Dreams for your kids

Merry - posted on 01/15/2012 ( 44 moms have responded )

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So we all want our kids happy and fulfilled but if you got to choose which type of life would you like for each kid of yours?

Do you love to imagine your son as a great baseball player?

Or maybe want your daughter to go into soccer?

Maybe you dream of your son being a proffesional piano player?

Or maybe want a child to be a lawyer?

Maybe a scientist in some complex field. Lol

Maybe a stay at home parent?

Or a traveling photographer?

Maybe a doctor or nurse?

A teacher? Counselor? Entrepreneur?

Do you see things in your kids that makes you think they have a specific field they are destined for?

Do you prefer sports arts or scholastic dreams?





Yes I know, as long as their happy blah blah.

This is if you could choose, or if they asked you your opinion.

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Tracey - posted on 01/20/2012

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Laura - apologies for sounding cold, was not intended to be, just hoping that others can appreciate that their children can be anything they want to be, whereas some have limited options.

I asked my son what he wanted to be when he is older,

1st answer - beautiful

2nd answer - a grown up

3rd answer - Thomas the Tank Engine

Stifler's - posted on 01/19/2012

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She goes across the road and stops in the middle to stop the car and blows the whistle and the kids cross the road.

Tracey - posted on 01/19/2012

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Thank you ladies for your comments, however my son (13) has a mental age of 4, is doubly incontinent, can't wash or dress himself & can't use things like cutlery or even a pen properly.

I would love him to lead some sort of independent life but unless there is some miraculous change it's not going to happen.

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Ashley -- I'm not trying to "correct" Tracey. As I mentioned, I don't know her child's particular circumstances. However, I am merely pointing out that my cousin has a disability and has gone on to do some of the things she mentioned. My aunt thought the same way Tracey did when her daughter was a teenager and grieved that loss severely. But it turned out she was able to do a lot more than anyone expected. That doesn't mean it will necessarily be the same for Tracey's child, however, disability does not always equal not having the things that most of us consider being part of an "average" life.

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Tracey i hope you don't mind me saying,i really respect your honesty.Your son is lucky to have a wonderful mom.I can't imagine how tough it may be at times for you all, but I admire your post, it puts a lot of things in perspective for us all.Thank you.:-)



Rebecca i also agree with you.However Tracey is speaking from her own point of view, based solely on her son.She knows her son more than anyone and unfortunately in life things are not always how we wish them to be.We want notthing more than to see our children grew up, to live full happy lives(job, partner, kids etc)



In life it does not work out that way for some.I have seen it work out for many disabled people which is all anyone wants for another human being and i have seen what its like to not of worked out.

Which is very tough, especially if you are the mother/father of that child.

I am sorry but I can't correct a mother who knows what shes talking about.She lives with her son each and everyday.

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Sally - posted on 08/20/2013

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I'd like my 9 year old to be a ballerina. She's so talented at it and I always wanted to dance but my parents couldn't afford lessons. She couldn't care less about dancing. She wants to be an actress. They're both expensive to learn and almost impossible to get paying jobs in and she's equally talented at both, but she likes practicing acting and won't practice dance. We've talked about it. She knows what I'd like and the reasons behind it, but she also knows that it's her life not mine and I'll support her choices. She also loves science so maybe she'll find a practical job she loves when she grows up.
I'd like my 3 year old to be calm. Preferably before adulthood, but I'll take what I can get.

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My 3 yr old daughter wants to be a singer (since she stands on a tree stump and sings) probably opera since I don't understand her. LOL Also an astronaut, a dancer (because she can boogey) a race car driver (because she already drives with help) and actress because she a diva and has all kinds of attitudes. Idc what she decides to be as long as its what she wants!

Erika - posted on 08/06/2013

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My daughters play soccer and seem to have some natural athletic ability. I always think it would be fun if they played together on the women's national team someday. As far as careers... one wants to bea veterinarian, one a doctor or nurse, and the oldest wants to bea professional soccer coach. I hope that they each have the opportunity to reach their goals!

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I want him to do something that makes him happy and that he can make a good living with. The way he is now, I see him as some kind of athlete because he's always on the go and loves playing soccer and basketball and running.

Chet - posted on 08/01/2013

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We used to say that we wanted out first daughter to be a plumber and our second daughter to be an electrician so we wouldn't need to pay plumbers and electricians any more. I've also said that I hope our kids don't decide to pursue careers as professional dancers or musicians - even though we have them in music and dance. I think it's a hard life. I also hope they don't choose to be doctors because that rarely allows a decent work-life balance.

Corinne - posted on 01/20/2012

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No whistles in the for lollipops in the U.K but yeah, they risk life and limb (esp. with some of the drivers round here) stopping the traffic so kids can cross. They also get a day glo yellow outfit to wear - yummy.

Shelley - posted on 01/20/2012

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I hope and pray that my girls grow up to love god love their families and love life whatever path they choose i think it is so important that they love what they are doing.

My 4yr old wants to be a mermaid ballerina- I'm a little concerned about job prospects but you never know

My 2 yr old wants to be a doctor? I'm not sure i'd want her working on me but we'll see.

Merry - posted on 01/19/2012

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That's fair Daniela. :) having a passion and reaching it is something special and rare I think. Many people live mediocre lives and mediocre jobs and feel its 'good enough' but I also envy the ones who have a true passion and can live it!

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I wish for my daughter that she finds something she truly feels passionate about. That's much more than just happy and healthy in my book. I envy people who have that kind of passion, whatever it's for.

Corinne - posted on 01/19/2012

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Well, my little girl is 5 1/2 and has already stated that she wants to be a ballet dancer, a vet and a lollipop lady, all at the same time! She is such a little whirlwind that it's quite hard to see which way she will go, but based on this past month or so, I'd say she'll be an artist of some description. There isn't a piece of paper can past her by without some pen, pencil or paint applied (complete with full back story). My son, however (3 1/2), seems to want to follow his uncle into the stunt man / stunt actor thing. He never, ever stops talking and is always throwing himself off something or trying out his 'moves'. :)

Merry - posted on 01/19/2012

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Thank you for explaining Tracey, I think we were just thrown off by your abrupt comment. It sounded cold :-/

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I don't care what profession my son chooses as long as he's happy and free -- but to be honest, I'd rather see him as a Lady Gaga impersonator than an investment banker.

Merry - posted on 01/17/2012

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Ok we are slipping into the 'happy and healthy' crap.



EVERY MOTHER WANTS THEIR KID TO BE HAPPY AND HEALTHY



This goes without saying.



What do you imagine them being, not forcing, or coercing. Just as you look at your child what do you think they might become!



And yes, idk your sons disability Tracey but I know many disabled people with partners or spouses and jobs.

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Tracey:



I totally disagree. My cousin is disabled (she has Muscular Dystrophy). She has been married (twice, in fact). Her first husband was also disabled; her current husband is not and is a kind, caring person who saw past her disabilities and saw the person inside. She has a job (she is a teacher). She has chosen not to have children, although some of her friends with MD have hired surrogates to do so. I don't know your child's particular circumstances, but a disability doesn't automatically mean someone won't get married, or have a partner, or have children.

Denikka - posted on 01/17/2012

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My dream for my kids is for them to end up better than I did. Not that I hate my life or anything, but I was prevented from exploring a lot of opportunities in my childhood, and I hope I can give those things to my children.

Things like art, whether it be music, painting, writing, sculpting, whatever. I want my kids to have the chance to explore that side of things. I had all the creativity beat (figuratively) out of me.

Sports is another thing that I never got the chance to explore. It wasn't until my mid teens that I was allowed to join any sport that I wanted to (archery). Before that, I was only allowed in swimming and that was for safety only. I wasn't allowed to join the competitive swimming club or to go in for my life guarding license. I definitely want to encourage my kids to be athletic. What sports and how far they take it is up to them, there are only 2 that are non optional; swimming for safety and 1 season of archery to see if they enjoy it (if they do then they can come shoot with mom :D)



I couldn't be very supportive of a military or first responder (firefighter, police, etc) career. Military for multiple reasons. The danger factor and the fact that I watched one of the sweetest guys I know get so broken and turn into a giant asshole because of military training. Just turned me off that.

I'd love for my kids to become parents, I wanna be a grandma :P and I want them to be happy. I'd like to encourage my daughter to enter the work force, even if it's only for a couple years in her teens (another thing I never got the chance to do) but I would be thrilled if she chose to stay home after having kids.



My son, I think is going to HAVE to do something that's very people oriented :P He's little Mr. Social. He NEEDS people around him. Doesn't care who it is, as long as it's someone :P Been like that from birth. Didn't care who held him or who was in the room, didn't care if me or dad was there or not :P He's also very interested in technology, so we'll see how and if that plays in.

My daughter's more reserved and I have the feeling she may end up more bookish, like me.



The other ladies are right. Happy and healthy is the most important :)

Amanda - posted on 01/17/2012

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Happy and Healthy. I would never pick my childrens lives, that is up to them.

Charlie - posted on 01/17/2012

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I dream simply that are happy , healthy and fulfill their own dream.



BUT I would love for them to travel the world more than anything I think this is the best education you can get for both development in IQ and EQ ( empathy )



I dream that they fall in love with the ocean like I did and surf with their mum ;)



I dream they have the musical talent their father has.



I dream they find freedom through expression no matter what for that takes.



I dream that they enjoy school.



I dream they give me grandchildren one day.

Tracey - posted on 01/17/2012

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My son is disabled

He will never have a job

He will never have a girlfriend (or boyfriend)

He will never marry

He will not have children



My dream for him when he grows up is to be happy and healthy

Stifler's - posted on 01/16/2012

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Let's just say I'd not be thrilled if renaes ambition in life was to find a man and have babies and never work or do anything for herself.

Vicki - posted on 01/16/2012

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I dream for my son to grow into a person who is respectful and caring of others, has meaningful relationships and works hard in an occupation that he passionate about.



What that occupation is I'm not tooo fussed about. I'm training to be an ambo and my partner is a web designer, who knows, he may be inspired by one of us or choose something else. Maybe he wants to be a full time protester and earn nothing, I'm not really fussed as long as he's passionate and active with what he's doing.



Having said all that some things I'd probably encourage him away from but wouldn't stop him or stop loving him... military, nasty lawyer (not all lawyers are the same lol), professional footballer, corporate raider haha.

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I'd love to see both of my kids finish high school and university and get a decent job before having kids.

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I honestly don't have anything career wise that I dream of Jacob being when he grows up. He seems to be good at taking things apart, but not so good at putting them back together. He shows an aptitude for music, has perfect pitch and can pick out songs on his piano. I come from a musical family and so does my husband, so it wouldn't surprise me one bit if he went into the music business.



One thing I DON'T want him doing is enlisting in the military. And no, I'm not anti-American or anything. It's purely a selfish mom, "protect my baby" thing. I don't know what the world will look like when he's grown, but I'm almost positive it won't look any better than it does now (politically and militarily). I don't want him being anywhere near a war.



ETA: Just wanted to add that no matter what he chooses to do, I'll be behind him 100%, as long as he's following his heart.

Vegemite - posted on 01/16/2012

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My oldest (4) is always figuring out how things work so maybe an engineer or machanic. He also loves all sports but mainly football in paticular AFL code. He's good with music too.



My youngest (2) is wild card he's into everything and might end up being the class clown. He loves to make people laugh and has an intelegent sense of humour and emotional IQ. He's very sensitive about how people are feeling and likes to see people happy. He will give people hugs and kisses then say "aww it makes you happy". Maybe a counsilor or social worker or comedian.



Realy all I want for them is to be is healthy, happy and successful at what they love and choose to do.

Merry - posted on 01/16/2012

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I'd worry about a firefighter too. Police officer, army, navy, etc. all those look danger in the face jobs. I might try to talk my kids out of those ;-) but in the end I'd be proud if it really is what they feel is right.

Rosie - posted on 01/16/2012

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grant is interested in computers and video games, lol. so i think he'd do well in some type of computer programming or video game developer etc.

vinnie is very artistic and i would love to see him do something with his artistic talents.

lucas wants to be a firefighter or a garbageman, and i think i wouldn't mind either of those if it made him happy. i think i'd be a little scared of him being a fireman, but proud at the same time.

Merry - posted on 01/16/2012

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Heather I'd be overjoyed if my daughter wanted to be a sahm and I'm not ashamed of it. Lol I would support any of my kids in careers but I do feel for me its best I'm home with my kids so obviously that translates over to my ideals for my daughters too.

Eric is a tough call. He's excelling in many areas for a two year old so I'm not sure! He's so into music, he spends a lot of time playing his drums and he loves his new microphone. He got a piano for Christmas and plays it all the time and he played the kid sized guitar until the strings broke! He also loves dancing and has always been the kid to stop and dance in the store if he hears a good song, dancing in the carseats to the music and full on imitating dancers on tv.



But then I see him doing sports and he's very athletic too, he could dribble a soccer ball while running before he was 18 months and he could throw a decent over hand and underhand baseball around that same time. He loves going to the gym and we would love him to do gymnastics. He can also hit a baseball with insane accuricy. Like out of every decent throw he hits like 4 out of 5 balls!



Academically he's typical if not a tad behind in stuff like letter recognition and stuff but then again he's two. Lol



When he was born I wondered if he could tell me what he would be as a man and I sat and stared at m and tried to keep mymind blank and all of a sudden I pictured him delivering mail. Like either a post man or a ups guy. Idk what made me think of that but that's what came to mind so I'd be psyched if he ended up as a mail guy!

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Gabby is very musical and artsy, no wonder. I paint, play guitar and sing. Her father does graphic design and character design. She just got her ukelele for christmas and she can already play a c chord :D. I just hope that she nurtures these talents. Music and art are wonderful things to be a part of, its meditative and great for the soul.

Besides that, I could care less what career or life she had, as long as she was happy.

Krista - posted on 01/16/2012

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Yeah, that'd be awesome if my kid grew up to be a plastic surgeon -- I'd be getting a free tummy tuck as compensation for having carried him! LOL!

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Is it horrible for part of me to want my daughters to be less career-oriented like me so I get grandbabies at a younger age? Yeah, that's not good. But no really, whatever makes them happy. hehe.

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I can't tell you what I want them to do, but I can definitely tell you what I DON'T want them to do -- I don't want them to be lawyers. In fact, I actively discourage anyone from becoming a lawyer. It's a miserable profession that sucks your soul dry. My mother always told me not to become a lawyer. I wish I had listened to her.



I always joke that I want Grant to become a plastic surgeon and Gavin to became a reproductive endocrinologist, but I'm not really particular about those things -- it's more that I want them to do something that will make them financially secure and will enable them to not have to work for other people. Griffin and Geneva are just babies, so it's hard to even guess what their talents will be. Except I am planning on Geneva being a supermodel so that she can pay for her and her brothers college tuition. ;-)



Grant is gifted at math and Gavin seems to be gifted at engineering-related skills, so I wouldn't be surprised if Grant ends up in a math-related field and Gavin turns out to be an engineer. But they are soooo young it's really hard to tell.

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My dream is there dream.My oldest dreams of being a Guard.She has since she was 3.Shes 7 now.She dreams of seeing the world especially India.

My little lady wants to be a dancer, she loves ballet.She has a wonderful gift so i would love to see her succeed at that.I want what they want.I will do what ever i can to help them achieve there goals.



I would love to see them give back as adults..i am big on helping others, so charity work would be awesome.There is always time to volunteer.Which i think they would do no problem.That is all i ask.Of course i want them to be determined, passionate, and above all happy.Live life well and have a blast.:-)



Dreams do change, mine did, but i gained something far greater.:-)

Mrs. - posted on 01/15/2012

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I'd like her to be good and passionate about something that is a bit more stable than being an actor, like mum and dad. I'm hoping she'll take after her father's side and be in trade (my husband also does contracting and so does his father/grandfather). It is good for a girl to be able to build her own home.



That being said, until she is old enough to really care one way or another (she's 2 and half), my agent sends her out for the occasional commercial audition breakdown. She's been to a few print ad go sees, but she had her first larger commercial audition this last week. She did really well and anytime we mention the word audition, she says, "I wanna go again." It may be because she got to eat the product and liked it, I don't know. It may be because whenever we go audition ourselves, she gets a treat from the vending machine. All I know is that if she says she doesn't ever want to do it again, I'd kind of be relieved and if she continues to want to go, it continues to make me a bit nervous for what is in store for her in a brutal industry.



So, yeah, I dream my kid ends up just loving the crap out of drywalling, I couldn't be prouder if she did.

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I honestly have no idea lol. My daughter will be 3 next month and so far has shown interest in such a wide variety of things that I really couldn't pin point one specific focus that I would like her to pursue.



She is very musical (can play the drums, in time, complete with kick drum and cymbal to end a run) which pleases my drummer brother no end lol.



Both sides of her family are very sporty, and she is following suit. I do hope she enjoys and thrives in competitive sport as much as I did as a kid. It was a big part of my life for a long time.



But I don't really see either of those things as careers for her. I would want something more stable than that for her (in my ideal world of course.. if she chose it, I would support her). She is a very bright kid, and at this point all I hope is that she applies herself to whatever she chooses to do.

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My son's only small, but I think he'll be an engineer. He's very detail oriented, loves puzzles and shape sorters and can do all kinds of intricate things with his hands. He's also pretty good on the piano. (by pretty good I mean for a baby... he knows that if he wants a higher note he goes to the right, lower is to the left) Mathies are often good at music, too.



I would be very pleased with that. Building things, designing safe bridges, etc, seems like a very worthwhile career.



I think the only things that I would be disappointed about is if he were to go into weapons engineering (I decided I was going to marry my husband when on our second date he shared that he had turned down a very financially lucrative job offer to write software for smartbombs),



or if he became a professional athlete. But I don't intend to become that parent who has her kid in sports so full time that there is no time for extended family, church, travel, or any life balance. I think that's what's often necessary to make the kid good enough to play professionally, so that's probably not even going to be a possibility.



I think I'll encourage him to look into skilled trades after high school as well as looking at universities when he's making his decision, and I think I would be pleased if he got married a bit younger than people do these days. I hope he's a good husband and a good father and all-round good person, because that's really the most important thing. I guess that's our job to train him! Yikes.

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J is infatuated with architecture, and I have to admit, I may foster that aptitude more than I probably should. Don't get me wrong, I still encourage him to explore other areas, and give him plenty of opportunities to do so, but he's been in love with buildings since he was a baby.

Like most normal kids, he loved his blocks, and structures gradually became more and more complex, but unlike most kids, he never outgrew the blocks. Now, at 7, his wooden blocks are still his favorites, he constantly checks out books on architects, architectural history, design, and structures. He will sit for hours designing buildings--complete with structural support, electrical wiring, and plumbing! Obviously, he doesn't know enough for them to be structurally sound or functional, but it's cool to see a 7 year old knowing that you need space between floors for lighting and support beams....he confounds me.



I do push him more toward scholarly pursuits--my husband nor I are any good at any sports--but I do let him play baseball, and he does taekwondo. I figure that lets him push himself physically in both a team setting and individual setting.



My husband's family is very musical, and we try to instill a love and knowledge of music in him, but I see that as more of a hobby than a life pursuit or career. I am drawn to visual arts and try to instill an understanding and appreciation for those arts in him as well, but I'm having less luck than the musical arts. Aside from drawing buildings, he's not much interested in visual art.

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My son is still so young that it's hard to tell what his aptitudes/interests are. But he's such a sweet, smart kid, so I love the idea of him going into a profession that helps people.



The only other parameter on the dream is that I want him to see the world. I did not take advantage of my single, child-free years to try living in another country, and I regret that. I do not want my children to be held back by the fact that I'll miss them -- I want to encourage them to go live in France for a year, or to go study in New Zealand, or whatever.

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