Divorce

Katherine - posted on 05/23/2011 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I have been dragging my feet about a divorce but i am finally filing. I just want to know is anyone else going through this or has gone through this?

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Divorce sucks! But it is definitely survivable. I know, for me personally, I did not want the divorce and it totally devastated my world, but.... 3 years later (didn't take that long, but that's where I'm at now) I realize what a huge favor my ex did for ME. Not my kids, of course, but I'm way better off.

Sorry. That's a bit of rambling. You'll be ok. :)

Mrs. - posted on 05/23/2011

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My fiance did the same with his ex-wife. So, difficult, but now he has a new life with a baby and a new lady. His ex who was crazy and difficult through the whole thing has also now remarried.

There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

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Jodi - posted on 05/23/2011

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2 years? Wow. I guess they are hoping people will sort out their differences in that time rather than rushing it through.

Here, you can file all the financial and custody paperwork when you separate, so by the time you file for the actual divorce, everything has pretty much done. I just did a "do-it-yourself" divorce. No laywer, nothing. I only used the lawyer when I separated (and for other custody issues).

Isobel - posted on 05/23/2011

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you gotta wait two years hear unless there is evidence of abuse or adultery.

Jodi - posted on 05/23/2011

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Yes, divorce sucks, but the alternative is worse. I separated from my ex 11 1/2 years ago (my son was about 2 at the time). In Australia you can't file until you have been separated 12 months, so I have been divorced just over 10 year, and remarried for just over 7 years :)

Isobel - posted on 05/23/2011

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I've been separated for a couple of years but I haven't filed yet. Congratulations! (I wasn't sorry either)

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Katherine that sucks you had to deal with such an irresponsible abusive asshole. I wish you and your girls the best!

Katherine - posted on 05/23/2011

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Yeah mine has a gambling problem and is verbally abusive too. I had had ENOUGH!!!!

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Yes i have gone through it. We didn't have any kids. I left him. I had finally had enough of the verbal, mental , and physical abuse. not to mention he is an alcoholic.

Krista - posted on 05/23/2011

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Ahhh...durr. Okay, sorry. And yes, if that's the case, then I am pleased for you, to finally be able to tie up that particular loose end! :)

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I'm with Teresa. Although we have only been seperated for 3ish months i could never go back. I was devestated. I didn't want him to walk out i wanted him to stay so we could try and work it out but now i'm happy where i am. It's hard but life is so much nicer now.

Katherine - posted on 05/23/2011

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Yes, Krista I am filing. I was supposed to months ago but didn't have the money for a lawyer and now I do. We've been separated forever.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/23/2011

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I fear divorce. My relationship with my husband is wonderful, and we do not have any issues that would lead to divorce...but my mom is on her 5th marriage. I have been through my share of "stepfathers". Both of my sisters are in terrible relationships, one of them is starting the process of divorce also...the other one is just an idiot and staying with him for all the wrong reasons.

I know some people really do need divorces, it was always my big fear of marriage for obvious reasons. I really wish you the best of luck Katherine!

Jenn - posted on 05/23/2011

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I went through a split with my son's father, but no divorce seeing as he was still married to his first wife. I still have yet to find a real answer as to whether or not we need an annulment, but to err on the side of caution I think I'm going to go ahead and do it when I have the money. That way I know I can marry Brian without worry.

Tah - posted on 05/23/2011

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Krista I think she's saying she's not sorry about it...but she is doing it....if I'm understanding correctly...

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