Calling all moms of boys! I have a question...

Kate CP - posted on 03/20/2011 ( 68 moms have responded )

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Pardon my frankness but...how soon did your bouncing baby boys discover the wonderful toy inside their diaper? My son isn't even 8 weeks old and he's already grabbing at his penis whenever he has an erection and I'm changing his diaper. I don't remember dealing with hands in the diaper area until my daughter was nearly a year old. So...is this normal or is my little bundle of joy just advanced for his age? ;)

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Jodi - posted on 03/20/2011

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Yeah, my son too (did it and is circumcised). I'm pretty sure he still does in private as well, I just don't think about it, LOL. But yeah, they discover it very young and that's it, they never quite let go again, LOL.



And just for the record, ask my mother, who has 4 circumcised boys. She will say the same thing.



Does every debate about penises have to be a debate about circumcision? Boys play with their penises, period. Circumcised, uncircumcised, they discover it quite young, and play with it. Anyone who says their son never did it is just embarrassed to admit it.

Dana - posted on 03/20/2011

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Oh Jesus...my son is circumcised and played with his penis at a very young age and still plays with it.

So yes, Kate, it's normal.

Tara - posted on 03/20/2011

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Just to clarify, I mentioned circ. for two reasons, one I knew that Kate left him intact, and I wanted her to know that if she came across someone who said "no it's not normal, my kids never did that" the case may (I would like to italicize may in this case but I don't know how) be that they are not intact. Because (another time I would like to italicize) in my experience, I have come across moms whose circumcised boys rarely played with their "toy" until much later in life. And secondly I mentioned it because it is what is normal, it is the body as an organism's way of "shedding" the membrane between the protective foreskin and the sensitive glans. That's all. Was not meant to inflame or incite anyone to defend their position on circumcision or debate whether or not baby boys need a foreskin to want to touch themselves. I've known many circ'd babies who love that toy more than any other.

:)

Edited to remove my name (too used to sending emails today, and to correct some typos.

Sharon - posted on 03/20/2011

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Tara - did you think the rest of us cut our male childrens parts off? I'm not sure why you needed to clarify that your boys were intact?

My 2 boys were no different. Always had their hands in their diapers. So your comment is doubly puzzling unless you're trying to insinuate we circumcised our boys as a means to simply torture them? Which would be erroneous by the way.

Dana - posted on 03/21/2011

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April, not all boys do it and it really has nothing to do with whether they're intact or not.

This isn't directed at you at all but, it's getting really ridiculous to think that boys don't touch their penis if they've been circumcised. It's insane and takes whether boys have been circumcised or not to stupid extremes.

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Laura - posted on 03/26/2018

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Yes,indeed, all we moms really ,need to be sensitive and very careful not to bring up an innocent little boy thinking that his penis is bad or nasty
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Yonamichelle - posted on 10/30/2015

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When my fiancé & I went for our 5 1/2 month (full anatomy check) sonogram, the nurse asked us if we wanted her to tell us the baby's gender IF she was even able to see anything. We agreed that we wanted to hear & see whatever she was able to share with us. Well, about 25 minutes into the ultrasound, the technician started to blush as she told us that she could tell the gender of our baby! She was looking at me & she couldn't stop smiling... When she looked at my fiancé, she giggled & her face turned bright red- she apologized to me through her chuckles as she announced that we were having a son- she proceeded to show us both of his testicles, as well as his (erect) penis... "Well", she said, "he's s boy and he's definitely not afraid to show it!" She turned the screen so that I could clearly see the image of my son curled up in the fetal position with both of his hands holding onto his penis, like it was a microphone- or like he was being rudely interrupted while he was having private time with his private parts... I'm still amazed at how skilled at masterbation my 5 & 1/2 month old UNBORN son appeared to be & not just to me & his father, but the nurse & the tech too!!! The miracle of life is so amazing & entertaining in ways i never would of even imagined!!!

Happy - posted on 03/24/2011

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I agree with Laura! I was thinking the same thing. My son is intact and has always played with his penis, from what I remember, he is now 5. I personally believe that pain is a factor with circumcision and that babies can remember it for quite sometime. But that is another topic for another forum! LOL

Happy - posted on 03/24/2011

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Really, it's just a penis ladies! Not a rattlesnake! LOL Boys play with their weewees. It's a part of life and their is nothing wrong with it at all. Don't tell him to stop touching his penis any sonner then you would tell him to stop touching his toes. Which, by the way, the feet have just as many sexual receptors as the penis does. Just food for thought for tose who were going to blast me for giving a child the green light to do....you know what! LOL

Brandi - posted on 03/24/2011

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My oldest, who is 6, never has done that. My youngest, who is 4, found his "interesting" at about 2. I keep telling him to stop playing with it!

Katarina - posted on 03/24/2011

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Oh, lol, every time I change his diaper he points to his penis, says "P" and then nods as I tell him that yes, it is his penis good job. haha

Katarina - posted on 03/24/2011

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My 2 year old will sit on the couch, take his diaper off and play with himself. We need to keep him in an undershirt and pants if we're in public. Starte to this point about 6 months ago. But he's always played with himself. Its natural

Charlie - posted on 03/22/2011

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Cooper grabbed his penis early but Harry at 8 months hasn't found it yet ....... Cooper thinks its hilarious how far he can stretch it , I wonder " doesn't that hurt " *shrug* LOL

Becky - posted on 03/21/2011

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I don't remember how old Cole was, around 6 months, I think. Zach was younger, 3 or 4 months. They both love their penises! Cole is 3 now and totally manhandles his! His foreskin retracts now and to be honest, it kind of creeps me out when he does it. It just looks like it'd hurt! Clearly he wouldn't be doing it if it did, but it looks like it would!

Meghan - posted on 03/21/2011

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J was about 8 months...and then it was allll over. He doesn't do it in public *knock on wood* the only issue I have is he pulls it up in his sleep and ends up wetting everything. I feel like I should pay the daycare lady more for all the laundry she does!

Vegemite - posted on 03/21/2011

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hahah boys are born playing with it. Well both of mine were, as soon as they could control where their hand went.

Mrs. - posted on 03/21/2011

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I helped raised my lil bro and he was at it all the time.

I agree with the whole....how do they handle such rough treatment. That goes for the girls and the boys. My 20 mouth old is rough on her lady parts too.

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yeah its normal they find it young and never let go although my son at 16 months is now less interested because i just point and say "marshall's penis"...i do make a game out of it though when im changing him and he wont move his hand i pull the nappy over and say in a big excited voice "trap marshall's hand" pull it away see if he moves and if he doesn't i repeat...i call it penis peek-a-boo

Audrey - posted on 03/21/2011

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my little guy was really young (cant remember exactly how young) when he found it. he is circ'd by the way, not that that matters. anyway, once he grabbed it, he never let go. lol!he is 3 now and thinks its just as cool now as he did the first time he found it. what really surprised me is that my daughter was also real young when she started grabbing at herself down there. that one caught me off guard.lol!

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Wow, Kate, I'm impressed that he's already grabbing at it! I do think he is advanced, but only in that he's grabbing his penis when he can't even really see it (if it's during nappy changes). My eldest (4 yr old) was about 8 months old when he first grabbed on and it hasn't seemed to stop yet! His favourite thing to do is twist it around his finger. Yow! Oh, one time when he was about two I saw him wrapping it around a toy car while standing, legs spread. Once he wrapped the car up, he swung his hips and sent the car flying. What a great game that was! Weird kid. :-)

My younger son (2 yr old) was a relative late bloomer. He doesn't really grab his penis even now. His thing is to straighten both legs and press them together as hard as he can. Maybe he thinks he's being more discrete with his masturbating, I don't know, but the grunting is a bit of a giveaway.

Jane - posted on 03/21/2011

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Normal, normal, normal ! As he gets older and can understand, you'll have to tell him to stop pulling on it (LOL)! My son is 17 now and trust me, he doesn't pull on it IN PUBLIC anymore (LOL)!

Bonnie - posted on 03/21/2011

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I don't remember when my boys first started doing it a lot (both are circumcised by the way), but I know that I am always telling them to leave it alone already. When I am changing my 2.5 year old, he constantly has his hands in that area, pulling it, twisting it, pressing down on it. It seems natural to me.

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Completely normal Kate, my LO was a few months old when he found his and like the others he tugs and pulls at it SOOOOOO hard I cringe - I don't know how it doesn't hurt. But it can't hurt because he always giggles his head off when he does it :-)

Amy - posted on 03/21/2011

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I had never been around boys and have a little one. First time he realized it was there he was around 8 months old in the bathtub and realized it kinda floated. He pushed it down, it floated back up, pushed down..repeat. lol. I was like....uh, Aaron, is he supposed to be doing that? :) But other than that...he hasn't really played with it. Recently he did push it down into the new potty. He'll be 2 in two weeks. I'm sure once potty training starts full on it'll be his new favorite thing to hold.

Alexis - posted on 03/21/2011

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My little guy has known his little friend since birth. It is one of the most sensitive places and fairly easy for them to reach. Totally normal.

Megan - posted on 03/21/2011

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I can't say that my Liam has found his toy quite yet and he is almost 5 months old.. Maybe I will get lucky and he'll never find it! haha! :) Good luck!

Jessica - posted on 03/21/2011

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Woah, my little guy is 7 weeks and can't intentionally grab at anything yet! I'm more impressed your baby is grabbing at something :)

So yeah, no penis grabbing here yet. My older son (21 months) does sometimes in his bath.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 03/21/2011

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Just for the record, my son in intact and almost 5. He rarely plays with himself. My hubby is also in tact, and I don't think he realizes how much he has his hands down his pants.

Sharon - posted on 03/21/2011

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Mine is older than yours and his toy is still the best thing he's ever found.

Sara - posted on 03/21/2011

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My husband is 33 and still hasn't stopped playing with his penis. LOL

Lesa - posted on 03/21/2011

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My son is constantly playing with himself. Has been doing it since he was an infant. My friend always laughed at him thinking it was strange. She has a 3 year old in tact boy and he just started playing with himself once he became potty trained. I don't think it has anything to do with being circ'd but everything to do with feeling good and if it feels good they are going to do it. My husband is circ'd and wants sex 2 or 3 times a day and who knows what he does in the computer room alone at night. lol

Rosie - posted on 03/21/2011

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didn't emma say her son has no interest, he's not circ'd as far as i can remember. it's got absolutely nothing to do with circumcision.

Dana - posted on 03/21/2011

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Yes, I know all about circumcision Tara. There still is sensation with a circ'd penis and it still has nothing to do with the fact of whether boys play with their penis or not. There are plenty of boys who are intact that don't play with their penis either.

Tara - posted on 03/21/2011

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April, lots of boys don't play with themselves until later in life, and Dana it rarely has anything to do with whether they are intact or not, but it does sometimes have something to do with it.
When a baby is circ'd they remove part or all of the frenular band is removed:
"frenular delta

A triangular area of mucosa under the penis whose apex is the frenulum, whose sides are the ridged band and whose base is the junction between the inner and outer zones of the foreskin (the transition zone). A highly erogenous area, often completely ablated (destroyed) by circumcision. Described by Ken McGrath and announced at the Sixth International Symposium on Genital Integrity, Sydney, 9 December 2000."
This can lead to a marked decrease in sensation, but due to a lack of studies on this area of an infants response to stimulus of the genitalia no one can be clear on how much sensation is lost during RIC.

April - posted on 03/21/2011

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my son is not intact and maybe that is why he has hardly ever touched his penis? He was never the baby that discovered it early or the toddler that discovered it after a year. He is now 2 and still doesn't touch it! I think I'd rather he DID touch it, so I know he is doing something normal!! :(

Jenni - posted on 03/21/2011

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You know, I'm not sure if I do it anymore, don't really notice. But I use to find myself massaging my breasts in deep thought. Maybe there is a connection in both sexes between sexual stimilus and stimulating the brain. Maybe it's just stronger in men. Just a thought.

Merry - posted on 03/21/2011

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Like a jump start! Lol! Got to rev up their brain with some twiddling I guess. My mom would always say to my brother, are you afraid you'll lose it? It's like a comfort glamour to some

Jodi - posted on 03/21/2011

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" Maybe it helps men think better? "

LMFAO!! I'm sorry, I nearly spit on my keyboard then because that is SO true. If they can play with their penis while they are thinking they are stimulating their brain at the same time, you know!!!

Jenni - posted on 03/21/2011

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Well some baby boys discover it in the womb. When did I discover my son getting erections? Probably around the same time you did; maybe around 1 or 2 months? I think as soon as he had control over his hands he was pulling on it.

My SIL use to say her son pulled on his penis so hard she was afraid he'd injure himself!

My daughter is 10 months old and I have yet to see her exploring her vagina. Maybe it's because of the anatomical features of the penis, it's easier to find.



@Sarah Yeah, I still had to tell my son to "wait until mommy cleans the poop off of it first!" until he was PT.



@Jodi Heck, I still catch my husband doing it from time to time when he's pondering something. Maybe it helps men think better? I mean, we do always say they think with that head instead. o_O

Jodi - posted on 03/21/2011

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Story from the school tuckshop....
I was working there one day and serving at the counter after lunches had been sent out. We have a variety of frozen treat, cookies, popcorn, etc, to sell to the kids.

ANYWAY, I was serving at the Kindergarten/year One window (which is always very interesting and very cute), and while I was serving one little boy I really struggled to keep a straight face. He was standing there trying to decide what to buy, but his hand were down his pants and he was playing with his penis. This kid had to be at LEAST 6......

Krista - posted on 03/21/2011

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The worst is when he stares at me smiling while twiddling his boner. I know it's perfectly innocent, but it's like, "Seriously, kid?"

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My 8 month old plays with it constantly and has done for a while. It's frustrating when he has a dirty bum cause then i have to try and keep his hands away from it before he gets poo everywhere.
My 2 yr old is toilet trained and thinks it's great to just drop his dacks anywhere and pee. He is starting to see how far he can pee.

Stifler's - posted on 03/20/2011

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I don't think Logan discovered his penis until recently. I was changing him the other day and he was sitting up on the change table pulling at it. I don't remember him touching it before then. He's 14 months lol

Sarah - posted on 03/20/2011

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My son first discovered his penis in the bath tub & he was around 6 or 7 months I'd say. I hate it when he tries to grab for it while I'm changing his diaper...especially when there's poop everywhere haha. Gross.

Jodi - posted on 03/20/2011

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Laura, we are not talking about a boy who is a few days old. We are talking several weeks.

Merry - posted on 03/20/2011

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Just read the comments. Didn't mean to mention circumcision, sorry. It's just a valid thought in my mind as to why erics hands didn't venture south until closer to a year old.

I do think no circumcised boy would be playing with his penis at a few days old. That would obviously hurt him.

So yeah, circed or not they all grow to love their penis, but I'd assume healing pain would definitely delay a newborns interest down there.

Merry - posted on 03/20/2011

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Eric was older, maybe 7,8,9 months. But I have a friend whose son was barely born when he discovered his penis!
Maybe Eric didn't touch it for a while cuz it was circumcised and he had memories of pain down there. :(

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 03/20/2011

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My 11month old immediately goes for his Penis when I take his diaper off, and he is a poker and a puller. He goes to town on it, and to me it seems like it should hurt.



My 8year old asked me the other day as he was getting out of the shower



“Mom, why does my penis flop and wiggle like this? And mind you he was serious about this

And then he proceeded to do some little jumps and shakes….LOL

I did laugh out loud, because that was out of nowhere, but I said “You know what that is a good question,”

He to still enjoys his, as they always will….

Tara - posted on 03/20/2011

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And just to clarify again, it does in some cases have something to do with a baby or child enjoying their penis.

Circumcision was performed to reduce masturbatory activities, because it was perceived to not offer the same level of stimulation and pleasure. But again that is not why I posted it. But that may be why some (another time I could italicize) babies who are circ'd don't do it as often when they are small. Just saying...

Edited again to fix a typo

damn need to proof read first.

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