Does Early Sex Ed. lead to early sexual activity?

Jenni - posted on 03/20/2011 ( 14 moms have responded )

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Spin off from another debate.

What is your opinion on the causes of early sexual activity in pre-teens and teens.

Why are teens becoming sexually active earlier and cases of teen pregnancy on the increase in today's society?

Does early sex education play a role?

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JuLeah - posted on 03/20/2011

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Being human leads to sexual activity. Ignorance leads to illness, unwanted babies, and pain.



Teens are not becoming sexually active earlier .... think about, not about people in our culture, but who we really are. We are of the animal kingdom, we are human beings.



Go back in our history .... people as young as 14 were mothers and fathers .... all animals have young ones when they are sexually mature.



We have imposed, in this culture, rules and codes of behavior that go against nature. We invented the concept of 'teenager' - actually Disney did in the 50's. But that imposed concept doesn't change the wiring in our brains.





Our current sex ed is not worth the time or trouble, in my opinion. We need to teach the kids about sexuality, not sex. I mean it is good to know how the body works, but ... how to respect yourself, how to date, how to talk about sex with your gf/bf, how to say no, how to say yes, how to set limits .... we put so much shame and guilt around sex, no wonder our kids don't want to talk about it with us.



They are in adult bodies being asked to be children.



What other animal keeps thier sexually mature youngster from have a child of thier own?



In our recent history, brides of 16 were not uncommon ... go back further and you have 14 yr old mothers ... in many places you still do.



There is nothing wrong with our kids, except they are confused. The battle between culture and nautre is being fought within each of them and they don't understand the imposed rules that defy instinct.



I think, until we look at this and address it honestly, we will continue to have the mess we have.



As long as we continue to connect shame and guilt with the human sexual experiance, we will have teens in trouble.



Now, I don't want my daughter to have a child at age 14. I am not saying that. But, I will help her to udnerstand the feelings are natural and normal. I will teach her more then just sex. I want her to feel empowered and strong, proud, and joyfull about the whole thing. From that place she will be able to make the choices best for her life.



I have watched kids raised with this kind of education make amazingly mature choices, have open and honest conversations with their parents and with their gf/bf. They have been given the tools they need for the culture they live in. We owe our kids that.

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Oh, I misread the question. You were asking if early sex ed led to early sex activity.... Oops. Nope, I believe just the opposite. That knowledge is power and if you have the knowledge and know the life changing and even deadly consequences (and that NO birth control is 100%).... you will be less likely to engage in sexual activity at a young age. No guarantee, of course, just less likely.

Lady Heather - posted on 07/25/2011

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Totally agree with everything JuLeah said. My cousin was raised that way and I was shocked by the openness of the conversations we had together with her mother on my recent visit there. She's 18, has a boyfriend she's been with for a few months now and we're all sitting around talking about how she's not feeling like she's ready to take that step yet and asking for opinions on birth control, natural family planning to help out even more (we come from a very fertile family, myself excepted - ha), etc.for when she is ready. She said she wanted to be fully educated on the subject so she wouldn't end up taking unnecessary risks. HA. I don't think I've ever had that kind of in depth, mature discussion with a teenager before.

Note to self: Do what my aunt and uncle did because it obviously worked. And it definitely included early and ongoing sex ed.

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I totally agree. Give them something positive to do and keep them busy and they're alot less likely to do things they shouldn't. Where I lived as a child the schools were poor so there was very little extracurricular activity, families were poor and the majority had bad home lives. It was a horrible place for a teenager with nothing to do and little, if any, emotional support so all of the teens smoked pot, which was free bc you grow it in your back yard, and had sex to entertain themselves. I knew alot of girls who had 2 kids by 10th grade. That was the twisted culture there.

We may be the only species who denies their young engaging in sexual activity but that's bc we are people, not wild animals. It's a completely different dynamic. A 14 year old may be physically mature enough to give birth but there is no way she is emotionally mature enough or mentally equipped to deal with raising a baby, Most of the girls I knew then had their mothers caring for their babies....which is what their mothers did, too. It's a cycle from generations back that was never broken.

Johnny - posted on 03/20/2011

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Well said Juleah. I think we deny the sexuality of our youth at our peril. Biologically, it is one of the most sexual times of a person's lifespan. I do not want my daughter to have sex or procreate as a teen either, but openly addressing her feelings and teaching her to understand her own sexuality, like my parents did for me, will hopefully help her to make decisions that are best for her heart, soul, and body.

In my local school district, sex ed has been comprehensive and starts at an early age since I was in school. When I was in grade six, we had a sexual health counselor who came in every month or so for the next couple of years to do different sessions on everything from basic sex ed, to puberty issues, how babies are made, STD protection, personal & spiritual issues around sex, etc. She worked in many schools in our area. There were not many teens having babies when I was in school. I only knew one or two kids who were having sex in grades 8-10, and they had very problematic family lives. Otherwise, I only knew a few girls who were having sex in high school at all, and they had waited until grade 12. No one I knew at my school or any of the other neighborhood schools had a baby. In our city of a million, there was two special high school programs for teen moms. They were so under-utilized that one was shut down. So I tend to think that the comprehensive, early sexual education is working.

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Jennifer - posted on 07/25/2011

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The reason that Teen Sex and pregnancy is on the rise is because it is depicted everywhere but no one is actually talking about it. It is an unknown and teens are curious so they will engage in sexual activity. There is also an increase in parents who don't have the time to raise their children so these teens (especially girls) tend to look for love through sexual experiences. To most teenage girls sex = love and unfortunately there are not enough people willing to tell them that to most males, this just isn't the case.

I don't think that sex education is leading to an increase in sexual teenagers. I think it is just the opposite. If we take the taboo out of it and talk about it openly and honestly, there would be less sexual promiscuity in the teen years. We need MORE sexual education, not only for the kids but for the parents. Parents need to talk to their kids about sex and make sure their kids are comfortable talking to them about it. Let the kids know that they CAN choose to have sex but there are consequences for everything just as there is in life. Provide protection so it is easy for them to get if they choose to have sex. This is not telling them to go have sex but it takes away the mystery of it all.

My daughter is 17 and still a virgin and she is planning to wait until she gets into a lifelong relationship before having sex. She made that choice and I have given her the tools to make that choice. She knows she can talk to me about anything and I think our open communication about the topic has given her the ability to choose to abstain.

Ez - posted on 03/21/2011

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Sex ed is not the reason for early sexual activity. The culprits (at least where I live) are boredom, apathy, lack of ambition and poor family situations. Give kids something productive to do and they are less likely to get caught up in teenage sex and pregnancy.

I had a graduating high school class of about 150 and there was not one teen pregnancy (well none that resulted in babies, anyway). It was a G & T school, with strong sports, music and drama programs. Some girls started having sex in Year 10, but most not til later, and many not at all while at high school. The overwhelming majority of my classmates had involved, engaged parents. They had academic motivation. They had plans for their lives that didn't involve becoming a parent at 15.

The sex ed we had throughout primary and high school seemed to work for us.

Stifler's - posted on 03/20/2011

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I agree with JuLeah. They have the body parts, they want to use them! I especially agree with the moral codes and what other species denies their sexually mature young children of their own bit. So true. Earlier puberty probably plays a role in the people getting pregnant younger i.e 12 year olds getting pregnant and less social shame (they used to send young mothers off to homes to give birth so as not to bring shame on the family etc. if they weren't married or forced them to get married) if they get pregnant also than back in the day.

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Wow Johnny, that is amazing! Where is this school? When I was in school girls were having sex and babies at 14 years old. We lived in a very repressed area with a very high teen pregnancy and drop out rate, also a very high unemployment rate. That place was horrible and I was so happy to move away from that hole in the earth. When my aunt took custody of me and I was moved to NC and to a new school, things were so different. My old school was in southern Ohio, near the West Virginia border and it was the stereotypical "West Virginia hillbilly, 14 year old brides" type of town. When I went to my new school I was amazed that none of the freshman girls had babies, no one was married, kids were in drama club, swim team and cool things like that...things I didn't know existed. I think alot of teen sexuality comes from the culture of where they are living and a huge part of it is parent involvement. Yes, at 14 years old these kids are becoming sexually mature but they aren't emotionally mature enough to handle the responsibility that comes with being sexually active. A 14 year old isn't mature enough to be a mother and isn't mature enough to be diligent about using protection.

Mrs. - posted on 03/20/2011

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I agree with teaching about sexuality, instead of sex ed (just the function and anatomy). The history of sexuality, the pros/cons of choices, the emotional issues that go along with developing as into an adult, etc..

However, some is better than none and I don't think it causes teens to have sex earlier. IMHO I think it is more likely due to a lack of understanding about what sex will do for you. I know sex is seen is a lot of instances as a cure all to loneliness, feelings of self worth and a lack of attention from an absent parent.

Jessica - posted on 03/20/2011

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I think when it comes down to it, parenting is the main factor in what your kids do and how they go about it. If they are going to do it young, best to be educated. I also think that alot of it has to do with the our society over glorifying sex in everything we see and hear as far as movies, music, games, etc.

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Keep in mind this opinion is coming from someone w/ NO experience w/ teens.... other then when I was one (and I definitely wasn't 'normal').

There are many reasons and they probably vary between the teens, but some..... Lack of sex ed, lack of enough supervision, too much freedom (do whatever), not enough freedom (rebellion), lack of positive male role models, lack of religion, rebellion against religion. and, of course, raging hormones.

I'm sure there are other reasons that I've missed, but I think that covers a wide enough variety of reasons.

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