I tried for 6 weeks and failed at it. I don't feel bad about giving up because BOTH of us were miserable and unhealthy. However I wish I could have for his sake.

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