Does god forgive?

Elisabeth - posted on 05/16/2013 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I been having problems with my mother in law not so long ago my husband and I had a big fight and I told him to leave the house I understand that maybe it wasent the best choise but what could I do when he always avoided talking things out in the end I had in off of his verbal abuse and immaturity I kicked him out. its been a week and he has been finally talking things out with me he tells me that his going to try to change for us and our one year old baby that he wants to come back but my mother in law has been telling him all this week that the reason we fight and stuff is because we are not close to god that its my fault because I'm not religious. Now growing up, yes my parents were close to god but due to us being poor they both had to work and slowly we stooped going we would still talk about it at home but I made the choice of just not believing anymore my husband knew this when we meet. In the end he wants to come back but he tells me that in order for us to be happy we have to go to church and he strongly wants me to believe in god almost trying to force me yet I told him that that I will go to church with him to support his beliefs but he will never force me to do something I'm not comfortable with. The point of my story is that I feel my mother in law is being a bit hips critical because I don't think it's right for her to get in our relationship espeshaly using god as an excuse when she knows her relationship is not so good . What do you think I should do about this. I'm confused I'm sad I don't want our relationship to end like this and if it does I want to end it in a good way because I know his his not a bad guy but my question is does god forgive because my mother in law has sin so much how she keep preaching all this things to my husband and I and claims god is with her and that she's so close to god but yet do so many wrong things? It just made me so mad when he actually told my husband that I had another man in school when I kicked him out but no one is telling her anything about cheating on her husband and abandoning her children drinking and so on. My husband and I know that I did not leave him cuz i cheat it was because of our fighting but yes does god forgive???

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Dear Elizabeth
My husband and I have now been married for 15 years and our first year was difficult. It was ww3 in our home. He is an only child and Igrew up with 6 brothers and I am from Finland (strong european) At first it got me so shaken that I found myself lost, confused scared and feeling alone with no answers. I finally realized that I will get no where until I get my confidence back and leave all emotions aside. I sat my husband down and said "This is going to get ugly,we won't like it but we R going to communicate. You tell me what your thinking I'll tell you what I am thinking without interuptions." It has to be a conversation where there is plain open truth no emotions, no reacting to the other persons response open honest sharing. Your marriage can make it if you both stop using emotions tocommunicate. Shouting arguing is not sharing. People seem to be afraid to be honest with eachother. Don't get caught up on what the mother in law is doing Focus ONLY on you and your family. God never forced anything on anyone. God wants only those who want the relationship. Going to church and knowing God through your husband is not going to get you to heaven or improve your relationship. A personal desire to know God alone gets you there. I was prepared to leave my husband that day I confronted him IF he wasn't prepared to communicate without shouting being angry or yelling. If I won't let a stranger communicate that way to me then I won't let anyone. Both sides have to learn to listen without commenting to what they hear. The information you share is non negotionable. Everything shared is to be heard and understood. "FOOD FOR THOUGHT" It's so you hear what eachother is thinking. Good luck You will choose God when YOU know its the right time. Good luck. I will be thinking of you.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/17/2013

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Well, Dove answered the first part. As far as you not believing in God, that has nothing to do with your relationship. There are many people of different faiths in marriages that work just fine. You don't have to believe in God to love your husband, your child, or yourself. And certainly no one should be guilting you into believing in something that you don't. That will just breed resentment. Your mother in law needs to get out of your relationship, and you and your husband should seriously seek marriage counseling. Clearly he needs it as much as you do in order to put things into perspective. Good luck.

Dove - posted on 05/17/2013

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I'm not going to get into anything except your question. Yes, God forgives. I have absolutely no idea what is really in your MIL'S heart, so I can't say anything about that. I do not agree with the way she is going after you, but just know that what is or isn't in her heart is between her and God. I do think that sometimes people use God as an excuse for all kinds of things... and that is sad.

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Elisabeth - posted on 05/21/2013

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Thank you so much lady's :) I have talked to my husband and we worked some things out the rest is up to time to fix and ever since we talked things have been different his also not forcing me to anything ether because I had a chat with my mother in law and it turns out she did not care much for me but in the end we are still family and she agreed to stay out of my marriage and my husband agreed to be a man and responsible also I agreed to go to concealing As a family so ill see how things work out

Alura - posted on 05/21/2013

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Did you ask him why he feels forcing you to go to church is gonna help anything? I think that's just ignoring the issues and a very lame attempt to fix things... obviously creating more issues as well.. I don't think that's fair how he knew from the beginning you were not religious and not interested in church(?) and now later after having a child pushing religion on you as a solution to your marriage problems. And yes, god does forgive..

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Elizabeth
I forgot to share that YES God does forgive when we ask Him to. It's sad but we DO have people who call themselves Christian talk about God but do Everything a christian is NOT supposed to. The bible clearly states that when a man and woman get married the cord from parent to child is cut YET some parents forget to cut the ambilical cord. :) The bible also says that sun shines on evil and good. Try not getting too caught up worrying about the SINS of others we all have too many of our own. But always stand up for yourself and this can always be done respectfully. There is no need for swearing yelling and keeping bad feelings or anger towards someone. No ones sin is above the other. It is always easier to point out the faults of another but we ourselves are not perfect. In my marriage I clearly understood it would be a life time of good bad ugly and alot of forgiving even when we don't think it's deserved. There is NO perfect person so there is NO perfect marriage. I wish the best for you and your precious daughter.

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