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Michelle - posted on 08/16/2009 ( 41 moms have responded )

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I see alot of posts here and there about it and this might sound really dum of me but i dont get it. I know its big in the U.S but here in the U.K its not somthing you see or hear about very often. Ive never met anyone who has had it done. So im just wondering what the reason is for circumcison?

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Melissa - posted on 08/18/2009

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I'm sure most of us condemn the female circumcisions that are performed in some cultures, while we do the same to our boys. I do not see a difference. Both are unecessary and cruel IMO.

I feel differently about the 'let him look like daddy' issue. I agree with what Loureen said. Also, some children look nothing like their fathers. My oldest son looks exactly like me, with the exception of the dimples he has....got those from Daddy. Different hair color, eye color, facial features, etc. He doesn't need to look just like his dad. He's his own person.

For every girl you find who has something awful to say about it, there will be those who do not mind. If someone has a problem with it, that person isn't worth your time. To down a person for something they were born with is shallow, and I'd like to know early on if I had a person like that in my life so I could take care of it. With people like that, if it wasn't the uncircumcised penis, it'd be something else.

This is something I feel strongly about as I see no need for it.

Charlie - posted on 08/31/2009

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Some research suggests that circumcised infants may have a lower incidence of urinary tract infections (UTIs). Approximately 0.188% of circumcised infants and 0.702% of intact infants develop a UTI. However, this difference is slight, and female infants have a far higher incidence of UTI than circumcised or intact boys (5%). Mothers will be happy to know that immediate breastfeeding protects male and female infants from such infections. If a UTI does occur, the most conservative treatment is with antibiotics and more rigorous follow-up in rare cases of recurrent infections. Chronic UTIs are often the result of abnormalities in the urethra or bladder which will usually require surgery.
The prepuce of most newborn boys is still adhered to the glans and cannot be retracted. Forcible retraction can result in tearing, scarring and infection, with the result that circumcision may becomes medically necessary because of foreskin damage. A boy will retract his foreskin when he is ready to do so, and it is normal for this to happen any time between the ages of 3 and 13. After the foreskin has become retractable boys can be shown how to gently retract and wash under the foreskin with water. Diluted soap can help with cleaning, but it must be thoroughly rinsed away to avoid irritation of the foreskin’s sensitive inner surface. Too much soap can cause skin problems such as eczema which used to be blamed on the foreskin.
The risks of circumcision include bleeding, infection, damage to the glans and frenulum, excessive skin removal, scarring, loss of penis, and even death. Infant circumcision carries more risks than adult circumcision, as a baby’s penis is very small and difficult to operate on, and more penile skin is removed than in adults. Excessive tissue removal is a common problem, and this can cause painful erections and even restrict the growth of the penis at puberty.
Circumcision removes complex tissue containing thousands of highly specialised fine touch receptors and nerve fibres. The loss of sexual sensitivity is proportional to the amount of foreskin removed; a tight circumcision that prevents movement of the foreskin during intercourse and other sexual activity is particularly damaging. Men circumcised as infants may be unaware of this, but many men circumcised as adults report a definite loss of feeling and versatility.
The risk factors for penile and cervical cancer are cigarette smoking and exposure to various strains of the human papilloma or wart virus (HPV), through unprotected sex with multiple partners. Penile cancer is an extremely rare disease with less than 1 case per 100,000 men and a median age of diagnosis of 64 years. Circumcised men do develop penile cancer, which can develop on the circumcision scar.
Circumcision does not prevent the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), but many studies claim that circumcision can reduce a man’s risk of acquiring an STD. These studies are often done in poor and under-developed countries and do not take into account personal hygiene, complex social customs, education level, medical services, traditional sexual practices, and genetic factors in susceptibility to disease. Similar studies in industrialised nations, such as Australia, find that circumcision does not reduce the risk of STD transmission.
An Australian survey found that circumcised men had shorter erect penises than intact men, and the difference was statistically significant. This makes good sense as many circumcisions in Australia are too severe, and a tight result can restrict growth of the penis during puberty.

Johnny - posted on 08/30/2009

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My husband is, but if we had a son, we would not have it done, we just do not feel that it is necessary. I think it can be easily explained to a child why daddy looks different. My husband has no issues with having been circ'ed, in fact, he's quite happy about it. But my father has strong feelings that he was robbed of his foreskin and is very opposed to the practice. Since my hubby and I were not strongly pro-circ, we decided to respect my father's feelings on the issue if we have a son. And I do believe it is generally cosmetic or religious, at least when it is being performed on infants.

Having said that, I do wish to discuss the cleanliness issue, because I suffered greatly from having a partner (when I was much younger) who did not properly care for his uncircumsized penis. I'd had partners before who were not circumsized, so I did not think anything of it. After we began to have sexual relations, I started suffering from repeated urinary tract infections that I had never had before (nor since). After going through this for some time, my urologist (by this time I'd been sent to a specialist) asked about my sexual partners, their equipment and habits. Upon discussion, he asked if my partner would mind coming in for an appointment, to see if that was the cause of my problems. Indeed it was. He was not keeping himself properly cleaned, and the way he was built, there was quite a bit of "space" for infection to take hold. His mother had told him there was no need to do any special cleaning, and he'd followed that practice. The urologist explained that up to 75% of female UTI's are caused by unclean male partners, most of whom have not been circumsized and have not been taught proper cleaning habits.

I am NOT advocating circumsion by any means. But please do lots of research into how boys/men should be cleaning their equipment as they grow up. It can help our daughters avoid a great deal of agony down the road.

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Any girl who takes the mickey (teases) out on a guy who is not circumsized or is circumsized is not worth the guy!

ME - posted on 08/18/2009

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Quoting Joy :

I also wanted to add that an uncircumcised penis is no harder to keep clean than a circumcised one. Both of my nephews were uncircumcised and really, it's like an extra half a second of cleaning...no biggie. You do have to make sure to pull the skin back to get all the soap out. And as they get older, you have to instill the importance of keeping it clean to them....but that's what you do for ANY boy, circ or uncirc. I also agree with Mary Elizabeth in that it has just sorta become the norm in the US but from what I hear, it's becoming less common as people learn the facts about the cleanliness issue.



I just want to repeat...there is NOTHING you do to "keep it clean"...do not touch the foreskin on your baby's penis if you don't have him circumcised. I have been through this with several pediatricians and a pediatric urologist. The skin should not be pulled back, or touched for any reason...it causes trauma to the skin and penis when this is done. This USED to be the information given to parents (my husbands parents, for example, were told to do this 27 years ago), but it is NOT the case anymore.



As for becoming less common...in CO...about 40% of boys are uncircumcised, and there is quite a large Jewish population in Denver (not that it accounts for the other 60%)...so that could partially explain why it is still relatively common there.



As for this other issue...My hubby is not circ. and I DIDN'T notice for several months after we started having sex. The first time I could tell a difference was after we went swimming, and were changing and he was really cold...other than that there is nothing elephantish about him.  I was with 4 circ'd men prior to my husband, and I truly don't see what the big issue is. My uncirc'd hubby is, without a doubt, the best I've ever been with. He's also never had a UTI or a Yeast infection...not when he was younger and not since I've known him...I know he's only one guy...but thought I'd share.

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Jeannette - posted on 09/02/2009

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Quoting Loureen:

Some research suggests that circumcised infants may have a lower incidence of urinary tract infections (UTIs). Approximately 0.188% of circumcised infants and 0.702% of intact infants develop a UTI. However, this difference is slight, and female infants have a far higher incidence of UTI than circumcised or intact boys (5%). Mothers will be happy to know that immediate breastfeeding protects male and female infants from such infections. If a UTI does occur, the most conservative treatment is with antibiotics and more rigorous follow-up in rare cases of recurrent infections. Chronic UTIs are often the result of abnormalities in the urethra or bladder which will usually require surgery.
The prepuce of most newborn boys is still adhered to the glans and cannot be retracted. Forcible retraction can result in tearing, scarring and infection, with the result that circumcision may becomes medically necessary because of foreskin damage. A boy will retract his foreskin when he is ready to do so, and it is normal for this to happen any time between the ages of 3 and 13. After the foreskin has become retractable boys can be shown how to gently retract and wash under the foreskin with water. Diluted soap can help with cleaning, but it must be thoroughly rinsed away to avoid irritation of the foreskin’s sensitive inner surface. Too much soap can cause skin problems such as eczema which used to be blamed on the foreskin.
The risks of circumcision include bleeding, infection, damage to the glans and frenulum, excessive skin removal, scarring, loss of penis, and even death. Infant circumcision carries more risks than adult circumcision, as a baby’s penis is very small and difficult to operate on, and more penile skin is removed than in adults. Excessive tissue removal is a common problem, and this can cause painful erections and even restrict the growth of the penis at puberty.
Circumcision removes complex tissue containing thousands of highly specialised fine touch receptors and nerve fibres. The loss of sexual sensitivity is proportional to the amount of foreskin removed; a tight circumcision that prevents movement of the foreskin during intercourse and other sexual activity is particularly damaging. Men circumcised as infants may be unaware of this, but many men circumcised as adults report a definite loss of feeling and versatility.
The risk factors for penile and cervical cancer are cigarette smoking and exposure to various strains of the human papilloma or wart virus (HPV), through unprotected sex with multiple partners. Penile cancer is an extremely rare disease with less than 1 case per 100,000 men and a median age of diagnosis of 64 years. Circumcised men do develop penile cancer, which can develop on the circumcision scar.
Circumcision does not prevent the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), but many studies claim that circumcision can reduce a man’s risk of acquiring an STD. These studies are often done in poor and under-developed countries and do not take into account personal hygiene, complex social customs, education level, medical services, traditional sexual practices, and genetic factors in susceptibility to disease. Similar studies in industrialised nations, such as Australia, find that circumcision does not reduce the risk of STD transmission.
An Australian survey found that circumcised men had shorter erect penises than intact men, and the difference was statistically significant. This makes good sense as many circumcisions in Australia are too severe, and a tight result can restrict growth of the penis during puberty.



Thank you for this Loureen.  My husband and I were told to pull back the foreskin, use steroid cream, and pull that fine skin back as well.  My brother was told to do the same with his son.  My son's doctor said that if we didn't do this, my son would need to be circumcised.  It got done, and we hated it.  It was horrible...and now I know, we didn't need to do this.  My nephew ended up circumcised because my mother didn't like him being uncirc and she was his primary caregiver, so she convinced my brother to do it. 



I am still happy about our decision and my son, like I said, has no problems.  I am glad I got this new info...now I can pass it on to my kids for their future reference.



I agree with the poster that pointed out we wouldn't physically change our daughters upon birth.  It is ridiculous to me that we have to be told....no your son is not defected.  They would all be defected!  I'm glad my husband had the since to say no, he doesn't need to look like me, I want him to make that decision for himself.

Jeannette - posted on 09/02/2009

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Quoting dana:

Well....that's a whole nother debate. :)



lol!  Okay point.

Anna - posted on 09/01/2009

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This issue really upsets me. I find it hard to understand how any mother could stand to let anyone near their baby with a knife. Same with ear-piercing for baby girls. As a mother, I want to be the one who protects my kids fro being hurt, not the one who inflicts pain on them. I don't know why people think babies don't feel pain just because they can't talk about it and can't remember it when they're older. You would go to jail for cutting off part of anyone else's body but it's ok for babies because they're helpless and mute? I don't think we should think of our children as our property to do what we like with.

Dawn - posted on 09/01/2009

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My son had extra amount of forskin that his dr said might be an issue. Even after getting circ. he still looks like he is uncirc.

ME - posted on 08/31/2009

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Yes Loureen...That's what I've been saying all along! You don't do ANYTHING to a baby's foreskin! Little boys are approaching puberty (around 10 years old) before anything needs to be done to "clean" that area, and by then they can be taught to do it for themselves. Yes, Carol, men who don't properly clean themselves CAN cause their partners to get UTIs, but it is VERY easy to avoid this, and very easy to teach a little boy to keep himself clean!

Charlie - posted on 08/31/2009

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One more thing NEVER retract a babies foreskin , those who choose not to circumcise and then retract the babies foreskin can cause tearing !
The tearing can cause infection .

Charlie - posted on 08/31/2009

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Its a barbaric act IMO and besides that no medical association in the world including Britain , America AND Australia recommend circumcision .

Soap and warm water , if you can teach a daughter to wash her vagina why the hell is it so hard to teach a son to wash his Penis , put a condom on , practice safe sex , have good self esteem , teach him to be accepting of others no matter what the difference , These are all easily taught , better then taking the easy way out .
Allow your sons to know their body is their own and they have choices in life ( just because we are parents doesn't mean we own them or their bodies ).
How would women like it if our bodily integrity was to be taken away and we were forced to remove our labia in case of infection or our breast because their MAY be a possibility of breast cancer ? There would be an uproar !
I always hear " oh but the surgery hurts as an adult "
Well yes , recovering from all surgery hurts and can take a while adults are able to take painkillers and go under anesthetics .
Babies can feel too , just because they cant express themselves with words doesn't mean they aren't hurting .
And the excuse of " it looks nicer " , well how about we buy all our daughter breast implants apparently they look nicer or we could get them some elective labia reconstruction to make them " neater "?

Statistically more boys under the age of 18 die from Circumcision or complications from circumcision than the diseases they are supposedly meant to protect from .

Jeannette - posted on 08/30/2009

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my husband insisted my son NOT be circumcised just because he is. My mother in law regrets that she had her sons done. My son is 13 and without problems....seriously, I don't think all men are born defected.

Nichole - posted on 08/30/2009

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I am in the US and they say that it is for hygiene but I think that is crap. I did not have my son done because he comes from a very Italian family and no one in the family is done so I didn't want to break that tradition. I also think it's mean to put a baby threw that. It is painful. They may not remember it but at the time they are in pain and it looks very painful after being done. I believe if god wanted there junk to be like that then he would have made them that way.

Sarah - posted on 08/18/2009

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Quoting Shelley:



Quoting Lisa:

And if a girl makes fun of him, do you really want your boy hanging out with her?? I hope my kids develop a little more character than that...





I cannot control who my son chooses as a sexual partner. It's a fact that kids are sexually promiscuous. If we continue to live in this area, there's a high probability that feelings on this issue will be the same in 10-15 years, and most, if not all, of his peers will also be circumcized. I'm sorry you don't agree w my logic, but I've been witness to a few young men who've suffered emotional distress b/c of the very issue I'm discussing. These are my reasons. I do not see it as a character issue.






It is NOT a fact that kids are sexually promiscuous.  I find it ridiculous to say this, I know many individuals who are not and have never been sexually promiscuous, it is all about your attitude, morals and beliefs.  My children will not be sexually promiscuous as kids.  I can't control what they do as adults, but I hope that through the way we raise them this will continue to hold true.



Kids will always find something to pick on others for, that is a fact of life, children can be cruel.  If your son is circumcized and so are they, that does not eliminate the teasing that can occur in childhood!  And it is a character issue in my opinion...I will guide my children in the hopes that they develop high self esteem and choose their friends wisely.  I personally would not hang out with someone who teased me and hope that my children will have that same character trait....its all about treating others how you wish to be treated as cheesy as that might sound.

Dana - posted on 08/18/2009

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First of all, I think it all depends on where you're from. Since my son was premature he was delivered and stayed at a highly respected hospital in the US. I got all the info I needed, as I stated in an earlier post, I didn't have to make the decision. If I were to have another boy, I would choose to have it done. My sister's son had his done also but, his wasn't cut off. I'm not sure what the actual procedure is called but with his they put some kind of ring on and his foreskin fell off. Much like the umbilical cord. So I think the days of lopping it off is over, or soon to be. Here is a link that explains why some of us in the United States choose to do so.



http://www.aap.org/publiced/BR_Circumcis...



I think these are good reasons, remember, I don't choose to judge mothers who don't have it done. To each his own. Who knows one side could find out that we've been horribly wrong years down the road.



I would also like to add, that I know someone who had it done later in life and I heard it was awful. In the link provided it said that if you were going to do it, do it early. Later in life can be more risky. Which can also be a good argument for all you, Au Natural. :)

Jenny - posted on 08/18/2009

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I do not support circumcision for any reason outside of a medical issue. If your son wants to remove a part of his body that is HIS decision, not the parents. It boggles my mind that some areas are considering outlawing ear cropping on dogs but allow you to lop off part of your son's penis without a second thought.

Needless to say my son is not done. Dad is and wanted him done to be the same but I refused. It is not difficult to keep clean or dirty or stinky or any of the other myths floating around. He is natural and beautiful and if one of his sexual partners doesn't like the look of it then they can take a flying leap.

Shelley - posted on 08/18/2009

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Quoting Lisa:

And if a girl makes fun of him, do you really want your boy hanging out with her?? I hope my kids develop a little more character than that...


I cannot control who my son chooses as a sexual partner. It's a fact that kids are sexually promiscuous. If we continue to live in this area, there's a high probability that feelings on this issue will be the same in 10-15 years, and most, if not all, of his peers will also be circumcized. I'm sorry you don't agree w my logic, but I've been witness to a few young men who've suffered emotional distress b/c of the very issue I'm discussing. These are my reasons. I do not see it as a character issue.

Kylie - posted on 08/17/2009

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I think circumcision is cruel and unnecessary and I'm glad it’s becoming less popular. I think if little boys weren't meant have a foreskin then they wouldn't be born with it. If my son chooses to be circumcised when he is older I will happily pay for and support his decision. But I believe he was born perfect and so who am I to decide what parts of his body can go or stay. I should not have the right choose what my son’s penis looks like - he is only a baby but it is still his body. My hubby is circed and he definitely didn't want our son done, he himself would rather have an intact penis. I think if a girl is going to make fun sons penis because its not circed then she’s a shallow individual and I hope tells her where to go.

Savannah - posted on 08/17/2009

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Mainly, from what I gather, it is for cleanliness and health purposes. My best friend is a doctor and he informed me that circumsized males are less likely to get yeast infections and UTIs. Obviously I'm not a doctor so i know nothing for certain. But that is the main reason. My boys are circumsized. My next one will be, too.

Jinglebones - posted on 08/17/2009

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It is becoming less common in Canada as well - I have boys and we did not, even though their father is - it simply is not a big deal. As for cosmetic reasons, since when do little boys parade around their penises? Or men for that matter, in polite circles I mean... And if a girl makes fun of him, do you really want your boy hanging out with her?? I hope my kids develop a little more character than that... I just don't go in for that cosmetic argument about this or many other things.

Shelley - posted on 08/17/2009

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I could never send my son out into the world w an uncircumcized penis, only to made fun of when his sex life begins. Teenage years are hard enough without ANY possible cosmetic problem, moreless one that I could prevent. My partner was 'partially circumcized' in the early 80s b/c 'it was the trend at the time'. I can't even begin to tell you the problems this caused for him during the beginning of his sex life (before confidence). Girls talk, and they're mean. It is definitely done for cosmetic reasons, but I'll add emotional reasons as well. Out of my, oh who knows how many partners, only 2 were uncircumcized, so they were odd to me. And they caught lots of hell about it from their peers. Sooo, it's the norm here. If it's easier to clean, that's just a bonus.



No offense to anyone who disagrees w me. Geography has a lot to do w it. I completely understand the reasons on both sides. B/c of my past and where I am, this is how I feel.

Minnie - posted on 08/17/2009

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I'm in the US, and I don't understand how so many women defend it vehemently, when the vast majority of the men of the world aren't circumcized. I'm sure that if circumcision were the huge medical miracle that they say it is that these men would be flocking en masse to have it done.

It's cosmetic. But surrounded with outdated misinformation and hype that uneducated doctors pass on to vulnerable parents. And also the 'well everyone does it' mentality.

Concerning Jewish ritual circumcision- the traditional circumcision is NOTHING like what is done to little boys in US hospitals.

Charlie - posted on 08/17/2009

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Quoting Joy :

Yeah I have to agree that it's a cosmetic thing. Like Cindy, my husband is so we had our son done as well so we don't have to explain why one is different than the other. I will say though, that as a woman, the circumcised penis is more attractive (to me) than the uncircumcised one. Uncircumcised looks very...elephant trunkish lol That's just my personal taste though.


I have seen ......erm....a few , both circ. and uncirced and i have seen maybe one that was um elephantish lol .



But my man's isnt like that at all , infact i had a hard time figuringt out if he was or not .



Each is different really , no one penis is the same , hahahaha Ok i am gonna stop now !!

Michelle - posted on 08/17/2009

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Quoting Loureen:

it is not really common in Australia and in fact 85% of the world are uncircumcised , i think its purely cosmetic , having said that i find it ridiculous , circumcising to make them look like daddy , seriously how long of a boy's life is spent staring at their father's penis ?
That's like saying "well his father broke his nose as a kid so we are going to break his ( son's ) nose so they dont look different" .
Ive had circumcised and uncircumcised partners, my fiance is uncircumcised and i have to say he has the most beautiful looking penis i have EVER seen and comparing the two my personal preference is uncircumcised , feels natural .
He has never had problems with it , never had an STD or infection .
Its called soap and hot water people .
I also have a strong belief that there is one thing we truly own in this world and its our own body , who am i to take away what does not belong to me .
I understand if it is of someones religious beliefs and i will leave it at that : )

Dont want to offend anyone , i just feel strongly about this one .
In the end it's the parents decision , and those are the reason's why i chose not to .


I totally agree with you.

Charlie - posted on 08/17/2009

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it is not really common in Australia and in fact 85% of the world are uncircumcised , i think its purely cosmetic , having said that i find it ridiculous , circumcising to make them look like daddy , seriously how long of a boy's life is spent staring at their father's penis ?
That's like saying "well his father broke his nose as a kid so we are going to break his ( son's ) nose so they dont look different" .
Ive had circumcised and uncircumcised partners, my fiance is uncircumcised and i have to say he has the most beautiful looking penis i have EVER seen and comparing the two my personal preference is uncircumcised , feels natural .
He has never had problems with it , never had an STD or infection .
Its called soap and hot water people .
I also have a strong belief that there is one thing we truly own in this world and its our own body , who am i to take away what does not belong to me .
I understand if it is of someones religious beliefs and i will leave it at that : )

Dont want to offend anyone , i just feel strongly about this one .
In the end it's the parents decision , and those are the reason's why i chose not to .

Cathelijn - posted on 08/17/2009

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I dont have a son but if we had a son he will get it done. I am Dutch and we live in the UK and yes it is not the done thing here or in Holland. Here you will have to find a Jewish or Muslim doctor to get it done. My husband is African and he has it done so he wants his son done too yes it is cosmetic thing and for my husband it is a cultural thing most man in Africa are circumsized.

Ow and I have seen both and have to say I prefer circumsized any time!! ;-)

Jocelyn - posted on 08/16/2009

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i believe that unless it is a religious issue, that you should generally just leave them intact. that being said, i do think that little boys should look like their daddys. my hubby is still "all there" so we didn't have my son circ'd. if my dh had been circ'd and he felt strongly on the issue, then i would have allowed my son to be circ'd as well.
honestly, i never really noticed with many of the guys that i have been with whether they were or weren't. they all just look kinda strange either way LOL. i guess it's just not something that i care that much about.
and besides, they can always get it done later if they really want to, but you can't grow a new one :)

Tracy - posted on 08/16/2009

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I have'nt got my son circumcised. If you want it done you have to go and see a specialised doctor as its not common practice in Australia. I never really thought of it until I saw post on COM. I still don't think I will get it done.

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I also wanted to add that an uncircumcised penis is no harder to keep clean than a circumcised one. Both of my nephews were uncircumcised and really, it's like an extra half a second of cleaning...no biggie. You do have to make sure to pull the skin back to get all the soap out. And as they get older, you have to instill the importance of keeping it clean to them....but that's what you do for ANY boy, circ or uncirc. I also agree with Mary Elizabeth in that it has just sorta become the norm in the US but from what I hear, it's becoming less common as people learn the facts about the cleanliness issue.

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Others gave my answer, I have never seen one NOT done, not in person anyway. Both of my boys were done the day after birth, neither had any problems with it. Hubby is also done, duh, I guess you guessed that if I have never seen one not done. Also, from what I have read, it does help with UTI and STDs later in life.....yes, I will teach my sons about safe sex and love when the time comes, but that doesn't mean they will always listen to Mama.

ME - posted on 08/16/2009

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Just to be clear, there is nothing involved in keeping an uncircumcised penis clean..at least not for a baby. My son is 18 months, we've never had to do anything for Miles other than sit him in a soapy warm bath at night, and he's never had a uti. The urologist and the pediatrician I've consulted have both said that nothing needs to be done until well after my son is old enough to take care of himself, and since his dad is not circumcised either, he will be the one to teach him what needs to be done. That said...it's either a cosmetic decision or a religious one, and everyone certainly has the right to make personal/private choices for their children.

Dana - posted on 08/16/2009

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My son was born with partial foreskin and had hypospadia. For them to correct it they left what little bit of foreskin he had. When he was 6 months he had the surgery and was circumcised. From what I've been told, boys who are circumcised have a smaller chance of contacting STD's and UTI's.

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My son is circumcized. The Jewish part of me always felt is was the right thing to do even though we did not have the formal bris. My husband supported the decision 100%, and even if religion had nothing to do with it, we would have made the decision to circumcise anyway. My husband is circumcised, and I agree with Joy about the appearance of an uncirced penis. It's hideous and I have NEVER been with any guy that was intact. It would have been a huge sexual turn-off for me. Quite frankly, this is one of those personal parenting decisions a couple makes and is no one else's business. I parent my child my way, and too fricken' bad if you don't like my decisions.

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Once it was explained to me what was entailed in keeping the penis clean if it wasn't circ'd I was not impressed. I was facing the real possibility of being a single mom and factual or not I wasn't sure how I'd handle it as he got older. Some moms talked about repeated infections from lazy boys. I have to say my aussie friends never talk about that so I'm not sure whats going on.



I'll have to ask except all of them still have very young boys. But presumably they've got brothers and have had boyfriends.



So my first son was done because I didn't want to deal with the uncirc'd penis and my next child was done because his dad said nothing was wrong with him, his dad, his brothers, etc and I was ok with that.

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Agreed that it's more cosmetic. Josh said there was no other way and he wasn't having a son that wasn't circumcised. I didn't have an objection to it so Cooper's was done about 5 hours after he was born. I've never seen a penis that wasn't circumcised. We didn't make a big deal of it. Cooper is now just like all of the other men in the family.

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My hubby is not done, and I left the choice about our son pretty much up to him. We didn't have Miles done...I think it sort of just became the norm here in the states at some point...my parents weren't even asked really if they wanted my bro done, it was just assumed that they did, and they asked if they wanted it done before they left the hospital or after...It is less common now, and niether the delivering docs nor my pediatrician made us feel like it was anything other than a cosmetic decision that should be left up to the parents. If we have a boy this time, we won't have it done for him either...

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Yeah I have to agree that it's a cosmetic thing. Like Cindy, my husband is so we had our son done as well so we don't have to explain why one is different than the other. I will say though, that as a woman, the circumcised penis is more attractive (to me) than the uncircumcised one. Uncircumcised looks very...elephant trunkish lol That's just my personal taste though.

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Circumcision actually started due to religious beliefs, many religions believe that it is supposed to be done, mainly the Jewish faith, but I know there are others. From there it slowly became more widespread as people mistakenly believed that it was cleaner for boys to be circumcised. We now know that this is false, so it has become more of a cosmetic issue for a lot of people. Personally, I don't like circmcision, my son is not done as neither is his father, but i know many people who get their sons done and I feel that is their choice.

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cosmetic. My hubby is, so the boys are. That way there was no questions as to why anybody looks different. no other reason.

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