Dad stops charity disney trip because child recovers from cancer

Tracey - posted on 07/21/2012 ( 15 moms have responded )

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A father who denied his four-year-old cancer patient daughter a Make-A-Wish trip to Disney World has broken his silence and defended his decision. William May initially refused to sign off on the Make-A-Wish trip because he said she was in remission and that the trips should go to children who are sicker than his daughter.

But so many donations have poured in from around the world that the girl's mother and grandmother will be able to pay for the trip in August themselves and give the rest to charity.
William May today defended his decision to deny her the trip, as online donations topped $12,000.

'The biggest reason I had a problem with the trip is that my daughter is not terminally ill, she has a clean bill of health, she no longer has cancer,' he told WNWO TV. 'And I feel Make A Wish's money, and all the donations that have been made to them, should go towards terminally ill children, children that won't have the opportunity in life to experience things like Disney World.' McKenna May, from Haskins, Ohio, was granted $3,500 (£2,235) to fund a once-in-a-lifetime holiday to the Florida theme park, after spending half her short life undergoing agonising treatment for leukemia.

But online donations surpassed the charity's gift on Friday, while more money was being collected at banks in northwest Ohio. 'We didn't do this to get rich,' the girl's grandmother, Lori Helppie, said on Friday. 'We did it to fulfill her dream, and people's hearts just opened up.' She had the trip postponed twice while she was undergoing treatment for leukemia. Her last treatment was about a month ago.
But the brave little girl was left devastated after her father refused to sign a consent form allowing her to go.


Since she was diagnosed with cancer in April 2010, McKenna has undergone 15 spinal taps, multiple chemotherapy treatments, and a series of steroid injects. She has been hospitalised numerous times.

She underwent her final treatment last month after showing signs of beating the disease, but won't won't be officially cancer-free for another five years. To cheer her up during the painful treatments, McKenna's mother Whitney Hughes and grandmother Lori Helppie applied to the Make-A-Wish foundation. Moved by her plight, the charity granted McKenna her wish and agreed to pay for the family to travel to Disney World in Florida.

But before the trip could be booked, both parents had to sign a consent form. And William May refused.

Speaking to the Bowling Green Sentinel-Tribune newspaper, he argued the gift was an improper use of donations, and that handouts should be reserved for 'kids who only have six months to live'. Mrs Hughes is convinced her ex-husband is trying to punish her after he was granted just visitation rights to his daughter earlier this year.

And Mr May admitted he is angry with his ex-wife and her mother, who he claims are preventing him from seeing his daughter. He told the Sentinel-Tribune: 'I wasn't allowed to be involved. It ticked me off.'

Ms Hughes and Ms Hellpie have refused to give up hope they can still take McKenna to Disney World and are attempting the raise the money themselves, passing around collection jars in their local community.

Ms Helppie said: 'The important thing is to get her there.She loves Mickey Mouse. She loves Cinderella.' Ms Hughes added: 'She's really excited. It's all she's talked about for the last three months.'

Charity chiefs are, meanwhile, bewildered by the row - having ruled McKenna was clearly deserving of the trip. Susan McConnell, president and CEO of Make-A-Wish for Ohio, Kentucky and Indiana, told the Sentinel-Tribune: 'The doctors are the ones who determine if she is qualified. She's been through a lot. What I really feel bad about is she is stuck in the middle.'

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-...

Thoughts? I can see Dad's point of view but I would let the child go and if I felt bad about the financial side I would fund raise for Make a Wish.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/25/2012

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He's a spoiled grown man, who, out of spite for his ex wife and her family will deny his daughter the chance of a lifetime.

What a mean-spirited person. What an excellent example of how to act younger than your children.

Thank goodness for the people who disagreed with him and made sure she still had the trip of her life.

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**Jackie** - posted on 08/02/2012

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Have I been under a rock??? I haven't heard of this! I get where the dad is coming from and just like any parent, we sometimes do things differently.

The key thing I thought was heart breaking was that the girl actually knew there was a trip given to her. This wasn't done behind her back and let's face it...Disney is the sh*t! You can't do that to a kid.

It's like "Hey Kelly we're going to the happiest place on Earth!.....SYKE"

As far as him doing this to spite his ex-wife? I didn't even think of that until I peeked at Shawnn's response, I have to agree. I'm not familiar with divorces. I'm not divorced and neither are any of my aunts and uncles, cousins, or my parents or in laws (weird, but cool lol). So I'm not familiar with these sorts of battles that come up when making joint decisions. Good eye, Shawnn!

Kelina - posted on 07/24/2012

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I think it's possible that not being connected with his daughter during her illness he simply doesn't understand the severity of everything she had to experience. He doesn't know what the treatments did to her body, doesn't know the hell she's been through. Although how, considering the number of movies with people with cancer in them, and the way it's in the media is beyond me but also seeing it on tv and actually watching someone live through it are two entirely different things. However all that being said-I still think he's an idiot. You're kids been sick and in and out of hospitals for half her life, and you take away the one awesome thing she's been given to look forward to? Honestly, he's being an all out moron.

Karla - posted on 07/23/2012

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"And Mr May admitted he is angry with his ex-wife and her mother, who he claims are preventing him from seeing his daughter. He told the Sentinel-Tribune: 'I wasn't allowed to be involved. It ticked me off.'"

He just sounds spiteful - full out. I don't care how mad dad is at mom, he should not be taking his anger out on his little daughter who has been struggling to LIVE for almost her whole life. Any caring dad would want his daughter to go have some fun and live it up.

Rosie - posted on 07/23/2012

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i see the dads point too, but while it's a gallant effort, his daughter was, and still (from the sounds of it) fighting cancer. why wouldn't he want to give his daughter some good times after the hell she's been through? it seems like he's taking his pride over his daughters happiness, which is a shame.

Lacye - posted on 07/23/2012

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LOL Sorry if I sounded meaner than what I meant to. Preggo hormones are kicking me in the ass. :D

Lacye - posted on 07/22/2012

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Dove: Just because he doesn't have physical custody of the little girl doesn't mean he can't make decisions in her life. They never said that he didn't have joint custody.

I agree that he is being a total douche about the whole thing. It's obvious that the little girl deserved the trip. I can see where he is coming from but if it was me, I would have still allowed my daughter to go, whether I could or not.

Karla - posted on 07/22/2012

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Charity chiefs are, meanwhile, bewildered by the row - having ruled McKenna was clearly deserving of the trip. Susan McConnell, president and CEO of Make-A-Wish for Ohio, Kentucky and Indiana, told the Sentinel-Tribune: 'The doctors are the ones who determine if she is qualified. She's been through a lot. What I really feel bad about is she is stuck in the middle.'



That says it all for me.



She's been through a lot, doctors determined she qualifies, and one jack-ass dad made her part of his power struggle. I hope someone in the family is giving her unconditional love, because daddy-dearest sure is not.



ETA: The thought occurred to me that he might be in denial of the severity of her illness, but after reading his comments and the comments of Make-A-Wish CEO I could no longer consider that possibility.

Janice - posted on 07/22/2012

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What a complete asshole!
I'm glad this little girl is in remission and through other donations will be able to make the trip. She may not being dying but I think she deserves some fun after all that she has been through. I hope the family will give any funds that go beyond their Disney tip needs to Make-A-Wish.

Corinne - posted on 07/22/2012

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What a prick! His little girl goes through hell and comes back and he won't sign off on a trip the Docs say she qualifies for? Gah! I also don't understand why his signature was required, when he only has visitation rights. He sounds really childish and petty and I'm glad that all those people have donated and made that little girls dream come true.

Stifler's - posted on 07/22/2012

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He was ticked off, so he pulled the plug and is making up bs reasons. can we hear a round of applause.what a humanitarian.

Kristi - posted on 07/22/2012

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One word...PRICK

I'm super happy they have raised enough money for that brave, courageous, little girl to go on her dream vacation!

Blessings to all who have/will donated and prayers for McKenna to be declared cancer-free in 5 years!

MeMe---(Past And Present) - posted on 07/21/2012

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Well, I think it is utter poop! This little girl has been through hell and back, more than once. She was determined eligible and by golly, she should get to go! How dare he be so cruel!

I feel bad for the little princess. I hope her mother and grandmother, raise enough on their own and she gets to go.

This Dad is a total let down, what a party pooper!! I don't get what he is saying, at all. His little girl was granted the opportunity, therefore she IS accepted and it IS appropriate for her to use the charitable gift. What a douchebag.

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