Does your man look after himself?

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Just looking around at the men I see, I notice that if you look at guys above about the age of 40, they nearlly all have pot bellies.

My husband has been very skinny at times in the past because he had severe food intolerances, but other times he just lets himself go. He eats and eats like crazy and doesn't seem to worry at all about it. Luckily he likes riding his bike and gets some physical activity through his work, but if it wasn't for that, I think he'd just keep on growing sideways.

Do the men in your life care about their weight, and do they do anything about it?


Lady Heather - posted on 10/09/2012




I feel badly for my husband in this regard. He was set up really poorly by his parents. They overfed him as a kid and he was the overweight guy at school. Now he's lighter but he still has a hard time with it because he works crazy long hours and is often out of town in these crazy places in the boonies where there isn't any decent food. He doesn't really have time for an exercise routine of any sort. Fortunately the food at our house is always very healthy and we get out for family walks on the nights he's here. It's not enough though and I don't really know what to do to help him. He's 29 and already sort of behind. At least he's not as bad as his brother who yo-yos around in a 100lb range.

I will say this though - his general health is insanely better than mine. I'm a busted up mess, despite being much thinner. He's insanely strong and he doesn't get sick. Also his shoulders and arms are solid muscle and that's pretty hot. Ha. I just really wish he wasn't raised the way he was. It's taken me 11 years to teach him about proper portion sizes. That's kind of mom and dad's department.


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Aleks - posted on 10/15/2012




My man, 41 with a very slim and slender build, a middle distance runner (used to do 10-15km fun runs every other week, etc). Loved jogging. Plays baseball, currently. Typically very active type lifestyle (used to play tennis as a youngster and also running).

He is currently about 2-3kg overweight (and about 5kgs from his ideal weight). He has a pot/beer belly (I call it my buddha Partially, because of his posture which potrudes his stomach forward (ie, lower back curved inward) and also being very flat chested, makes his belly seem/look to be a lot bigger than it is.

He gets depressed about it (and his weight as well) and has made attempts to correct it, but unfortunatelly won't change his eating (and drinking) habbits, which are mostly the cause of his weight gain. No, it hasn't helped that he has also stopped running/jogging because of the numerous and almost constant injuries he was getting from even a quick 15min jog around the neighborhood. Currently he has purchased an exercise machine which is low impact (so as to not aggrivate his frequent leg injuries from his running days) and he has used it. Even tried to get into regular routine with it, but I think he has stopped that at the moment - too many stressors at work, which means he is mostly in work mode ALL OF THE TIME that he is awake (NOT FUN for the rest of us either, trust me :-\ ).

Hopefully, he will get back into the routine of using the machine daily soon. Which I should do as well tbh... Just haven't made that step yet......

Alicia - posted on 10/14/2012




My husband is 39 and hideously over weight. he cares enormously about it and is very self conscious. But he does nothing about it. he is almost 300 lb and 6 foot 2 he eats diet everything artificial this and that. I am 5 foot 5 and 130 and do heaps of exercise eat enormous quantities of unmeasured calories and full fat everything. its going to be one of the major ending our marriage points!

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yes. mine works out at least 3 days a week. he is paranoid abo9ut getting fat even though i think it isn't physically possibloe for him to get fat.

Sal - posted on 10/11/2012




When we meet he used to dye over his greys and get various bits waxed, he is all natural now and looks good

Sal - posted on 10/11/2012




My hubby is 46 tall and lean, he used to be really fit jogging gym and was pretty skinny now he has a family and is short on time he doesn't work out or jog but is still lean, a cute little Tummy but no big issue I think he looks better a bit bulkier at. 6"3 and 80kg he was a bit boney to cuddle up to now he is maybe 87kg. And looks good Quiet frankly I'm jealouse, if love his metabolism

Jenni - posted on 10/11/2012




Yes, my husband cares a lot about his physical appearance. He's 34 years old. He eats a lot though, but he's 6'4 and 215 lbs and works a physical job so he needs to. He also does strength training 3 days a week and plays sports (mostly basketball) so he's pretty fit. He does go up in weight during the winter and gets a little soft but then come the spring cuts down his portion sizes and it just seems to fall right off him.

I think he cares a lot about the way he looks because in highschool and university he was suffering from undiagnosed Chrone's disease. He was sickly skinny. If I remember correctly, his lowest weight was 145 lbs. He showed me a picture of himself in a bathing suit at the time and you could literally see every bone in his body. Once he was diagnosed and got his operation, he was finally able to gain weight again and started working out because for the longest time he had to cope with being extremely underweight.

But yes, he cares about his appearance... he tans (although I don't agree with it and am always harping on him to wear sunblock), he works out, watches his weight, cares a lot about what he wears and dresses trendy, his hair being did and cleanliness.

Rosie - posted on 10/11/2012




my hubby has always been a man who has a trimmer waist, but a huge chest and shoulder area. he could stand to lose some fat around the middle, hes got love handles, but it's just how he's always been. he's 6 ft tall and weighs around 225 lbs., and considered obese by BMI standards, but when our health insurance company does our annual physical his waist size is always under the requirements. he did gain a lot of weight after his car accident in 2006 and was immoble for months. he ended up at 260. but he lost it all and weighs what he's always weighed.

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hubby's only 24, going on 25, but he is too vain to let himself go. he worries a lot about how he looks and he likes to look good every time he leaves the house and if he forgets to wash his hair or gel it or something he gets so embarrassed. the only thing he doesn't seem to pay attention to as much as he should are his nails. he forgets to trim them and it gets pretty horrible. i have to get onto him about that stuff. ugh.

he has a tiny pot belly that is only ever noticeable when he's shirtless, but it's really only because he has underdeveloped pectorals. or at least that's how he justifies it. but i don't mind at all, it's adorable and comfy.

Nikki - posted on 10/09/2012




My hubby is 35, he is a slim build but if he doesn't look after himself he gets a pot belly. He is very anal about of it and as soon as he notices it he works it off. I cannot imagine him ever being fat.

Momma - posted on 10/08/2012




My husband is 36 (going on 37) and quite in-tune with his body. When I met him he was a body builder. He was going to the gym on a daily basis for about 7 years. After we bought our house he stopped going but he bought a home gym and tries to use it as much as he can - harder with a little one running around and will be even harder when this one arrives in February. However, his work is constant walking, too. He works in a warehouse and walks a good 5 of the 9 hours he is there. The other 4 hours he is on a lift. He is also always doing something around the house and goes for a bike ride, with our boy, every single day when it is nice out.

He is also conscious of what he eats. He rarely eats junk and only eats until he is full. He does indulge at times. He LOVES cheesecake! LOL He is not head over heels of his body, at all. He is just aware and he takes care of himself.

My man is HOT and has a damn sexy body (and oh boy, he has a tight ass)! ;)


He also goes to the dentist every 6 months. He didn't before I met him. He only went when he had to. When he finally went, like I asked him to, he had 6 cavities!!

He does not like the doctor, either. I have to force him to do that, too. I usually make the appt. then he goes.

I will say that my husband is wonderful in every way possible. I am a very lucky lady. Which is why I waited 35 years to get married. ;)


Tabitha - posted on 10/08/2012




Mine has a belly but he loves his beer! Otherwise hes not over weight anywhere else.

Sally - posted on 10/08/2012




There's a lot more to health than the shape of your tummy. Being too fat can be unhealthy, but so can being too thin and obsessing either way is a lot more unhealthy that just enjoying the shape that is right for you. There is no magic size or weight number that is healthy for all people. Some of us are naturally bigger or smaller and trying to change that is going to make us much sicker than not being "just right" according to some arbitrary chart.

I wouldn't mind my husband being a bit more slender because it would make some positioning of adult fun easier, but I married him for who he is instead of for what shape his body is. I wouldn't mind him eating more healthfully because that would make a couple of chronic conditions he has less bad, but that has nothing to do with his shape either and he's the one feeling it, not me.

Honestly, both of us are "too big" because our bone structure and muscle mass would make it impossible for our skeletons to be our "correct" weight. Luckily, we have a smart enough doctor to realize that and to measure our health instead of our size. We like each other just fine the way we are and have no intention of making our selves sick to look better to people who don't even know us.

Amanda - posted on 10/07/2012




My hubby is 33. He has abit of a belly, he normally looses it over the summer and gains it back during the colder months.

Now the weathers warming up he's got back into swimming and once the water temperature increases abit will be back surfing.

He does care but I don't always think he goes about it the right way. He'll cut out all snacks and treats and carbs for weeks instead of cutting them down and allowing himself something every now and then, then get a craving and binge and put it all back on.

Luckily he has a really high metabolism, because the shift work he does is a big killer for grabbing food on the go and snacking.

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Dh is 43, and he cares to an extent, but it doesn't take over his live. He does have a little belly, but I like a man I can hold onto and cuddle--rock hard abs are a bit of a turn off for me (I know, I'm weird). I also don't like them too thin--I like broad shoulders and sturdy, thick legs.

Anyway, dh does the usual for a man, I think. He plays racket ball twice a week, for about 90 minutes each night, and he does weights the other 2 nights, and takes Friday nights off. We try to stay active on the weekends, but that's it for him. I try to push him to do more, but if I push too hard, he'll slack off just to spite me, so I don't.

I cook for him, so I control what he eats.

Toni - posted on 10/07/2012




My hubby just turned 34 and he has a little pot belly and he doesnt really care.

As long as it doesnt get to an unhealthy size I dont mind it, in fact I kinda like it.

Jurnee - posted on 10/07/2012




mine has a pot belly too! He cares about it, but not enough to actually do anything about it.

Corinne - posted on 10/07/2012




My hubby will be 30 in December (I'm 32), he's 6'2" and weighs about 16 st. He's not really one for watching what he eats as he's a chef, but the work and also walking to and from work daily, keeps him in trim. He's not registered with a doctor and as he's just paid to have his offshore medical done and has been given a clean bill of health, I can't see that changing any time soon. He does, however, come to the dentist with me and the kids. My sister is a dental nurse and registered him with us, so he didn't have to do it himself! He has said, that when he gets to work offshore, he's going to start going to the gym out there to get fit and tone up. We'll see.....

Kathy - posted on 10/07/2012




DH, 43, cares a bit about his weight.

Until he was about 35 he could eat anything in any quantity and he remained quite slim. I, on the other hand, gain weight looking at food and always have. Sigh.

In the last 8 years or so he has slowly packed on the pounds. Both he and I assumed he was about 20 pounds overweight, as our very old scale was telling us 180, when really he should be under 160 (he is a short man). I don't think he liked being overweight as much as he liked being lean, but he did not care enough to do anything about it. We got a new scale last week and both of us were in for a nasty surprise. He is around 200 - and I am higher. We both pledged to try and lose 20 pounds by Christmas - we will see if it works.

He is not great at taking care of himself in other departments. I think he should see a chiropractor (he has quite the lower back curve - which just makes his pot belly look worse) and a dentist! He only goes to the dentist if he is in agony. Grrr….

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