Do your kids "love" you?

Sara - posted on 03/02/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Do you think babies and small children are capable of really feeling love? Or do you think they just attach to their parents as some deep-seeded survivial mechanism? Do you think your child really **loves** you? Can you love someone without really knowing what love means?

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Shayna - posted on 03/07/2010

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Can you explain love?
I'm guessing not, because there is no real words for it, it is a feeling.
I would imagine children feel the love of their parents, it reflects on them the same as if you're sad, happy, or angry with them. I just think back to as far as I can remember to loving my mother and how happy she made me:)

Sunny - posted on 03/07/2010

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I know my son loves me! He;s 2 and tells me several times a day! The other day i slipped on the floor and smashed my head, when i came to my little boy was kneeling down stroking my face and asking me if i was ok, telling me it was ok, dont cry and i love you mummy, children, babies and animals all feel, want, need and crave love.

Krista - posted on 03/02/2010

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The way I see it..... love is a feeling. It was felt before the word was derived. I think that anyone can feel love. An animal loves you and yet they don't know the meaning. That is, of course, my opinion.

Jenny - posted on 03/02/2010

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Well there must be an evolutionary reason for love. I don't think it's something Hallmark made up or anything. All of us who have felt it know how real it is and it can be measured in your brain. So I'm going with yes, my babies love me.

I've also read babies are considered to be "cute" to make us want to take care of them. Makes alot of sense really.

Amanda - posted on 03/02/2010

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Babies know when they are upset (they cry) they know when they are angry, so why wouldnt they also know when they feel love? Love is taught, we teach our babies daily what love is, when we cuddle them to sleep, feed them, coo and smile at them. Science has proven this with children raised as orphans with no human contact, no smiling faces, no hugs. Those children are emontionally stunted, so hug your children daily, tell them you love them and kiss them up no matter what age but ESP during the first year. :0)

Mary - posted on 03/02/2010

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Yeah...it is, by far, the most amazing experience on earth! I don't think I fully comprehended just how MUCH I could love another until the moment she was laid on my chest...and I know that on some level, she felt that as well.

Sara - posted on 03/02/2010

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I remember being totally blown away by that, Mary, when Rowan was born. She was crying and they laid her on my chest and I said "Hi" and she immediately stopped crying and looked right at me, she knew me...it was one of the most precious moments of my life.

Mary - posted on 03/02/2010

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Absolutely...love is an emotion, not necessarily restrained or defined by conscious thought or reasoning. If anything, I think children are capable of more purely loving than adults. They don't get mired down in rationalizing, justifying or deliberating it. They are less suspicious and cynical...they just love you for you - and are blissfully unaware of your faults and weaknesses. It is more primal in infancy, but anyone who has watched an infant in distress become suddenly calm and content when placed skin to skin with his mother...it is amazing. It cannot be achieved by a nurse or physician, no matter how experienced or caring...it is the touch, feel, and smell of their mother alone that can accompish this at birth.

Dana - posted on 03/02/2010

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I think yes. When they're really little I don't know what they're feeling but when, we're playing or I'm doing something that is great (in Ethan's eyes) and he gives me kisses because he wants to, then I feel that is love. He's been doing that since he was around a year old. Kisses on his own, for actions I'm doing, not just for the heck of it.

Sara - posted on 03/02/2010

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Personally, I don't think you have to be able to define love in order to feel it. I think my daughter loves me. She hugs me and kisses me and in times I've been upset she's tried to comfort me.

Krista - posted on 03/02/2010

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I honestly have no idea, but I do think it's more than just attachment. When my husband comes home at the end of the day, my son gets this gigantic grin on his face and reaches for him. I'm the primary food-provider, so he's not reaching for Keith because he's dependent upon him for sustenance and protection. I think he just really likes him. :)

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