fairy job mother...

Tah - posted on 10/28/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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So....there is a new show..this woman with a supernany accent comes to the homes of people who are not working...who NEED to be working..and helps them find work....this week she is with couple with 2 children..one is 3 and the other is about 7 months..they have been on welfare for 3 years..the husband hasn't had a job since he was discharged from the navy..and the wife hadn't worked in 5 years since she gave up her job with the department of defense...



The house was a wreck..and with both home all day...i don't know why...they received about 600 in foodstamps and 788 on cash...after everything is paid they have 39 bucks left every month..but he can afford to smoke...anywho...It had been 3 weeks since he had applied for a job and she came in and gave them a gentle kick in the pants.....by the way...the welfare office cut them off for a "miscommunication" and they had a notice on the door for late rent...she told them that getting welfare is not their God-given right to get something for nothing...



What do you guys think..is this a good thing....is this what some people need to get them back on track?...When is it time for someone to go back to work?....

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JuLeah - posted on 10/30/2010

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Tv tends to simplify things too much. Folks on the system are not all lazy and worthless. I fear this show will only offer that view.
Who knows what is really going on with this family. Think about it, who would really want to live this way? If you think well of yourself, are not depressed, feel healthy strong and able, why would you choose to live like this?
No one would, which makes me think, they are depressed, or there is DV in the home, or addiction .... something else is going on and when this super nanny leaves, the TV crew is gone, and this family is no longer receiving support .... what happens to the kids? Do they still get to eat?
If a person is depressed, a super nanny won't 'fix' that no matter how hard she kicks them in the butt. This family needs 'real' intervetion from someone more qualified then a nanny.

Lyndsay - posted on 10/31/2010

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I think that a lot of people need more than just a "gentle" kick in the pants. More like a size 12 steel-toed boot in the ass.

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We have a version of that programme here and I love it. The people who are on it are generally those who do want to work but never seem to get interviews or don't get the jobs if they do get an interview. The main problem atm though is lack of jobs.

Eliz - posted on 10/31/2010

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I watched the episode online and thought it was great. That family was a good family but just needed a nudge in the right direction. Some people abuse the system and I know quite a bit of those people. Some people do their best to get out of the system and can't and I know some of those people too. But I think this show will help some people get out of a slump and out of the system.

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I agree with that 100% if its all you have never known the cycle will never be broken..many have broken it but sadly most will continue it.To many live for welfare and its never going to change but to many people who work do put them all in the one boat..i know i did when we had many years of work and good pay, we learnt the hard way my friends.Don't judge what you dont know.

Tah - posted on 10/30/2010

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you are absolutely correct...i used that example before...grandmom, mom, etc on the system..its what you know..

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There is a lot of people just caught in the cycle of poverty. They've never lived any other way so they accept it. And their children grow up that way and accept it. Of course, that's not a rule and there are plenty of exceptions. But if your mom and grandma and all your aunts and cousins and all your neighbors have lived in poverty and off welfare, it's an easy thing to accept as "normal."

Tah - posted on 10/30/2010

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@Juleah..maybe where you live..i know plenty of people who are not addicted..not depressed and look at the system like wasy money YAHHHH!!!!..and continue to have children to increase the benefits....You ask who chosses to live like this..and the answer is lots of people...I don't know if every family on the show will be on welfare. This particular family was...and they explained their situation...the fact of the matter is, they were not being dilligent about finding work..some people are...they pound the pavement everyday....when she asked him when the last time it was that he looked for a job it had been 3 weeks. when she got in there..gave them a haircut and some clothes, did some interview training with them..which i think every state program should offer anyway because many people can't fill out an application correctly nevermind know how to interview. Here the welfare system makes you put in a certain amount applications a week..they half do this because they have no intention of actually getting the job...Now many people , as i stated are just having a hard time.i get that...maybe they need a kick..some encouragment...some interview skills..but whatever it is..i think it is good they are able to get it..even if on the show...

Jenn - posted on 10/30/2010

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I don't know, there are lots of people around here who live off of the system their whole life and pass it on to their kids that that's how to live. My aunt has always been on welfare and now all 3 of her kids are on it. Obviously there are lots of people who use it for what it's intended for - to be a hand up not a hand out - but sadly I'm afraid that's what most use it for - nothing more than a free ride.

Eliz - posted on 10/30/2010

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There are tons of people out there who need a kick in the pants to get off of wellfare. It annoys the crap out of me when people don't even try to help themselves. I wanna see that show!

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I agree if you dont like the way things are, you do everything in your power to change it and you keep trying.Eventually you will succeed and get work..



We have been both doing this, my partner went back to study and did civil engineering, welding and got full lorry license to help him gain more job opportunities in different areas.

He has tried and is still trying like crazy to get work.He pushes through days of feeling low and depressed as a man not working, even though we are in recession and many have up and left to Canada and Australia he wont give up.He is even thinking of getting work abroad to send money home or for us to eventually move abroad.

We dont like now things are but we wont give up, times are tough but were tougher lol :-)



its getting close to 3years..i have got interviews coming up now.I willingly gave my time up when i had my first daughter & my partner was working an excellent paid job,but now and yes i had a second child on welfare and didnt ask for a penny more for her..you can judge that if you like i really dont mind.Now i have no choice but to get out and work.I have a better chance of getting work hopefully.



So many will never want to change things and many will do what ever it takes to get out of the hard times there in, that the never wanted to be in..the worse part is being judged for it, when your actually a decent,honest person but just got unlucky in the recession.

People who worked 13yrs in a job to be let off and now find themselves on welfare, its unfair..many do become depressed and withdrawn, more to do with how there seen by others for been on welfare.

Tah - posted on 10/29/2010

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@Louise we had a debate about staying at home and being on welfare and if people could afford to stay home if they were using welfare a couple weeks back..lol...i was just confused as to where the little baby came from..you have been on welfare for 3 years, so you couldn't afford the one you had..then you had another baby that you REALLY couldn't afford and i don't think it is fair to them either...in this situation that i watched last night...one of the problems was that they were going back and forth about things because they weren't happy in their situation..which is a plus..some people get used to it...but they weren't doing everything they could to get back on their feet either. I am a firm beleiver in if you don't like it change it....

Louise - posted on 10/29/2010

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This fairy jobmother aired last year here and I can understand the message behind it. Some people just manage on welfare and do not bother to go out and actively look for work, where otheres are doing there best but keep getting looked over. There is always a job to be had out there it is just whether it is a job you would want to do. My husband and I both lost our jobs as we worked for the same firm and within a month we both had new ones. My husband has always worked and I have stayed at home to look after the kids. I will however go back to work when my daughter is in full time school. My view is you chose to have kids so you should do your best to provide for them and not rely on the state to put there hand in there pocket. I know times are hard and some people genuinely need welfare but I think there should be a time limit on how long you can stay on it. This may be the push some people need to motivate them back in to work.

Tah - posted on 10/28/2010

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they would have to..or use dad's shirts....if thats all i had every month, i would not apply every 3 weeks and play the game all day..he didn't even want to let his daughter ride her bike outside....they did get job offers in the end..he sells cars for $8 an hour..but made about 5000 in commision so she worked a little temp part time job and went back to being a sahm..i hope he keeps up the car selling streak because if business gets slow, $8 an hour isn't gonna be alot for 4 people to live off of

Tah - posted on 10/28/2010

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yes..and i consider having 39 bucks for the month..a tough economic time..i mean they spouted off bills..i didn't hear anyone say pampers....ok..so lets factor that in and you have nothing...

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Ah, I don't get Lifetime. We only get the 5 free major network channels. We're too prudish to pay for TV. I'll just watch it on hulu!

C. - posted on 10/28/2010

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I've been watching my Project Runway (until the finale tonight :'( ) Anyway, I saw the commercials for the Fairy Job Mother..

I actually like the idea of the show b/c some people don't know where to start after losing their job and then there are some that just need that fire lit under their butt. I'm interested in seeing how this show pans out, actually.

Jessica - posted on 10/28/2010

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OK HOW DO I GET A HOLD OF THIS SHOW!!!!???? I know some people that NEED this lady for sure!!!

I have to absolutly agree with Sara on this one. that is all I got...I gotta go to bed!

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Hmmm...I'll need to see this show before forming an opinion. Where can I watch this?



As far as your last question goes, there does come a time when you just need to bite the bullet and take whatever job you can find. Welfare should be temporary. (Not knocking welfare, I'm thankful it's there. I don't fault people for being on welfare, just for abusing it.)



A year and a half ago my husband was laid off his job. We had some savings and were living rent free, so we made it just fine for the few months he was unemployed. But he did consider taking his old job as an EMT back if he couldn't find something. I considered applying for teaching jobs, even though I wanted to stay home. In the end, we didn't have to resort to taking jobs we didn't want, but if we HAD to, we would have. There was no reason why two able-bodied adults couldn't find something, ANYTHING, to make it through a tough economic time.

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