Does anyone have a psycho ex- girlfiend of their spouse that never leaves you alone?

Caroline - posted on 03/29/2012 ( 28 moms have responded )

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PART 1- My husband and I met in 2007 we married in 2008. We moved to the same town as my in-laws and things were going good. My husband returned to Iraq for his job, one day I started to get crank calls and then she gets bold and tells me on the phone that she is the "Mrs." and she was going to kill me. She knew my name our address everything about me. So for a few weeks she kept up with the crank calls and I called the cops and made a statement about her and changed my phone number, but she always figured it out. One day I was on the computer shopping and my husband was home on leave and our daughter went out to play, there was a knock at the door and I thought it was my daughter and just as I was to open the door it flew back and kit me in the face. There is a woman standing there and she is trying to get in our home. SO here I am in the entrance of our home fighting this person to get out. The door hit me so hard that I could hardly see and my glasses were broke. I dialed for the police and I have to admit I was so scared. My husband comes down on orders so we move to Texas and the police could not fine " her" since they let her out due to over crowding..........

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Tina - posted on 03/30/2012

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I'd be trying to figure out how she keeps getting your number. Although she does sounds crazy. Could there possibly be any truth to what she is saying. Maybe your partner needs to be dealing with it true or not. He needs to be helping you deal with this for your daughters sake. For your safety and your daughters safety. The last thing you want is this crazy woman tracking you down. I'm not sure what else you can do.

Isobel - posted on 04/07/2012

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yeah, my ex husband had a crazy ex that wouldn't leave us alone...turned out it was because he never stopped sleeping with her. Ya never know.

Caroline - posted on 04/06/2012

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Emma, Hi! Well you can google yourself and sometimes it does not come up. My husband and I found out where and how this crazy girl is most likely getting our address and it is The White pages. And on this site you can do a reverse look up. All you need is a name and where you believe the person lives and we were able to do with our phone number. Also there are other sites that oyu can pay a small fee and get information like that. And we have talked many times to the police and it is not against the law for anyone to look up the address and phone number on line. It is so weird on how someone can get access to your whole life. You also can look up bill info and your name will be there. So that is how she found us where we use to live as far as our cable bill or utility bills. This girl has my name and ss# and my husband's info. We have signed up for Life lock and that seem to keep her at bay for now.

Sally - posted on 04/05/2012

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This sounds odd cos my hubbys ex did the same .we kept a recond of everything took it to the police she got a warning that it would be prison next time. Idk maybe its different here in the uk but without a doubt she'd be locked up by now and prob ordered to have mental tests. Surely your legal system can do something about it. I wish you well cos nutty fruitcake ex's are a pain.

Stifler's - posted on 04/05/2012

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I just googled myself then and my phone number and address don't come up. My pinterest account comes up and that's it.

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Caroline - posted on 04/12/2012

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Laura, I am sorry you had a tough time. My husband never had sex with his ex. We met in Iraq and then we went to St. Lucia to be married. My husband never even came home, he returned to Iraq. Then he went to enlist in the military and was gone from Iraq to Texas. So when all the crap was going on he was never in town. I returned home from Iraq for good and met the movers to move our things to Texas. I also was married before and my 1st. husband cheated and so I am a seasoned vet of surviving a cheating relationship. My new husband has never cheated on me. This girl was mad because my husband married me and not her.

Caroline - posted on 04/06/2012

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Emma, Hi. No, you cannot message the company to take off your info. No matter what you have

phone line in your home, if you buy or rent a place your info becomes part of the information highway on the computer. Also I learned today that if you are on social networks and you put private settings so no one sees you, it does not work. People are still able to see who you are and what you do. Just thought I would let you know that. I am not too computer savy, so I do not go on the sites at all.

Caroline - posted on 04/06/2012

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Hi Everyone! I just went to the Google website and I looked up my name and the site made it so easy to do this. The site you may want to check out is called Spokeo. It has everything there. You can look up addresses and phone numbers and names whatever. Your info is ready for any crazy person to get their hands on.

Caroline - posted on 04/06/2012

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Hi Johanna,

Yes, we have had numerous restraining order on this woman! Too many times to count.

Caroline - posted on 04/06/2012

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Emma,

Hi. We did get unlisted number and we had other initials for our cable but as we found out, this does not help.

Caroline - posted on 04/06/2012

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Tina,

Hi . We have threatened legal action and we did get papers signed and we went to court. Also we got a restraining order to keep her away from us but the case was thrown out because she kept moving around and the court could not find her. When she broke into our home she had the court documents and she tore them up and told me that she didn't go because she didn't think I was the one who went to court to get her served since i didn't know her. WTF1?? Whatever, she would be at our home as we later found out. At night she would sleep on our porch and when I would get up in the morning there would be Black and Mild cigars and liqueur on the porch. After we moved away our neighbor had told us he had seen her sleeping on our porch. So now she wants to go on Judge Mathis show to press charges on my husband in small claims court for pain and suffering. SERIOUSLY?? I tell you we are soo tired of her shitt.

Caroline - posted on 04/06/2012

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K.R-

Thank you for your words they do help. As you have stated yes, I do now know that she is able to get our info so easily. I am now more aware and my husband and i are really vigilant about our info. Since we live on a closed base we have googled our home address and nothing. I am so happy. I hope someday she moves on but I am sorry to say she may not. She may lay and wait until we get orders to go back home. My mother in law tells me that she sees her walking on the street sometimes. I tell her that is enough. It feels like gorrilla warfare. You never know where she pops up

but when you least expect it there she is. Thank you for your words. I do understand what your saying. So Thanks!

Caroline - posted on 04/06/2012

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KR. Hi there! Yes, you are so right. Everything is online now so there is hardley anything you can do to stay safe. Which is why people are able to steal info and identities. But for now we are doing good. Other than the Judge mathis thing we don't hear from her so that is good. We have life lock and we monitor what happens with our info. I must say through all of this crap I have become very aware of my info and who sees it. I am not afraid of this person but I am afraid because we have a child at home. She is soo unpredictable that I can never figure out what kinds of things she is thinking of next. This girl punches cops and breaks into our home and keeps threatening that she would kill me....... So now I say what the hell? I am glad for Life lock. Remember that if you have cable bills or utility bills or rent a place it is all online.

Caroline - posted on 04/06/2012

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Hi Sally,

Yes, I must agree that exes can be a real pain. In our area that we live the police have told us to keep a record of the things this girl does but there is no way to prosecute her with out proof of her doing something. Even though she violates our privacy by not respecting boundries and we have told her numerous times to leave us alone, there is no law saying she cannot call our house. SO when she keeps getting our phone number it is not a crime in the eyes of the law. Believe me if I had the power to get her put away for a long time i would do just that. My husband and I even think of filing stalking charges but when she gets a summons to go to court she disappears. I don't think she will ever go away. my husband and I know that we can never live in the town where his parents live because she will never leave us alone.

K. - posted on 04/06/2012

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I don't know what I did to get my info up there, but it's there.Bottom line is if someone wants to find you, they will quite simply find you.

K. - posted on 04/05/2012

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Nothing too suspicious about her getting your number over and over again. I had an unlisted number and thought that was enough, but my ex-boyfriend kept finding us. Over and over again. And this was after numerous moves from state to state (my husband is in the military too). I would get so frustrated at his ability to constantly find us, until I was venting to a friend about it one day and she says "Well all you have to do is google your name and up pops your address." WTF?!?! Sure enough I googled, and there I was. Plain as day. So the fact that she keeps getting the phone number is not surprising or suspicious at all. This is the digital age. If you think calling your phone company and requesting an unlisted number is all it takes you're wrong unfortunately. If people want to find you there are a million and one ways to find you. Crappy but true. Thank God you're on base though. That's the one thing now that's giving me a sense of relief, that he can't get on this base if he wanted to. That and a gun in the house of course. Good luck with this psycho b****. I know what you're going through.

Tina - posted on 04/05/2012

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What a nightmare. I'd be threatening legal action myself to those harrassing you.

Tina - posted on 04/05/2012

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What a nightmare. I'd be threatening legal action myself to those harrassing you.

Stifler's - posted on 04/05/2012

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I want to know how she's getting your number. Sounds sus to me. Maybe get a private number.

Caroline - posted on 04/04/2012

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Tina,

Hi, well I guess it has been a little bit so let me catch you up. LOL... No, I don't think this whole situation is funny but the crazy bitch is. I had called my mother -in- law to get the number to the person at Jude Mathis show and I told her that we will NOT be coming on the show. The person at the show was very pushy and she kept saying well, we can help you out with this small claims that the psycho ex-girlfriend took out on my husband. I guess her whole case was for pain and suffering. What pain and suffering? If anyone should be claiming anything it should be us. This girl got cell phones in my husband's name and never paid the bill at 3500.00 then she kept trying to find out where we live by pretending to be me and calling the insurance agency we have to get our address from them, she call our local phone company and try to get our address from them so she could come to our home, and she did come to our home and broke in and assulted me and then I put her in jail. We move out of state and she still keeps trying to find us. It is so crazy how this all works. And the police can do nothing until there is physical evidence against her. We can never live in the same town as my in laws because the crazy bitch now lives there since she had found out we use to live there. She needs to be locked up and on medication. My husband and I are really scared that this civil lawsuit for whatever is to get us out in the open and we don't know what weapon she has. She definately wants us gone for good. Crazy huh?

Tina - posted on 03/31/2012

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It's amazing how people like this go without mental health care and keep flying under the raidar and causing hell for people

Caroline - posted on 03/31/2012

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Hi Tina,

I like how you think, LOL... I have gone to my space and I got a picture of her and I enlarged it so that I could put the picture with a statement when I go to let the MPs ( military police) know about her. I also send a picture and a statement to our phone and cable provider. So I am trying to do all I can to protect us from this crazy person. After nearly 4 years that my husband and I have been married and with all the moving around, she still will not stop. I know crazy huh? LOL.....

Tina - posted on 03/31/2012

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Atleast you're in a some what safe area. That's a plus. Unfortunately there's probably not much else you can do. The law isn't exactly tough on these sort of people even where I'm from. I guess the main thing would be especially if you were ever to move is make sure that people in your area can keep an eye out on your house and family as well. Make sure they know what she looks like so that someone will hopefully recognise her if she goes near you or your family again. Your other family members might want to do that to. Like your mother in law just to be on the safe side.

Caroline - posted on 03/30/2012

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Hi Joanna,

Yes, we have had numerous restraining orders and she didn't go to the hearing on purpose. She had the restraining order in her hand when she came and broke into our home. You know looking back every morning that I would open the door there would be cigarettes on our porch and I don't smoke neither do any of our family so maybe she had been coming over to our home long before I knew that she was watching us. Our neighbors would tell us she would be across the street sitting and writing on paper. SO she watched every move we made until she got the guts to try to break in our home. I filed charges on her and she went to jail for a few weeks and that was it. I know crazy huh? LOL... I am a strong woman and when my family is being threatened I will be that momma bear in every sense. At least we are in CO so it is far enough from NC.

Caroline - posted on 03/30/2012

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Hi Tina, Yes, my husband is telling the truth. My mother-in-law has told me the same thing and so did the rest of the family. My husband had two women in his life the crazy one and me. He married me. I truely feel she cannot move on. My husband thinks if you ignore her she will go away but she is always in the back of my mind. As you have stated I am not sure what else I can do. I am really vigilant and I never let my guard down as far as she is concerned. The one nice thing is we live on a military base and it is locked down. You have to have a military id to get on or you do not enter the base. So for now the base is our saving grace. If you live on a post or a base our number or address is not posted so she cannot Google our address.

Caroline - posted on 03/29/2012

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PART 2- SO while we are in Texas she is crank calling my husband and I telling us she is pregnant with his child and he needs to call her. I laughed at her because she was so stupid. I finally told her that we knew it was her and to stop calling. Now it has been almost 4 years since my husband and I have been married and we live in Colorado and she has called the Judge Mathis show and gives them my mother-in-law's phone number to contact us, because she wants to talk to my husband. Now I ask you, Do you think she is crazy? Will she ever move on? I can tell you I am tired of her and her crap. Can anyone give me some suggestions as to what to do?

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