Discipline Techniques

Christa - posted on 05/21/2010 ( 56 moms have responded )

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How would you describe your overall disciplining method? Did you have one idea when you were pregnant/had a newborn and did it change as your kids grew? There are so many differing theories out there as to the correct way to discipline a child I wanted to see what you all thought. I know myself I thought I had all the answers when my first was very young and now that she's two I'm learning I didn't have a clue and I'm sure as she gets older I will learn again that I still don't know anything. :-)

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Nikki - posted on 05/25/2010

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I haven't read all of the post but I don't really have one method as such, however I am a completely anti smacking and punishing mum, after studying behaviour and teaching children for ten years I have learned there are more productive ways to discipline children than hitting them. It doesn't matter how much she changes as she gets older, or how extreme her behaviours are, you know better, you do better.

Laura - posted on 05/25/2010

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I also wanted to say that I think one of the many reasons the terrible two's and torteous threes are so hard is because you don't really see any progress. You have no idea if what you are doing is doing any good and it sure doesn't seem like it because they're still hitting, biting, tearing the room apart. You can spend a day disciplining with no success and on top of it all because that's how you spent your day nothing else was accomplished, double whamy. The impressive days are when you've managed to get a shower in and get dinner done but then your husband has no idea why you're so impressed with yourself but being a good husband says nothing about it. One thing that has helped and continues to help is to keep the big picture in mind. What are your expectations, what kind of person do you want your child to be....compassionate,caring,respectful,friendly,etc. and then the others that fit their personality...confident,creative,leader,cheery etc....It helps to decide how and when to discipline and which battles to choose. And with keeping that in mind and being consistant with your discipline whatever it is you'll get glimpses of your kids future greatness(hehe). You know, like when he/she is kind to a new kid at the park but then they throw a fit when leaving the park (I did say glimpses). Cherish the glimpses, they are signs of progress and learning. Plus in a few short years you will receive ten folds in compliments to the couple years of struggle by your kids teachers and parents of their friends and others on how wonderful your children are despite the fact they're giving you grief at home. A lot of it is to do with their personality but a lot of it is also to do with the environment of love and expectation you foster at home and you will and should pat yourself and hubby on the back for that. You will realize your hard work before you know it. Until then be consistant and playful....they will take your breath away as they grow up.

Jess - posted on 05/23/2010

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I have known from a very young age that I was fully against smacking. I remember being smacked and telling myself I would never do that to my own children. Im standing by that ! There is no smacking or yelling in my house. A firm Stop and some quick redirection... when that fails a time out is in order ! My 10 month old knows when she is in the bad books ! Like tonight she got 1 minute in her cot for sticking her fingers down the drain whole in our bathroom, argh stupid council regulations on drains in bathroom floors !!!!

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I don't have a lot of rules, but the rules I do have I expect them to be followed!



For example: I'm pretty laid back about allowing Eliza (age 2) to be independent. I let her follow behind me in the grocery store instead of insisting she sits in the buggy. She's been feeding herself since age one, but I make her "help" me clean her mess. And if she doesn't want what we fix, fine. I don't make her eat it. But then she can't have anything else. She won't let herself starve. I don't have a strict bedtime. She goes to bed when she's tired which happens to be about the same time every night, sometime between 7 and 8.



Here are the things I am particular about. If an adult tells her to do something (obviously within what a 2 year old can do) I expect her to obey. I expect her to take care of her toys (no throwing) and put away the toy before she takes out another. That's pretty much it at this point.



When she doesn't listen, she'll get a warning and then a spanking. We rarely have to spank, because she knows we are serious with our warnings. For temper tantrums, I'll put her in her room until she calms down (if we are at home). She's usually calm within a minute.



Overall, I've been blessed with a sweet tempered, tidy child. So disciplining hasn't been too hard yet.

Isobel - posted on 05/22/2010

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Another good one is this...15 minutes before the feed, take the eldest to the toys and activities and let them choose what they can do alone with you as soon as the baby is asleep...They will (hopefully) be quiet to let the baby nurse and get to sleep, Eve was always silent, knowing that the sooner Q got to bed, the sooner we could play together...then 15 minutes on their activity and you are FREE :D

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Not really a set model of discipline, but my main focus is building character rather than producing a rule keeper for convenience/appearances sake. I've learnt that being consistent isn't always best though. Sometimes it's better to pick battles rather than be rigid with consistency. I also found using a variety of different discipline methods for different types of behavior works better than sticking to one or two things.



Sometimes ignoring behavior works better than making a big deal out of it. Sometimes talking, praying and getting my child to suggest better ways to behave works better than punishment. Sometimes strictness and punishment of some form depending on the type offence is necessary. Every situation is different and I've found being flexible and taking a step back to think about the best remedy for a particular situation works best for us.

Shelley - posted on 05/27/2010

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I think that dicipline is really important when parenting. Each child is different i think if you are on top of your child's needs eg food, sleep, entertainment this includes teaching them how to entertain themselves you are less likely to need to dicipline. When you doneed to dicipline get involved before it goes too far. I am a big fan of first time obedience(i expect and really encourage this). I use sign language( this is great when we are out or i'm talking as i can sign and they know what i expect and i don't even have to talk to them. i use time out (stand at the wall with hands on your head aprox 30 sec to 1 minute). I smack lightly on the hand for touching thing when their young and on their bottom as they get older.
There is a big difference between smacking whilst calm and child abuse.

Lady - posted on 05/26/2010

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Christa I think you have to rethink the place you fedding the little one. I see you've already had a lot of advice but I thought I might as well add my two pence worth in the hope it might help. My fist son was two when my first daughter was born and feeding time was always the hardest. I found it easiest to just feed the baby in the lounge the place where he played the most. All his toys were there and there were a couple of videos (shows how long ago it was before dvds) I knew would always keep him amused. I know if I had taken him in another room he would have driven me crazy too. Sometimes he would cuddle upon the couch with us and I would read him a book and I would always make sure I has a drink and something to eat before I started feeding the baby.

As for disaplining when they are little a firm no usually worked if not then taking them away from what ever then a firm no. as they got older time outs and a firm talking to. And now they are older still we remove priveleges like x box and computer time and give extra chores.

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Consistency is my method! No disciplinary method will be effective without consistency! Just for the record, corporal punishment isn't discipline!

Laura - posted on 05/25/2010

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Ah Christa you are bringing me back too. My oldest two were almost 18 months apart and my daughter gave up her second nap right before my son was born. I didn't realize at the time that little gave up their second nap so early so that was a battle. I think Sarah H. is onto something. Your oldest is no longer the baby but she doesn't know her place. I tried to give my daughter little responsibilities also to make her feel like mommies helper. I would ask her to hand me things when we were feeding and to find some books she wanted to read when we were done, please go get baby a clean diaper, help me burp him. Lots of praise for being a big girl. When number 3 came along she was four, my son was 3 and it was a whole nother world. But, she liked to play momma to her baby and would "nurse" her baby doll while I was nursing. So, maybe if she had her own baby but she might also let you know how she really feels with that baby doll like my older sister did by putting it head first in the toilet. For general everday discipline I try to let natural consequences teach the lesson. Like the stupid things they fight about. If it gets to the intolerant level, I don't listen to any excuses, reasons because they are really fighting just to fight and have lost the original problem and are being ridiculous and mean so they get timeouts away from each other and when they're done the apologize and have to kiss each other five times. That's torture for an eight year old boy. But the point is that they have to find a way to argue or disagree but not with yelling and general ridiculous behaviour, natural consequence is to step away, take a break, apologize for being mean and try again. Anyhow, Love and Logic is the source that I losely use. It's very basic and can be used on all age groups. Good luck and know that it doesn't last forever. All of sudden things will be different and you won't know what changed or how and you'll be on to a new set of problems. Yeah!

LaCi - posted on 05/25/2010

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I was totally anti-spanking when I was pregnant lol.

He's about two now, he mostly gets consistent "No" and time out. If he does something dangerous and he won't stop he gets a spanking, which is a swat on the diapered bum. He doesn't have access to much that he could find a way to behave dangerously with so spankings are super rare. He started time outs at 1 (he started walking at 8 months, so by the time he was 1 he was getting super naughty and somewhat defiant with all his independence) I've always heard a minute per year, so he'd go in for a minute and when he came out I'd talk to him and he'd almost always stop what he had been doing. They might not be able to communicate well but they DO understand you, maybe not everything, but they understand enough.

Ez - posted on 05/24/2010

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Katherine he's too young for lengthy explanations as to why his behaviour is inappropriate. Just keep it really short ('Don't hit/bite! Not nice!') and remain consistent in the way you respond when he does it.

My daughter started hitting at around the same age, which coincided with her getting all four molars. I would keep my correction of her very brief (similar to the example I used above) and then put her down and ignore her for a minute or so. I guess this was like a mini-baby-time-out lol, The hitting got a lot less frequent, but I have been able to identify her teething pain as a trigger. Maybe you can look at when your son most often bites or hits? Is it when he's tired? Upset about something? Or just plain pissed off?

Katherine - posted on 05/24/2010

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With my son, he just turned one on may 11. I'm not quite sure what would be an appropaite disciplne technique. He has started to bite and hit. My husband and I have used time out and talking to him. Im not sure if he is still to young or what?

Christa - posted on 05/23/2010

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NOTE: I really don't want this to get into a spanking debate. :-)

Sara, you sound very similiar to how I do things. :-)

Sara - posted on 05/23/2010

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I don't have a method either. I'm learning as I go. I have some basis for what I do, since to I used to teach parenting classes in my social service days. I think I just try to remember not to expect too much from my daughter developmentally. When she has a meltdown in the store after we've been there for 45 minutes, well, I can't punish her for that, because she's only 19 months old. I do believe time outs and I do believe in setting boundaries for my child. I think discipline is a tool that not only helps with behavior, but it helps your child to feel safe and when they know what to expect, it gives them a sense of security. So, I just try to operate in a way where I don't reinforce bad behavior, but I chose my battles. You can't follow a small child around all day and tell them what they're doing wrong! I don't believe in spanking though...not because I have some philosophical/moral objection to it, but because for me I never want to hit my child out of anger, so I'm not even going to go there.

Rosie - posted on 05/22/2010

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i guess i don't know how to describe it. i spank occasionally, i use mostly time outs and groundings. i also take things away from my older 2. i hear you about not knowing what the hell to do anymore. especially when things seem to not work. my 3 year old is pretty good, he has issues with the pets and sharing. he likes to hit and bite them and pull their fur. i've given him so many timeouts and showed him the proper way to be with the animals and he still doesn't seem to get it. i've ended up yelling way more than i ever thought i would cause nothing seems to work and i get sooo frustrated. my mother made it look so easy :)

Suzette - posted on 05/22/2010

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Erin, she's due next month. The OB says on the 19th, the tech said she's due the 21st (the first time I went in to see him) then he said the 27th (the second time). So I'm guessing somewhere between the 19th and the 27th. lol.

Hubby is hoping for the 21st, it's the Summer Solstice, longest day of the year. I'm sure if I have her that day, it WILL be the longest day of the year! (He's Wiccan, very important to him.) =)

I want to wait until after the 15th at least, my Mom will be here on the 15th. So I'm hoping she's going to cooperate!

Christa - posted on 05/22/2010

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Sarah I don't want to make you scared, maybe you'll be lucky, but my girls are 25 months apart. And Peyton was PERFECT before the baby came. And I mean perfect, I kept thinking to myself, man I'm a really good parent this is easy. Oh famous last words. . . .:-P

Sarah - posted on 05/22/2010

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Since Colin will be 2 a month before the baby is due, you guys are freaking me out as well! At the moment he is a pretty well behaved child, but when he has a rough day it seems to last ALL day long. I use a little bit of everything, redirecting, stern voice, time-out, and yes spanking on occasion, it just depends on what the problem is.

Isobel - posted on 05/22/2010

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ahh, Mary and Christa, you are bringing me back...my kids are a year and a half apart.

here's a little trick that worked for me...when I was ready to breastfeed I would call Eve over for a snuggle on the couch...then when we found a way for us all to be comfy, I would put on Teletubbies or Barney...she would eventually inch away from me and Q to stare at the tube (I know...I didn't think I'd ever do it either, but...whatever works right?)

ME - posted on 05/22/2010

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Mayah is totally laid back...and Miles NEVER was. He was a mover and a shaker from birth. 6 hours after he was born he pushed himself away from Trav's chest, and looked around the hospital room...he's been curious, energetic and independent from birth. I expected the two's to be difficult too...but THIS is exhausting! He is at his worst when I am feeding the baby too...but that isn't the ONLY time! I don't remember who said it, but Miles has a HUGE vocab, and asking him to take a deep breath and use his words is VERY useful.

Ez - posted on 05/22/2010

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LOL sorry! You might be lucky and get a really laid back little princess... we can only hope lol. When is your little miss due?

Ez - posted on 05/21/2010

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Milla is 15 months and can be a total menace. I was prepared for the Terrible Twos, but they hit at about 13 months with Milla :-s It has been absolute madness around here some days.

I don't smack (she is the absolute LAST child in the world that it would work on anyway) and instead focus on redirection and positive reinforcement. I have yelled at her (not ranting or raving, just 'Milla STOP!' etc) when my patience has been stretched to the point of no return. I try to limit my use of the word 'No', and instead use a 2-word direction (eg 'Don't touch' or 'Leave it' etc). Milla was a very early talker, so I try to utilise that by getting her to 'use her words' instead of throwing a tantrum, and I am seeing more success with that.

Disciplining a toddler is definitely an eye-opener. I always knew I wouldn't be a smacker, but I don't really think I had any concept of the day-to-day battles you can have with a toddler (especially a young one like Milla). Having such a fiesty and determined child has definitely been a learning experience, but it was clear from very early on that she would have this intensity.

Christa, what you're describing is pretty common from what I understand. My friend had her second a month after her first turned 2 (also 2 girls), and the 2 yo's behaviour deteriorated drastically in the first few weeks. It was always triggered by the newborn getting fed too, like this was the peak time for the jealousy to explode. As you said, it was also because she knew there was nothing her mum could do while she was feeding the baby. Little girls can be so devious lol.

?? - posted on 05/21/2010

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I have always thought what will work depends on the child. Some kids nothing works ! Other kids all they need is a look and they get it. And I honestly truthfully believe that what works one day, won't always work the next day and there is absolutely a key in being consistent with the boundaries, but not being set on any specific disciplinary action.

For instance, my son, if he's cranky, he needs more of an interactive approach and if he's in a great mood he only needs a lil bit of a hint towards something else and he'll be alright.

He knows where his boundaries are, he knows what the limits are but it completely depends on his mood on how I go about dealing with him testing those limits.

Christa - posted on 05/21/2010

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This has gone on a bit of a tangent. I really didn't intend for you all to try and solve my problem. I just thought we could discuss what we think works vs what we think doesn't work. So if anyone wants to get us back on topic please do so. :-)

Christa - posted on 05/21/2010

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I hear you Jo. My daughter IS me and I was TERRIBLE in high school. I know God is paying me back for all the trouble I caused. And I know when we get there my mom will be secretly, or not so secretly, laughing. :-P

Suzette - posted on 05/21/2010

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LOL Jo, my mom said that handling me as a baby, toddler, and child was a lot easier than me as a teenager. She keeps telling me that my daughter is going to take after me. She's SO lucky that she's in Arizona. haha.

I'm not dealing with discipline right now. But, I plan on using the stern voice (not yelling), time outs, etc. way before I get to the spankings. Though, if I'm forced, I will use them as a last resort. Of course, I agree that it depends on the personality of the child and the parent. Luckily I have a lot of patience with little ones, so I can only hope that she's easy going!

And Christa, good luck, I hope you find a method that works soon. :)

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I hope my children are nothing like me as a teenager. I was horrible. Okay, worse than horrible.

Christa - posted on 05/21/2010

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My mom has always said we were fine during the 2's we were bad in the 3's. Whatever we think this is bad let's talk when they are 15. . . . .

Dana - posted on 05/21/2010

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Alright, you guys are scaring me now. Especially since I've got one coming up on 2 in 2 1/2 months and another one on the way.
Now it's my turn to scare you, ;) My sister says that the terrible two's are just there to prepare you for the terrible 3's.

Christa - posted on 05/21/2010

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Oh and the time outs don't do anything for her. In fact now when it's bed time or something else that she doesn't want to do she runs in the corner and says "I want to take a time out". *throws hands up in the air*

Christa - posted on 05/21/2010

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Sharon, I have spanked her. It doesn't help. A quick swat used to work but it doesn't anymore, that's one reason why I'm looking for other options. I don't want to beat her into submission. ;-)

Mary, I had to laugh at the bathwater. What is it with that? Every bath I'm constantly telling Peyton not to do that too. She does the food thing too, I'm hungry all day then she won't eat what I've given her the SHE requested. They really are Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde huh? I agree I did not think this was coming, I remember hearing all these terrible twos stories and thinking, "man you are doing SOMETHING wrong". Oh how God has a way of putting us in our place. :-P

ME - posted on 05/21/2010

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Oh man Christa...I hear you! Miles is two, going on 12...I never really understood what parents meant by that till now! He's moody, and throws at least 2-3 tantrums each day; he hits, throws things, pokes his sister, floods the kitchen, drinks the bathwater, destroys the front office with his toys, demands food and refuses to eat it, and thats a NORMAL DAY...I am constantly cleaning up after him, constantly reminding him of how to behave...I had NO IDEA what was coming 4-5 months ago right before his second birthday...DON'T misunderstand me...he is mostly the sweetest little boy ever...but his behavior can go from sweet to psychotic without notice or reason...I never thought I'd EVER yell at him, but sometimes he ignores me for so long, that my voice starts getting louder without intention...I don't hit, and I try to react to EVERY seriously bad behavior with warnings and then time outs...but it's the test of my lifetime...without a doubt!!!

Sharon - posted on 05/21/2010

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its beginning to read like you'll just have to sacrifice your first born in preference for the new born.



With all your limitations and non-help.. I'd have just smacked that ass a nice cherry red and let that count.



But thats just me.

Dana - posted on 05/21/2010

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I guess, maybe try your hardest to find that time. Talk to your husband and explain to him how important it is, I'm sure he wouldn't want her personality to change over it or for her to be hurting. Is there any family or friends who can come watch the baby for even an hour?

Christa - posted on 05/21/2010

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Dana, not much unfortunately my husband works a lot, especially while I was on maternity leave.

Caitilin, that's a good idea except I can't unlatch her. She's a pain to feed and she gets too wound up and then she won't eat, she just screams with my boob right there in her face. So once she's on I don't dare take her off, I never know when she's going to have a problem. :-)

Caitlin - posted on 05/21/2010

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Christa, I think it's normal for kids to do that, I think they are actually pretty smart for figuring that one out. My daughter started to test my boundaries when I had my second (she was 15 months old, and too independant for her own good).. I breastfeed too, but what I did when she really go to me, is I unlatched the baby and put her down (I know, kind of mean) and I put her in her high chair away from things, which made it like a really long time out. Then, before switching sides, I went back and took her down, and agev her another chance at it. It took about 2-3 days for her to listen to me while I was feeding the baby. I find I use the TV to distract her sometimes when i'm feeding the baby which helps, though i'm not a big fan of TV. I also found sometimes she actually wants to come sit on my lap while I feed the baby, because she wants to be close to me as well, and only if I ignore her requests to be up with me, she'll start throwing things and screaming. It will get better, now our second is 3 months, our older one 18 months and they're pretty close already, it's sweet to see our older daughter trying to give the baby her pacifier (but she lacks the fine coordination to do it) but it's still cute..

Christa - posted on 05/21/2010

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Dana, I'm sure that's exactly what it is, but I still don't know how to fix it. :-)

Christa - posted on 05/21/2010

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LOL! I've thought about it Jo. :-)

I have locked her in the nursery with me (that's where I always feed her), she is such a pain, she gets in the diaper genie, she goes in the drawers, she has climbed under my feet (while I'm telling her not to) and gotten her big head stuck under me. She then cries because she can't figure out how to get her head back out from under the rocking chair rung. Then she messes up Scarlett from eating (and she's already the slowest eater on the planet). It's all kinda funny as I sit here and write it, but in the moment I get so frustrated with her. :-P

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LOL I don't mean lock her in a room ! It's like a time out only in a space rather than a specific spot.

Dana - posted on 05/21/2010

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She might just be rebelling during feeding time because she's jealous. Locking her in another room might not be the best way to deal with that.lol

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Christa, I hear ya! I'm so worried about that when the second one comes because I don't do well with no sleep. I'm hoping to keep it under control though. Luckily I've got a sister who lives 5 minutes away and a husband who is very helpful.

?? - posted on 05/21/2010

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Okay on a serious note, do you have a room that you can 'toddler proof' when you have to feed the baby, you can take both into the room, lock the door and then she can have atter while you feed the baby. Then when she gets 'upset' that she's stuck in the room, having to wait until you're done in order to do anything you can explain to her that she has to listen in order to be allowed outside of the room while the baby needs you?

Christa - posted on 05/21/2010

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Jo, I've tried that. The problem is she's perfect (pretty close) when it's just me and her or if we are all playing. I really feel like the only time she doesn't listen is when she knows I can't get up and stop her. She's too darn smart for her own good.

Dana, I never lost my temper or yelled at her until I had my second. My fuse is about an inch short when I'm sleep deprived, have a baby who won't stop crying and a two year old who is purposely pushing the limits and a husband who's never home to help. :-( Unfortunately she saw a side of me I wish she hadn't during those first few weeks. We are all human right? :-)

Dana - posted on 05/21/2010

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Oh, I'm a fan of the Ethanael ....
It's not loud and it's said nicely but he knows I mean business. :) Luckily he likes to please. ;)

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Gabe doesn't listen to yelling or screaming either. There's been a couple times where he's gone to do something and Devon will yell at him, yell his name - out of sheer freight, not in anger but just thinking "I need to get his attention NOW!" so he yelled his name. He didn't pay attention even remotely to that. He just carried on. But if we say Gabriel, in a stern but normal level toned voice he pays attention.

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Could you get her involved in tasks during those times? For instance, ask her to "read" to the baby while the baby eats. Ask her to quietly draw the baby a picture while you're putting her down for a nap. Ask her to have a snack with the baby. And then if she reads nicely, draws something pretty, plays nicely, or whatever then when the baby is full or sleeping then you and her can do something together. Setting the situation up so that she's rewarded for good behavior, rather than disciplined for bad behavior. Have you tried that kind of thing?

I'm not sure exactly what method you are using, so I'm just throwing that out there, maybe you're already doing that haha

Dana - posted on 05/21/2010

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Ethan is only 21 months old and a pretty good kid so far. I had to pause to knock on wood. ;)

So far I've pretty much used redirection. I don't think any thing he does is wrong or bad because he's learning and exploring. I've also found that he listens to me if I use his way of saying "No" which is "no, no, no" while you shake your hand back and forth. I have no idea why he started saying it that way but, if I just do a regular "no", he doesn't listen, the moment I do his no, his ears/eyes perk right up and he stops.

I know that I'll never spank or scream at him. I hope to just use time outs and talk to him. I also think there is a fine line between talking and over explaining, though. I hope to always be mindful of that too.
I can say it drives me crazy when you see parents having a conversation of why not, I think that the more you talk about it, the more you're giving the impression to the child that your mind may change.

Christa - posted on 05/21/2010

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Jo, I agree with you that it depends on the personality of the kid and parent. My daughter is EXACTLY like me, she's smart, stubborn, strong willed, independent, all the good and bad things. She was great until she turned two and started flexing her independence. It didn't help I had my second at the same time. She KNOWS if she wants to do something while I'm feeding the baby there's nothing I can do about it. It has caused some disciplining challenges. That's why I'm hoping to get some ideas from others. :-) I also think it's "easier" to discipline when you only have one child, you are able to allow them some more freedoms and flexibility.

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When I was pregnant all I ever thought about my disciplining technique was that I wasn't going to pretend I had one hahaha



I have 5 siblings and each of us are soooooo different that I learned real young that not everyone is the same and while mom could yell at my brother and that would be enough for him to get the point, she would have to yell at me, put me in time out, give me warnings that I was gonna get a spanking and then I knew she meant business and even then sometimes I pushed until she had to go through with her 'threat' to spank and I'd get a smack on the butt.



So when I was pregnant I had no notion of how I was going to discipline my child or what kind of mom I was going to be because I honestly believe the kind of mom you are is defined by the attitude, temperment and character your child has.



I've always been pretty easy going and relaxed, I have a lot of patience and I've always been very comfortable with children so when Gabe was born, everything just kind of flowed. He was an easy baby, I was comfortable, he was comfortable, he was happy, I was happy.



As he's gotten older my patience and easy going attitude definitely helps because this boy is WIRRRRRED and energy and determined just like his mom but because I don't - freak out - when he does things he's not supposed too, he's a pretty good listener and he follows my direction pretty well. UNLESS he sees his daddy do it. That is our only ... misdirection and that is where he gets in trouble.



But at 18 months, I've only 'hit' his hand once and that was cause he was going for a live open electrical unit that his grandpa had told me was covered, and it wasn't. I didn't want to GRAB his hand because a friend of mine had broken her kids fingers by grabbing his hand too hard. So I slapped his hand away and then grabbed him and moved him away...... and then chewed out his grandpa.



So what is my disciplining technique...? Listen and learn, I guess you could call it. When we move, it could be a whole other story since we'll actually have a whole house and yard to feel out the boundaries and limits.



I've had a few people call me crazy because I love this, I love watching him learn and experiment... I love watching the wheels turn as he processes how to test the boundaries. He's only 18 months, he listens pretty well, sometimes I have to raise my voice or be a lil extra stern but he's a toddler, that kinda testing is normal. I can't wait to see how he reacts to his own space and all the things he can get into and how much he's going to learn and grow with this new environment! :D

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