COM wife swap - for fun .

Charlie - posted on 02/01/2011 ( 134 moms have responded )

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So I was watching wife swap today and was wondering if we had to find our polar opposite from COM and swap lives with them who would it be and what would you do differently in their household and what would be your motive for the change ?

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Stephanie, we're upstate. About 5 and a half hours from NYC. We live in a very teeny, tiny town. But in summer, it's gorgeous and there are lots of wine tasting tours :) That's about it to do around here lol That and I like to shop the Mennonite markets. Just to look though, their stuff is EXPENSIVE!

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@Laura:

No, I wasn't a teen mom. I was 33 years old when I had my first lol. ; ) There is another girl with the same last name as me who was a teen mom so maybe thats who youre thinking of?



@Joy:

Your life sounds good to me! I'd love to visit New York and go to the city and shop lol. : p

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Also about me:



I don't hit my kids. I redirect and educate, not beat into submission.

I am a very affectionate mom. I hugs and kiss my kids a zillion and one times per day and say 'i love you' just as many times.

I tell them how beautiful and smart they are. I explain to them why we (Me, the 2 kids, and their dad) are all different colors as we are a multi-racial family.

My son was born with a cranial deformity bc his head was stuck in the side of my pelvis due to not having enough room (twins but lost the other baby early on yet the sac continued to grow and was very big, mostly fluid filled). This caused his head not to grow right and he had to wear a helmet for a year to reshape his head. He also had nerve damage to the right side of his body and had a year of physical therapy. Without treatment he would have likely gone blind within the first year and had severe brain damage but thankfully I pushed the doctors (who didn't want to refer me to a specialist) who didn't believe anything was wrong with him. We took him to a specialist and paid out of pocket and turns out he was not justa baby with a funny looking head, he was seriously ill just as i had told them. Listen to your instincts mommas! He is perfectly fine now and you can't tell anything was ever wrong with him but if you touch his head and ears he gets antsy and doesn't want you to. I think too many ppl fussing over his head early on and all the scans gave him a complex about having his head touched.

Isobel - posted on 02/02/2011

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Sorry Stephanie, didn't see you had already explained elimination communication

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Stephanie, if you scroll up, "my life in a nutshell" is the third post from the top of this page :)

Isobel - posted on 02/02/2011

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Stephanie...it's entirely possible that I have your name wrong, did you not post on another thread that you were a teenage mother?

elimination communication means no diapers...you wait till you see by their signals that they are about to go and hold them over the toilet (or whatever you use).

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Elimination Communication is when you have baby, too young to potty train, and you learn signs that they show when they have to poopy, like say 20 minutes after a feeding, then you sit them on the potty or hold them there until they poo. I think this would be very time consuming but beneficial if you have the patience bc it would teach them early on and save on diapers and wipes.

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@Joy:
Nice to meet you Joy! Tell me about you! : )

@Emma:
Is this the opposite of you? Meaning that you live in a house in the country with outside pets and your husband works hard?

Stifler's - posted on 02/02/2011

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I would need to swap with someone who lived in an apartment with no car in the city and had pets inside and a husband that didn't work.

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I don't know many of you well enough to know who my polar opposite would be so let me tell you about me and you decide how similar (or not) we are:

I have a 4 year old girl and a 3 year old boy who are miracles and the biggest blessings of my life, after 10 miscarriages. Yes you read that right, 10.

We are Mormon /LDS but are inactive members. Even so, I still stand by my beliefs.

I am severely OCD and have to have everything clean and in place in our 3 story house. I do force myself to let the kids have free reign even though it raises my blood pressure at times.

I cook 3 balanced meals per day and nag my husband to exercise bc he's diabetic and has a sedentery job.

My daughter's hair is almost to her knees and if you cut it you won't make it home. ; )

I am a pediatric nurse but now a full time sahm.

I don't smoke or drink and try not to swear around my kids but it slips now and then.

I shop way too much.

I have a condition called Barlows AAHA and get blood transfusions on occasion and have cycled chemo twice.

I read to my kids daily and teach them about God, Jesus and heaven.

My kids knew their abc's and numbers before age 2 and could write their names at 3. We work with preschool books everyday. It's fun and they enjoy it and if it wasn't I wouldn't force it on them. My daughter takes ballet.

I have alot of freakish hang ups- way too many to list here and I'm already taking up too much space lol. ; )

Johnny - posted on 02/02/2011

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Deanna, it's a joke, a "what if?" I doubt most of the women on here would do it either. I sure as hell wouldn't. My god!

Amanda - posted on 02/02/2011

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ooohhhhh Joy- you are more like my hubby and i am more like your hubby (did that make sense?)! but i'm already in NY i want to go somewhere warm

Minnie - posted on 02/02/2011

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We started at six months with Adelaide- hadn't heard of it prior. It's helped her become pretty aware of her body and be completely dry at night since seven months old. She NEVER pees at night despite nursing several times a night. Always pees right when she wakes up.



We'll start at birth with our next child.

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lisa is my doppleganger...i plan on using elimination communication when we start potty training. Did you start from birth?

Kylie - posted on 02/02/2011

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I have no idea who would be my opposite hmmm.
I would need to swap with a working mum, who hates gardening and cooking. Someone who is strict and has schedules and doesn't be silly and play and dance with their kids every day. Someone who doesn't practice attachment parenting or breastfeeding. Someone who doesn't like a clean house or cats.
I wouldn't mind living with the snow for a few weeks. It's bloody hot here but the beaches are nice.

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I don't think anyone on here is my polar opposite. I've read this whole thread and see bits of myself in all of you. Geez, I'm so wishy washy lol

Summer's a great time for a swap here in upstate NY. I have two cats, one husband (who works 6p-6a so you'd never see him) and one child, a 3 yr old boy. We bedshare, don't spank (anymore), are very on the unstructured side, eat meat, cook a lot, aren't slobs but aren't neat freaks either (our house looks comfortable and lived in, with a splash of toys strewn about). We don't believe in God, but I wouldn't be opposed at all if my son wanted to go to church. As long as he's not believing anything blindly and as long as he asks questions. My husband and I are both registered Democrats and always land on the liberal side. I stay home all day, trying my hardest to be domestic, even though there isn't really a domestic bone in my body, except that I love to cook. Ain't that a bitch? Love to cook, hate to clean, always end up stuck with both....



Edited to add: I had to fix a few grammar errors. And on behalf of my husband, I'm sure he'd LOVE to swap with someone who doesn't bitch at him as much as I do. He's just so damned quiet and I'm a talker. No one ever has to guess how I'm feeling but him? It's literally like pulling teeth just to get him to admit he had a bad night at work. Ask him how his day was and his stock answer (for everything) is always, "It was alright." He is so super laid back and it bugs me that nothing ever bugs him. Except for republicans lol No offense, but he's really into politics (WAY more than I am) and he could go on and on and on about it.....

Johnny - posted on 02/02/2011

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I should add, we don't do CIO and we do cloth diaper.

So I suppose I also am looking for a CIO pampers family.

Minnie - posted on 02/02/2011

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So me....I nurse my children until natural duration...yes five six seven, if they still want it all's cool. Minimal rules- don't hurt yourself, don't hurt others, don't hurt property. We practice elimination communication, cosleep as long as the kiddos like, nurse them during the night, refuse to CIO in any form, all for unassisted childbirth (but I do believe that midwives are wonderful), forever mistrusting of the medical establishment, extremely anti-circumcision, rabid do-it-yourself-ers, extended rear-facing for car seats, no punishment of any sort, physical or non, homeschooling bordering on unschooling, owners of raw meat and bone fed cats and fish, hippie-gua-gua-freaks.

Johnny - posted on 02/02/2011

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Are you looking for a lot of rain? Near the beach? Just one kid? Semi-attachment parent total neat freak who works part-time?. No spanking, but very strict? Eats some meat but no junk food, Limited television/no video games. Not a big believer in homeschooling. Atheist/agnostic family.

If you are a religious, homeschooling spanker who lives on the bald prairie under a blue sky, we may be the perfect match. If you love eating Doritos, leaving the crumbs on the sofa & floor while watching Jersey Shore and yelling at your 10 kids, aks for my digits ;)

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Oh, and I'm in the Foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains, the coast is a 3 hour drive (and it has be COLD here lately...in the 40's), but I live by a nice lake. We are not lake front though, but we do have a pretty view....

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6 kids....I barely stay sane with my one! But for those looking for single kid households--I have one kid, and he's a boy!
My distinct parenting things...
Sort of attachment, but didn't start out that way, so although we've tried them in the past, No spanking, No CIO. We do have very strict rules and high expectations for behavior and such.
We do have a TV but not cable/satellite, and it only comes on if someone is sick or something....maybe the occasional family movie or video game night.
I did vaccinate, but it was single ingredient shots on a delayed schedule.
My house is very clean and tidy most of the time--clutter and disarray mess with my ADD (as does the tv).
I have severe ADD and am not medicated, I feel medication for ADD should be a last resort and used only in conjunction with therapy and behavior modification because no study has definitively linked ADD to chemical/hormonal imbalance and most cases cannot be linked to such.
I am a sahm, but I am rarely home: I volunteer with high risk kids 8 hours/week, and at my son's school 4 hours a week, and he has Taekwondo 3 nights a week, little league 2 nights a week, and I have book club twice a month, girls night once a month, date night 1-2 nights a month, and I still do some freelance work, but very, very part time and just for fun :)

So that's me in a nutshell....

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Sorry Krista.... my house is a mess. It WAS clean, but my mom left again yesterday and the kids have already trashed it. ;)

Joanna - posted on 02/02/2011

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I'm in orange county, California... It's 70 right now, and just a 20 minute drive to the beach :)

Amanda - posted on 02/02/2011

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Sorry, Tara, deathly allergic to cats...... i suppose that makes a swap pretty hard for me to do

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/02/2011

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Ok Tara, I would send your kids to school, kick them out of the bed, make them stop eating meat (the pets can stay in the bed though if they want), send the one with you that is still breastfeeding...wait..I am still bf my 10 month old...lol...probably instill to many rules....everything else is fine ;)

Tara - posted on 02/02/2011

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:( No one wants to swap with me??
Come on, it's only 6 homeschooled kids, 3 dogs and two cats.
Our house is HUGE and while not dirty it is almost always in need of tidying and decluttering.
Hubby is low maintenance. Kids all have daily chores and school work, skate lessons two nights a week, the baby is usually happy, and the kids while they can drive me nuts sometimes, are generally well behaved, articulate and helpful.
I live in a nice part of Canada, lots of lakes and trees and rocks...
Winter time sucks, but summer is awesome...
We eat meat, we vaccinate, we co-sleep and breastfeed past 12 months. I don't do attachment parenting to the extreme, but I strongly believe in instinctive parenting. There aren't many rules here, and any we do have are about respect, trust and sensitivity. Looking to swap with someone who has only 1 child, a tidy house, more money and the most important of all...... a warm location.
:) Anyone Anyone???

Krista - posted on 02/02/2011

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We have sandy beaches up here in Canada too. But yeah, right now they're snow-covered.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/02/2011

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I am in Massachusetts Erin...very cold right now...actually warmer than the last couple of days. It is 39 degrees out right now!

Hotdog (lol) I got a very cute little girl...a beach...and a sweet little boy. Of course I am biased...but they definately were not one of the kids from the ugly baby thread!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/02/2011

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Oh yeah..highly opinionated, take no prisoners kind of gal..I guess my husband could use a break with a quiet women, that makes perfect meals, keeps the house spic and span...and kids look perfect all the time.....mine are clean...most of the time.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/02/2011

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Ok, so everyone is writing what distinct things they do to find a polar opposit..

What I say goes...I do not do attachment parenting
Vegetarian...but I do make my family meat...bleck
loves animals..only have a cat...would like someone to doesnt liekt them then
house is organized
stick to scheduales
husband that commutes 120miles roundtrip daily
watches tv plenty
vaccinates

will think of more...I am kinda smack in the middle...my only true extreme is vegetarian...this month makes 17 years!

Rosie - posted on 02/02/2011

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i live at least a thousand miles from any ocean, soooo beaches are my dream, that and a little girl. :)

Amanda - posted on 02/02/2011

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i need to swap with a neat freak.... would love to come back to a spotless-spring-cleaned house!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/02/2011

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Someone can do a summertime swap with me...I live so close to the beach and ocean, I could throw a rock and hit it! Cold right now...to much snow to enjoy it.

Ez - posted on 02/02/2011

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I will warn anyone wanting to swap with an Aussie, we are in the middle of a foul heat wave (day 4 of 40 degrees) and just had a Category 5 cyclone in North Queensland last night :-s

Krista - posted on 02/02/2011

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Note how NOBODY wants to swap lives with the Canadians right now. :P

Ez - posted on 02/02/2011

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LOL Kati, I live near the beach too! In fact, I'm going this morning, so any swap with me would involve taking Milla to the beach most days ;)

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Mary, you're SO right! If I didn't love Kati for being strong and sticking to her guns, I would probably dislike her. We don't agree on a lot, if anything. There are definitely qualities in her that I admire though......oh, and I wish I enjoyed cooking like she does!

Love to hate you, Kati -- whatcha doin next week?

Rosie - posted on 02/02/2011

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i thought about you erin, lol...but the draw of hawaii was too much!!!
and dana and i would be an interesting switch. i'd love to play with roxanne, i can't get enough of her just in pictures, lol!

Ez - posted on 02/02/2011

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Kati has posted before that her and I disagree on most things birth and baby related lol. So I'd definitely say she is my polar opposite :)

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