Daily Battles

Ez - posted on 05/11/2011 ( 46 moms have responded )

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We all have them with our kids. Ours is getting dressed. My daughter is 2 and every single morning and night she fights me on it. She tries to run and hide. She says she needs to do a wee to stall. It's ridiculous, and drives me mental.

So what are the daily battles in your house?

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Mel - posted on 05/12/2011

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eating meals, after trying every different thing I give up now and take the meal off the table and she sees something else and says she hungry I tell her she odenst get anything else as she did not eat her meal. I think that is one of our main battles and she also goe sot the toilet a million times ot stall. I think another would be her taking things off her sister and not learning from it (I bum smack for this since nothing else works) and also probably the attitude, speaking rudely to me or others looking after her. Alot of daily battles with a 3 yr old lol

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Stifler's - posted on 05/14/2011

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Nap time, dinner time and 4 PM when he's bored and wants to carry on. And Logan HATES me brushing his teeth but won't do it himself.

Alexis - posted on 05/14/2011

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Battles with my 2 year old is taking a nap, going inside after playing outside and sharing toys when his cousin comes over.

Jenn - posted on 05/14/2011

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Getting dressed is a game around here - they all think it's hilarious to run away while they're naked and laugh. Most of the time I laugh too or chase them, but sometimes when I'm tired and have had enough it's irritating LOL! Supper time is not much fun either - my son is fine, but the twins like to keep getting down from their chair, or they just won't eat. I personally don't make a big issue of it, but Brian comes from a "clean plate" household and thinks they should be eating all of their supper so he makes me feel stressed. Even though I think a family should eat all together, because of the way things are I sometimes prefer it when he gets home late and it's just me and the kids eating together - so much more calm.

Charlie - posted on 05/13/2011

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Brushing teeth is a struggle and shopping at the supermarket ...My eldest HATES shopping , typical boy LOL.

Jane - posted on 05/13/2011

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Getting my son out of bed, dressed and to school. He sees no point in school and is apparently a natural night person. Also getting him to take his meds. He is Bipolar, ADHD and ODD and has to take meds in order not to hallucinate. However, he hates taking them.

Virginia - posted on 05/13/2011

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getting my 4 year old to pick up her things and not leave little toys (aka 'bedroom toys') in the lounge room where my nearly mobile 5 month old likes to put them in his mouth.

Ez - posted on 05/13/2011

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My dogs are traitors, and now my toddler is full of herself.



BAHAHAHA!!! They're so going to gang up on you Mary.

Mary - posted on 05/13/2011

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Well, tonight we put the boys on separate leashes - and let her "walk" one of them. Within minutes, she was scolding my husband "No, Daddy, you can't help me. I do it MYself. Sammy is my doggie!" (he was holding the leash as well) Damnit if that dog didn't just trot along beside her, never once straying from her side. We switched dogs about half way through, and the other dog did the same - just walked beside her, without even stopping to sniff the odd bush or trees. My dogs are traitors, and now my toddler is full of herself. Too bad she can't pick up after them too...

Karli - posted on 05/13/2011

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Hello, Mine is getting dressed in the morning, they could be in their p.j's all day if I let them. So what I did was to get 2 complete outfits together, lay them out on their bed and ask them to choose which one they want to wear and it worked like a charm. Give it a try and let me know if it works. I'm curious to see if it will work on other kids.

Tara - posted on 05/13/2011

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Hmmm... let's see....
With my 6 yr old the daily struggle is getting her to brush her teeth properly without me having to stand in the bathroom.
With the 8 yr old it's trying to get her to tidy her room properly. She is a stuffalufugus. She takes more time finding nooks and crannies in her room where she then stuffs random things like wrappers, kleenex, dirty socks, craft stuff, pens etc. etc. rather than just take the time to put it away. Uggg. this is currently driving me up the wall.
I don't have any daily battles with the 11 yr old; she has always been the best of the bunch, lol and continues to be an exemplary child. :) I do struggle with her time to time with being nice to her younger sisters though.
My 15 yr old? What isn't a daily struggle? lol
Getting him out of bed, getting him to eat a proper diet, getting him to do his chores and clean the pig sty he calls a room, getting him to bring dirty dishes in from his room and his computer room/music room.
Riley is only 18 months but lately my biggest struggle is keeping him in the house happily or getting him back in the house after being outside. He LOVES being outside. And getting him to stay down for a nap for longer than an hour. He only does one nap a day and it seems to be getting shorter and shorter.

Tah - posted on 05/13/2011

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My 2 oldest are gonna drive me to drink..........more..lol, they are 14 and 9....they fight over everything..I'm at work with a surgery patient spitting their medicine at me and my phone goes off, it's my son saying his sister is..and I quote..."talking out the side of her neck"......meaning being a little smart mouth....it's everything.....why is she using my bathroom...because it's downstairs, does she have to run up the stairs to use hers when she's downstairs or runs in from the park to go...I ask who did something, it's automatically the other person, he picks, she picks...and I'm looking at condos...1 bedroom if that tells you anything...lol



Yes Mary....rylan can do everything..including walk the dog....poor majesty...lol

Tah - posted on 05/13/2011

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Eating with rylan...he's the picky of the picky..we can't have spaghetti every night..so hey...I don't force him, and he'll usually go back and eat some, or if he wants to ride his bike, or a snack I have to barter with bites of food...

Corinne - posted on 05/13/2011

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Argh! With my daughter (4yrs) everything is a battle at the moment, if I say 'no' or 'we'll do this now and that later' all I get is attitude. She pouts and flounces or gets really angry and starts shouting. I'm guessing she's picked this up from one of her friends at school as it's just started this last three weeks. Brick wall + head = repeat :)

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I just breathed a big sigh of relief after reading this, finding that other moms have the same problems as I do.



Teresa- All the boy things, yes, yes, yes, yes. Teeth brushing, toenails, peeing alone, haircut, all the same. He would act like he was being dismembered when he would see his hair fall when getting it cut and get so upset that he'd make himself puke. Thankfully, the last time I took him to have it professionally done, after a few years of crooked mom cuts, he sat there still as can be and didn't say a word...it kind of scared me lol. Then when she was finished he got up and took my hand and said "Let's go get my m&m's now!", the bribe tool. : )



Sarah- Ah the car seat thing and the 'I can do it myself', ahhhh!!! The public potty thing is a nightmare, though. It's the auto-flush that initially freaked her out I think and now she has an all-out phobia. Makes it hard to shop. I was so desperate one time that I put her brother's pull-up on her and told her to pee in it so we could move on (I took it off immediately of course!).



Mary- Walking the dogs PLUS 'I can do it myself', a double whammy! My dog is a small fraction of your dog's size and HE pulls the crap out of them, I could only imagine what your dogs do! Mine is half chihuahua and half miniature pinscher, 22 lbs. He's a fat ass. : p

Johnny - posted on 05/13/2011

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Potty time. She always says she doesn't need to go. She doesn't want to stop playing. So irritating!

Kate CP - posted on 05/13/2011

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Pooping. My 5 year old DOES NOT want to poop EVER. It's really exhausting to have to explain to her OVER AND OVER that if she doesn't poop she'll get really sick and the doctors will have to possibly cut the poop out of her butt.

*sigh* I just can't wait until this phase is over.

Sneaky - posted on 05/13/2011

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Erin when it comes to the princess dress thing I have to admit (shh, don't tell!) I cheat :o) If we are having a difficult day or I know there will be an early start in the morning, they get their bath and then get put in their clothes for the next day - they wear their princess dresses to bed to sleep in sometimes!

as for the rest of the daily battles - too many to list!

Ez - posted on 05/13/2011

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HAHA! Milla's latest 'I do it myself' moment involves climbing into the car, and her car seat (obviously I clip her in lol). But the climbing in can turn into such an ordeal, especially if we're saying goodbye to someone.

Mary - posted on 05/13/2011

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Oh, Sara - the "No, Mommy - I do it myself!" is the worst! ANd you're right; everything takes at least three times as long.

The other night, she was adamant that SHE wanted to walk the dogs. We usually go for a walk around the neighborhood as a family after dinner. She walks/runs/whatever with my husband, and I have the dogs on their double leash. Sometimes, she likes to "help" me by holding onto the leash with me, which, while a little awkward, is fine, since I still have control of them. This time, she started to fuss at me to let go, "No, mommy - you can't help me. I walk them MYSELF". Ummm, no, their combined weight is more that 4x yours, and while they are pretty good, they are not saints. I relented for a little bit, thinking the novelty would wear off. Two dogs who were off leash came running up, and those damned fools did not pull her - they sat down, side by side in front of her, to block her from the other dogs. While I appreciate their remarkable behavior, it just made prying the the leash form her little hand even harder, and the temper tantrum that ensued....epic. Now, we have a fight every time we leave the house with them "I do it mommy, they're MY doggies!"....ugh!

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That's cute Krista. Whenever my son wants to get into trouble he always says 'don't look what I'm doing Mommy.' Um... how about NO? lol

Krista - posted on 05/12/2011

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Mine is trying to feed my 7 week old while my 2.5 year old gets into trouble since he knows Mommy's busy. Today, he emptied out a full box of 400 Q-Tips all over his sister's room. A few weeks ago it was black nail polish all over the carpet in my room. Other times it's been flour, or shortening, or whatever else he can find in the pantry, all over the floor. The funny thing is that he really doesn't try to hide what he's done. He'll actually come find me and tell me that he was bad, and then lead me to the mess!

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Eliza is so very slowwwww. And she must do everything herself. It's great that she wants to dress herself and pour her own juice...except it takes her so long to do it...and we both end up frustrated when we are trying to get somewhere on time. She's frustrated that I won't let her do it herself...I'm frustrated because we'll be late.

Oh, and she has a fear of public restrooms. Those dern toilets are so loud when they flush. "Mama, I got to go tee tee." So I take her and as soon as she sees the public stalls, "No! It scares me!" So I coax her onto the toilet and she sits there in fear and can't pee. So we go about our shopping and as soon as we are completely across the store, "Mama! I got to go tee tee!" And the process starts over until she finally tee tees on the toilet (in tears) or has an accident. All the while I'm finagling a shopping cart and infant...an infant who hates being in the shopping cart. I tell myself, "I love my girls, I'm blessed to have them, and all too soon they'll be grown, so I should TRY to ENJOY this stage."

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Trying to get my son to go pee w/out making me stay in the bathroom

Getting my son to let me cut his toenails....

Getting my son to stop jumping on my bed, let me brush his teeth, put his jammies on, basically anything....

Trying to convince my son that he needs a haircut and that it's ok (though I know no one that is willing to attempt to cut his hair anymore)

Getting any of my kids to listen to a word I say

Getting any of my kids to pick up after themselves w/out me telling them a million times (refer to previous battle)

Getting my kids to quit arguing over petty crap

Don't you wish you lived in MY house.... lol

Bondlets - posted on 05/12/2011

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hmmm...We haven't had the battles of bedtime, clothes, diaper changes, food, etc. (I'm too much of a drill sergeant for those to happen, lol) but I have to agree with Bonnie - playing at mealtimes! I want them to enjoy being with each other but inevitably it gets out of hand. I started reading out loud to them at lunchtime so that helped but there are still times I want to put them in their own boxes and feed them. :)

Bonnie - posted on 05/12/2011

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A daily battle in this household for the most part, is getting the kids to eat a meal without fooling around or playing at the table. I seriously sound like a broken record when I have to keep telling them to just eat.

Krista - posted on 05/12/2011

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Diaper changes. For some odd reason, he's vehemently against diaper changes lately. As soon as I lie him down on the change table, he stiffens up and arches his back while simultaneously rolling over -- i.e. the crocodile death roll (it's a pretty impressive bit of gymnastics, really), while yelling, "Noooooooooooo!!!!!" like the world's worst B-movie actor.

And considering how many times a day I have to change his diaper...yeah, it's quite the workout.

Jenni - posted on 05/12/2011

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I wish we could mark a post as 'cute' or 'adorable'.
That is adorable Nikki! Great idea too to have a 'walk around the house toothbrush'. My son also loves brushing his teeth... I think I'll have to give that on a try. ;)

Nikki - posted on 05/12/2011

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Issy loves brushing her teeth too, she would do it all day long if I let her! She has three tooth brushes, her real one, the one she carries around half the day brushing her teeth and the one in the bath! I swear she will have no enamel left on her teeth soon.
*I sterilise her "walk around the house toothbrush" daily.

Jenni - posted on 05/12/2011

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It use to be getting dressed with my son but the difference between age two-three has made a big improvement.



Mine is.... DON'T TOUCH THAT!!!!! he is obsessed with feeling everything. He sees the world with his hands.



Food of course but I try to avoid those battles as much as possible. I do have one rule.... you don't have to eat *everything* I give you but you cannot have something else until you've eaten most of what's on your plate. So I get: "I can't want that, mommy" and then a run for the pantry to grab something he does want. So it's always: "no. you have to eat what mommy gives you first, before you can have something else." Usually, results in a whinny tantrum. (luckily his are short-lived).



The worst is "Don't bug your sisters!!!!!" He is constantly imposing body parts on his sisters. Or laying infront of my 11 month so she can't get past him. Which results in her screeching and me feeling like my head is going to explode!



Ack! I forgot bedtime. Ok that might be the worst. Actually, bedtime use to be easy and naps were always where we had a power struggle. This month it switced. He's been taking a nap without getting out of bed once. At night, he fights me tooth and nail. Gets up abou 10-20 times. I don't understand it! I don't feed into it by giving into his requests. "I want to fly to bed", "I want milk", "I want race cars in bed". I just send him back to bed, immediately (except if he has to use the bathroom).



Cleaning up though is a breeze. My kids are pretty awesome at picking up after themselves. I usually only have to ask them once to tidy up their room. They may give a little grumble if they're engaged in another activity. But they usually comply and finish the entire chore without me having to check up on them or give added encouragement.

Mel - posted on 05/12/2011

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My daughter loves brushing her teeth. I cant get her not not brush her teeth. She wants to do it all day

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Oh yes, the dreaded tooth brushing! My 3 year old is so bad about it! I have to hold his head and pry his mouth open and force the tooth brush in. And yep, we have the spin brushes too and it wore off within a week lol. They should have a disclaimer on spin brushes for kids "Disclaimer: Only works for one week, tops. Then revert to prying your kid's mouth open by hand." ; )

Mary - posted on 05/12/2011

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Ah, Erin...these girls of ours!

"Death roll with a crocodile"....this made me spit out my coffee laughing. I liken brushing her teeth to wrestling with an alligator! There is nothing I dread more than brushing her teeth. I got about a week's reprieve with the spin brush, until she decided "NO, Mommy I don't like that now!"

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The only battle that drives me batty is the night time battle. They go to bed fine but anywhere from 11pm onwards i end up with one of them in bed with me. When i get up to put them back to bed they cry so loud they end up waking the others up.

Ez - posted on 05/12/2011

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Oh I often wonder what my neighbours must think when Milla is yelling 'LEAVE ME ALONE MUMMA' while getting dressed.

Nikki - posted on 05/12/2011

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Hubby and I are both stubborn too, but Issy is worse. I have to hold her down and wrestle too! I would hate to change her in public people would be calling child protection on me with all the screaming and squealing she does!

Ez - posted on 05/12/2011

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Oh yeah I thought Milla was bad when she was in nappies. Glad that's over, but I think the getting dressed is worse actually. Although, she was really good after her bath tonight. Maybe her ears were burning...

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Erin- I used to say that exact same thing about my daughter when changing her diaper....it was like being in a death roll with a croc!!! She thought it was the funniest thing in the world but for me, old ass that I am, it was exhausting lol. On the upside, it was great cardio! ; )

The biggest problem with my kids now is keeping clothes on them. It's no problem to get them dressed but by the time I blink they've stripped again. When we go out, the very second they walk in the door at home they take their clothes off. They keep their undies on but everything else is off. It's a constant battle.

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getting one tp keep clothes on, getting the teen out of bed getting the little ones to stay there, the constant need for them to cut things into tiny peices, the baby screaming at dogs, homework bed times, dinner for the littlest.....the kids love of getting wet....puddles, taps in the bathroom the washing up, outside....and i could go on and on

Ez - posted on 05/12/2011

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Nikki, you clearly haven't met Milla lol. I have always been stubborn, but my Mum and Nana both agree Milla is worse. It is getting harder and harder to persuade her to do anything. Which is why I now usually have to just pin her to get her dressed. It's like being in a death roll with a crocodile.

Joanna - posted on 05/12/2011

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Paige is pretty good now. Our only struggle is getting her to eat anything other than crackers and apples and cashews. We had probably a year where we battled every night for bedtime. But that's it. I'm lucky, she's a very laid back, compliant kid.

Desiree - posted on 05/12/2011

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Getting up, Getting dressed, eating breakfast, getting out the house, leaving them at school involes 300 kisses before i leave. eating luch getting homework done, taking a bath (once in can sit there for 3 hours(actually has)) eating supper, going to bed. AND HE IS 10! anyone want to swop.

Nikki - posted on 05/12/2011

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Getting undresses, changing nappies, getting dressed and coming inside when she has been outside. I swear I have never met a more stubborn child!

Jodi - posted on 05/12/2011

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With Jayden, it is homework. Not so much a battle, more a daily frustration. He is just at that age where he is so vague he forgets deadlines, he forgets to write it in his diary, he forgets where his head is...... :P It's all those hormones!

With Taylah, it is probably the way she needles at her brother. Honestly, she is the epitomy of annoying little sisters. And it drives me up the wall. She even blames him for things when he ISN'T EVEN HOME!!!! I can't figure out WHY she does it, but she is an extremely competitive child, and has a very dominant personality. I tell you though, at school, butter wouldn't melt in her mouth :/

Angela - posted on 05/11/2011

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my daily battle is having to get my little girls 'dress up' dress off so i can put her pyjama's on!! Every morning without fail, she asks to put on a 'beautiful dress' (which is any dresses from her dress up box) and every night its a struggle to get it off her without a fight!!!!!

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