Cooked breakfast ....Everyday ??

Charlie - posted on 03/15/2011 ( 46 moms have responded )




So a while ago there was a thread on the welcome page basically saying cooking your child breakfast everyday shows how much you love them ......but that wasn't the part that struck me , what struck me was HOW MANY people said they prepare cooked breakfasts everyday for their children with them listing things like sausages , bacon , hash browns , pancakes , waffles with maple syrup , eggs .

To be honest it shocked me because while they are all delish foods not one of them are healthy options especially as a meal everyday .

Many of them went on to suggest cereals were" unhealthy " um yeah if you buy crap like fruit loops , and again with the " uncooked breakfast means you don't love your child as much BS " it made me wonder do these people know cereals and grains are one of the most important parts of our diet ? do they know the salt content of bacon and sausages ? the sugar content of syrup ?

Maybe it is because culturally Australians do not really cook breakfasts , they are generally a once a week thing or special occasion thing , toast , multigrain cereals , yogurts and fruit are what is generally a staple here .

Do you think cooked is better than uncooked or vice versa and why ?


Jodi - posted on 03/16/2011




It is rather a sad outlook to equate love with certain types of food (particularly the fatt, sugary kind) is certainly not going to make for happy endings.

Nikki - posted on 03/15/2011




Ewww, I like bacon and eggs every now and then but everyday no thanks, my arteries would not be pleased. Issy has weet bix, yoghurt and fruit, I just have fruit or a piece of toast.

I think that saying you love your children more if you cook them breakfast is crap. I could say I love my child more because I care that she is eating a healthy and nutritious breakfast, I won't because food has nothing to do with the love I have for my daughter.

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MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 02/16/2012




That is absurd! I cook a breakfast for the family on weekends. We rarely eat bacon or sausage. We do however eat eggs and whole wheat toast (sometimes, white, sometimes whole grain).

When my daughter was younger I often made her scrambled eggs for breakfast before school but that was because she has ADHD and her medications would leave her without appetite, so I had to make sure she was starting her day with a strong healthy meal.

Now she is 13, she has to get her OWN breakfast. She picks from either rice krispie's or cherrio's or toast with jam and PB. She despises oatmeal (I love it).

No one can tell me I don't love my kids because I DON'T home cook a breakfast for them everyday! Good God, I would never leave the kitchen then. I work for goodness sake and so does my husband.

I do however, make sure she does eat breakfast and I pack her lunch, I will do the same for my son when he starts school. I also home cook a supper everyday. I often cook it the night before and have my husband (who works nights) put it in the oven for supper the next day and finish any sides. We ALWAYS eat homemade suppers.

There is nothing wrong with cereal, especially if it is a good choice cereal. You are getting grains and dairy, often my daughter has a glass of Apple/Orange juice too, yes the juice can be high in sugar but she IS 13! it is better than Kool-Aid or SunnyD...

My son gets 12 month cereal with fruit in it EVERYDAY for breakfast with 4oz's of milk. He LOVES his cereal...

I drink 2 cups of coffee and a V8, with 2 pieces of toast and PB, 5 days a week. Sometimes I buy a bag of veggies. mmmm Over a 4 hour time period (up at 5:30am done by 9:30am)

As long as they are eating something and it is somewhat sensible, they are going to be fine and YES we still LOVE them to pieces..

Oh no I MUST not love my children because they eat grain for breakfast and I am not cooking it for them! UGH

Samantha - posted on 02/16/2012




Since my husband and I got married we have usually eaten cereal/granola with milk, vegetable juice and toast with jam, butter or peanut butter, or on occasion some kind of cake or sweet bread with green tea. Since we both had to be out around 8 am, cooking just wasn't an option. And before we got married my husband didn't even really eat breakfast, and when he ate breakfast it was usually Japanese traditional style with rice, fish, miso soup, etc. So it was an adjustment because I love sweet things in the morning, sometimes he would just have a little bit. On the weekends occasionally I would make pancakes or french toast, and now he requests it.

I agree with the original poster, pancakes, french toast, waffles, basically white flour, sugar, with syrup and butter on top....and while eggs are healthy, serving them up with just meat and potatoes with no fruits or vegetables isn't that healthy. If I make eggs I usually make a vegetable scramble and of course serve with fruits, salad and v-8 fusion!

But anyway, cooking does not = love, and there are plenty of ways not to cook and still have a balanced breakfast (shredded wheat, muesli, granola, making a salad the night before and serving it with whole grain toast...)

I wonder what these people would think of my household growing up....from when I was in middle school, I would wake up and make and eat my own breakfast alone because my parents were sleeping in!

Sal - posted on 03/19/2011




i don;t thing one is healthier, both can be great and both can be crap, my first son hated cereal so i had to work hard to make healthy breakfasts but wholemeal taost baked beans, bolied eggs, never big greasy fry ups, sometimes pancakes or french toast but always with fruit, now we have a mix, with 5 people to get out of the house cereal is good, but i do cook something nice once in a while, and porrige is a big fav with the girls, this morning we had fresh made banana bread, yummo

Desiree - posted on 03/18/2011




The only time my children get a cooked meal for breakfast is Sundays when I cook a Brunch or we go out for Breakfast. Otherwise it is cereal for them. We live in Africa and the mornings start off very hot so you don't want anything heavy. But in the winter it does turn freezing so I will make a hot porridge for them.

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2011




My eldest has porridge (microwave stuff, guess I don't love her!!!!! lol) and my youngest has cereal.........if their still hungry after, they get fruit.

Tah - posted on 03/18/2011




I'll cook breakfast on the weekends, turkey sausage, eggs and potatoes. During the week it's quick, cereal, an occasional pop tart if we are running late, fruit etc. They can eat breakfast at school as well which is cereal, fruit, eggs, etc. I can't say which is better, if they have time to do it have at it, I'm usually running out the door for school with kids, sending one to walk to the bus stop while I strap the other in and meet her then I'm off to school. I don't think if you don't cook you love your children any less. People amaze me at how they measure the amount of love people have for their children...

Emily - posted on 03/18/2011




I didn't read the replies... but I think it was misspoken. (Or they are dead wrong.) It's not the cooked breakfast that indicates love. It's making sure your children eat a good breakfast, whatever it is. There are plenty of children that head out the door in the morning with nothing in their stomachs, or whatever they could grab on their own, even if it's a handful of cookies or a slice of cold pizza. The latter isn't bad in and of itself, but it's sad.

That said, I do cook a good breakfast whenever it's possible. Most mornings it's oatmeal or farina. Sometimes it's a bagel or cinnamon toast and some fruit. But a couple of days a week, it'll be eggs and bacon or scrapple or sausage, with "sally lunn" or biscuits. I do think that those things are healthy. I don't follow the whole "cholesterol is evil" thing.

ME - posted on 03/18/2011




No way...we almost never cook breakfast here...apart from the occasional egg-in-the-nest...We eat yogurt, fruit, toast, whole grain cereals, and once in a while home made muffins or breads...Cooking for your children doesn't mean you love them more...fixing healthy foods might mean you are better informed about certain topics, but it doesn't have anything to do with "love"...

Veronica - posted on 03/18/2011




I love my children, and part of that love is making sure they eat! We dont always have healthy meals/snacks -- but we dont always have unhealthy meals/snacks either. There are some junk cereals we will buy - but I have been finding myself buying more wholesome cereals. I do like to make the occassional eggs and bacon breakfasts - but its so much work, that its not very often. All the prep, cooking, and cleanup - isnt something im usually up for - as I have enough prep, cooking and cleanup to do for supper, etc. I don't see anything wrong with 'unhealthy' foods, as long as its not your main meals, all day long. Since getting some education in the nutrition/weight/lifestyle management realm, Ive learned A LOT about food and how it affects our body - so i use a more variety of foods then ive used before. And we eat more often, grazing through the day. Breakfast normally includes bananas/apples, cheerios; oatmeal, or eggs (scrambled for the kids, and veggie omelets for mom ;) I think I love my children because they are mine. I love them because I just do - how do you even explain your love?! They are my pride and joy - and just like bathing, clothing and sheltering them - they need to be fed too.

Mrs. - posted on 03/18/2011




My daughter is a smoothie kinda girl in the morning. She does like to then snack on her father's eggs or oatmeal.

I think it's good to mix it up.

Sometimes, we'll have left over soup, salad or rice pasta for breakfast. Whatever, we like.

April - posted on 03/18/2011




We usually do oatmeal with a banana or yogurt with a banana and alternate everyday. Sometimes he'll have grapes or blueberries/strawberries with his meal to change things up a a bit. Once a week I will make pancakes...but it feels to me more like a dessert than a healthy breakfast! We do what Sara does..we make the whole batter and freeze them! I haven't done it yet with waffles but it sounds like a lovely idea! We have a waffle maker that is ridiculously hard to clean...never thought about making a bunch and freezing them, even though that is what we do with pancakes!

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I do make Jacob's breakfast most mornings but around here, that means usually scrambled eggs and toast or oatmeal with fruit (stovetop cooked oatmeal...not microwave). As for cereal, I give him cereal probably 3 or 4 days a week if he really doesn't want the warm food. But I always buy plain Cheerios or plain Corn Flakes. The only time he ever gets sugar on his cereal is if I get a craving for Frosted Mini Wheats. Moderation....

Then, about once a month we cook a big Sunday breakfast with pancakes, eggs over easy and bacon. I'm the only one who likes grits so sometimes I make those too. Like I said, moderation. I definitely wouldn't make bacon and pancakes or waffles every day. Although, I have been known to pop a frozen waffle in the toaster from time to time with a little syrup and some fruit on top.

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Cooked breakfasts can be healthy in the same way the uncooked breakfasts can. It takes more work, but if a person wants to and is willing that's their choice.
I think as long as the child is eating, likes what they are eating and it's healthy, who cares whether it is cooked or not cooked?
Cooking extravagant meals to show someone you love them sends the wrong message about food.

There are hundreds of thousands of ways we can show our children we love them without involving food.
Decorating the table in a special way, tucking a special note or picture into their back pack to find when they get to school etc.

Stifler's - posted on 03/17/2011




I just realised though... my 80 year old grandfather has always had devon or bacon and an egg, toast, AND a bowl of porridge and then an apple for breakfast every morning all his life and cooked that for all their kids and he cooks it for us when we stay at their place. He still goes out and works making fences even though he's "retired" from the sawmill.

Stifler's - posted on 03/17/2011




I think LOL at the notion that you love your kids more if you cook breakfast everyday. I cook breakfast maybe once a week.... like bacon and eggs or pancakes. The rest of the days we eat cereal like weet bix or sultana bran or toast. If I can be bothered porridge in the microwave. I don't think it has anything to do with how much you love your kid, every meal doesn't have to be a massive production.

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Oh, and the suggestion that kids with a cooked breakfast every day are more loved? Pft!!! Tell that to my hubby's family friend who weighs 300 pounds because his mother made a full on breakfast every morning and never taught her kids anything about nutrition, just "Mommy loves you so much - eat some more!" Ugh...

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I make grits about once or twice a week ('cause they're nummy... nom nom nom... Now I want grits...) and I make oatmeal about once or twice a week. Then, once a week we go out for breakfast (Saturday or Sunday). All the other days it's cereal (Honey Nut Cheerios) or re-heated waffles (I make HUGE batches of waffles as needed and then freeze them - my waffle iron makes them just the right size for re-heating in the toaster).

My 3 year-old and 2 year-old will also often have an apple and/or a banana as well (hee hee hee... my 2 year-old calls bananas "bana" and her 3 year-old sister's nickname is "Nana" and it's so funny when she says "I share my bana with Nana!" hee hee hee... Off track I know, but hilarious! lol).

My hubby and I will usually have waffles (eaten "cookie style") or a small bown of cereal. Plus hubby drinks his protein drink every morning (the Carnation instant breakfast one) and I gotta have my coffee :)

Lady Heather - posted on 03/16/2011




It really depends on what you're cooking or not cooking doesn't it? We usually have a wholegrain hot or cold cereal with fruit. Some days I feel like eggs, but we just have soft boiled eggs with wholegrain toast. There are rare days where I'll make pancakes or something, but it's not often. We don't even do a big weekend breakfast anymore. We go out for lunch instead.

A bacon and egg breakfast everyday is probably only a good idea if you're doing long hours labouring in the fields all day long. Those days are over.

Johnny - posted on 03/16/2011




When I work, her grandpa makes her breakfast. Most days it is either stone-ground oatmeal with apple sauce or pureed mangos or oat bites with yogurt. She usually has fruit, orange or banana on the way to his house in the car. They leave the house around 6:30 am, so I can not imagine what time I'd have to have her up to have cooked a full breakfast and have her finish it. I think not waking my kid at 5 am shows a bit more love, lol. Once in a while, Grandpa will cook some pancakes (his famous teddy bears) or make her a breakfast burrito.

On the days I am home, she usually eats whole grain toast, fruit, soft boiled egg, yogurt, and sometimes spelt fig waffles. But those are toaster waffles, so not reallly cooking.

I cook a big breakfast one weekend morning, we usually have friends or family over to join us. The other weekend morning is our eat out meal each week. We love to go for dim sum or a big brunch somewhere, again with friends or family.

I agree that it isn't healthy to eat that kind of heavy, greasy breakfast every day. Heck, I worry about doing it once or twice a week! If you think giving your child a future of heart disease shows love, then I guess. But I can see from this thread that most of us prefer health over hot foods.

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Cooked as in toaster waffles, toast, or bagels.... yep, but my kids aren't big cereal eaters (some mornings they do, but rarely).

Cooked as in omelets, french toast, pancakes, etc.... Nope. Maybe a couple times a month at the most.

Jocelyn - posted on 03/16/2011




I make a cooked breakfast maybe one or twice a week (which normally ends up being pancakes)

Most days the kids get a bowl of cereal (healthier stuff, like oatmeal crisp) some fruit, or a PB&J sandwich on brown.

How does 2 pounds of greasy bacon show that you love your child more? I put lots of love into pouring the cereal! lol

Rosie - posted on 03/16/2011




i dont' think one is better than the other. most of the time sugary cereals is what is going to be given in place of a cooked breakfast, sooo not much of a better alternative.
saying you love them more is crap. anybody who dares claim to love their child more because they cook every fucking meal, breastfeed, co-sleep, wipe their kids get the point drives me crazy. we all love our kids. who the fuck do these dipshits think they are with their hoier than thou attitudes? gah!!!!

ok, back to cooked vs. not. i like to cook. so i do cook my kids breakfast when i can, and when i feel like it. which is only ever on the weekend. my oldest doesn't like eggs, but he loves pancakes. eggs and whole wheat toast are my other 2 kids fav. some days i make them cinnamon rolls. meh, i do what i want, and don't worry about making myself look better in the eyes of other. i just worry about my kids and their wants and needs. :)

Brandi - posted on 03/16/2011




I have so much to do in the mornings between getting myself ready for work and the 2 boys ready for school, that I don't have time to cook breakfast. My kids eat cereal or toast or both.

I don't think I am any less of a parent because I don't get up and cook for them. We are too rushed for that. If I was a SAHM it would be different, I would have no problem getting up and doing that, I would drop my kids off at school in my PJ's and messed up hair... but unfortunately, I can't do that. I am rushing them to separate schools, while trying to get to work by 8am.

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I do cook breakfast for our little family most winter days, but it's not because I love my kid more than someone else. We eat a big meal for breakfast b/c my son is in school and the lunch there is not substantial.
I usually make warm cereal topped with fruit, or boil some eggs and put them on a biscuit or wrap them in lettuce. Sometimes I make a fruity pancake, but that is sugary so it's rare. He loves whole grain bagels toasted with cream cheese. Occasionally I will scramble eggs, and make a little bacon.

No huge breakfast, but something big enough that the snack and small lunch will get him through school. We don't do cold cereal much b/c he prefers something warm in the winter, and I tend to send cereal & milk for lunch often. We do cold breakfasts more often in the summer time.

Bonnie - posted on 03/16/2011




Not cooking breakfast everyday doesn't mean children don't come from a loved family. Having breakfast and nutrition in the morning period shows love.

Mel - posted on 03/16/2011




definately not a cooked meal, on occasions maybe, my kids only have toast, cereal, yogurt or fruit. My daughters daycare lady always makes cooked food for lunch though. They have never had sandwiches and shes been there 18 months

Jenn - posted on 03/16/2011




I think both can be healthy, it just depends what you choose. I do cook things for breakfast sometimes, but most days it's cold cereals (Rice Krispies, Shreddies, Mini Wheats, Raisin Bran, Cheerios, etc.) or bagels, english muffins, etc. I only buy whole grain breads/bagels. If I cook something, it will be oatmeal, whole wheat pancakes from scratch (haven't bought pancake mix in years now), eggs and toast.

Minnie - posted on 03/16/2011




Ew. Looking at your list I felt my arteries clogging. We mostly eat fresh fruit with eggs occasionally, or yogurt.

Joanna - posted on 03/16/2011




If I'm up early enough, I'll cook some eggs. And occasionally as a treat, I'll make heart shaped pancakes. Those are the only cooked breakfast items my daughter eats. I on the other hand, love me some hash browns and turkey bacon.

Otherwise breakfast is normally either a plain multigrain waffle and fruit, raisin toast and fruit, or yogurt and, you guessed it, fruit.

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A fry up everyday no thanks I'll leave it and so will my children.

Ethan loves his weetabix and porridge in a morning, followed by his fruit of choice and milk and I enjoy my bowl of cornflakes or shredded wheat. I grew up in a home where we got a fried breakfast on christmas day and when we were on holiday otherwise it was cereal or toast, my hubby grew up in one where he had a cooked breakfast every weekend - he has fond memories of it so he wants to continue that, so on Sunday he cooks us breakfast although it is far from a fry up - we have scrambled eggs (well he does at the moment they make me nauseous) with beans on toast (and I have tomatoes). Whatever we have for breakfast gets shared with Ethan as he loves sharing our food (the greedy little man eats his breakfast then helps us eat ours although after a couple of spoonfuls he has had enough lol) so we have to be mindful of what we are eating as we want him to have healthy eating habits.

Unfortunately there are still those people out there that 'love' their children more than the rest of us because they feed their children and we don't - I prefer to look that we all love our children and just choose to show it in different ways. I just wish these parents would wise up and see that providing our children with a healthy start is one of the most loving things we can do for them.

Krista - posted on 03/16/2011




I obviously hate my child, as I'm not even the one who fixes him his breakfast -- his father does it.

But he DOES make him toast. Does toast count as cooking? It IS changing the chemical composition of the food by applying heat, so maybe it does count.

Seriously, remember the discussion we had about the word "retarded"? It's assertions like THIS that really make me want to use that word.

In all seriousness, how in the hell does a greasy fry-up every morning show your child that you love him? That's just beyond absurd.

For breakfast every morning, Sam usually gets a slice of whole-grain toast with some natural peanut butter, and some fruit, and a cup of milk. On the weekends, we'll have the big greasy fry-up on one day, and then have steel-cut oats, grapefruit and yogurt on the other day.

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I do not buy into the statement that people who cook breakfast love their children more. That's crap.

I make breakfast about half the time...the other half the time is oatmeal and fruit. Lately I've been making a huge batch of whole wheat waffles once a week and freezing the leftovers. The frozen leftovers make for an awesome quick breakfast (throw in the oven for 15 minutes...nice and crispy) and they taste great without the syrup (husband and I are watching sugars)...though I usually let Eliza dip hers in syrup. I make eggs and toast 2-3 times a week. About once a month I'll do biscuits and gravy or muffins...always with whole wheat. About twice a month my husband will make sausage and grits. That's his weakness. Most of the time we eat a banana or strawberries with our breakfasts. I feel good about the breakfasts my family eats.

Louise - posted on 03/16/2011




I am British and I have to say that most mums here give there children things like porridge, weetabix or wholegrain cereals or fruit for breakfast. Very rarely do we have a cooked breakfast, normally when we are going out for the day and not likely to eat lunch until late we will cook. But even then I am health concious and grill the bacon and tomatoes and poach the eggs. You can have a cooked breakfast without the fat it just takes a little extra effort.

Mary - posted on 03/16/2011




Crap...I must live in a family that does not love it's children. Growing up, we only had a "cooked" breakfast on holidays, and perhaps the odd Sunday morning. That holds true in my household today as well. I love sausage and bacon, but if we had that every am, I would easily weigh a hundred pounds more!

Most mornings, our breakfast consists of the girl and I sharing a banana, toast, cereal or yogurt, and it always end with blackberries or raspberries.

User - posted on 03/16/2011




How do people have time to do a cooked breakfast every day. We have multi-grain cereal, toast and fruit. Sometimes we'll have pancakes or bacon at weekends.

Ez - posted on 03/16/2011




No cooked breakfasts here. It's toast, fruit and yoghurt for us (my child hates all cereal). If she requests bacon and eggs as she gets older, it will be a weekend treat only.

I'm not even going to dignify the assertion that those who cook breakfast each day love their kids more with a response. Ridiculous.

Bonnie - posted on 03/16/2011




I think it depends entirely on what you are serving. Most days I will just give my son a bowl of cornflakes or weet-bix but I occasionally cook scrambled tofu w/mushrooms (I avoid animal products as much as possible) or porridge. Although the days I cook are generally on the weekend as mornings are pretty hectic for us.
I have allowed my son to have coco pops or fruit loops once in a blue moon but he knows they are a treat & he eats very healthy food almost all the time anyway, so it doesn't bother me too much.
Out of the things Loureen listed we would have pancakes or eggs but it would only be maybe once every couple of months, if that -- I think the only time we've had pancakes for breakfast in the last 6months was when we spent the weekend with family a few weeks ago!

Becky - posted on 03/15/2011




Sometimes I'll cook eggs or oatmeal, but other than that, cooked breakfasts are a weekend thing. Cole is addicted to bagels and cream cheese (I know, not the healthiest), and they like yogurt, Cheerios, cottage cheese, and fruit for breakfast. I usually eat Raisin Bran. Oh, sometimes we have Eggos, but I don't really count those as a "cooked" breakfast, since it doesn't take much effort on my part!
Saying you love your child more if you cook them breakfast every morning is like saying you love them more if you breastfeed or cloth diaper. In other words, complete and utter BS.

Sharon - posted on 03/15/2011




Nah - a full on cooked breakfast is not a daily thing around here.

I do make premade breakfast burritos. Scrambled eggs, hashbrowns, bacon/sausage, cheese, wrapped in a flour tortilla.

The kids have a multitude of cereals to choose from. Sometimes they like Special K, Total, Life, Kix and sometimes they want frutiy pebbles, cocoa puffs and frosted flakes.

They have poptarts and toaster streudles. I've tried to get them on toast with jam but they aren't having that. They'd rather eat their multigrain or wheat breads plain. Yeah plain, no butter, not toasted.

There is yogurt and fruit always available. But they mostly prefer that as their afterschool snack.

I really love a "continental" breakfast. bread, butter, fruits omg I can still see the array ... yum.

What matters is that they get a breakfast into them. I don't like heavy sugar breakfasts but occassionally it does no harm.

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i cook my breakfast every day. Its healthy though. I love oatmeal and other oat like hot breakfasts.So does gabby. Steel cut oats, spelt, mighty hearty gluten free meal(this one is awesome) sometimes i cheat and go with rolled oats, not as tasty but its quicker than 45 minutes.

I flavor it myself. With several different combos apple cinnamon, ginger berry, honey nut, sometimes i just pick two random things and throw it in, see how it tastes..

On rush days we eat a pile of fruit.

That doesn't mean i love gabby more than someone who eats cereal or toast for breakfast..that just means i have the time because i dont have to go to work

Jenny - posted on 03/15/2011




Every day is overboard. We do cooked breakfast once per week. Every other day is fruit, toast or cereal.

Jodi - posted on 03/15/2011




Cooked breakfast is a treat around here. We do a bowl of cereal (although my 13 year old eats 2 bowls), and toast (multigrain). They then get fruit break at school early in the school day, when they have fruit or yoghurt.

I do think uncooked breakfast is healthier, unless you are buying sugary cereals full of sugar and sodium..... There is no way a cooked breakfast like you describe is healthy for anyone every day. Even beyond the salt and sugar content, there is also the FAT content and the total lack of fibre.

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