Did you ever wonder about loving your babies/kids?

Katherine - posted on 06/15/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )




Inspired by cafemom, there was a mom who admitted to not liking her daughter. Her daughter ended up having a hormone deficiency. Have you ever felt that way about YOUR kids?

I can honestly say that I don't like my kids BEHAVIOR, but I would never say I don't like them. I find it very hard to believe, but I'm sure she's not the only person in the world that feels this way.


Merry - posted on 06/17/2011




I didn't like my daughter from when she was about a week old til about a month old because first off my ppd wasn't being treated and her acid reflux wasn't under control, and I was often alone with her and my son at bedtime which is both of their crabby times. Also I hated how her birth was making Eric so sad clingy whiny and needy. I felt bad that Eric was being forced to grow up and how he couldn't have me when he needed me. And I blamed myself and her too.
Much better now, I like her and love her. Even in the worst of it I loved her and it broke my heart to hear her scream, sometimes I was so mad when she screamed but the anger came from not being able to help her.


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Rosie - posted on 06/17/2011




pretty much like cathy, i don't always like my eldest child. he has ADHD, some OCD tendancies, and i feel he has high functioning autism. he is a handful, and sometimes i find myself not liking him-at all. however i do love him to pieces, and always will.

Tania - posted on 06/17/2011




My teenager drives me batty somedays but its the behaviour I can't stand not him. I know its the age and in 5 years he'll be a joy again.

Andrea - posted on 06/17/2011




I worried about it before I had them. I didn't like other people's children and I wondered if I should have kids if I don't like them. I was told that's normal because I don't have any attachment to other kids. But that didn't happen to me. I loved them when they were inside me and when they were born they looked ugly but I still loved them. Being ugly made them cute to me. (2 months premature, they looked like old men shriveled up with no baby fat) However I did a mental exercise after the deadly tsunami in Asia a few years ago. It was all over the news where a mother had 2 kids one 2 year old and the other 5 and she had to decide which one to let go to make sure at least one would survive with her. She decided to let the 5 year old go because he was older and had a tiny bit more chance to survive. She did find the 5 year old later after the tsunami but I still cry when I hear that story. Can you imagine putting yourself in those shoes? How would you decide which one to let go? I have a different answer at different times. It is the hardest decision you would ever have to make. I feel sorry for that mom and I hope I never have to be in her shoes. I love both the same.

Janice - posted on 06/17/2011




My daughter is a very strong willed toddler and there are times that she drives me crazy but I love her more than anything in the world! i don't understand how someone could hate their child.. Although I am pregnant with #2 (unplanned, 1st was planned)and I do worry that I wont be able to love this one as much as I love my baby girl. I have read that this is normal though and that will change once this one is born.

When my sister and I were young and being brats my mom would say/yell "I always love you but I really do not like you right now!" I think it is normal to dislike your child for an hour based on their behavior but otherwise you always love your child.

Kimber - posted on 06/17/2011




No,No,No i think that is very,very sad!!!! Iam like you and say that most of the time i do not like my kids behavior,but i always,always Love them with all of my heartand nothing that they can do,or say will ever change that ever! They are my children!!!!!!!!! But yea iam sure that there are mothers out there that feel like they don't like there kids for some reason,or another,but what ever that reason is how can you not love your kids??????? Sorry i don't understand that one!!!

Jane - posted on 06/15/2011




I love both of my kids, but sometimes I don't like my son. It isn't just his behavior I don't like. It's that he will deliberately choose to do something that he knows will bother me.

Teresa - posted on 06/15/2011




I like my kids. There have been times when their behavior has been so repulsive to me that I wondered if I liked them anymore (I have some grown children...my little ones never make me feel that way,,lol)

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I love my kids deeply..id do anything for them.Even when there driven me up the wall, i accept it as being all part and parcel of being a parent with young children.I could never even think of not liking anything about them.There not perfect but sure neither am i

.:-)I find there imperfections beautiful.They will grow up and they will learn.They will make mommy&daddy proud.Which we are now of them.

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My kids drive me insane on a constant basis and I'm always begging for a break, but when I get that break.... all I want is my kids back. Insanity IS my life and I love every second of it.... even when I can't stand it.

So yeah, their behavior drives me up the wall, but I absolutely adore/love/like my kids.

September - posted on 06/15/2011




There is no way I could ever not like my son. Sure the tantrums can be a bit annoying, but hey it comes with the territory. I love him with all that I am!

Kate CP - posted on 06/15/2011




I've caught myself thinking "God, she's such a shit..." whenever my daughter acts up but I ADORE my children even when they act like brats. Well, the 4 month old doesn't really act like a brat 'cause he doesn't know how to yet. ;)

But, no, I could never say I don't like my daughter. Even when I'm angry at her and wanting to beat my head against a wall I still love her. I know I still love her because only some one I love that much could make me THAT insane. ;)

Becky - posted on 06/15/2011




There are days I don't like their behavior, days I don't like breastfeeding, and days I dread bedtime because it takes so frikken long to get my oldest to sleep. But I never feel like I don't like or love my kids! They are my life!

Sarah - posted on 06/15/2011




I just can't imagine not liking/loving my son...its seems impossible to me! He tries my patience every single day, but his behavior has nothing to do with my love for him.

I think that's sad about that mom who admitted to not liking her daughter. :(

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 06/15/2011




When I was prego with my first I thought how would I love him. I was not found of kids, as I have said before they talked to much, had a a natural body chemical of something like crack that makes em be all over the darn place, snotty nose, sticky at times...ect

But when He was born I felt a fiercenes and love I didn't know possible (and now at 8 he returns it, he's very protective and sweet to me)

With my second I worried how I would love him just as much as his brother. My son was an only child for 7 years. But I soon found out that it came easy for me.

I feel for women going thru that :-/

Amber - posted on 06/15/2011




I've never doubted my feelings for my son. I sometimes need a break because he wears me down, but I love him regardless of that.

If he grows up to be an asshole, I'll still love him. Because quite frankly, it's my job to make sure he doesn't grow up to be an asshole. If I fail, then I've kind of asked for it.
I know sometimes you can do everything right and they still turn out snotty jerks, but I think that's probably rare.

Krista - posted on 06/15/2011




There are probably some parents who don't like their ADULT children, if they grew up to be jerks or something. But I can't imagine not liking your kid while he or she is still a child. And even if you didn't like your adult kid, I would hope that you would still love him and be there for him.

Lacye - posted on 06/15/2011




My daughter drives me up the flipping wall but I could never dislike her. I love my daughter very much. It would take a hell of a lot to make me not like her and even at 2 years old, I don't think she is the type of person that would make me dislike her.

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