Eminem video..promotes violence?


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this song is to explain the cycle of abuse and show the perspective of both partners who are involved in that type of relationship. We have all seen Rihanna's bruised and swollen face and we all know Eminem has been abusive in past relationships.. it's just a statement to show people what the violence cycle is and hopefully make them open their eyes to abuse.

Eminem had always liked the shock tactics to promote his music but I do believe everything he writes comes from very authentic feelings. I absolutely love his music and his lyrics always speak to me. His last album is far from being as much of a "piss people off" tactic. It is much more mature and speaks volumes about all his struggles throughout the years. He seems to be speaking out so that other people realize that the cycle of violence and addiction can be broken. It's refreshing.

?? - posted on 08/24/2010




Rhianna's salary for her part in this song was donated to a charity that helps women get out of abusive relationships.

If anyone wants to judge this song as something that "promotes" abusive behavior - they are basing their opinions on knowing nothing, so their opinion officially means jackshit.

People are gonna think the worst just so they have something to bitch about. If they educated themselves about the song, Eminem and Rhianna's experiences in abusive relationships - on either end of the spectrum - then they would be promoting the video and the actual purpose of the video / song, which is the complete opposite.

Rosie - posted on 08/24/2010




i absolutely love eminem as well. people really need to know that his last couple albums have been pretty heartfelt, and he's coming from a place of struggle.

his previous ones i still love. i love that he can say whatever the fuck he wants and pisses so many people off in the process. shit, even the songs where he talks about killing kim and about gays. i'm so against domestic violence because of my past, and i'm passionate about gay rights, but the lyrics don't get a rise out of me. i really don't know why. maybe it's cause i can just sit, chill, listen to some good tunes, and not look to much further into the lyrics than needed. he loves to create controversy, it's his thing. and you're playing right into his hands if you fall for it.

Sharon - posted on 08/24/2010




I think for the truely thoughtful - the song does NOT promote domestic violence - it does bring it to awareness and maybe a little of the mindset behind it.

My daughter LOVES Rhiannas' part in this song and sings her lines over and over. I had to explain to her why maybe singing "Just gonna stand there and watch me burn
But that's alright because I like the way it hurts
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry
But that's alright because I love the way you lie
I love the way you lie"

over and over as we sat in line at costco might be misunderstood by some people who don't listen to popular music. She was pretty hurt. At 7 yrs, the lyrics mean nothing to her, its the pretty singing that captivated her. After saying that people wouldn't understand what the song was about with just what she was singing, I was then asked to explain WHY those words might confuse (and disturb people) Which led us down the ever so fun path of discussion about domestic violence. Where my 11 yr old adds his two cents. I was a bit taken aback at his understanding of the song and impressed with his extreme disgust for domestic violence. YAY!

Stifler's - posted on 08/23/2010




It's not promoting domestic violence, it's explaining why people stay with an abusive partner.

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LaCi - posted on 08/25/2010




I hate mainstream rap so much. If I have to hear that fucking eminem/rihanna song blaring through my window much more I may hang myself.

Amanda - posted on 08/25/2010




HAHA When ever a song speaks the truth, the media goes totally nuts about it. I love this song, it opened the conversation about abuse with my children big time (though in our home any sort of abuse is not tolerated) it really brought it to light for my children. We talked about M&M and Rhihannas history of abuse, we spoke about how there is two people responsible for abuse (in most cases). We all agree'ed that you can only be responsible for your own actions, and you need to keep yourself in check at all times, no matter what the other person is doing. Also that this type of relationship is not healthy, even if you "love" the person. Good job Eminem and Rihanna for putting the truth about abuse to the masses, esp our younger children has most girls are abused by the time they are 20.

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I think its showing something real..its going to affect many people who are going through it and people who have gotten out of domestic abuse.I wouldnt allow my child to watch the video but she likes the song..well rihanna part.I think for once this video is the least of any ones troubles..there have been worse before that.lol.:-)

Jessica - posted on 08/25/2010




MOST music promotes violence in one form or another. The thing is, only people who already had a screw loose would take that information on board and think it was a normal thing.

Meghan - posted on 08/24/2010




Jo, that was exactly the point I was going to make. Both have been in abusive relationships. And Kati you are right as well, I am a HUGE Eminem fan and his last few albums have been quite a bit more heartfelt.

Brittney - posted on 08/24/2010




I don't feel the the song promotes it. I both love and hate this song. I love this gong cause it sounds good. I hate it because it makes me look at the relationship I had with my daughters dad. Tho it wasn't as extreme, I still get a twinge of pain in my heart every time that song comes on.

Sara - posted on 08/24/2010




I love Eminem. I think most of his music is thought provoking and comes from someplace real inside him. He's a talented guy. And I agree with Loureen. Doing things to piss people off has just become his MO.

Charlie - posted on 08/24/2010




Dont get me wrong they are all excellent artists but people have to see past the "act"

Stifler's - posted on 08/23/2010




HAHA so true Loureen. He does seem to only do outrageous things and nothing else.

Charlie - posted on 08/23/2010




Any who takes Eminem seriously is an idiot , just like Alice Cooper , Marylin Manson Ect ect they are all personas who use shock tactics to sell albums .

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