buying children's affection

Isobel - posted on 10/10/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




My sister in law hates the air that I breath...that being said, I haven't seen my brother's kids in two years. I am sneaking into the Thanksgiving lunch that they are having with my mom tomorrow...with lots of loud obnoxious toys and candy in my pocket that I will sneak to them every chance I get.

My goal is to make them BEG their parents to see us more often. Is it wrong to manipulate these beautiful little children in such a way?

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Christa - posted on 10/11/2009




I have to say what's wrong with your brother? I would smack him upside the head! :-P

Natalie - posted on 10/10/2009




Do it! If not with toys and candy, play with them, or eat dessert at the kids' table. Be their advocate and friend- you're their aunt, not a gift dispenser, and they should be able to have fun with you!

Sharon - posted on 10/10/2009




LOL! Well it is. but I don't blame you.

Lucky for me I can't stand my SILs sniveling sickly brats with their skin head hair cuts. I don't see them or her, YAY!!

Anna - posted on 10/10/2009




Well I think it's wrong to manipulate children period. Showering neices and nephews w/ love and affections, some gifts and candy. I think you're owed. However, I don't think your plan is going to work. It sounds like the real issues lie w/ your SIL and until your brother puts his foot down, it's unlikely much is going to change. I think you would be better off trying to extend an olive branch and just let them know how much you've missed them and keep reaching out to them. I had a huge problem w/ an SIL and I honestly just showered her w/ kindness, she came around in time. Good Luck, I hope you have a peaceful lunch.

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