family of sexual predators

Rosie - posted on 03/13/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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i live in a city in iowa where murder rarely happens, let alone the murder, kidnapping and rape of a 10 year old girl happens. a couple of years ago a girl named Jetseta Gage was kidnapped, raped and murdered by a man named Roger Bentley. the year before that, roger's brother, james, had molested Jetseta, and took child pornography pictures of her and a 1 year old. well i was reading our newspaper today and found out that another family member, kevin bentley (didn't say how he was related just that they were related) was accused of molesting another child.



does anybody have statistics or opinions of whether or not being a pedophile can run in a family? do you think it has something to do with how these people were raised, or is it in their blood somehow? it just seems so disturbing to me that 3 people from the same family all have committed these crazy acts. what do you think?

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Emma - posted on 05/01/2010

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The stats on the abused becoming abusers are very misleading, Firstly as very often the first time the Abusers clam they have suffered abuse themselves is only after they are caught, there is often no evidence to prove or dis prove there claims.
Plus if you add to the mix the fact that paedophiles are now claiming that they are born that way and in fact its not environmental as was previously thought.

Carolee - posted on 03/15/2010

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I was just talking about my own family and a couple of other people that I've personally known.

Isobel - posted on 03/14/2010

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I think though, that those stats are misleading. I know several people who were molested as children who have grown up to be normal, productive members of society (with issues, but not abusers).

The only time we hear about people who were abused growing up to be abusers is when they are caught and need an excuse.

I do believe that being abused makes you more likely to do it yourself, but by no means is it a guaranteed outcome.

Carolee - posted on 03/14/2010

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Abuse trickles down. Somebody probably sexually abused somebody in that family at one point. Then, that same person went and abused their children or grandchildren (most likely the grandchildren, since they have different last names, I'm going to assume they are cousins, even though I know I may be wrong). Those people then went and continued the trend and are/did abuse others, who will run the risk of abusing even more people when they get older.



That's the same thing that happened in my family. Only the males who were abused actually went on to abuse other people, though. For some reason (probably the stereotype of "real men don't talk about their feelings" has something to do with it) the girls who have been molested are just more quiet than the others and very aware of how their actions effect other people. And those of us who are mothers now are not afraid to fiercely guard our own children so it won't happen to them.



It's not uncommon for abuse of any kind to "trickle down family trees". It's only when they "branch out" that they get noticed, though.

Sharon - posted on 03/13/2010

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The Hills Have Eyes..... seriously.... happening in your own backyard....

Lisamarie - posted on 03/13/2010

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I have, weirdly, never looked into this, I say weirdly because I was sexually abused as a child by my step uncle (no blood relation) and his brother sexually abused their sister and my grandparents foster daughter. I am in no way an abuser myself, I think it may be different for men, I'm not sure, but I don't feel comfortable with my own body, let alone anyone elses!! (excluding my hubby, who is the only one that knows and has been amazing!) :)

Tah - posted on 03/13/2010

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i do know that some studies show that those who offend in this way suffered it in some form themselves, doesn't excuse, but it could explain, like with domestic violence, some studies show that those who abuse, were abused or witnessed it in the house hold. If they dig deep enough, i would be willing to bet that something in the household while they were being raised set this in motion...it is very sad..

Johnny - posted on 03/13/2010

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Well, "they" say that children of sexual abuse are far more likely to become abusers. So perhaps this several members of this family suffered some serious sexual abuse in the past. I'd suspect it was how they were raised. I don't think that there is something biological that makes people do things like that. However, most people who were sexually abused do not go on to commit abuse against others, the fact that these men may have been molested in no way excuses or mitigates such disgusting acts.

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