dressin children

Elizabeth - posted on 06/21/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My step-daughter likes to wear really short skirts (I am talking about skirts that barely cover her butt) , tight shirts that show her belly or alot of skin. I keep tellin her that does not fit her (she is 8 and tries to wear 4T cloths and is tall) she says yes they do and that her mom lets her wear that type of thing.

If you had a step daughter that dressed how you felt was inappropraite (sorry cant spell) how do you handle it. Also do you think that a dress or skirt that does not touch the tip of your fingers with arms extended on a child that iage is to short?

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Jenn - posted on 06/21/2011

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Why does an 8 year old even have clothes that are a 4T? Take her shopping for some clothing that actually fits her. At her age, she is NOT in control of what is in her wardrobe - that parents are (or should be).

Lissa - posted on 06/21/2011

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I would be far from happy. Does your husband agree with your view on how she dresses? Obviously you can't control what she wears at her mothers house but if you and your husband agree you can require her to dress appropriately at your house.

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Stifler's - posted on 06/21/2011

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I think if it looks dumb they aren't wearing it. Short skirts without tights, midriffs and other such things look dumb on EVERYONE not just kids. So I'd vetoe wearing it.

Becky - posted on 06/21/2011

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What her mom lets her wear at her house is her mom`s business, but, your house, your rules.

Jane - posted on 06/21/2011

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Since her mom lets her wear the skin-tight stuff at her house, tell her it is fine for her to wear it at her house. However, it is NOT fine to dress like that at your house. Make sure your husband is on the same page with you and buy her clothing to wear at your house. If she does not dress appropriately she should not be allowed out of the house.



It sounds as if she is dressing like the "teens" on the various Disney shows. The problem is that she is NOT a teen. She is only 8 years old, and however much she wants to rush into puberty, it is a parental responsibility to help her be a child while she is a child. Even though her mom bows out, you and your husband can do this for her.



Something else to consider is that, unless you have confirmed her wardrobe with her mom, it is possible that she actually is NOT supposed to dress like that at her mom's either. Step kids very quickly learn the value of manipulation.

Ez - posted on 06/21/2011

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Hell no. I agree with Jenn. She is 8. Pick out a couple of appropriate outfits and let her choose from them. Or if she insists on wearing the tiny skirts, make her wear tights underneath.

Allowing children (especially girls) to express themselves through their clothes is fine, but there has to be a line of decency. I have no problem with tight, stretchy clothes. They are really often much more comfortable. But bellies and asses should be covered!!

Elizabeth - posted on 06/21/2011

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To explain the 4T thing i have 3 other girls and one wears 4T 5T and she goes in her drawers and tries to tell me that it was in her drawer, so yes i have cloths that fit her cause my oldest (age 7) in in size 10. so we have cloths that range from 2T to 12. and Ebby i think you are right she was his only child for about 5 years

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 06/21/2011

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Btw I didn't mention dad because I'm sur she has him wrapped around her pinky finger lol

Shannintipton - posted on 06/21/2011

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It would help if hubby is your side. Refuse to take her out if it is just you and her. I wouldn't want to be seen with her dressed like that. Let her father take her around. Sorry that is all I have got. Good luck.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 06/21/2011

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You and her mother have to be on the same page or you let her know at your house she will dress a certain way and that's that, there should be no discussion about it

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I don't have a stepdaughter, but I HATE short shorts/skorts on my kids and totally agree w/ you on the appropriate length. Unfortunately, my 9 year olds have size 6 waists and size 8 legs, so.... MOST of their current clothes are way too short. I hate it and am slowly buying them more clothes, but at $12-14 a pair.... It's not exactly easy when you're dead broke and buying for two.... ;)

No clue what I'd do if it was my stepkid though. It would have to depend on your family situation I suppose.

Oh... for shirts? Definitely need to cover appropriately and not be skin tight. I don't have that problem though cuz shirts are a LOT easier/cheaper to get appropriate sizes.

Elizabeth - posted on 06/21/2011

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That is his little baby and he is coming around i just look at him and say a little help and he will say in a nice tone after she was yelling at me "that is to small"

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