Ear piercing?

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So I was in young moms and came across this ear piercing thread.

I was kind of amazed to see how many moms get infants ears pierced.

I'm curious how you ladies feel would you pierce your babies ears?
Why or why not?

Personally I think if my child wants it done I'll do it when they are old enough to decide. I don't see any point and I'm just not a girlie girl, mine have been pierced for 17 years and I have very rarely worn earrings.

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La - posted on 12/02/2010

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Sherri said:Actually I have seen them done with a needle and I am the opposite of most of you guys I would never allow my child to get pierced that way gun is far less traumatic and far quicker.



This statement, while you feel it is correct, is completely false. While it may be quicker and "easier" for the person doing the piercing, it inflicts significantly more trauma to the surrounding tissue and the gun cannot be completely sterilized after each use. Using a blunt object (like an earring) to make a hole by brute force as opposed to using a sharp object (like a needle) to pierce a precise hole is the equivalent of trying to cut your arm off with a butter knife vs a filet knife....it would hurt way more, cause more bleeding, and cause more irritation to your arm to cut it with the butter knife than with the filet knife. Think about it.

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Not that I'm recommending anyone pierce their daughter's ears but I'm curious why y'all think they're so difficult to take care of when baby's are younger. If you've never cared for a baby's piercing then you're not really able to comment on that, are you? You might THINK it's a hassle but in my experience, I bought a huge thing of special cleaner and barely used any. I cleaned them for two or three days and after that I didn't bother anymore. They were totally fine by themselves. I've never removed them and she's NEVER touched them, snagged them or played with them. I honestly don't even know if Roxanne realizes that her ears are pierced sometimes.



I don't get that aspect of the argument. From everything that I've heard, it's the older kids that play with them and have problems with them, perhaps once they start changing them and touching them?!!?!

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I've heard some of you mention a "proper" piercer.....just for the record, I had a piercer friend do Roxanne's (and all of my piercings as well) with surgical steel in a sterile salon. I wouldn't do it with a gun either. Just sayin...

Johnny - posted on 12/02/2010

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Since it easily grows over, it's not something that I get too bent out of shape about. Perhaps it could be seen as inflicting unnecessary pain on a small child without their permission... but I suspect that most little girls end up being happy that their moms pierced their ears. I would have loved it, personally.

That being said, I tend to view it as something that I can hold over my tweeny-bopper's head when she's getting out of line. "You want to get your ears pierced? Then you'd better listen." I don't want to ruin that advantage by jumping into it now.

La - posted on 12/02/2010

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I was a body piercer for years before I became a nurse. I have ranted on these forums many times about the Do's and Don'ts of ear piercings so I will keep this one brief. I pierced my first daughter's ears myself at seven months with sterile supplies, piercing needles, and titanium earrings. I intend to pierce my second daughter's ear around 6-7 months of age as well. I do not think it is cruel. Yes, it is a societal ritual, but I have rarely met many women who didn't want their ears pierced. If my girls decide they don't want the piercings in the future they can take them out. If they decide to keep the piercings then they don't have to worry about going through the healing process as young girls who are much more active than infants and much more likely to bang, rip, and irritate the fresh piercings.

I don't agree with the argument of not piercing their ears because it is "their body their choice." If you want to go along those lines of thinking then if they want to go get their face tattooed and dye their hair blue at 14 then they should be able to because it is "their body their choice." I will always have a say in what they do to their bodies until they are 18 and not living under my roof.

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I would think they would be easier to take care of as babies and keep clean if they don't mess with them but a lot of babies do play with them, like Keira did and now there's nothing I can do, her ears are ruined. It bothers me that her ears were pierced and they left the earrings in for as long as they did when she wouldn't leave them alone. I give her dad crap all the time because she is soo bummed she can't wear earrings now. Emily is 7 and got hers done about a year ago, metals are a problem for her so after too many infections I had to get her small silver hoops that never get changed, at least till I can afford something different. Everyone tries to buy her these cheap earrings and it sucks because they are cute but she can't wear them.

Lindsay - posted on 12/03/2010

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My daughter does not have her ears pierced but I did consider it when she was an infant. I personally think little girls look precious with their ears pierced, but at the time I was worried about her messing with them and pulling them out so I decided against it. I was 5 when I had mine done and I too remember it being a fun night out with mom. We went and got new haircuts, then I got my ears pierced on a whim, and then we went out to dinner. It was a fun night and I hope Madeline and I will have a similarly memorable day when/if she brings it up.

Kunang - posted on 12/03/2010

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Personally I would never do it to my bubba. But coming from an Indonesian background its very common to get your babies ears pierced so I'm quite used to the fact that some people do it, I'm not sure why the do it though. Here in Australia, not so much.

Nikki - posted on 12/03/2010

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While I like the look of them, I just couldn't do it to my daughter, it does conflict with my feelings on children's rights and I can't stand to see her in pain. I want the memories that I had with my mum as well, I remember feeling so special and grown up, I think I was ten. That's if she decides she wan't them, she is quite the tom boy at one, not what I expected!


Quoting Laura
"I don't agree with the argument of not piercing their ears because it is "their body their choice." If you want to go along those lines of thinking then if they want to go get their face tattooed and dye their hair blue at 14 then they should be able to because it is "their body their choice." I will always have a say in what they do to their bodies until they are 18 and not living under my roof"

I think you are taking the opinion to the extreme, of course as parents we use our common sense to decide what our children can and cannot do with their bodies, I can't really speak for everyone else but for me "their body, their choice" is saying that when I feel she is an appropriate age if she chooses to get her ears pierced then that is fine, if she asks for a tattoo at ten, well I think you can guess what the answer to that would be! But I don't want to make the choice to alter her body without her consent unless it's for a necessary medical procedure.

Johnny - posted on 12/02/2010

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Maybe it is because I don't actually have defined ear lobes.... Yes, I'm a freak.

Minnie - posted on 12/02/2010

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Eh, Carol, my holes have never grown over. One of them is cracked cartilage, too.

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My 5 year old hadn't had earrings in for probably 4 years, she would try to rip them out so the holes are stretched and they WON'T close. So now that shes old enough to know not to mess with them and would love to wear earrings she can't. I put earrings in once and they look horrible so she's basically out of luck. I just don't see the point.

Johnny - posted on 12/02/2010

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Hmm... mine grew over and you could never tell they were there. Even I couldn't see it. Perhaps because I didn't get it done until I was 12.

Jaime - posted on 12/02/2010

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If my son wants piercings when he's older,he is welcome to get them. His body, his choice.

September - posted on 12/02/2010

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I don't have a daughter however if and when I do I plan to wait until she is old enough to express she wants them and is old enough to take care of them.

Caitlin - posted on 12/02/2010

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Oh man, my kids will NEVER get pierced with a piercing gun.. I blame that for all the problems I had with mine when I was a kid, which is why if I ever get my ears repierced, it will be at a real piercing parlour. I`m thinking I may wait till my daughter is older and asking to get hers done, i`ll get mine done first so she can see what it`s like, and she can learn how to keep them clean.. Since my girls are only 15 months apart, they can both come at the same time to watch and learn, and decide if they want to do it when they are 10.. May as well use my earlobes as examples for them first..

Jenn - posted on 12/02/2010

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Carol - you're right that even with a laser removal a tattoo isn't completely gone - just like when you pierce your ears the hole does NOT totally close up and there is a scar. I'm not saying that they are the same - but both will leave a permanent scar of some sort.

Jessica - posted on 12/02/2010

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Peyton just turned 6 months old and we got her ears done about a week or so before Halloween. I love them, she doesn't even seem to notice or care that they are there and when she got them done, she was pro, alittle cry and then back to giggling. They have healed nicely and I don't think she is going to be traumatized or loathe me when she is older if she decides she doesn't want them peirced. I don't regret it. :)

Jessica - posted on 12/02/2010

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If I had a daughter I'd personally wait until she was old enough to decide to want to do it herself. I don't have anything against people doing it with their babies, but personally I don't like the way it looks. Also, I have a hard enough time watching DS get his shots- no way I'd want to voluntarily take my baby to get poked more than they need to!

I also think its more fun for them when they're older and want to do it- like a PP said, you can make it a girl's day out. My little sister got hers done a couple years ago when she was 8- she told my mom she wanted to have her ears pierced and so they went. And she was sooooo excited about it and loved getting to wear different ear rings.

Johnny - posted on 12/02/2010

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I'm not a big fan of child piercing, as I mentioned But really, it is not the slightest bit comparable to tattoos. Piercings grow over, even with lasers, tattoos are never really gone.

Minnie - posted on 12/02/2010

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I believe that it is my child's choice (when she -or he-) is able to make that choice and take responsibility for it.



I don't believe I have any right to make body alterations for cosmetic purposes upon an unconsenting human being.



I am thankful that my mother allowed me to make that choice. I got my ears pierced for my 12th birthday.



And I got a tattoo when I turned 19. Imagine if she had decided to get a little heart on my right shoulder when I was an infant because she thought it would look cute and girly?

Jenn - posted on 12/02/2010

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I won't get my daughters' ears done until they are old enough to ask for it and take care of it themselves. I don't like babies with earrings and don't see the point.

Jenny - posted on 12/02/2010

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I'm with Loureen. It's not my body so it's not my choice. We'll be taking my daughter in for hers for her 8th birthday. And we will be going to a proper piercer, no guns. Since I had my nose pierced this summer, she's been all over it.

Jocelyn - posted on 12/02/2010

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When my daughter (or son) ask me if they can pierce their ears, then and only then will they be getting pierced. It is their body, and therefor their choice. I always have women (older women it seems) ask me when I'm going to pierce my daughters ears and they just look at me with this blank stare when I tell them "not until she asks for it".
I also refuse to use a piercing "gun". They will be going to a proper parlor.

Hannah - posted on 12/02/2010

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I had my daughters ears pierced at 4 months old at the pediatricians office. I was told to either do it before they are 1 or wait until after 5. I wanted them done, so I did it. I do not regret it one bit and think she looks beautiful. If she doesn't want them in she can take them out and let it grow over. It's a freaking ear piercing, some people act as though I just had her stabbed! :)



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I'm 34. Never pierced my ears, never wanted to. My girls will be 9 in less than 2 weeks and they don't have their ears done. They WANT to, but they need to prove to me they can be responsible enough to care for them first. I'm thinking MAYBE 10ish if they can straighten up a bit more in the next year. Maybe it'll be older though. And yes, they are watching me type this right now. ;)

Sarah - posted on 12/02/2010

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Nope. I wouldn't do it. It's unnecessary and it's inflicting pain for pure vanity reasons.
My girls will wait until they are at least in Secondary School. It will be a nice Mummy-Daughter thing to do and they'll be old enough to decide for themselves and look after them themselves.

Caitlin - posted on 12/02/2010

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My mom had my ears pierced when I was little - I didn't want them done, they are now mostly grown over, but I don't see why she had to do it. I've had other piercings, but never in my earlobes, I feel like it should have been my decision!

I wont get my girls ears pierced until they are old enough to ask and care for them (about 10 I think, if they want). At that point, they can do 100% of the care on their own, and if it gets infected, the earrings come out, that's on them.. If all goes well, they learn a great lesson.

Krista - posted on 12/02/2010

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I just really don't see the point. My philosophy is to not have my unconsenting child's skin poked, cut or pierced without a damn good medical reason to do so.

Babies' ears are already so perfect and sweet, that piercing them just seems like gilding the lily at best, and desecration at worst. Little girls are already so freaking cute that I just don't see the point in blinging them up.

Plus, like Carol said, ear piercing can be used as a pretty major carrot for good behaviour!

Kate CP - posted on 12/02/2010

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Meh. It's a personal choice but I think it looks tacky on most babies.

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I had Roxanne's ears pierced when she was 10 months. To be honest, it was tradition and I'm semi embarrassed to admit that until I joined COMS I never really gave it much thought.

While I do think Roxanne looks absolutely adorable with her ears pierced, and she's never had any trouble with them, and I do not regret doing it, I WILL NOT be piercing my next child's anything until they're old enough to make the decision for themselves. For me, I've realized that it's a human rights issue and cultural traditions can kiss my ass!

Stifler's - posted on 12/01/2010

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Basically I hadn't even thought of whether if I had a girl I'd get their ears pierced until all these threads popped up. It just seems unnecessary to me.

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That's true Sharon. Frequency of changing has nothing to do with the age. I was nine when mine were pierced. I've been through stages of just wearing studs. But recently I've taken to picking out a different pair to wear each day...hoops, chandeliers, dangles...love my earrings.

Sharon - posted on 12/01/2010

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I pierced my daughters ears as soon as it was legal.

My daughter has only had one piercing infection in 8 years and it was right after her 7th birthday due to some cheap ass earrings she got as a gift.

She only has 'little girl' earrings but she picks out pairs to wear all the time.

My ears have been pierced for most of my life and 90% of the time I have daily studs in and i forget about them except for weekle/biweekly cleaning. On the occasion i take them out - i tend to forget to put something back in. i don't see what frequency of wearing earrings has to do with the age of when you get your childs' ears pierced.

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I though it was funny that everyone thinks it hurts a baby less then a older child or they don't notice, but they do. I honestly almost got my oldest daughters ears done when she was a baby until I saw a couples other babies get their ears pierced. They were obviously hurting and since then I have just thought its mean.

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This is my copy and paste from the other thread...

I'll get it done when she's old enough to ask and I think she's responsible enough to take care of her ears. Then I'll make a fun girls' day out of it. When she's around 8 or 9 we'll go get lunch, get her ears peirced, do a little shopping...you know! My mom did that with me, and it's a great memory!

Also keep in mind some girls don't like their peirced ears or don't want them. My sister is such a person. At 23 she's never had her ears peirced and has no interest in it. I'm sure she's grateful that our mom didn't peirce her ears before she was old enough to make up her own mind!

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