Drinking While Pregnant:

Charlie - posted on 04/18/2011 ( 110 moms have responded )

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http://www.circleofmoms.com/article.php?...

Recent photos of a pregnant Kate Hudson sipping a glass of red wine are sparking debates over whether or not it’s okay for expectant moms to drink alcohol.

The images have Circle of Moms members comparing notes on whether drinking really should be on the list of pregnancy "don'ts," which includes everything from coffee and sushi to bikini waxes and hair color.

Some members say pregnant women should not drink at all. “I actually quit drinking altogether when we started trying to get pregnant,” says mom of two Krista M. “I have always been under the impression that no alcohol is safe during pregnancy.”

Others maintain that an occasional glass of wine is just fine. “I'm not saying drinking all the time is okay but having a few drinks while pregnant is not going to harm your baby,” says Becky T., who adds that in spite of the fact that she drank lightly before realizing she was pregnant with her first child, the baby "came out perfect.”

Researchers recommend abstaining from alcohol during pregnancy, according to Science Daily. They've found that drinking alcohol during pregnancy is associated with an increased risk of miscarriage, premature birth, and low birth weight. And in their brochure Think Before You Drink, The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists warns pregnant women about the potential dangers of drinking. They caution: "When you drink, the alcohol quickly travels through your bloodstream, crosses the placenta, and reaches your baby. Your baby breaks down alcohol more slowly than you do, so she may end up with higher levels of blood alcohol than you have."

But British researchers claim that children whose mothers have one or two drinks per week during pregnancy are not at any greater risk for developing health, behavioral or cognitive problems than children whose mothers abstained completely. The assertion, published in the U.K. Millennium Cohort Study, is based on data from 11,513 children, ages nine months to five years.

Still, Circle of Moms community member Tracy C. abstains. She says that even though her doctor sanctions an occasional cocktail, “I’d rather be safer than sorry."

Did you ever drink alcohol while pregnant?

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Ez - posted on 04/20/2011

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A pregnant woman who drinks any amount of alcohol is at risk, since no "safe" level of alcohol use during pregnancy has been established

Exactly. We could argue that there is no hard evidence as to how much is too much, therefore it's ok to indulge (which seems to be what Corrie is saying). But why risk it? Surely it's better to err on the side of caution when there are so many unknowns?

Sara - posted on 04/19/2011

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I don't drink while pregnant. For me, there's not enough proof that it doesn't cause harm to a child. No legitimate research outfit will ever be able to do a peer-reviewed, longitudinal study on the impact of drinking while pregnant, because a study like that will NEVER be approved. So, I can abstain for 9 months.

Corrie - posted on 04/21/2011

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Steph, I agree, that it's irresponsible to drink heavily, morally wrong to do something you KNOW is detremental, but my point is valid, if you are otherwise uninformed or drinking a very minimal amount on a very rare occasion, you shouldn't be crucified for it. Does that mean you couldn't eat an italian, wine based sauce in a resteraunt? Or a sherry trifle?
Then again, i am a smoker and i'm of the opinion that cigarettes should be a class A drug, illegal to buy, sell, smoke... Never going to happen. Just like women who are pregnant are told to AVOID but not to Abstain, from mercury high foods, raw eggs in foods (home made mayonnaise...) One woman was refused a block of CHEDDAR in her local supermarket because the woman on the delacatessan thought she had the right to deny the woman cheese because she was pregnant and she'd read somewhere it was dangerous.... We know that many unpasteurised cheese and blue cheeses carry the risk of listeria and therefore avoid them. Some women still choose to eat these products and aren't frowned upon like a woman wit half a glass of red wine would be.
To deny a woman something she enjoys in small, unharmful qualities is unfair. AGAIN, the overall repercussions of small amounts of alcohol are unknown. Some women are even told stout, wine and very dark beer can be good in pregnancy.
No woman should be shouted at or made to feel bad.
Unless, like i originally said, she's drinking a ltr of vodka a week........ Then i would slap her. hehe!!!

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Rebecca- There is a world of difference between you taking prescribed medication that you NEED to function and someone ingesting something that is knowingly harmful to their baby out of wanton self service.

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Exactly, Emma. How could anyone think that FAS had some other cause???

Fetal alcohol syndrome refers to growth, mental, and physical problems that may occur in a baby when a mother drinks alcohol during pregnancy.

Using or abusing alcohol during pregnancy can cause the same risks as using alcohol in general. However, it poses extra risks to the fetus. When a pregnant woman drinks alcohol, it easily passes across the placenta to the fetus. Because of this, drinking alcohol can harm the baby's development.

A pregnant woman who drinks any amount of alcohol is at risk, since no "safe" level of alcohol use during pregnancy has been established. However, larger amounts appear to increase the problems. Binge drinking is more harmful than drinking small amounts of alcohol.

Timing of alcohol use during pregnancy is also important. Alcohol use appears to be the most harmful during the first 3 months of pregnancy However, drinking alcohol anytime during pregnancy can be harmful.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth...

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MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 05/30/2012

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Exactly. This is a babys' life we are talking about, I am not about to play devils advocate with it.

Becky - posted on 05/30/2012

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That is the thing, Heidi. So many people say, "I drank occasionally during my pregnancy and my child is just fine." And I'm not questioning that the child is fine, but I think a lot of people think of FASD as a major mental or physical disability. The reality is, something as small as a minor speech delay, difficulty with math, or clumsiness, can be a result of damage done by small amounts of alcohol. And the physical effects only show up when alcohol is consumed on certain days of the pregnancy - you'll only get the FAS face if the mom drank on the days facial features were developing. But just because those aren't present, does not mean that the developmental effects are not just as serious. It's very common for infants and toddlers who have FASD to present as perfectly normal, healthy children. It is as they get older - preschool and school age, that the delays start to show up, and they often become more pronounced the older a child gets, because their development will stall at a certain point. If a person drank during pregnancy, it is difficult to say definitively that that is not responsible for any physical or developmental issue the child may have, which is why I just chose to abstain completely.

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 05/30/2012

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Never and never ever would. I go with my doctor and my gut instinct. Drinking or doing drugs is just NOT OK. You should also not drink more than 300mls of coffee a day, while pregnant.

I stopped drinking long before we started trying and actually, have maybe had 2 drinks since my son (19months) was born. I don't really like drinking anyhow. Even if I did, I would not be doing it, not even a sip, while pregnant.

Heidi - posted on 05/30/2012

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I have three adopted children and two of them had parents who drank either before they knew they were pregnant or 'rarely' after learning of a pregnancy. When they were little I didn't see how it affected them. They seemed just like other kids. Now with both in the teen years, or actually once they turned around 9, I started to notice lags in their emotional maturity, ability to understand cause/effect, or deal with social situations among friends when it came to conflict or debate. Make no mistake, this is permanent brain damage and has caused us to feel grief and experience loss in many respects for our children's potential. We still love them and couldn't imagine being parents to any other children but it has been really difficult emotionally and has been taxing on our marriage, our relationships with our friends who don't really understand or who judge our kids as though they can just 'smarten up' or put their minds to it. Its been hard on my teens too because the older they get the wider the gap with peers, and it hurts them.
My strong advice - so many people get pregnant 'by accident' so I would even go so far as to say don't drink if you plan to become pregnant or if you aren't ironclad careful about birth control. Its not worth even the risk of one glass of wine or shot of whiskey or the beer you crave. Get the non alcoholic versions if you must.

Cassie - posted on 04/26/2011

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I had a couple very small glasses of wine lol. Not enough to get a person with the lowest alcohol tolernce even a buzz lol. And truth be told I didn't even know I was pregnant the first two weeks & had a serious night with the girls but again didn't know I was pregnant but my son was born with absolutely no health issues whatsoever. Matter of fact hes a pretty big boy lol! But I did see one pregnant woman in a bar who was seriously drunk. I was completely offended that anyone could seriously want to do that while pregnant but honestly I didn't say anything. Others around there did though. & I believe someone bought her the drinks. even worse. But I try not to judge even though I can't possibly see a reason to go that far while pregnant.

Michele - posted on 04/26/2011

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Oh, and we took a special bottle of Champagne with us to the hospital for a toast after she was born. I had probably 2 sips.

Michele - posted on 04/26/2011

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I worked in the wine industry with my first pregnancy and would drink about one glass maybe every three weeks or so, not to mention the taste and spit routine. When I was nine days from delivery, my husband took me to the French Laundry for my birthday. I tried a Chateau d'Yquem for the first time. I didn't however, try the tuna tartare.

Hope - posted on 04/26/2011

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This is a debate isn't it? I think people will do whatever they want to do reguardless of whether or not they think its safe for their baby- smoke/drinking etc even a little at the wrong time is very detrimental. So I guess its more of a conscience issue. Parents should be willing to be sacrificial to the parent's wants over the needs of the baby. To drink a little and not know you are prego is no reason to beat yourself up over. However, for someone to know they are pregnant and not- try to quit smoking or stop drinking the alcohol is just morally wrong. The point of it all: a parent is meant to protect their baby not play russian roulette with its health. The baby doesn't have a choice, but we parents do.

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Timing of conception has a LOT to do w/ the sex of your child. Not everything, of course, but it most certainly is a factor.....

Now back to your regularly scheduled alcohol debate. :)

Jessica - posted on 04/23/2011

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I drank very little when I was pregnant with my son, and that was only red wine, once a week. He is very intellegent and growing perfectly.

Bonnie - posted on 04/23/2011

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Sarah and Mary I have two boys. It sounds to me like my husband and I need to attempt the pull out method in order to get a girl bahahaha.

Merry - posted on 04/23/2011

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I didn't have any during either pregnancy. I don't like alcohol to begin with so it's no big deal. I have had sips here and there while breastfeeding, because I wanted to see if I liked any types, but found I don't. So I likely won't have much of any alcohol in the future. But I'm not opposed to trying some while breastfeeding.
I don't think a drink here and there will hurt the baby, I don't know for sure but I wouldn't judge a woman for a drink while pregnant. But for me it was easy not to so I figure why risk it?

Tara - posted on 04/23/2011

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I think everyone agrees that there is no "known" safe amount of alcohol during pregnancy. And with that in mind I can't see why most people don't agree with the idea that pregnant women should abstain from alcohol while pregnant.
If it is known that alcohol in utero can cause FASD or FAS, then why the debate about how much?
And eating soft cheese or unpasteurized honey is not comparable to drinking while pregnant
Yes there is a risk of listeria or botulism or pathogens BUT with alcohol there is a very real risk of developmental problems, problems that can be as minor as a communication problem and as major as structural abnormalities and real life long learning disabilities.
There is a risk in even one glass of wine, one beer, one mixed drink when you are pregnant, luckily our bodies do a great job of protecting our unborn babies during the first 0-4 weeks which is when most women will find out they are expecting, most things done before that time will not have a negative affect on the developing fetus. After that time, cell division and cell specialization starts in earnest and each minute of each hour of each day, some monumental change is happening in that fetus. And when you add a substance like alcohol that we know passes the placental barrier readily into the fetal bloodstream you are essentially changing the environment that your fetus will develop in. One ounce at the wrong time CAN make a difference in your baby's development, physically and mentally.
If we all agree that there is no "known" safe amount, why would anyone choose to take that risk once they are aware they are expecting? Just don't get it.

Sarah - posted on 04/23/2011

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I had a few drinks all up, over the whole pregnancy. I also smoked between 0 and 3 cigarettes a day, before i quit for good at 6 months pregnant I had been told my one of my midwives that cutting down (both) was fine, i was never told to just not do it! I was young and ignorant.
Since then i have done my own research and discovered, yes it is probably safe, but it is definitely not worth the risk, no matter how small the risk is! Next time there is no way i would even think about drinking, and obviously i'm not going to smoke, i quit 16 months ago :)

@Mary- That is exactly how my daughter was conceived! Coincidence? lol :)

Sarah - posted on 04/23/2011

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I had a few drinks all up, over the whole pregnancy. I also smoked between 0 and 3 cigarettes a day, before i quit for good at 6 months pregnant I had been told my one of my midwives that cutting down (both) was fine, i was never told to just not do it! I was young and ignorant.
Since then i have done my own research and discovered, yes it is probably safe, but it is definitely not worth the risk, no matter how small the risk is! Next time there is no way i would even think about drinking, and obviously i'm not going to smoke, i quit 16 months ago :)

@Mary- That is exactly how my daughter was conceived! Coincidence? lol :)

Corena - posted on 04/22/2011

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I think I had half a glass of mead when I was about 7 months. I think an occasional glass of beer or wine is fine.

Corrie - posted on 04/21/2011

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I don't feel guilty. You shouldn't either, especially if you knew no different.
Don't let people make you feel bad. I don't think it would be allowed for a person to comment that you were a bad mother if your children DID have problems, so it's wrong for them to claim you COULD have been when they don't.

Jenni - posted on 04/21/2011

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:( you ladies are making me feel incredibly guilty. I guess I'm just lucky that my kids turned out perfectly normal and healthy. I honestly never thought a glass of wine on a special occasion would have any effect on my pregnancy. But now I'm scared. I guess it's better to abstain completely than take the risk. I didn't need the alcohol whatsoever but my family is really traditional European and was under the impression a glass on a special holiday was far from detrimental. I'm just glad my kids turned out ok.

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Thank God! I was kind of worried after seeing that. I'm so glad to know he's ok. ♥

"...but i don't deny it's a womans right if she should choose to do it."
I disagree with this. I don't think it's a woman's right to drink while pregnant bc she's forcing alcohol into this fragile developing baby who has no say in what's happening and can be irreversibly damaged from it. It's morally wrong. Your (not you*you) baby is at your mercy, and you choose to poison it with alcohol by physical right of your body with no regard for the right of the human being growing inside of you. Pregnancy is a time when you have to be truly selfless. And unless you are ready to be that selfless you aren't ready to be a mother....imho.

Corrie - posted on 04/21/2011

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And no, someone sent me that and i have no idea why! haha! No communication problems with my son at all. He never stops making noise!!

Corrie - posted on 04/21/2011

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Pretty much what i said.
I don't condone it, i don't reccomend it, but i don't deny it's a womans right if she should choose to do it.
Not all women are as sensible as you.

Becky - posted on 04/21/2011

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Mel, if you want to conceive a boy, you need to pinpoint when you ovulate and then have sex right at ovulation, but not in the days beforehand. Then, since the male sperm swim faster, they are more likely to make it to the egg first.

As far as drinking goes, with my first, I might have had a cooler right around the time I conceived - on Father's Day - but I don't know exactly what day I conceived. We were newleyweds, 'nuff said! With my second, I had a half a glass of Boon's Wine (low alcohol wine, only 4% alcohol) on New Years Eve, before I knew I was pregnant. Once I knew, with both of them, that was it. I didn't even eat chocolates with liqueur in them! I'm not a huge drinker anyways, so it wasn't a big deal to me.
Being an adoption worker, I have worked with a lot of kids with FASD and done a lot of research into it. It is definitely not something I would ever want to take even the tiniest risk of my child having.
FASD is directly linked to alcohol. There is no other cause. However, the severity can be affected by other factors. A woman who drinks during pregnancy and also has a poor diet, doesn't take prenatal vitamins, smokes, and is generally unhealthy, will likely have a baby with more severe damage than a woman who drinks the same amount during pregnancy but otherwise has a very healthy lifestyle. The way a woman's body metabolizes alcohol also affects how much it affects her fetus. I know of women who were severe alcoholics who drank throughout their pregnancies and had children who were only mildly affected, if at all. While other women drank relatively minimal amounts and had children with severe damage.
I did some training with a geneticist who is an expert in the area of FASD. I remember 2 things he said (well, I do remember more than that) 1: If you drink before you miss your period, it could cause a miscarriage, but otherwise, it would not cause any harm to the baby, because at this point, there is no baby to cause harm to, just a clump of rapidly multiplying cells. It is once the cells start speciallizing that the damage can be done. And 2: For the average woman, she can consume about 4 ounces of alcohol before it would start to cause harm to her baby. But again, this is affected by the woman's general health and ability to metabolize alcohol, so it wouldn't be the same for every woman.
For me, I just don't see the need to take the risk.

Mel - posted on 04/20/2011

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I never heard of that, just that the male sperm trvavels faster and dies quicker, the female sperm lives longer and travels slower, which makes it hard for me to conceieve a boy because only the female sperm make it, because they live longer lol.

Charlie - posted on 04/20/2011

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Hey do you know what is an awesome doco ? The sperm race ...you should watch it if this kind of thing interests you , it's really well done !

Amber - posted on 04/20/2011

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I reread what I wrote...it did sound mean. I wasn't intending it too. Sorry :)

Mary Renee - posted on 04/20/2011

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Sometimes it's hard to hear one's tone over the internet but I wasn't doubting that it was possible, it was just new to me, I hadn't heard of it. Interesting. It's especially interesting because male humans die faster too.

Hmmm, my daughter was the result of apparently one too many attempts at the "pull-out and cross your fingers" method (don't worry, I was in a committed monogamous relationship)... I wonder if that could have had anything to do with determining the sex? I was so relieved when I found out she was a girl! I know her Papa wanted a boy but I was just like "Oh thank god, I have no idea what to do with a boy" hahahaha.

Amber - posted on 04/20/2011

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The father is responsible...but the Ph levels in the woman's body can kill the sperm. If all the Y chromosome carrying sperm are dead, the egg cannot be fertilized with sperm carrying the Y chromosome.

I'm sure biology class didn't tell you that male sperm swim faster and die faster, or that females swim slower and live longer...another factor in determining sex.



It has to do with which sperm makes it to the egg. Google it.

Mary Renee - posted on 04/20/2011

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I'm so confused by this alkaline/acid subject... I thought the boy/girl thing was already figured out. The mother always provides the "x" sex chromosome, the father provides either x or y. If the sperm carries an x chromosome, you'll have a girl (xx) and if the sperm carries a y chromosome, you'll have a boy (xy) and with any given ejaculation of semen you have both sperm with x chromosomes and y chromosomes which is why you can have either a boy or a girl... at least that's what I learned in biology class. I always understood it to be that the father is the one responsible for determining the sex. Apparently I must have been absent one day, I never heard of this Ph Balance stuff.

Charlie - posted on 04/20/2011

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The PH thing is absolutely a fact !

When your vagina is more alkaline than acid, you have a perfect environment for conceiving a boy!

It's not just alcohol that changes this certain foods can too but alcohol is the major one to shift the PH balance ( which affects a lot of other things in your body too )

Mary Renee - posted on 04/20/2011

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I heard the same study (a drink a week does not cause harm) and I've also heard that drinking a "yeasty" beer in your third trimester can help bring the milk in.



I was a waitress and before I knew I was pregnant it was common for me to have a beer after my shift. Luckily I didn't get drunk before I knew I was pregnant, but I did probably have two beers after my shift every once in a while.



Personally, I did not drink during my pregnancy once I knew I was pregnant save for three times. I shared a beer with my boyfriend on Thanksgiving (and by shared, I mean I probably had a few sips, maybe a quarter of the bottle max), I had a sip of champagne on New Years, and again I sipped my boyfriend's beer while in my third trimester (actually I was 38 weeks along, so full term I think)



I see absolutely nothing wrong with this (and my daughter is perfectly healthy) but I agree that health organizations and government agencies should stick to recommending women abstain from alcohol completely during pregnancy because if you tell an alcoholic she can drink one beverage once a week she's going to drink five in one sitting.





I guess I feel the same way about this as I do a lot of things. Just use common sense. Honestly, it doesn't make sense that sipping one beer three or four times during your pregnancy is going to be harmful, but obviously don't go for seconds or thirds and top it off with a shot!

Mel - posted on 04/20/2011

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Corrie - it makes heaps od firrence to when you conceivce theres so many factors.My family hav a history of girls because of these factors. But thats off topic. Alcohol consuntion in the first 3 months is definately more dangerous because if the risk of miscarriage and because thats when the baby does the most important developing, but at the end of the pregnancy, its fairly safe ot have even a few drinks, although for me personally I wouldnt wnat to because like I said verything goes thorugh to your bby and you wouldnt feed your baby a drink ofalcohol when they are born so you wouldnt wnat to do it while their in your tummy either. At the end of your pregnancy your baby is fully developed hcen the reason its ok to have a few drinks. When I had my baileys I coudlnt even taste the baileys in it , but it was 3 days before my due date and a child health nurse told me it wouldnt do harm at that stage anyhow, much like the alcohol you consume before finding out about your pregnancy is unlikely to do any damage. Anywaymy personal beliefs 8 months (considering you dont find out wil week 4 of pregnancy), is that thatmuch of a long time to think of the needs of your baby and look after your growing baby by not smoking drinking drug takings or eating foods that are too risky. You dont have to be completely crazy over what you eat, just make sure you dont go and eat something that has a high chance of you getting listeria or something.

Mrs. - posted on 04/20/2011

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Yeah, but there is a lot of women out there on pharma that is far worse than having a glass of wine.

I can't judge on this one. I have to be on meds for my medical issues. I had several docs make sure that this would not effect my child. Still, there are no guarantees.

I just can't say to another woman that her glass of wine is any worse than my situation. I'm not gonna call her a bad mother for it either.

All you can do is do your own research, find some wise doctors and work with the body/experiences you have. If someone wants to judge you for it...it is their glitch, IMO.

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Corrie- I'm not trying to be rude, honestly, but is there a problem with your first baby? I read the post on your page about a communication issue?

I believe that doing ANYTHING that could even REMOTELY harm your unborn child is irresponsible and poor parenting. It is just common sense to know to abstain from alcohol while pregnant. You can sugar coat it, rationalize it and debate it in any form you wish but the fact remains that alcohol causes birth defects. How do you know when it will be that drink that pushes your baby's system over the edge?

Corrie - posted on 04/20/2011

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It makes very little difference when you conceive as to what gender your child is. Sorry, but true. If you get pregnant at the full moon are you going to have a werewolf? *Cough*
As for drinking in pregnancy, no woman should be crucified for having a glass of wine or half a guiness a week. If the health professionals you're dealing with tell you it's alright, even more reason to think you can. A misinformed mother may have up to 10 units a week and not cause her child a single problem, whereas a mother who has one glass of wine can cause her child to have FAS. FAS isn't just attributed to alcohol, despite the name, look it up, it's smoking, stress, poverty, malnutrition, health conditions. If a woman doesn't have a sip of alochol in her pregnancy, her child will NOT have FAS, but it may have epilepsy, autism or eczma. A woman who smokes may have a child who is a great birth weight with perfect lungs while a woman who doesn't may prematurly give birth to a child with severe asthma.
Generations before us were unaware of health risks in pregnancy and we turned out fine. That doesn't mean we shouldn't abstain from things PROVEN to harm a featus at any point in pregnancy. But what is proven? In what quantity?
In the UK it's widely acknowledged that drinking in the first trimester is damaging, but many women don't even realise they are pregnant until ++ weeks and have drank heavily with no consequences.
I'm arguing both sides here.
I don't want to be looked at like a bad mother for having a glass of red wine while out with my family for a meal because i am heavily pregnant.
But I don't want to drink and pass on alcohol to my child while he is in utero or while i am breastfeeding.
The effects of alcohol in pregnancy are still not completly known, but you wouldn't take cocaine or heroine would you?
Then again. Look at GM food. And all the CRAP in processed and packaged food these days. Some of these chemicals haven't been around long enough for us to know the effects of them on US never mind our children.
Anything you wouldn't/shouldn't do in your every day life, on a daily basis, you shouldn't do when pregnant. Most of the "Alcohol-Pregnancy" debates revolve around women who continue to drink as they did before pregnant no? Well if they were drinking more than a glass of wine or the unit equivalent every other day, they were drinking too much anyway.
It's a womans choice, and as long as she makes an informed decision, no one as the right to criticise her. Unless of course she drinks a ltr of vodka a week......
As far as i can tell, my 18 month old son is perfect. Not a single health or mental problem. I thank my stars. Not because i expected him too have problems, and not because it would be a 'Problem' if he did, but i smoked from start to finish and i didn't find out i was pregnant until i was 10 weeks and had been a very boozy, loved up student doing GOD knows what. As far as i can tell, the night i conceived i was twice over the reccomended WEEKLY Limit for women. An unhealthy start to a pregnancy, and an unhealthy lifestyle in general. Needless to say once i found out i was pregnant, that was no longer the case, but i did have on average a glass of wine a week. I wasn't aware of the problems alcohol could cause, i am this time, and this time i have drank around one glass of wine a fortnight. I had one two days ago with a curry. If someone tells me i am wrong, i will gladly listen, and if my child is born with FAS i will be the first to hold my hand up and say "I was wrong".
I wouldn't want that to have to happen for the "NO DRINKING DURING PREGNANCY" Campaigners to get their point across. But it is my personal opinon that nothing in such a small quantity can harm my child.

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@Mel Heath i thought it was the other way. I thought boys were easier to conceive. I have 1 girl and 2 boys and the boys sure were easier.

Casey - posted on 04/20/2011

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I would never drink alcohol while pregnant, I think if your not ready to give up alcohol for 9 months for the health and safety of your unborn child then you not ready to be a mum yet. No amount of alcohol is a "safe amount" and the risks are just to high to mess around with, it's always better to be safe then sorry and honestly you won't die from having to give up the grog for a few months anyways so just suck it up.

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I had sips here and there of drinks when i was pregnant. they say red wine is healthy for a pregnant woman bc of all the anti oxidents in it, i say as long as it's only a sip or two once in a while, everything should be fine

Amanda - posted on 04/20/2011

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*Confused look*

Rebecca your doctor is right. PH Balance is EXTREMLY imporant to what sex you have. Acidic PH Balance can kill off male sperm, alkaline is the balance you want for male sperm. Your PH should be alkaline on the day of ovulation, so that is the best day to have sex if you want a boy.

Mel - posted on 04/20/2011

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Rebecca girls are more common, because its easier to conceive a girl as there are more days you can conceive a girl where as with a boy you are relying on conceiving on only one day of the month and some other things I wont go into. We want a boy and for our last baby (presuming we dont get one before hand which is unlikely for me) we are going to research and pay big money to hopefully get a boy.

Mrs. - posted on 04/20/2011

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You know, my TCM doc just told me that if I want to try for a boy the next time my fiance and I can't be drunk when we go for it. Apparently, it disturbs the Ph balance or something.

Sound a little wise taley to me, but I thought I'd try it anyway.

Hope - posted on 04/20/2011

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No. I stopped an occasional drink before we started to get prego and did not have another drink until after my son was through with breast feeding. Why make your baby have risks of health problems because you want a drink? You have options, but your baby doesn't- this is why I stopped drinking alcohol and regular coffee/sushi etc- things that are bad for developing babies. In the end, it was better for my son that I did eat and drink what I should have, because I developed preeclampsia late in prego and my son had enough to deal with when he was born. Also less guilt for me in nicu, in that I did everything I could possibly do for my son. Simply put: don't drink while pregnant.

Mel - posted on 04/20/2011

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@ Nikki I had the same owrries as you with my first pregnancy every little thing especially when I was losing weight I kept asking them could my baby have FAS it must have looked so bad, but Id drank heavily before knowing about the baby and it put so much stress on me throughout the pregnancy, lucky for me she had nothing wrong with her that was related to the alcohol I drank, much like most people who drink before they find out

Mel - posted on 04/20/2011

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lol surprised so many babies were conceieved while drunk. Mine I was 100% sober first tme we'd just gotten back together only been back together conceived the first time we had sex after 7 months, second time he was going away for work and it was a quickie haha never expected it would result in a baby, after 13 months of trying but not trying

Amanda - posted on 04/20/2011

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Not a drop! The science is out there that this is dangerous.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth...

If you cant give up drinking for 40 weeks, then why get preggos. It amazes me that many woman would freak if a breastfeeding mother has a drink, but think nothing of a pregnant mother.

Stifler's - posted on 04/20/2011

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The crap I have eaten this pregnancy I honestly might as well have been drinking.

Jenni - posted on 04/20/2011

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@Stephanie I never even owned a coffee machine until after the birth of my son. I craved coffee so bad during my pregnancy with him! The coffee isle at the grocery store was torture! mmmmm the smell of coffee beans. I abstained but as soon as my son was born I bought a coffee machine.

My second pregnancy I did have a cup of very weak coffee every once in awhile. Ack! But luckily I don't drink pop and unlike my pregnancy with my son I didn't crave chocolate. So... i don't know probably wasn't the best idea but I did have the occasional cup in my second pregnancy.



Sushi.... mmmmmm I love sushi and so does my hubby. We still went to our fav sushi restaurant while I was pregnant. One time there was two university girls sitting next to us at the counter. They thought it was well-mannered to mention loudly in my presence that "Pregnant women shouldn't be eating sushi."

Well no shit eh? thanks for bestowing on me your elite 2nd year university wisdom on my poor, ignorant pregnant-self.



I assured them: "Thank you for your concern. But if you must know I'm ordering sweet potato rolls and an advocado roll. I assure you that I am well aware of what I should abstain from whilst pregnant. I don't need to be educated indirectly by a couple of teenagers thank you very much."

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I didn't drink then and don't drink now so it was a non-issue for me. Caffeine was my big problem. I know that caffeine isn't an accurate comparison to alcohol but man, it was sooo hard to not drink soda all the time! I couldn't drink alcohol even if I wanted to...I filter alcohol at an extremely low rate and end up with alcohol poisoning after 2 drinks. I hear of alot of moms having wine with dinner or in the evening to unwind and I just don't get it. How can you drink and still responsibly take care of your children? Maybe I don't have an really good picture of what one drink does to a person since it has such an effect on me? I'd be falling on the floor and completely unable to take care of my kids.

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id rather see expectant mothers having the "ODD" glass than smoking or high on drugs. thats my oppinion,
i must say that i gave up all alcohol when pregnant because it was my choice to have them and i wanted them more than i wanted a drink its my job to protect my children until they are old enough to do it themselves.

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