Children & TV/Playstations, etc

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I recently noticed the following post on another forum and it really bothered me:



"all 3 of mine have tv,dvd,playstation and even a computer in there room.... i have never had a problem with them becoming withdrawn from our family.. but each to there own i have found that they can watch wht they like in there room and not upset anyone else who is watching something they dont like or want to watch"



It bothered me because of the comment about not upsetting someone else. My personal opinion is, sharing is a good thing to learn. My children do not have TVs in their room, and can only have one when they decide they will pay for one themselves. Just my personal opinion. But keep in mind, I still remember the day my parents brought home our first coloured television, so to have that many TVs in the house was just never even an option.



There has also recently been a report in Australia about toddlers/babies and TV:

http://www.theaustralian.news.com.au/sto...,,26196393-2702,00.html?from=public_rss





Article from: Australian Associated Press

NEW federal guidelines for parents and carers say children should be banned from watching television until they turn two, warning that it can stunt language development and shorten their attention span.



The first official recommendations on children's viewing habits also say television time should be limited to an hour a day for children aged two to five."





My view on this is that TV doesn't have to be a bad thing, there are many programs that are designed specifically for early childhood education. And I will also be quite honest - I have used the TV (and the odd Disney movie) as a babysitter when I really need to.



I'm just curious about other people's opinions on these issues :)



Edited to add: Sorry folks, just realised that link is not working......trying to fix it!!



Edited to add: This is SO not working for me!!!!



Edited to add: I gave up and decided to take the http out from in front :) Here we go: www.theaustralian.news.com.au/story/0,,26196393-2702,00.html?from=public_rss

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Amie - posted on 10/15/2009

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My children have t.v.'s and DVD players in their rooms too. The game systems are not allowed. They are all downstairs hooked up to the big screen and they only play when their dad or I are there.

They are allowed to watch movies only on their t.v.'s. Sometimes they'll want to watch after schools but other than that the only time they are allowed to use them is on the weekends. Our oldest is currently earning hers back. She had it taken away a couple months ago, getting there though. Her computer is going back in her room this weekend. It does have an internet hook up (wireless) but it is locked up so tight she can't get to anything except the sites we told my husband's sister to put on the bookmarks list for her.

It's not a bad thing for our children to be around and use technology. They need to learn how to use it and use it properly at that. Each generation gets more technologically savvy as the years go by. If mine ever lose an interest in reading, going outside, if it is affecting their sleep, then we will take them away. For now their doing fine and it's not impacted them in any huge way.

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Jenny - posted on 10/19/2009

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We are more of a musical household. The stereo is always on and my 60GB Ipod is 90% full. My daughter's favourite band so far is Dave Matthews Band which she cranks on her stereo in her room while she's cleaning up.



We have 2 TV's in our house and 1 computer. The computer is in the living room so I can monitor what is going on with it at all times. I will eventually get a second computer (got my eye on the Macbook) as she is expected to do more homework on the PC in the higher grades. The extra TV is in our bedroom and is not hooked up to the satellite. We allow about an hour a week (yes, a week) of TV and an hour on the computer where she usually goes on WebKinz. I am doing my best to avoid the brainwashing that TV brings. So far, so good. She does art, reads books (40 so far this month), plays outside, makes forts and uses her imagination to keep herself occupied.



We have a Wii and a PS3 and she gets about 2 hours on those. Her favourite is a fishing game on the PS3 and bowling on the Wii or Guitar Hero. My son will be 2 in January so he doesn't have much interest so far in electronics except for carrying the remotes around.

Sharon - posted on 10/17/2009

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Atta girl Cindy!!



I forgot that we too take the laptops with us so the kids can watch movies while we travel.



I think my kids are older than most of the ladies who participate on this board.



LOL & cindy my husband has been caught watching Sponge Bob and some show the kids like on Disney.

Cindy - posted on 10/17/2009

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Sorry Ladies. I am a horrible mom. I have a TV/dvd player in my room, babies room, living room, and basement. I have a portable DVD player in the toddler's room as well.

When we travel, we bring a DVD player with us.

I get to watch adult programs after 7pm on one TV. The rest of the time it's childrens programs. The baby gets a book read to him everynight via the TV/DVD player (The lion king right now) He snuggles in his crib and sleeps with in seconds. The toddler will not go to sleep with out his stories.



Horrified yet. Gets better.



Today I decided enough is enough. I got them up early. Got them dressed. And we took the dog for a 10 km walk. The WHOLE WALK the toddler screamed becuase he'd rather be watching TV then going for a walk. Everybody at the park told him a walk is better then TV. He was horrified that nobody agreed with him. I love my friends.



Now. Yes, the Tv's are on all the time, but 80% of the time the boys are doing other things, not really watching the programs. I have found myself watching their programs after they go to bed. (Must be addictive or something)



My point. Tv or no Tv it's not hurting my kids. Yes the toddler would rather be at home, then walking outside, but he didn't get to go home. It's my job as a parent to realize when to say enough and stick to it. My kids have more toys then most daycares. Right now I'm working on finding a slide and jungle gym for the basement. So when it's cold outside they can be active inside.

Ez - posted on 10/17/2009

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I've said on previous threads how much I hate game consoles, so it will come as no surprise that I can't see myself allowing one to go in my daughter's room (though I guess you can never say 'never').

As for the TV, if I do let her have one it won't be for a long, LONG time yet. As others have said, I do have the TV going all day for background noise. But my daughter really only pays it any attention if a particularly 'chirpy' sounding commercial comes on. The only things she actually WATCHES are Bear in the Big Blue House in the morning (that creepy ass bear will get her attention from the other end of the house) and PlaySchool in the afternoon.

I think different things work for different families, and if parents are genuinely monitoring their kids and happy with the balance in their life then good luck to them. It's unlikely to be a choice I would make for my own child though.

JL - posted on 10/16/2009

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Quoting Sharon:

Out of curiosity I asked my oldest & youngest what did they do last weekend.

14 yr old = homework. anything else? um no? He also went to his homecoming dance where I paid for a very expensive tux rental and he doesn't even remember it....

7 yr old = soccer - there weren't any soccer games. We did stay home and clean and do tons of laundry but mostly she spent the weekend outside on her new bike...



I ask my daughter everyday..so what did you do in school today, did you learn anything new....and I get the same answer...I don't know, I don't remember.

ME - posted on 10/15/2009

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At age one, I started letting Miles watch 30 min of public tv programing for toddlers while I do the dishes or laundry or whatever. This is all he watches. He loves Thomas, Super Why, Word World, and Curious George. It doesn't matter to him which of the programs he gets to watch, and it gives me a chance to get a few things done in the house. I will not be putting a tv in his room any time soon.

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2009

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That's why we did the diaries Sharon, because the kids are hopeless. We did the diaries as a scrapbook, and I printed some photos for them, we collected the brochures and other momentos and they did their journals up so that they would remember the trip.

Sharon - posted on 10/15/2009

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LOL I KNOW!!!! Right?? OMG - makes me want to pull out my hair.



My mother is frustrated because she took my daughter to Texas with her (2 states away) where she got to see the sea/ocean for the first time, go to fly on an airplane, travel on a ferry, and sooooooo many other things and when she asks her "what was your favorite part?" "nothing" omg omg omg



On the other hand when I show her pictures - it jogs her memory and she can tell us all sort of little vignettes about the circumstances around the picture.

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2009

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Quoting Sharon:

Out of curiosity I asked my oldest & youngest what did they do last weekend.

14 yr old = homework. anything else? um no? He also went to his homecoming dance where I paid for a very expensive tux rental and he doesn't even remember it....

7 yr old = soccer - there weren't any soccer games. We did stay home and clean and do tons of laundry but mostly she spent the weekend outside on her new bike...



Funny you say that Sharon.  We went on a 2 1/2 week holiday to Queensland in August, and because the kids were kept out of school for the holiday, I made them write a diary about what they did, things they learned, etc.  We would sit down in the evening and they would write up their diary.  Well, most evenings, they would say they couldn't remember what they did that day!!!  I mean, the day we went to Australia Zoo, they'd forgotten by dinner time!!  You have to wonder sometimes why we bother!

Sharon - posted on 10/15/2009

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Out of curiosity I asked my oldest & youngest what did they do last weekend.



14 yr old = homework. anything else? um no? He also went to his homecoming dance where I paid for a very expensive tux rental and he doesn't even remember it....



7 yr old = soccer - there weren't any soccer games. We did stay home and clean and do tons of laundry but mostly she spent the weekend outside on her new bike...

Jodi - posted on 10/15/2009

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Quoting Krista:

Well, I'm with you, Jodi, though we seem to be the minority! My son is only 11 months, and he doesn't watch TV, but I don't like the idea of him having a TV, video games, or a computer in his room. I feel like those are all things that require adult supervision, at least until a certain age.



LOL Krista, my kids are 17, 12,10 and 4 (the 17 year old doesn't live here).  We do have a TV in the rumpus room hooked up to a couple of game consoles and a DVD player but mostly the one in our living room is used.  Also, our rumpus room doubles as a spare bedroom when we have guests, so it is not always and option. We are not that much into TV that it can't be shared by everyone. The computer is also a shared one in the living area so I can supervise. although the 17 year old received her own laptop for her 16th birthday.  Most the time, the kids actually choose to do other things. 

Krista - posted on 10/15/2009

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Well, I'm with you, Jodi, though we seem to be the minority! My son is only 11 months, and he doesn't watch TV, but I don't like the idea of him having a TV, video games, or a computer in his room. I feel like those are all things that require adult supervision, at least until a certain age.



It also drives me crazy that when I ask my grade one students to write in their journals about what they did on the weekend, more than half of them can only recall the TV shows they watched or video games they played.



I love TV, and I find it's one of the best ways for me to wind down after a long day at work (probably because your brain shuts off when you watch TV lol!). I'd like the TV to be something that we can watch for a little while each night as a family, and not something that has my son alone in his bedroom for hours.

JL - posted on 10/15/2009

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My kids have tv's in the their rooms but only my daughter has a satellite box but we do have her tv controller programmed to allow her access to only certain channels. My son watches Thomas movies sometimes in his room. He likes to play Thomas in his room and act out the scenes. It is rather cute to watch.



My daughter only watches show at night right before she goes to bed and on the weekends sometimes she watches movies. She is pretty much in school all day and at afterschool activities...piano, dance, and girl scouts until 6:30 at night and on weekends we due family outings. During the week she eats dinner, does her homework, takes a bath, reads a book, and then settles into bed to watch her favorite channel the Discovery kids channel. She adores the shows Adventure Camp and Bindi the Jungle Girl.



She gets to watch 30 minutes and then off to bed. She also has a full size electronic keyboard in her room that she plays. She also has an Ipod shuffle that she listens to and a Nintendo DS that she basically uses when we are at appointments or travelling.



All of our video game systems are downstairs in the living room. I hate that people use the tv to babysit but if used properly it can be a great form of entertainment and can be used as an educational tool. My daughter has learned a load of things that I did not even know from her tv shows. She can say things in Spanish and Chinese.



But there can be a thing as too much. As far as the computer goes..my kids are too young right now. My son does not use it all he is only two. My oldest uses it sometimes for school. She basically knows how to turn it on and use the mouse.

Sharon - posted on 10/15/2009

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My boys grew up with the tv, dvd player, PS2, Wii, in their room. It was NOT hooked up to the satellite.



We took it out after the boys got old enough to start abusing the situation. Waking up at 3 am to find them playing a game really pissed me off.



But while they were toddlers and younger it was great. Their room was set up to be the game room/movie theater and they and their friends had a great time in there.



Now I collect all the electronics before they go to bed, Nintendo Ds's & cellphones to keep them asleep at night.



The game tv is in my living room now. They can only play with no sound during the day and evenings when I'm home.



I'm like Lindsay - my tv & laptop are on all day. I just leave FB, COM, CNN up all day. I refresh occasionally and read whats new as I pass through the room.



I HAD to put a tv in the kids room - I cannot stand cartoon voices most of the time, Dora, backyardigans are unbelievably annoying sounds. OMG makes me want to pull my hair out.



But they got their shows on the main tv in the morning then around noon, it became MY tv.



My kids aren't that into tv? Its kind of weird. I remember being insane for watching saturday morning cartoons. Not my kids.



But they had to share this tv. If someone wanted to watch a movie, play a game, etc, they'd better hurry up and finish their homework, chores, clean their room... first one done gets the TV.



If there is any fighting no one gets the tv.



OH I have to say - my kids never really cared for baby baby cartoons. At 2 yrs old my oldest son only wanted to watch Jurassic Park. OVER & OVER. He learned how to say those crazy complicated dinosaur names before a lot of other words.



We read animal encyclopedias, animal specific books, and some childrens bible stories - all with proper words, not baby talk. When my oldest was 11 - he was tested and they said he had the vocabulary of a college freshman and the math skills of a 4th grader though.



I used the DVD player from the time my kids were infants to make background noise so I could vacuum and run the dishwasher, dryer etc without them waking up.

Lindsay - posted on 10/15/2009

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Madeline and Cooper each have a TV in their rooms simply becasue they were gifts and we already had TVs in the living room and the basement. They are not hooked up to the satellite or anything though. They both have built in DVD players and I usually let them pick a movie to watch at night when we are settling down for bed. They get 30 min. a night to watch what they want or something together. Then we do the bedtime routine.

I've said before that my living room TV stays on all day. I can't stand the quiet. I have to have that background noise. But if I or my kids were sitting on our rear all day everyday watching TV, that's a different story. I do that enough on here! =)

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