Do you obey child age restrictions?

Tracey - posted on 07/15/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )




At 16 my daughter can go in pub / bar but not drink alcohol until 18 unless with a meal, she can however drink from age 5 at home.
She can get married at 16 but can't rent or buy a place to live until 18.
She can join the armed forces but not fight for her country until 18.
If we go to Disneyland she is a child at the hotel (18+) but an adult in the themepark (12+).
She can buy a lottery ticket but can't place a bet.
She can make medical decisions and buy contraceptives but can't donate blood.
She can have a gun licence from age 12 but can't buy a gun until 17, and can't use a crossbow without supervision until 21.
She can use shotguns and rifles at a shooting range but she can't play Call of Duty and pretend to kill computerised zombies.

We obey some of the above but it can be confusing what is and isn't legal. Should a child be allowed a gun licence a year before they are considered old enough to go on facebook?

Should we have one age when a child can do everything?


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Elfrieda - posted on 07/17/2012




I think it would be nice to have one age where the child is told, "now you're a man/woman" and is given the responsibilities and privileges of an adult, but who would decide that? The government? The prevailing culture of society? I think because we're so different and raise our children so differently, each family has to do it themselves. One 12 year old would be fine driving a vehicle, whereas some 17 year olds behind the wheel are a complete menace. Of course there are laws and we need to keep them in mind and work with them, but ultimately we are responsible to know what our kids are ready for.

So I guess my answer to your question is Yes, I think it would be better to have one age for everything and have everyone agree on it, but I don't see how that would work logistically.

Isobel - posted on 07/17/2012




I'm not a fan of running my life (or my children's lives) according to random arbitrary numbers. I make all decisions about what my children can or cannot do based on whether or not my children are ready to do such things.

Kelina - posted on 07/17/2012




I think a lot of rules have to be dealt with on an individual basis. WE don't own guns, but I'd have no problem with a child around puberty being taught how to handle and shoot one responsibly. I was. I don't like the violent video games, and to be honest I think most people ignore the ratings on them anyways, but my reason wouldn't be because of the rating or that it's against the law for them to buy/rent them. It's because it glorifies death, makes it something that's commonplace and really places no real negative meaning on it when that's not reality. Underage drinking, I think when they're old enough I'll be fine with them having the occasional drink at home, as long as they're not overdoing it. It's up to me to teach them about responsible drinking and consequences of their actions, but it also depends on my kids. If they get to that age and I don't think they're responsible/mature enough it won't happen. I know eventually someone will make the point that we should be teaching our kids to obey the law and follow rules etc., but I really don't think that every child and parent should be restricted because of what some will choose to do. And lets face it, there are a lot of rules and age restrictions in place that are there because pf the majority, or because someone abused the freedom they had, and someone else got snippy about it. don't get me wrong I'm all for the laws that are in place, because unfortunately a law can't take it into account on an individual basis, but a parent usually can. those laws are there for the parents who can't, won't or don't care.

Stifler's - posted on 07/15/2012




They can have Facebook when FB says they can. Waiting until the age restriction says is not against my principles.

Stifler's - posted on 07/15/2012




We obey the law. Neither of us have gun so that's not as issue to me. Personally I think civilians shouldn't be allowed a gun unless they can prove they shoot to eat and that's the only reason I'd allow my child to have/use a gun. COD etc.... they can play it after they move out. My kids won't be drinking from age 5 at home. The law here is 18 to buy and 16 at home. Kids aren't allowed in pubs alone here or past 10PM. I wouldn't give permission for my 16 year old to marry either.

MeMe---(Past And Present) - posted on 07/15/2012




I obey the ones that I know could harm my children. Ones such as drinking laws and driving laws.

We do not allow the highly violent games in our home, so no Call of Duty.

We can't own guns here in Canada unless they are registered and I am unsure of the age requirements, since we do not hunt or do range shooting.

My daughter is very tall for her age and always has been, so yes, I would allow her to go on rides that had an age and height restriction. Since she has always passed the height.

I did not allow my daughter on facebook until she was 13. I do not know the legal age, since that is something I will determine on my own.

So, yes, I suppose, there are somethings I do abide by but then others that I go with my own instincts. However, really, even the ones I abide by are due to them matching my instincts/beliefs.

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