Drinking and toddlers birthday parties.

Cecilia - posted on 01/28/2013 ( 11 moms have responded )

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What if your family and friends required you to serve alcohol for a toddlers birthday party? If you can not find a venue to serve them, they will not attend.

I have a friend actually doing this. She is looking for a place to throw a child's birthday that serves alcohol. She sees nothing wrong with it and calls it a "family party."

Would you ever do it? Would you allow people to miss the birthday over it?

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Tracey - posted on 01/29/2013

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If people choose not attend an event, especially a child's party because they can't have a drink then they need to think about their priorities. I would not book a venue based on the needs of anyone except a) the birthday child and b) those with a medical condition who for example needed easy access. I would however phone these guests and ask them to explain to my child why they would not attend her party without alcohol.

Cecilia - posted on 01/28/2013

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well one example, my cousin's birthday is july 3rd. We would go to my aunt's house and have a big cook out and such and that was our 4th of july party pretty much. Always drinking. Had no problem with that. She would rent bounce houses and such for the kids. Excellent.. kids are busy and happy, adults hang out and eat steak. They still do it and my cousin is now 22. He gets a nice at home party with his family.

Beyond that, i don't think it's too wise to have a party where people drink outside of a home. This leads to drinking and driving.

Lady Heather - posted on 01/28/2013

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If someone said there HAD to be alcohol or they wouldn't come then they are most welcome to not attend. Ha. I won't ever do booze at my kids' parties. It's not that I have a problem with a larger family-style-with-booze-type party per se. I'm just way too cheap to add a booze budget to my toddler's party. If you won't go to a kids' party because there's no wine - you have a problem.

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Cecilia - posted on 02/02/2013

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I have to agree Sal that even though i've attended many parties with young children and alcohol both in them, that children don't seem to even notice it. It is actually healthy to see adults drink in a moderate level, meaning people aren't drunk off their butts.

When my kids are toddlers, i always host the party at home, since it's only family members anyways. when they get to kindergarten and have non-family friends then we move on to other places. I don't know i just don't like many strangers in my house. My teen daughter though enjoys her sleep overs so lately her parties have been at home.

Sal - posted on 02/02/2013

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Some parties have alcohol and some don't but it is up to the parent throwing the party not the guests, if we have a party for a child's birthday i like to make it about them, and as a rule i do what they like, and not once have a heard a toddler ask for booze at a party, my daughter just had s party abd it was at the local pool, no alchol allowed last year my 4 yr old had a tea party picnic at the local park, no drinking again i tend to not have "parties" at home not in my 17 years pf motherhood have i held a childs party at homeif it is a family get together at home or a bbq bring on the beers or bubbles I just don't do that for kids birthdays. Been to plenty that do just not my thing, if some one wont come because if no drinking chances are I wouldn't want them there anyway

Stephanie - posted on 02/02/2013

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At all of the birthday parties for my aunt's seven kids, there is always beers and sometimes a box of wine. They are always at her house, and there are usually a lot of adults as they are family parties. No one gets drunk but it is avaliable. Never been a problem.

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When my kids were of the age that parents still attended parties, I often would pull out a bottle or two of champage for the parents, and we'd sit and chat and sip and watch the kids running around. All perfectly civilised and relaxed.

But as for people saying they won't come if there wasn't any alcohol - that's totally weird and out of order. If anybody tried to tell me what to do at my kids party I'd thank them for their ideas and politely suggest that they can do what they like at their own kids parties.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/29/2013

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I would never be forced into having alcohol if I did not want it there though.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/29/2013

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I think it is rather shitty that her family is making her find a place specifically to serve alcohol or they won't go. BUT, that being said, I am not opposed to alcohol being at a childrens party. It is not for the kids. It is for the adults. My daughter is turning 3 in April, and my son is turning 6 in may. There will be alcohol at both. At my home.

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If we do a cookout style party at home for J, we usually serve beer and fruity iced drinks or a spiked punch. Mostly because that time of year is busy for everyone and we use the party as an excuse for a big get together for all of our friends and family that lasts all day.

That said, the alcohol is MY CHOICE, and if for whatever reason I ever decided I did not want to serve it at J's party, and someone told me they would rather miss J's celebration than go without booze for a couple of hours, they would never be invited to another party of mine because that tells me that they care more about getting free booze than celebrating my child's special day and spending time with our family. Simply not someone I want in my life.

There are times when I don't serve it--if any of J's friends are being dropped off at the party, there would be no alcohol. I would also never pay for an open bar at a kid's party at a venue--too high risk for drinking and driving (at our house, we have spare beds, and we can allow people to leave their cars without fear of getting towed if they choose to take a cab home). I've never had anyone demand I have booze available.

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