Disciplining a red head

Heather - posted on 09/01/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My girls got in a bit of trouble today so they got a spanking. While my middle daughter did just fine my red head bruised :( I'm completely appalled and horrified with myself. My girls almost NEVER get spankings and I never use extreme force. I wasn't even upset when I spanked them. Coul it be the difference in the fare skin and red hair that made it easier to bruise? I'm at a loss. I'm not an abusive parent, never have been. But I just don't understand how swatting her caused her to bruise! Any advice? Please don't bash I already feel like scum of the earth. I think it's safe to say I won't be spanking her again.

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Mary - posted on 09/02/2013

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Yes, there have been some (small) studies that suggest that redheads do bruise more readily. There is also some evidence to support the theories that redheads also feel pain more acutely, or at lower thresholds of stimulus, than everyone else. Anesthesiologists also claim that it is much more difficult, and requires more drug, to sedate and/or anesthetize redheads, and that they tend to bleed more than non-redheads. As an OB nurse, I too have observed these tendencies. To the best of my knowledge, there have been no findings as to WHY these differences exist, only that they do.

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Mary - posted on 09/02/2013

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Well, I'm not a fan of spanking in general, so my unequivocal answer to this question is no.

If what you are really asking is if any future spankings are most likely to leave visible marks...well, I don't really know, but based this recent experience, it looks like the answer is yes. Chances are good that any future use of physical punishment could cause bruising.

Personally, I just don't see the point of any type of discipline that leaves you feeling guilty. When my 4 y/o misbehaves, I don't like disciplining her, but I never feel guilty about my actions.

Heather - posted on 09/02/2013

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So, it's safe to say, I shouldn't punish my red head with spankings. Cause shell bruise more easily?

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