Do you feel that Masturbation is a sin?

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 02/01/2011 ( 105 moms have responded )

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In YOUR opinion Why or why not
Can it be a healthy release?
If you feel that the Genatlas are made for reproduction only…then why do we have nerves? Why does the right stimulation feel good?

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Kate CP - posted on 02/01/2011

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I suppose a man could NOT masturbate if he CHOSE not to (women do that all the time, right?) but it's damn strange. I also think it's really, REALLY wrong to demand that a person not masturbate. It's his body, why can't he jerk off? I mean, unless he's making things all messy and gross I don't see how it's any one else's business.

JuLeah - posted on 02/01/2011

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Our eyes were made to see, our ears were made to hear .... the juxtaposition of sin and anything sexual dates back to early Christianity (as I was taught)

According to many religions practicing back in the day, sex was a conduit to God (especially for men) and there was no association between sex and shame. It was a healthy productive activity with no one made to feel less.

Constantine, Roman Emperor from 306 to 337, wanted to control the masses. How does a smart Emperor go about controlling a people? He controls sex, birth, reproduction ….

The ‘path to God’ became the church and only the church. Sex became a sin unless okayed by the church (marriage) and parents were told their children would burn in eternal hell unless brought to the church after birth for a bath that would wash away their ‘original sin’

So, Rome had control over children from birth through death, thereby controlling the population.

Of course, in the process, the human body became a shameful thing, women were kicked to the bottom of the hierarchy, and sex became the ultimate sin. But, that’s a small price to pay for ultimate control.



I think too that if you know your body, how it works, what you like .... you have a healthier sex life

Nikolina - posted on 08/09/2017

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To be honest I dont care if its a sin or not... its fun and feels good. Thats what matters.

Tara - posted on 02/02/2011

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Nope not a sin.
And honestly it's one of the biggest problems I have with most organized religions that condemn it.
When my ex grew up in a strict Catholic family, he was told it was horrible sin to masturbate, he did it every day, at least 3 times a day when he was a teenager. He said he didn't want to, he feared going to hell, but he couldn't help himself, so he would masturbate fast and furious and then come and feel awful about his soul. He would lay in bed at night praying for forgiveness and hoping he didn't go to hell, he would go to confession and tell the priest who would tell him how to repent, he would repent and then go home and masturbate even more.
He lived his teenager years thinking he was a horrible person and that god would never love him, and that his parents would never love him if they found out.
It's horrible to make someone feel like touching their own body in a pleasurable way is sinful or wrong.
It's human nature, and there is nothing wrong with it.
And anyone who tells their SO they can't masturbate is only setting themselves up for problems in their relationship.
That kind of power and control over someone's own body is tantamount to abuse. If I had a man who TOLD me "You may not masturbate" I would feel like he was trying to control my life, my body and I would tell him to either get over it, or move on... my body, my pleasure... my choice.

Krista - posted on 02/01/2011

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Marina, I don't know if you necessarily have to teach them TO masturbate. Most of them figure that out just fine. But during the sex talk, you can let them know that people do this, that it's normal (but something that should be done in private), and that it's a healthy way to burn off excess sexual energy.

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Lika - posted on 04/08/2019

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No, masturbation is not a sin. It is good for you, what is good for you is from God.
What is from God, is good, healthy, and should be encouraged.

I hope these help.

Is Masturbation a Sin? sexplanations
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QwGGV9TB...

Can Christians Masturbate? | God is Grey
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T8U4xe41...

Christian Masturbation Myths - The Truth That's Been Hidden
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-evPcLmn...

Kavitha - posted on 08/17/2017

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Its not a Sin or Wrong. Its natural and never harms if its done safely

Julie - posted on 07/22/2017

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I do it a lot,but do feel guilty sometimes 😋 ,but no I don't think it's a sin. It's a perfectly normal thing to do.Try it,it may just help with your sex life by learning to orgasm,knowing what feels good and communicating with your hubby so he knows what you like.

Nellynunes148 - posted on 07/23/2016

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Being Catholic we were raised that masturbation is wrong. Sexual pleasure should only be with a spouse

Nicole - posted on 01/14/2014

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This discussion reminds me of the old adage which distinguishes a sin from a shame --it's a sin to stick it in, and a shame to take it out! LOL.

Johnny - posted on 02/04/2011

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So it's okay for them to masturbate alone into a cup and then pour it in later?

Charlie - posted on 02/04/2011

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So really that means that it is only a sin for men to masturbate because we don't waste "seed " haha SUCKERS !

Mrs. - posted on 02/04/2011

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So, if the dog is in the room, it's cool? No wonder so many men love having a dog.

Jodi - posted on 02/04/2011

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That's what I thought the biblical reference was too Loureen. Which means it was only ever a sin for him to masturbate on his own :D

Charlie - posted on 02/04/2011

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So it isn't a sin if I just do it for him or he does it for me , or we do it AT THE SAME TIME to each other haha .......love the loop holes .

In all seriousness isn't this sinning business all about the man wasting his "seed " ?

Brandi - posted on 02/04/2011

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I don't think it is a sin. I am sure God would rather you do it yourself, rather than go sleep with a bunch of men to get your thrills!

Danielle - posted on 02/04/2011

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I was raised to think it was wrong but I'll just tell you right now that B.O.B (battery operated boyfriend) and I have an awsome relationship =)

Amber - posted on 02/03/2011

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With relish eh? I prefer hot sauce, just for a kick ;) LOL my husband & i don't masturbate because we're like rabbits usually. I'm sure he will later on in my pregnancy, when we can't have sex. but when we can there isn't really any reason to, plus we barely have time for sex let alone masturbating! :P i don't think it's a SIN though...but then again isn't everything a SIN when it comes to most religion? another reason i'm not religious.

Isobel - posted on 02/03/2011

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I would be curious to see the biblical quote, however, which leads people to believe it may be a sin.

Isobel - posted on 02/03/2011

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I believe mutual masturbation is called heavy petting because, unfortunately...it's not always mutual ;)

Krista - posted on 02/03/2011

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Yeah, I don't get that either, Jenn. Unless they constantly follow their men into the shitter, don't let them shower alone, and never, EVER leave their side, how do they know for sure that he's not taking a few minutes to whack the weasel?

Jenn - posted on 02/03/2011

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I can't help but laugh at the people who think they can control their men like that. How would you know with 100% certainty that he does or doesn't do anything? Are you with them 100% of the time? Maybe they tell you that they don't, but only THEY know the truth. Just sayin'. ;)

Veronica - posted on 02/02/2011

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I wont lie, its happened in my life -- but I dont have it a part of my life -- i think the last time i mast. was over a year ago -- and before that....... probably a year or two ..... I don't have the same feelings about it, its not a stress reliever, my cigarettes are, I dont have the time, and Im too tired -- if im that horny, i will jump my husband first - i like that better than my diddly finger, and i will never use an object (so please dont give me run around about toys). I have a lot of sensitivity, and its not the same type of pleasure as intercourse is.
Im also catholic - i was never taught all this garb - it must be certain people, ordinances, communities -- the only problem we had, is my parents just didn't talk to us about sex at all, except to wait til marriage -- didnt even know what masturbation was. And I do not believe that sex is a sin either -- we have just as much sex for fun and love, as we do for creating babies -- so, when catholics are being referenced, be more specific about where you heard something from, or whatever - because ALL catholics do not fall under your categories.
I believe in sin - but I dont judge what is sin or not anymore -- there are so many things in this world these days that "go against the bible" but its here for a reason and the Lord tells us not to judge. So Im not -- if getting it on with yourself, with *relish on top, floats your dream boat - more power to you.

Johnny - posted on 02/02/2011

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That's what I was thinking. Plenty of people, including lesbians or many people with disabilities (NOT lumping them together, this is "penetration specific") might not be having sexual relations in the way that many people would define it, but they are still having sex.

Mutual masturbation, I've heard that term, just forgot it. Thanks Rebecca, I'll have to do that ;-)

Mrs. - posted on 02/02/2011

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It's called mutual masturbation, as far as I know.

A sex therapist told me that all the other stuff is considered sex, by her at least. See, here's where it gets murky right. Because lots of same sex couples, lesbians in particular aren't doing the whole penis in vagina thing and it is still called sex. Defining sexual intercourse, can get a little messy.

Johnny - posted on 02/02/2011

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I was simply referring to Loureen stating that she does it to her hubby. Which I consider foreplay, as Julianne said. I always though masturbation was rather a solo effort, so I was a bit confused by the use of the term. Although, I suppose it isn't necessarily always foreplay. It doesn't always have to proceed other acts.

So is masturbation still called sex if pleasuring another is also called sex, Juleah? Do people call all the sexual acts "sex" or just intercourse? Personally, I like the broader definition, but I'm just wondering what other people say...

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@ johnny, i think a more appropriate term for that is foreplay:)

You know, this isn't half as bad as the catholics saying sex in general is a sin unless its for getting pregnant. The church i went to preached that. I guess thats why so many had litters of babies :P
No pleasure in my mind would ever be considered a sin. Not that i believe in sin...

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It says it in the Christian Bible that Masturbation is a Sin, and some people that are not very religious still see things as “Sin” because its in the Bible


I don’t think it is, I grew up being told that I was……

Jenni - posted on 02/02/2011

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I think this question is directed at religious individuals?
I'll answer neways.... No I don't believe masturbation is a "sin" because I don't believe in scripture.
That was easy :)

Sal - posted on 02/02/2011

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jenny... with relish-lol what ever rocks your boat, just steer clear of chilly, everyone should have a go at it, i think (and someone on oprah said so so it must be true) that it gets you in tune with your body and lets you enjoy sex with a partner more.

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PS When I was pregnant and couldn't sleep with restless legs, it was the only way I could get to sleep. I didn't even feel like it but it had to happen!

Johnny - posted on 02/01/2011

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Is it still called masturbation when you do it to someone else? (Actual query, for once I'm not trying to be sarcastic)

Charlie - posted on 02/01/2011

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If it is a sin im twice as damned cause I do it for me and my partner hahaha .

Johnny - posted on 02/01/2011

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I wish I masturbated more often. I try, but I'm so tired I just fall asleep. It's sad. Masturbation is such a great stress reliever. It always used to help me when I had menstrual cramps too. I personally find it immoral to deny the natural urges of one's body. So I would definitely not find masturbation sinful.

Nikkole - posted on 02/01/2011

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I don't think its a sin at all, my husband i think masturbated more before we got married he says he embarrassed to do it while im in the room even while im asleep but i could care less if he did ive encouraged him to :)

Jenny - posted on 02/01/2011

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I also don't believe in sin.



Masturbation is a gift. Give it to yourself often and with relish.

Melissa - posted on 02/01/2011

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your right it is wrong of someone to ask their partner not to. I just want to be able to do it for him if he needs it Id rather do it and I just feel if hes got me then that should be enough but yeah its wrong of me to ask him not to but cant help the way i feel. I used to not care with exes when I was a teenager lol

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When I'm tired I tell my hubby "The shower's over there darling" :) When he's tired he says the same thing to me... lol

Stifler's - posted on 02/01/2011

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I wish my husband masturbated. He'd last longer in bed. I think he used to but not so sure that he does anymore. I don't tell him he can't I just don't think he does it.

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I used to not be comfortable with the whole masturbation thing. With my ex-husband, I never made it a "rule" that he not masturbate, I just didn't wanna know about it, see it or find any evidence of it anywhere. It creeped me out. Then one day I tried it for myself (a friend bought me a BOB lol) and HOLY SHIT! My first orgasm was given to me, by me. I have zero problems with it now. In fact, I know for a fact that my husband does it and I'm glad because I'm too tired to satisfy him as often as he would like.

Mrs. - posted on 02/01/2011

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But even priests have been known to struggle with that and then ask forgiveness. Your husband should be giving those priest some lessons.

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