Estranged husband to pay for son's $60 a week McD's habit?

Jodi - posted on 04/03/2011 ( 42 moms have responded )

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A COURT has told a mum she can no longer expect to fund her son's $60-a-week McDonald's habit.



The woman, in court seeking spousal maintenance, sought $1400 per week for living expenses for her and two of her children, who still live at home.



She told the Federal Magistrates' Court, sitting in Victoria, that her teenage son had a "Macca's habit".



But federal magistrate Evelyn Bender said the woman had to alter her lifestyle.



"There is no doubt in my mind that the amount claimed by the wife by way of weekly discretionary expenditure in her financial statement is excessive," Ms Bender said.



"She can no longer expect to live as she may have prior to separation, paying $100 per week in gifts, $150 on jeans for (the youngest child) as well as financing his 'Macca's habit' and providing him with generous amounts of pocket money."



In an interim decision on spousal maintenance, Ms Bender ordered that the husband pay the wife $800 per week.



The court heard that, before the couple split, the husband had given the wife $800 per week for food, clothing, medical expenses and other expenses.



But last March, he reduced the payment to $300 per week.



The wife claimed that since then she had exhausted $24,000 in savings on daily living costs.



She said weekly expenses were $1800, including costs associated with the care of their disabled child.



Ms Bender said the wife was challenged in court about some of the amounts claimed by her, including $100 for telephone, $100 for children's activities, $100 for entertainment/hobbies and $100 for medical/dental.



The woman said her expenses included $200 per week for clothes and shoes.



She said her teenage son's casual clothing was expensive, with jeans costing $150 per pair.



Ms Bender said that when challenged as to why she couldn't buy less expensive brands, she replied "well I could but he wouldn't have what his mates have".



She also told the court she needed $100 a week to buy gifts as her family had a tradition of gift giving.



The husband argued that expenses of $1800 per week were grossly inflated and that he could not afford to pay more than $300 a week.



Ms Bender said she was satisfied the husband could reasonably pay $800 a week.



Read more: http://www.news.com.au/national/mum-clai...



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Personally, I'd be telling the kid to get a damn job. I'd probably tell her to get one too. Talk about hungry for money.....

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Lady Heather - posted on 04/04/2011

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Well none of us really know if that was the lifestyle previously. Maybe it was, maybe it wasn't. Maybe the mother only started giving her son everything he wanted out of post-divorce guilt. I know my dad went through a phase like that. In any case, it's probably best that nobody eat 60 bucks worth of McDs a week.

Rosie - posted on 04/04/2011

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while i don't think this type of spending is necessary at all, he obviously dealt with it when they were married. he allowed his kid to eat maccas every fucking day, and wear $150 jeans. why all of a sudden should he not support that anymore? just cause he hates his wife? cause that's the only thing that's changed....

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I heard about this today on The Circle. Why does she need spousal support anyway? No divorcee I know in Australia gets that. They get their single mother's pension plus all the other concessions (like rent assistance, utility assistance, etc), plus child support. That is more than enough, if she wants more she needs to get off her fat Maccas ass and get a job!

However, I can see spending $60/wk on maccas. When we take the boys there for a special lunch, we spend $35 to feed the 4 of us (2 adults and 2 kids under 5). It's NOT a cheap place to eat. Having said that, $60/wk for one kid is feeding that shit to him on a daily basis! That is bad parenting.

She needs to start buying clothes (on a weekly basis?! WTF!) from Big W or Target and if the kid gets pissed because he wants what his mates have, then she needs to tell him to get a job to pay for the difference in cost. $150 for a pair of jeans is ridiculous!

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Kimberly - posted on 04/06/2011

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thats my neighbor all the way goes to the food shelf when all her kids have name brand clothes she gets her nails done aand 200 bucks goes to get he hair done and the game systems for her two boys oh and goes tanning down grading the people at the food shelf she waits till she is home and is screaming about how the people cant control there kids and i am telling her to back off thats where i came from i came from not knowing where my next meal is and then she is like i have been poor i lived on the reservation i went to the food shelf. i am sorry your poor and my level of poor are two way different things. i used the food shelf for the entire months worth of food not to just help me get threw the last week of the month. her kids have two tvs in each room and bitches that me and my husband should be making more than enough to pay for a seven hundred dollar apartment instead of needing to be in a homeless program to get back on our feet. because according to her we make more than she does on dissability and child support and she makes it. i say personally its so much easier to handle no money than to have money. i used to make 10 cents turn into a buck easy now that we are on a homeless program to help us back on our feet and have a little extra its harder lol

Toni - posted on 04/05/2011

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I still think $800 per week is exorbitant. That's what he was giving her while HE was living with her. With an adult man gone she doesn't need the same amount of money. I think he's foxing by saying he can only afford $300 and she is out of her mind saying she needs $1400-1800/wk.

Charlie - posted on 04/05/2011

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I agree with Laura , its not like it would have been a suprise to him this is what he was paying for BEFORE they seperated he is expected to continue to pay .

Isobel - posted on 04/05/2011

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I don't see how it's greedy to expect her husband to CONTINUE paying for things he has always paid for. He's obviously wealthy and can afford the payments.

Just cause they are not together doesn't mean that the child should now be held to a different standard.

Don't get me wrong, I don't like WHAT she's spending it on, but it's really none of my business.

What if her kids went to an expensive summer camp...should they stop going just cause their dad doesn't want to pay anymore? What if they go to private school? Should they now be expected to drop out and go to public school in whatever shitty neighbourhood their mother can afford on her minimum wage salary?

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The poor poor man. What a gold digger. Get a effing job really. What a lazy woman. Jeebuz. And a McD habit? Really? Fatty. What is that woman trying to kill her son?

Bonnie - posted on 04/05/2011

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It seems like all she wants her ex to pay for is things the family really doesn't need.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/05/2011

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That sickens me Shannen.

As far as the article, what a bunch of spoiled self rightous group of people the mother is rasing.,..and herself.

Sal - posted on 04/04/2011

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27 a week is more than i have ever got, over 15 years i have got exactly nothing, he lives o/s and the only chance that i will get anything ever is if he decides to move back....then i might get something....

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@ Jodi and Emma, the child support system sucks. The government really need to fix it. My ex doesn't even take the kids over night yet and he only has to pay 27 p/w. For 3 children and from what i have heard this rate does not change no matter the age of the child unless he changes jobs. It's stupid. 27 p/w doesn't even come close to covering my daughters preschool fees or Nappies for the 8 month old or the amount of food my 2 yr old eats in 1 week. It doesn't cover anything for even 1 child and the kids are young so i'd hate to have older children atm with the amount my boys eat now.
I think the woman is greedy. 800 p/w would be more then enough to cover the regular costs and especially if thats what she was getting before.

Sal - posted on 04/04/2011

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hmmm and the lawyers laugher all the way to the bank, they are the only winners in this type of situation

Lady Heather - posted on 04/04/2011

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He must be. That's my husband's entire take-home salary and it's not like we're hard up for cash around here.



I can't even imagine spending that kind of money. If she really did need it for her disabled kid that's fine. Sounds like some people have trouble with priorities. I can imagine that even if I was loaded, I wouldn't want my money to be used to spoil my kids and feed them shitty food.

Stifler's - posted on 04/04/2011

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I think the dad is probably stinking rich and that's why she can hit him up for this much.

Amanda - posted on 04/04/2011

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I need this womans lawyer!! I been getting screwed on child support for 9 years LOL. I hear all the time about woman in my area getting 1000+ a month for one child, while I barely get 400 a month for two children. Where do I hire this lawyer LOL! :0)

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lol i wouldn't even pay 25$ on a pair of jeans! thrift store for a dollar.. i couldn't imagine paying 150 for a pair of jeans! thats almost half my grocery budget!

Isobel - posted on 04/04/2011

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I don't know...IF he can afford it, why all of a sudden should this kid's lifestyle change dramatically because his dad hates his mom...that doesn't seem fair.

Jodi - posted on 04/04/2011

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There has to be a balance between the greed of some and the need of others.

Stifler's - posted on 04/04/2011

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Oh this guy didn't even see the kids either. He refused to have the son and still only had to pay some miniscule amount. He needed all sorts of expensive meds and incontinence pads for night time and stuff. The whole thing was crap. He ended up in a group home facility the mum just couldn't handle it.

Jodi - posted on 04/04/2011

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Yep, the new system just doesn't quite work fairly. It's ridiculous that I am expected to half support a teenage boy on $275 a month - it would be double that, except that he goes to his dad's house every second weekend. That's right, he goes there 2 nights every other week, and his dad virtually gets a 50% discount on his child support. That would be all fine and fucking dandy if his dad also contributed 50% of the cost of his clothes (my son has no clothes or toiletries at his dad's house), 50% of the cost of his school fees and uniform, 50% of his sports registration and equipment......etc. But no, he gets 50% discount just for seeing him for 2 days out of every 14. Go figure.

Stifler's - posted on 04/04/2011

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One of my clients had an autistic 17 year old ( severely autistic, not aspergers) and that's all she got. She worked at Subway and could barely afford food and the ex husband like owned an oyster farm or something. It was so heartbreaking.

Jodi - posted on 04/04/2011

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Barely feeds them at that age, LOL......
And if I am really honest, I don't *actually* receive it, it's just what he is supposed to pay.

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Back atcha. This $280 is an increase from what I used to get for my 14 year old. It's only increased because his father has agreed to pay half of his tae kwon do tuition for which I'm very grateful.

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$300 a week? I'm thrilled with my $280 a month for child support. Women like this make me sorry I have ovaries on occasion.

Jodi - posted on 04/04/2011

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Neither do I Emma....the last pair I bought for myself were $25 at Rivers.

Jodi - posted on 04/04/2011

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Donna, a woman is entitled to sue for spousal maintenance here if she has grounds. So let's say mum and dad agreed mum would stay home with the children, and she spent 15 years as a SAHM, in the meantime her skills would be outdated, and she would probably need some time to get her skills back in order, she would be perfectly entitled to sue for it, and probably get it.

On the brand name clothes thing, it's a pet peeve of mine that some people *expect* they should be able to afford them. Trying to keep teenage boys in clothes is tough enough as it is without them demanding brand names. Do you know my husband's ex mouthed of at him the other week because we don't dress her son in the quality of clothes she does. When I heard that I felt like punching her in the fact, I swear. My God, the boy is here only every second weekend. Why would I pay $100 for a pair of jeans he may wear 10 times? It REALLY grated on my nerves.

Toni - posted on 04/04/2011

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Wow I would be so happy with the $300 extra a week.
Sounds like she's a greedy piece of work to me.
$60 a week Macca's habit sounds like its leaning towards unfit parenting to me.

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I would love $300/week. I would actually feel 'rich' w/ that right now. She sounds spoiled rotten and money hungry.



Oh, I didn't realize what she is wanting is beyond the child support. That makes my opinion of her even worse.....

Jodi - posted on 04/03/2011

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Keep in mind that in Australia, there are welfare payments for parents with little or no income, and child support is a given, so this money she is claiming is over and above the standard calculated child support and any welfare payments she gets for the kids.



I totally agree that spousal support is sometimes a fair call, because yes, people do put their careers on hold to raise the children and need to reskill.



BUT if you are wanting to claim payments so you can live a life full of non-essentials, I agree with the judge, forget it. Cut back on your lifestyle or get a damn job.

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hell..i would have been happy with the 300 a week...that is enough to pay for a child..1200 a month EXTRA....thats what my family of 3 currently lifes off of..

Sharon - posted on 04/03/2011

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Um yeah. The kid can damn well get a job.

I think it kinda depends on circumstances of why she asking for spousal and living support.

I've known to many women who put their educations & careers on hold to have a family only to have the man fall out of love, and get a divorce (you don't have to ask for a divorce these days).

Now she has an unfinished education, no career and not a lot of hope of starting one if its gotten late in life. Maybe she inflated expenses to get him to cough up the maximum amount.

But as stated here, it sounds ludicrous.

Stifler's - posted on 04/03/2011

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Bahaha I posted this before but it's being so fucking slow to delete it. What a sense of entitlement... "I could tell him to get less expensive brands... but then he wouldn't have what all his mates have". I think she just wants more money too, so she claims all these "expenses of daily living" like a $60 a week Macca's habit.

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