Does babysitting keep teens from getting pregnant?

Katherine - posted on 03/24/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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There's plenty of debate about just when to broach the topic of birth control with your teens. At puberty? When they get a boyfriend/girlfriend? When they're married? Let's hold it right there. Because the answer is much, much simpler than that.

What if there was a birth control for your kids that you didn't have to provide? That didn't require any awkward "Mom and Dad did this" conversation? AND your kids could actually make money off of said birth control? You'd be all over that like white on rice, right?

Ah, behold oh parents of teenagers. Miracle birth control does exist. You simply know it by its other name.

Babysitting.

The one thing guaranteed to scare your horny teenager from ever making the beast with two backs ... ever. Because as my teen babysitter told me once, "After spending a day [with a child], I can't imagine coming HOME to it." Fortunately she wasn't talking about my kid (at least so she says ... and I'd like to think it's more than the cash that keeps her coming back).

Really it's a two-fold thing. They spend the day with a baby who urinates in their face or a toddler who responds to "don't hit your sister" with "I HATE you, and I'm telling my Mommy!" Be advised: the more obnoxious the child you can find for your teen to put in his or her time with, the worse childrearing will look. Think of this while scouring the neighborhood for a prime candidate. The more annoying you find your neighbor's kid, the better they will be for your teenager's new job.

But that's just the half of it. Because after spending a day with a 7-year-old boy who likes to beat her about the head with Beyblades, your teen will stand face-to-face with a haggard beast otherwise known as "the mom." We're the ones who adore our kids and secretly harbor the thought "I can't imagine coming HOME to it." And we're there, doling out the cash, and scaring the crap out of a teenage girl with our tales of road map stomachs and, ahem, vaginal tearing.

And Mom and Dad, let me tell you, there is nothing less sexy than a torn vagina. So there it is. Hit up the listservs. It's time to get your teens a babysitting job. It can even put them through college.


Great idea. Never thought much about it. Seems like it WOULD deter them. What do you think?

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Bonnie - posted on 03/24/2011

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I would say yes and no; it depends on the person. Some find babies and children in general even more cute after they have spent hours with them and it makes them want one of their own even more. Then there are other teens who realise in the end that it is not all that and a bowl or cherries.

For some, in the heat of the moment, the last thing on their mind is babies and possibly getting pregnant.

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April - posted on 03/25/2011

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Most teens don't want to get pregnant, it just ends up happening that way. So i'm sure the ones who babysit aren't thinking it will happen to them anyway. I wanted to have my first baby at 30, i ended up getting pregnant at 19.

For the teens who do want to get pregnant (for whatever reason) who babysit will most likely think that if they had their own baby they wouldn't behave or act in a naughty way. Their child would be perfect. I have heard a lot of the teens who want to get pregnant say that.

Will babysitting stop teens from having sex for fear of getting pregnant? I don't think so.

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I agree with Heather - teenagers aren't thinking anything through - they certainly aren't thinking about having a baby when they're having sex - get real!

Anyway, the automatic connection between sex and getting pregnant was broken many years ago now with birth control.

Katherine - posted on 03/25/2011

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I guess it depends on who you ask. I babysat at 12 and didn't have kids until 30.
Who's to say you're really thinking about that when you have sex though?
Yeah, it's really only this bloggers opinion.

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Yeah I don't think it makes a big difference I babysat every weekend and every day after school from the time I was 12 until...oh wait I still babysit most holidays and weekends lol. For me I had a newborn sibling to babysit and young cousins and next thing I knew I was being loaned out to every parent in town once I completed my babysitting course I started charging 4 bux an hour but until I was 14 I did it for free. The kids ranged from infant to 6 years old there were brats and sweethearts, twins and sick kids, I really got quite a bit of experience with a lot of things I have yet to have to deal with as a mother. So yeah some days I thought urgh I'll never have kids but most days taking care of little ones was just part of my life. I delivered my son at 19 years old so technically still a teen but my decision to have kids really had nothing to do with my involvement with them up until then. As for my kids babysitting oh yeah I'll push it but not as birth control but as preparation for when they are older, done school, married and have kids of their own. I know that if I hadn't had some sort of experience and comfort with regard to kids and babies the idea of having my own would have terrified me I liked being somewhat prepared for what I was in store for. To this day I babysit quite a bit even though I have a toddler and a bun in the oven, I have no intention of making a career out of it and I probably wouldn't last 5 minutes in an actual daycare but babysitting has always just been one of those things for me, no big deal. Gotta add though for any ladies who send their daughters out to babysit as birth control really explain that babysitting even a sick child, even for a whole weekend, even if theres a bunch of them running around, it still is like comparing apples and oranges. Babysitting has NOTHING on motherhood, being mom though rewarding in many ways doesn't end at such and such o clock there is no person to call if you can't hack the pressure and even if they're not getting paid lol it'd be a good idea to fill them in on how much money having a baby will cost them.

Casey - posted on 03/24/2011

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I guess it depends on the teenager for some it would probably be a great idea and would really make them think twice about having a baby of their own but I guess there are some teens out there who still really want to go through with being a teen mum and I think for those teens nothing is going to put them off, but hey if I had a teenage daughter I would try anything to put them off having babies untill they were much much older.

Sarah - posted on 03/24/2011

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I'm on the fence on this one. I had a babysitting job back when I was 14-16 and I got pregnant at 16...so in my case, it didn't prevent it. I think it has a lot to do with the parents. My mother was/is bi-polar and was going thru constant mood swings, plus never really related to me as a mother, she was always trying to be my friend instead. My stepfather was an alcoholic, so therefore, he was never around to spend any time with us and when he was, he was usually beating my mom or yelling at us kids. So, I think it has alot to do with the parenting. How you spend time w/your kids and how involved you are in their every day lives. I strongly suggest that fathers get more involved with their daughters and make a committment to be involved. Don't just 'be there', you have to talk to her, ask her questions, explain to her how boys her age act and why they seem to always want sex....stuff like that. I think if I actually had good parents (I still love my mother dearly and I understand why she wasn't as good as she could've been) maybe I would'nt have had to go looking for attention in my boyfriend...and maybe I wouldn't have made the choice of not being careful during sex. I wish my mother would've taught me more about it...
So, with my girls, I will teach them (currently teaching this to them now) that they can always come to me with any question about anything. They can always tell me their feelings about anything, no matter what. I will also teach them how to have self control...and how to say 'no' to any advances they may get from boys. So....that's what my opinion is...

Lady Heather - posted on 03/24/2011

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You would think that it would make a huge difference, but I have noticed that some teenagers just don't connect A with B. They aren't thinking about getting pregnant when they have sex, just like they aren't thinking they're going to wrap themselves around a telephone pole when they're driving like ninnies. It might stop some kids from deliberately having babies, but it's not always going to stop kids from making dumb choices because that just seems to be what a lot of teens do.

Caitlin - posted on 03/24/2011

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I taught swimming lessons and worked day camp with kids in my teens, and said it's not so bad cause I can drink away my paycheck and give the kids back at the end of the lesson/day.

I never babysat officially, never really liked kids, but decided to start my family when I was 22.. I guess it's different for everyone, i figured if it's my kid, it's not so bad.. (and I love my girls...)

Don't think babysiotting/not baby sitting had anything to do with my choice when to have a family.

Nikki - posted on 03/24/2011

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I did a lot of babysitting and I didn't have a baby until I was 28, and it possibly a contributing factor to why I didn't have babies earlier. I had no life from about 10-16 years of age because my mum and dad had 3 babies during that time and she was really sick so I did every thing for them, including all the house work and dinner for 6 years. I even had to come home from school in my lunch break and feed my mum who was bedridden for some time. So I think the reason I had no interest in babies is more so because I wanted my own life and to have some fun first. Funnily I think about what I got up to during my wild years, a baby seems like the lesser of the evils!

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I did alot of babysitting all through jr high and highschool and i still ended up pregnant senior year.. i dont know it can show a young person the effects of having a child and what you put up with, when i was younger i actually talked at a school regarding teen pregnancies and girls asked me question about how life is.. i told them.. your friends wont understand why you dont have time to party your a mom now, you dont get to go out whenever you want, and you have to pay ababysitter if you do... things that will affect them... its not just going shopping and dressing up a doll all day

Rosie - posted on 03/24/2011

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i did a lot of babysitting when i was younger, and no it didn't deter me from doing it. i started having sex at 14 and was pregnant at the age of 20. how i managed to not get pregnant the first few months i was having sex is beyond me, i wasn't on any birthcontrol and condoms were not even thought of. after my mom found a note with me talking about sex to one of my friends, she forced me to go on the pill.

Sara - posted on 03/24/2011

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I did a lot of babysitting in high school, and then again for my sisters when I was in college, and I would say that YES, it kept me from wanting to have children when I was younger...they're exhausting!

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