Doctor let's Rapist choose Abortion

Katherine - posted on 01/20/2011 ( 16 moms have responded )

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This is terribel. It's one thing for a man to have a say, but quite another to let him have the FINAL say. This is absurd. I can't imagine how this poor woman feels. What gives them the RIGHT?


It would seem impossible to make a rape worse. But a doctor in India seems to have gone and done it anyway. He is accused of aborting a rape victim's baby without her consent.

Instead he took the word of her boyfriend, the guy who is now being accused of actually raping her over a period of time. Head spinning yet? Let this be a lesson to the people who think men should have some say in whether or not a fetus they have created is aborted. Because situations like these just heap additional trauma on victims of domestic violence.

It works both ways, actually. If a man were to be given the right to say "no, she can't have an abortion," a rapist is being given additional power to torture his victim for an additional nine months. Each time the baby kicks, he is exerting his undue influence.

Then flip it over. A woman gets pregnant by her abuser and doesn't believe in abortion. The man makes the decision that he doesn't want the baby. He OKs the abortion, and for the rest of her life she is forced to live with having had an abortion, against her will, against her beliefs.

Yes, the baby is his genetic material. But once he places it in another woman's body -- by rape or otherwise -- he cedes control to that person. It's biology. And while I've heard arguments that it isn't fair, because men don't have the ability to carry a baby, there's the flip side. It's equally unfair to a woman that she has to be the one to carry the baby. I'd have given up the pain and suffering willingly, but I couldn't.

Of course, I wasn't a rape victim. I was a happily married woman who got pregnant on purpose. And unlike so many moms who have said it made them waiver in their "right to choose" beliefs, it made me that much more ardently pro-choice because I could not imagine going through those nine months if I hadn't chosen it, if the baby in my belly belonged to anyone other than my husband.

But the marker of a domestic violence victim is a person (it can be a man) who already feels dominated, who has already given up on having control of her (or his) own life. Control of the womb is perhaps the last bastion of a woman's right to her own body. It's her baby now, her choice.

Have you ever thought men should get a say in abortion? How do you feel now?

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that is SO sad!! How aweful. My opinion is that a couple should talk about what they will do if they conceive. that way if it happens, they are on the same page. I think the end decision is the females, but i do feel for males when the woman gets an abortion and he wanted to keep it, i mean thats gotta suck!

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Esther - posted on 01/21/2011

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Tracey - I don't know the details of the story of course, but she may have been married to the guy. There is a lot of rape within marriage too unfortunately.



As a general rule I don't think a man should have a say in whether or not a woman has an abortion. No legal say anyway. Of course there are situations where that is utterly unfair to the man and it saddens me when that is the case. But again, as a general rule, I don't think women should ever be forced to cede control over their bodies to anyone else. As a matter of morals, I think if a woman gets pregnant as a result of concensual sex with a man, she owes it to that man to involve him in the decision. But it should be a moral mandate, not a legal one.

Tracey - posted on 01/21/2011

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Men can have a say in pregnancy / abortion when they can carry the baby.

How did a man who was not married to the woman sign her medical papers allowing her to have an abortion? I don't think I can sign medical consent forms for my husband unless he is unconcious and physically unable to do it himself.

Nikki - posted on 01/21/2011

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I am pro-life, however, in all senses of the word, an abortion is a medical procedure, and performing and medical procedure on a person without their consent is not right.

Also, I believe there are exceptions to every rule. If a woman is raped, or carrying the pregnancy could cause her undue harm, it would not be immoral in my opinion to terminate.

But, for a man who has already caused trauma that she will probably never recover from fully, to force another "sin" on a woman and subvert her beliefs, is torturous.

Sharon - posted on 01/20/2011

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A rapists should NEVER get a say in what happens to his victim. For treatment or whatever.

Should men ever have a say in an abortion... mostly I say NO. Its the womans' body.

But then there are those nasty ass women out there who get pregnant on purpose trying to get leverage over the man. Even then... ugh I have issues with it. Men should stay away from those women and suck up the consequences when they don't.

Lacye - posted on 01/20/2011

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I have always thought that if the man could prove himself to be a good father he should have a say. I have also said that if the child was conceived from rape, the father has no say because it was a crime to begin with. I still feel the same way. It's horrible that this woman had to go through with this. I really do feel for her.

Bonnie - posted on 01/20/2011

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Oh my, just terrible. I feel the only time a man should have a say or an opinion in regards to abortion, is when the parents are married or in a relationship. If it's something involving rape, abuse, or a breakup, it should be solely up to the woman.

Melissa - posted on 01/20/2011

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No its the womans decision in the end she carries the baby in her body and its life changing for her. I agree with another post that in a relationship the man should have some say and it should be discussed but in the end its the womans decision. My dad was in that position he wanted the baby my mum didnt she had an abortion he wouldnt go with her to get the abortion she was the only one thinking smart she couldnt afford anymore kids he is still angry.

I feel bad for this woman in the OP thatshorrible poor thing :( I cant imagine being pregnant as result of a rape

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Nobody but the woman who is pregnant should be able to agree to abort the baby, that is just wrong.

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aghh what is this world coming to...evil bastards everywhere...he violated her, then chose to kill HER baby....people suck...big time

Stifler's - posted on 01/20/2011

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People are so disgusting. This person should be euthanased immediately. If she wanted to keep her baby, the baby she didn't ask to be raped and impregnated with it's her fucking choice. He gave up his rights to having a say when he broke the law and violated and emotionally damaged another human being.

Desiree - posted on 01/20/2011

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Poor girl now she has been raped twice, first sexually secondly emotionally and in a way spiritually! A Doctors "oath says first do no harm", So that makes him worse than her rapist! I would go after his licence for this.

Amber - posted on 01/20/2011

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i feel weirdd out, is how i feel. i'm glad i have never been pregnant from rape, and especially glad i don't live in India :|

Jenny - posted on 01/20/2011

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No, I have never though men should have a say in abortion. A loving partner should get an opinion, yes, but the final decision is the woman's alone. This a violation of her human rights and I hope there is action to prevent this in the future. I doubt it, but I hope there is.

Amanda - posted on 01/20/2011

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I have always believed a man doesnt have the right to say if a woman should or shouldnt abort. This just makes my stand on the issue even stronger.

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