Britain's fattest woman dies.........

Sarah - posted on 07/26/2010 ( 20 moms have responded )

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But who is to blame?!?!?!

A MUM revealed in The Sun to be Britain's fattest woman at 45st has died after secretly GORGING in hospital.
Sharon Mevsimler, 40, was on a strict diet in Chelmsford, Essex, but had family buckets of chicken and fish and chips smuggled in.
She died of a heart attack nine days after we told of the five-footer's grub addiction.
The mum - whose weight was NORMAL when she got married in her 20s - blamed post natal depression for her piling on the pounds as she became addicted to comfort eating.
She blasted the NHS, saying: "I have been left to die. If I was anorexic I would get proper help. But no one has sympathy for obese people."


http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/new...

So what do you think? Who is to blame? The woman herself? The family for bringing in the food? The NHS?

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Krista - posted on 07/26/2010

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I think that a lot of people don't realize that food CAN be an addiction. And it's a damn hard one to break, because you can't exactly go cold turkey (for lack of a better phrase.) Obviously, people are still responsible for what they put into their bodies, but I really do think that we need to treat fat as more of a health issue and less of a character failing.

Sara - posted on 07/26/2010

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I think you have to take responsibility for what you put into your own body, and her family should be ashamed that they helped enable her to harm herself like that. BUT, I do think she has a point about obesity. It's not treated the same way as anorexia/bulemia or other eating disorders, and don't you consider gorging yourself to death an eating disorder? I think that prejudice against the obese is the last acceptable prejudice in our society. People think if you're fat, you're lazy, when there may be underlying causes to why someone is that way, and why they seek comfort in food and are slowly digging their graves with a knife and fork. I don't think it's the NHS's fault, but I do think there should be more services available to people to help them treat their obesity.

Tara - posted on 07/27/2010

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She is to blame as are her family who smuggled the food in.
I seriously doubt she died as a result of the smuggled thighs and drumsticks, I imagine it wasn't helpful but I have a feeling she would have died of a heart attack regardless of what she had eaten in the previous week.
However her family should have listened to the orders given, she should have listened to the orders given, but alas I truly feel she would have died anyways.
Obesity is a mental health condition as much as it is a physical condition. If people start to see that and treat the underlying issues as to why they eat to comfort themselves we would see a reduction in these stories. There should be more help available to people who are suffering through this disease, mental help and physical help.

LaCi - posted on 07/26/2010

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HOW DO YOU SMUGGLE IN BUCKETS OF CHICKEN? lol Imagine shoving that under your shirt.



She is to blame. You can lead a horse to water...





What would she have preferred they do? Put her in a medicated coma so she couldn't make the decision to eat 10 chickens in a sitting?

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Sharon - posted on 07/27/2010

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blame is to be shared

1. how could the hospital miss someone sneaking in whole buckets of friggen chicken? In our hospitals even if you didn't SEE it, you'd smell it!

2. the family knew better. There were orders & directions given and they ignored them. Frankly thats tantemount to murder. Its like the parents of an insulin dependent child feeding the kid a box of twinkies.

3. That woman knew she had issueS - yes multiple, and here she was finally getting help and yet she didn't accept that help. If the rescue boat is in front of you, get in the damn boat.

Sara - posted on 07/27/2010

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You would think it would be a wake up call, but since a lot of eating disorders are rooted in self-destructive tendencies and self-loathing, I can see how a person could ignore it. It's all about self-destructive cycles. If you're so fat you can't walk up stairs, that makes you feel bad about yourself so you go eat. Sounds crazy, but believe me, I know it happens. Poor coping mechanisms...

LaCi - posted on 07/27/2010

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I agree with sara b.

binging and starving are both serious problems, and they should both be taken seriously. However, I also think there's a certain point at which there should be some sort of wake up call. Like when you can't walk across a room without panting and your blood pressure sky rocketing.

Bulimia often starts out as a binge problem. They're all eating disorders. All related.

Sara - posted on 07/27/2010

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Anorexia and Obesity are different, they are still opposite ends of the same spectrum. Eating yourself to death is no different than starving yourself to death. The motivations are different, but the result is the same.

Stifler's - posted on 07/26/2010

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You know why? Because nobody can take being judged even if it's for their own good. Also, apparently "real women have curves and being 100kg is okay".

Stifler's - posted on 07/26/2010

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That's why I said... why did nobody ask her if something was up/why she was getting so large?

Isobel - posted on 07/26/2010

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No, but she certainly felt like her problems were going away while she was eating.

I have to respectfully disagree with her premise though...girls die of anorexia all the time. And no, people don't really take it seriously, it's seen as a silly little girl's problem.

That being said, I don't think that food addiction is taken seriously enough either.

Stifler's - posted on 07/26/2010

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Anorexia and obesity are completely different. Anorexia is where you are convinced that you're fat so you starve yourself and that all your problems will go away if you're thin. You don't mean to tell me that the fattest woman in the world saw herself as thin enough to be eating buckets of chicken? PND can be dealt with. The question here is why no one told her before she got so fat that what she was doing wasn't right.

Amie - posted on 07/26/2010

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They all share some of the blame.



If this started after her kids and she was comfort eating during PND does NHS not have something set up to help? Why was it not treated before it got to this point? How did her doctor not notice?!



Why did she not seek out help herself sooner? She obviously knew she had a problem with food!



I don't know wth is wrong with her family's head. Maybe because it's food they thought it wasn't as big a deal? Would they be sneaking her in drugs in a rehab center? I bet not. /:)

Meghan - posted on 07/26/2010

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The woman! And the family-a bit. I understand the whole codependent and enabling aspect of it...BUT you would think that when someone gets to THAT point, you would draw the line. BUT food is an addiction- just like any drug or gambling or whatever. You would also think that would be her low point too?

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