Egg Donation

Nichole - posted on 10/05/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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What does everyone think about egg donation? I am in process of donating and would like to get other mothers opinions on it and if anyone has every done it before?

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La - posted on 10/08/2010

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I donated one time before I had my own children. I was actually asked to donate to the same couple a second time (because they had a successful pregnancy and wanted a sibling of the same biological descent) but I was breastfeeding at the time and got pregnant with my second child soon after that so I had to decline.

Becky - posted on 10/05/2010

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I don't know. If I knew the person I was donating to, I probably would. But, I'm a little weirded out by the idea of my kids having a half biological sibling out there and having no idea who it is. What if one of them married her? Ick! I know, the chances are 1 in a million, but it could happen!

Charlie - posted on 10/05/2010

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Its a donation in Australia , no money is allowed to be exchanged .

I totally would donate an egg if it helps someone feel what i feel when i am pregnant and when i am around my children , what a wonderful gift to give !

Nichole - posted on 10/05/2010

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I got my tubes tied like an idiot after my first child and I want more children, I need IVF and my insurance company wont cover me to get it so if I donate I can save enough money to get IVF and if IVF doesn't work I know that I made someone very happy of being able to have the joy of child birth.

Charlene - posted on 10/05/2010

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I couldn't do it. Sorry, I just don't think I could bear knowing that somewhere there is a child that has half my DNA and doesn't call me mommy.
Although.. if it was a sister I *MIGHT* be able to do it.. but I doubt it.

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Janessa - posted on 10/10/2010

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Hell no i would never gave my eggs to no one period. Just knowing that my offspring is running around somewhere in the world is crazy without you knowing. I cannot deal with that and what if your child fall in love with one of your off spring you did not know about? I guess i do not think any white women would want my eggs anyways because majority of people who do this are whites.I highly doubt Blacks eggs/sperm are in demand, period and It is the truth.

Lucy - posted on 10/10/2010

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Personally, I don't think I could deal with the idea that there is a child out there that is biologically mine (and a sibling to my other children) and I am not raising them. I think I would feel as if a little piece of my life was missing. But I think that if you are emotionally up to it, it is a wonderful thing to do for another person. the best gift ever.

I do feel very strongly, though, that a donor should think very carefully about their responsibility to the resulting child as they grow up. You should either agree to maintain some kind of relationship with the child and their family over the years, or be fully prepared to be contacted by and receptive to the child if and when they choose to find you, at whatever age that may be. A total lack of knowledge about a child's biological roots can cause serious identity and attachment issues for them later in life.

For the record, I feel exactly the same way about sperm donors!

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Here in the UK you don't get paid for egg or sperm donation so there is no cash incentive. But I wouldn't consider it anyways - to me regardless of whether the egg had been fertilised by someone elses sperm and grown in another woman's womb to be that child would still be mine. I wouldn't mind being a surrogate mother for my sister for example if she couldn't carry her own children but it would have to be one of her eggs and her partner's sperm.

Sharon - posted on 10/09/2010

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Go for it, for money for free, whatever works for you.

I would only do it for money for relative strangers. For family I'd do it for reimbursement of costs.

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I dont know personally but good on you.. it will be a precious gift those parents will cherish for ever.

I think sperm donation is sad when you have children left as adults etc wondering who there father is.I grew up never knowing my father not from sperm donation but i think you have to think of the effects further down the line on your child from sperm donation..it does affect many children born from it as the grow up.

I would be a surrogate mom though..especially for a friend, family member.Its something i would do for free..my payment would be the look on there faces as there handed there newborn baby..it would be so worth it.To know in that moment there feeling the same as i did holding my children for the first time.Its a truly selfless act.

Nichole - posted on 10/06/2010

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I did hear about the guy who that happened too and I think one of the kids came and found him and he freaked out. When I went to the initial appointment to talk to the nurse and the therapist they explain all this to me and said one day that could happen and would I be ok with it. I actually would be because I will know that I helped out a women have the ability to raise a child and go threw the joy of child birth. They also told me that I should tell my son that I did this so when he does start to date he knows there are other children out there with half his DNA. I've learned so much threw this program and I am happy to help out a women who is unable to have children herself.

Stifler's - posted on 10/06/2010

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Oh this happened in the US I think, they kept using this one guys sperm for like 14 kids or something like that.

April - posted on 10/06/2010

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never in a million years would i let my husband donate sperm, ever. i can't stand the idea of a child out there being his and someone else's but not mine. maybe that's selfish of me, but it's how i feel. my husband feels the same way about egg donation. we have mutually agreed that we won't be donating any of our DNA, unless it's for a CLOSE family member.

Tracey - posted on 10/06/2010

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I couldn't do it as my son is disabled and I wouldn't want to chance giving another woman a disabled child, however if my son was OK I would donate to a friend or family who couldn't have children.

Charlie - posted on 10/06/2010

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We have pretty strict rules in Australia about how many children can be born from one doner and in what areas of the country .

Joanna - posted on 10/06/2010

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I see no problem with it, and don't really see why it matters why a person does it, whether for money or just a selfless act. It's helping someone have a baby, and that's pretty awesome. Of course (through adoption) I already have someone with half my DNA who doesn't call me mommy, so the thought isn't new to me.

Stifler's - posted on 10/06/2010

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It's happened before with the biological offspring of sperm donors who donate frequently and their sperm are used.

Heather - posted on 10/05/2010

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I would totally do it, especially if I were done having kids. I mean, what else am I going to do with them and it might give someone else the oportunity to have a child.

Amie - posted on 10/05/2010

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It's the same here in Canada (no money exchanged). For surrogates, egg donation, etc.



I don't know if I would do it though.

Stifler's - posted on 10/05/2010

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I haven't done and I don't think I would do it. I'd feel like there was a child out there that was half mine. I probably wouldn't let my partner donate sperm either. Why are you doing it? Just curious, not saying it's wrong lol.

Nichole - posted on 10/05/2010

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I got my tubes tied after having my first son like an idiot and I want more child, I need IVF to do this and about 20,000$ because no insurance company will help me pay for it. I am donating so I again can have more children and if the IVF doesn't work for me then I know there are more of me out there in the world somewhere because I gave someone the joy of being able to give birth cause their eggs did not work and mine did. There is money involved but I really won't see a dime of it. :)

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I see this question come up every now and then and I often wonder: Are you donating an egg for the money? Or donating out of a selfless act of providing an infertile woman/couple an opportunity at parenthood? Are you donating to someone you know (sister, best friend?) and not receiving any money? What is your motivation to donate an egg?

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