Encouraging Baby to Walk

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My daughter will be 14mo next week. She stands up on her own, pulls up on furniture, cruises a /little/ bit while holding onto furniture, and can stand up straight and drink from her sippy all by herself. I'm sure she will be walking soon. Sometimes when she crawls she looks like she's about to put all her weight on one foot and stand up to walk, but it's like she's scared to take that first step just yet. We hold her by the hands (it has to be both hands with her) and she walks fine, balances fairly well and everything. But if we let go and try to coax her to walk on her own, she just sits down and starts crawling instead.



I'm sure she's be walking soon, but I would like some tips to help us encourage her walking on her own. Like I said, she seems scared, so I would like to help her get over that. Take the training wheels off, so to speak.

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Krista - posted on 02/29/2012

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With mine, I didn't put any pressure on him. Instead, I helped him forget his fear.



Mine was at the same stage at yours, and one day, was clinging to the kitchen entryway. Just to amuse him, I hauled out some bubble solution and started blowing bubbles towards him. It wasn't my intent to make him walk -- that wasn't on my mind at all. But he was so delighted by the bubbles that he just completely forgot himself and tottered towards them. From that point on, he was off to the races.



I now recommend that trick to any parent whose child is ALMOST there, because it's such a low-pressure way to encourage them.

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What your daughter feels is 100% normal.I think encouragement is perfectly fine however give her space and time and i assure in no time she will take off.She has to gain the confidence herself in order to do it.



She has to master this herself and feel safe and strudy within herself to take off.Its a process a child goes through..if you observe you will see week by week she will have something new.She masters something in order to do the next step.



I had a good friend whos son was the same and i gave the same advice.I told them to relax that he will get there.There is no hurry.He got there alright.She has to run after him now lol.

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Jaime -- I know the "slow squat" you are talking about -- Griffin is an expert at it. It hurts my knees just watching him!!



I would try sitting on the floor and standing in front of her. Just keep standing her back up if she sits down. Make it into a catching her game.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/29/2012

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That is fantastic! What luck! Have you checked craigslist for your area?? That might be an option also. Or for your baby shower, if you can request everyone just pitching in for one, and that be your gift it might work.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/29/2012

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Jaime, you can always call, and get their really early so you get first pick. Those things go fast. if you can, bring the car seat you will be using for your new baby, and make sure it fits properly.

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Your daughter will walk, in her own time, so stop worrying about it. My grandson (also 14 months) just took off the other day (not surprisingly when his elder sister wasn't present and Mummy was busy) but after about 20 or so steps seemed to realise what he was doing and sat quickly, but too late, Mummy had seen him!

Children reach the walking stage at different ages, there is no 'norm'...so stop worrying and enjoy your daughter just as she is.



Isn't it strange, how we have healthy children but then create something to worry about!!! When they grow and become independent we worry then too.

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M, i didn't even think about craigslist! thank you! and yes, for my baby shower i'm just asking for gift cards and we can put them all toward a stroller if i don't find one another way. awesome idea! thank you :D



Rebecca K, we have tried the walking holding one hand idea, but she tries to sit down. when i hold her hands, though, i don't pull on them to keep her up, she only holds on for balance unless i let one hand go. then, like i said, she slowly sits down. it's pretty funny to watch, she's ever so careful about squatting down...



what seems to work the best is when she's wide awake and happy and i stand her up facing me, and i walk backwards while holding her hands. she grips my fingers so tight and does so well for a good while, but if she lets go she squats and starts crawling unless i make her stand again.

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I've got a gaggle of early walkers -- each of my kids walked at 9 or 10 months. I think it is largely genetic, but you certainly can encourage their skills. To encourage them, I would always make a game of taking their first steps. I would sit on the floor, stand them up about one step away from me, say "get your balance", and then pull my hands away. When they try to step and fall, I would laugh, give them a little silly shake (like a tickle while holding them), and stand them back up again and say, "try again". Each kid would always laugh and giggle the whole time. Eventually, they get one step down, so you move them farther back, and so on and so on. Just make a game of it. The bubbles are a good idea, but if she falls and hurts herself it might be counterproductive.

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the big convention that is coming up has a late evening special event that you have to have an invite card to attend, and i was lucky enough to attain one through a friend, so i'll be able to go the night before it actually opens. yay! even if i don't find a tandem stroller, i'm sure i'll find plenty of other great things for Sam.

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yeah, i've been looking at tandem strollers. i know definitely it'd be a good thing to have until she's much older. thankfully there are some consignment shops around and a big consignment convention coming up in a few weeks so hopefully i can find one for fairly cheap and maybe get the majority of our big needs out of the way.



it's getting warmer so we will be outside more and bubbles are always awesome! will have to get a big outdoor kit just cuz i love bubbles! only problems with it right now is Julie thinks the bottle is food and gets upset because we're not feeding her out of it. sigh...

Bonnie - posted on 02/29/2012

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Push toys or a favourite toy not in her reach should help. Kids start walking at different ages. Some as early as 9 months, others more like 18 months and some don't perfect it until 2. She will get the hang of it. She is well on her way.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/29/2012

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Push toys made both my kids go to fast and fall. I like the idea of bubbles or putting the sofa and a chair with objects on them to get her interest.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/29/2012

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She will be walking by then...clumsily but she will be doing it for sure. Have you looked into push strollers for infant seats and for bigger kids to sit in? Might be worth it, cause Julie is not going to be able to keep up.

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Thanks ladies, the bubbles idea sounds great :) I've been meaning to get her some push toys too, I just can't find any in my area. But I do hope she's walking before her baby brother gets here. She'll be 18mo by then and I won't be able to carry her around in another three months, that's for sure.



It seems like she's right on track, though, so I'm not going to worry :) I'll see if I can find some push toys online and that way her brother will have them when he's old enough too :D

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 02/29/2012

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I did the same as Elfrieda, push toys were our sons friend for a little while. He was scared too. I think most are, it is a scary thing being way up there, after all they are use to seeing from the ground up not the other way around. hehehe



I really like Krista's idea. Since, even if they don't walk for the bubbles, it is still fun in itself. ;)



Now my daughter was a nut case and walked at 7months 3 weeks but she has ADHD and I think she was just "bored"...



Although, I know the excitement for them to walk is large, but boy, now that mine is walking, I would LOVE for him to STOP! LOL (OK not really but he is definitely into EVERYTHING now - keeps us on our toes, for sure!)



Your's will be walking in no time, especially by the sounds of it, it will be any day now.... ;)

~♥Little Miss - posted on 02/29/2012

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Just keep doing what you are doing. Before you know it, she will let go of what ever she is cruising on, and walk over to you.

Elfrieda - posted on 02/29/2012

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My son really liked his pushtoy, he pushed it around from 12-15 months. After he took his first step I put it away because he was able to turn it, go backwards, and get it unstuck from corners, and was completely agile with it, but just lacked the confidence to walk without it. He took his first steps at 15 months, but still preferred to crawl until he was 17 months old. He would walk if we were cheering for him, but when he was just trying to get somewhere he crawled.



Overall I think the pushtoy was good for him because he was scared of walking by himself, so it was like a security thing for him, even though after a while he didn't actually need it.



Besides the pushtoy, my only suggestion would be to put something interesting on the coffeetable and something interesting on the sofa. Put them 2 babysteps apart, and she might get tired of getting down, crawling over, and standing up to go between them and will just take those few steps.

Lady Heather - posted on 02/29/2012

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My kid didn't walk until 21 months. So don't ask me? Lulz. We were in physio with her and it was like she rebelled against it. When we stopped she decided to walk. I imagine it's a scary thing to just let go. Krista's idea sounds gentle.



The nice thing about walking later is they tend to be more steady on their feet. Freja just stood up and walked one day. There was no stumbling. I guess that was her plan. Haz

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