Easier to Raise

Bonnie - posted on 11/15/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )




Which gender would you say is easier to raise, a boy or girl? why?

You may only have boys or girls and not both genders, but you can even give your opinion based on what you see other parents go through or even if you have been able to babysit children of the other gender.

A lot of people including my own mother has told me boys are easier. I have to say I was a good girl growing up. I had a bad temper as a teenager, but most do no matter what gender they are. I'm not truly sure why my mother would say this. When I was pregnant for the second time, my mother prayed I would have another boy because of her opinion. Really pissed me off.


Jenn - posted on 11/16/2010




You know, I've heard that expression before Desiree about: with a boy you only have 1 penis to worry about, with a girl it's every other penis in the world! But I feel the opposite. With a girl, she gets knocked up and can't get pregnant again for at least 9 months. A boy can knock up a girl every day and have an endless supply of babies! That sounds much worse to me! :O

Desiree - posted on 11/16/2010




My husband always says it take more of a man to bring up a girl rather than a boy. the reason being with a girl he has to worry about the whole neighbourhood, with a boy its only one. He may have a point there.

Kate CP - posted on 11/15/2010




Sara: No...we're raising animals...they just don't have fur and will eventually learn to walk on two legs. ;)

[deleted account]

I think its all a load of bull. It depends on the CHILD, not the gender, UNLESS you factor in how people treat children differently based on their gender. I only have 1 daughter and she's young, but from looking at the kids at work (all under 3), we have equal amounts of fiesty boys AND girls. We have equal amounts of active boys AND girls. We have equal amounts of whiney boys AND girls. We have equal amounts of biting boys AND girls. We have equal amounts of charming boys AND girls. We have equal amounts of squealing giggly boys AND girls.

There are differences between boys and girls, I won't dispute that, but I don't think those differences make one gender 'easier' than another. Parenting styles might make them 'easier' but gender means nothing.

This conversation has been closed to further comments


View replies by

[deleted account]

"With boys you only have to worry about one dick....with girls you worry about thousands of dicks." -- That's how I heard it, but same shit!

[deleted account]

@Jenn - I was thinking the same thing. If parents of boys paid as much attention to that sort of thing as parents of girls then I don't think we'd have as a big a problem. Obviously it wouldn't eliminate it but at least it would be fair to the teenagers. I hate that "Boys are studs, girls are sluts" mentality.

LaCi - posted on 11/16/2010




I think it depends more on the attitude than the sex. I like boy stuff, so a tomboy or boyish boy would be way easier for me. A super girly girl, or a feminine boy, much more difficult.

Jenny - posted on 11/16/2010




So far my experience has been the girl is WAY easier than the boy. The boy is hell on wheels but the girl would flip through books and colour for hours. The boy will eat crayons and throw them at the girl. If I had a boy first, he would likely be an only child.

I suspect when they are teensagers the roles will reverse. I guess I will find out (help me!).

Jodi - posted on 11/16/2010




Jenn, I agree with you 100%! While there are differences between males and females, those differences don't come into major effect until puberty when hormones start a-flowin'! I have only 1 girl, 2 more on teh way, but I have several nieces and nephews and here's my observation. (And by the way, all my sisters have at least one of each gender and ALL say girls are easier) The children are almost immediately treated differently than their opposite gendered counterpart. The boys are given less time to stop crying and given excuses for hitting or being too rough (boys will be boys you know, *laugh* and return to adult conversation) while girls are coddled, hugged and kissed until the tears and post-crying hiccups subside. Violence or misbehavior is not laughed off as "girls will be girls" but quickly nipped in the bud. Boys are spoken to differently, less sing-songy, gruffer, shorter sentences, girls are treated to higher pitched voices, gentler words, more drawn out sentences and deeper conversations. The result? Boys that roughhouse, act gruffer, say naughtier things etc etc and girls that are sensitive, play quietly and courteous of others feelings. With my own daughter, she's a bit of both worlds. I tend to her when she cries, but only to a point, she can rough house within reason, but is disciplined for poor behavior, is taught about feelings and spoken to like a human being, not like some blue streaking sailor or some southern belle. She can play with the boys while wearing her tutu, collect bugs to have tea party with and be sweet or rough depending on the situation. I don't like gender roles!
This is just my experience watching other people raise their children, and I can clearly see how boys are treated differently than girls from the day they are brought home. Both are hard to raise, but you shape your child.

Bonnie - posted on 11/16/2010




I also feel that how children are raised whether they are boys or girls has a little something to do with it. For example, I have noticed that a lot of children who have parents who don't pay attention to them much or are not around much, those children tend to turn into the rebelious teenagers.

Jenn - posted on 11/15/2010




I think it has more to do with the subtle differences in the way they are raised, rather than the way they naturally are. I have 1 boy and 2 girls, and while they are still young, I can't say I've noticed any real differences yet.

Stifler's - posted on 11/15/2010




I'd say based on the people I know `that girls are easier to toilet train. Boys sleep through the night slower too apparently. I only have a boy though and I find him difficult to do anything with so it could be a case of the grass is greener.

[deleted account]

My eighth grade English teacher used to say that you raise animals. Children are not animals. You rear children. Just thought I'd say that cuz I'm a little bored, and that always comes to mind when I see people talking about raising children.

So is it easier to raise boys or girls? Probably depends on both the parent and child in question. So far my girl has been pretty easy. I have two nieces. The five year old will literally talk your ear off. She's here today and I know every detail about Justin Beiber's life now. My four year old niece is whiny. I also have two nephews ages 6 and 1.5. They are both very active and clumsy and break things. But overall all the kids in my family are GOOD kids and we don't have anything to complain about.

Rosie - posted on 11/15/2010




i always hear girls are easier until they get to be teenagers. we'll see, i have 3 boys and so far the spazmaticness of them all is a bit overwhelming at times. i was never a handful, even in my teenage years. i'll tell my full opinion on this when grants gets to be about 14. only a little over 3 years to go!! argh!!!!

[deleted account]

I only have a son at the moment but have nieces who I look after when needed. I have heard that boys are easier to look after I tend to think that neither is easier they are just very different. Girls have a tendancy to be more emotional and snipey but boys are more adventurous and tend to do more 'stupid' things like jumping face first into the floor for fun (as my 13 month old has decided to start doing).

Bonnie - posted on 11/15/2010




I have two boys so I can only give an honest opinion based on what I see and friends of ours who have girls. I think girls are easier earlier on in life (within the first 5 years) because they seem less rambunctious (sp?) and boys are always fighting and being wild. From what i've seen in the teenage years, I think boys are easier to handle then because they don't seem to rebel as much. Girls at that age are into makeup and trying to look older than they really are.

[deleted account]

I have a son but he's only 11 months old now. I have heard boys are easier to raise but I've seen some difficult boys at playgroups who refuse to take notice of their mothers...or the mothers don't make an attempt to stop them!

Joanna - posted on 11/15/2010




I have 2 girls bur not enough experience yet to say... But man, my 3 year old is as emotional now as I thought shed be as a teen, so I'm NOT looking forward to 10 years from now, lol. Plus she's as rambunctious as boys her age. With her, gender has nothing to do with it... She's just herself, and that girl isn't very easy, haha.

Amanda - posted on 11/15/2010




I have 1 boy and he's my oldest and than 3 girls. They are 4, almost 3 and almost 2. I would have to say boys are easier, for me anyway. Girls get attitudes, throw fits, cry over the little things. Boys are more snuggly well my son was and my girls are rude when they want to be. I watch 2 boys and 2 girls and the boys are definetly less of a handful since the only thing boys do that I dn't like is rough house!! Drives me nuts! They have WAY too much energy! Lol...But from my experience I'd say girls are more work emotionally! Can't wait to hear everyones views though!!!

Tah - posted on 11/15/2010




my daughter has been easier so far...my oldest son is so...well...old..lol...knows alot, ask alot of questions, pushes the limits...my younger son is stubborn, a daredevil, we almost have our own room in the ER(knock on wood, the marble was the last trip)lol. He really pushes it also. My daughter is a mommy's girl and daddy's girl..lol. She is on honor roll(my son makes it sometimes too, sometimes he gets lazy and gets a C). She gets up without having to be told and dresses herself. She helps with her baby brother and takes care of her big brother, one day my nephew was spending the night and she woke up and made breakfast for them both. Example:..Today i got off work this morning and had to come home and get the baby and sydney ready and off to the doctor for their asthma meds. While waiting for the doctor, she whips out a pen and piece of paper for the baby to use to write with because he was getting antsy, something i do all the time..lol, like at church. She is so nurturing already, she doesn't talk back and knock on wood she won't go through what i did as a young girl. I am trying my best to shield her from those things. So far the girls are easier, now check back with me in 6 years. I may be singing another song..lol.

She also leaves me little letters and notes thanking me for being such a good mom, cooking, cleaning, taking her to the doctor(yes..lol) etc. I think i have been bribed..lol..

[deleted account]

My experience with Roxanne definitely gives my vote to girls BUT, I'm not looking forward to the pre-teen and teenage years. I remember mine! ACK!

Sharon - posted on 11/15/2010




GAH! I have both. In a lot of ways boys are easier. Handling a girls' emotions/hormonal fluctuations is a nightmare. Boys have them, to a lesser extent. I dunno if my daughter is susceptible to my hormonal changes but good lord she sure gets moody for an 8yr old!

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms