Fat Babies

Sara - posted on 10/05/2009 ( 25 moms have responded )

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So, I just read a post on another page where a woman was concerned that her 4 month old was too fat, as in OBESE. C'mon! Is this idea of being slim so ingrained in us as a society that we expect our infants to be svelte? I mean, I know new moms worry about weird stuff, but this is kind of ridiculous. I, personally, do not believe that babies can be too fat...some babies are bigger than others, but I think it's unhealthy to suggest that babies are obese like it's a problem. What are you supposed to do? Not feed them on demand or get an exercise regime lined up for them? Maybe a trainer? What about "Biggest Loser: Infant Edition"? What's next, diet Formula?

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Amie - posted on 10/05/2009

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Quoting Christa:

I actually think this can be a problem. I think there are parents out there who don't take the time to assess the baby's needs and just shove the boob/bottle in their mouth every time they cry. They’ve come out with studies that the eating habits of a child in the first two years of their life set the standard for the rest. Meaning if you over feed them they loose the ability to recognize when they are full, so they will be more likely to over eat their whole life. I actually just read this study the other day I wish I had it for you, but I don’t remember exactly where I read it now.

Now I also need to say that if a baby is fat that doesn't mean this is always the case, some babies like to eat. :-) My brother was a tank and as he grew he turned into and still is a bean pole. I do think it's something to keep an eye on, but not freak out over. There are some babies that start out obese and are always obese. I think some parents are under the false assumption that babies SHOULD be fat and set them up with bad behaviors. I think some parents aren’t educated enough to even think about it until it’s too late. I hope pediatricians are at least bringing it to parents attention so they can make sure they aren’t over feeding their child and they REALLY need all the food they are given. I look at it as any other “sign of trouble” that pediatricians look for, I’d rather them bring it to my attention and allow me to decide if it’s a problem then to go along blindly setting my child up for a life of struggle with their weight and more importantly their health.


I just marked it on my calendar Christa. =) I agree with everything you've said.



Obesity issues can start during infancy. It doesn't neccassarily mean that your child is obese now but some babies are over fed. Which causes problems later in life as Christa has so eloquently put. It is asked (here at least) how much our babies are being fed, what they are eating, their height and weight are charted, it's all done during their regular check ups at 2 weeks, 6 weeks, 3 months, 6 months, 9 months, 1 year, 18 months, 2  years, etc.



Having said that though doctors don't automatically say your child is fat. If they do that right off the bat, get another doctor. My childrens doctor has always taken in all factors before making any type of decision. My children have always been above the 95th percentile for both height and weight. But they correspond with each other so even though my toddler weighed more than most her age, her height compensates for it, so we don't worry.

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There is a huge difference between a chubby baby and an obese toddler/child. Someone mentioned that it's a pediatrician's job to inform and educate the parent on helathy lifestyles and food choices as our babies grow and develop. Yes, babies absolutely need fat. But as children continue to grow from year to year to year, they need to learn the difference between a healthy snack from a bad one and practice good eating habits. Infants don't know that, but of course the parent should. Infants will model good eating habits when they grow up, but for developmental growing periods, they need fat! I am in the minority though, sorry-I dislike fat babies. I don't find rolls of fat cute at all. A bit of pudge or chub is one thing, but rolls of fat kinda grosses me out. Sorry if I offend many of you.

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tee hee hee... my baby is 7.5 months, 23 pounds, wears size 6 diapers (a little big, but I get that size for my 23 month old too and it's easier than getting 2 sizes...) and wears 12-18 month clothing! Is she fat? No. She's in the 95th percentile in weight AND height (she is a very tall baby, but I am 5'9", my hubby is 6'1", my dad is 6'4" and my hubby's dad is 6'2"... height runs in the family!). Yes, I call Ellie "fat" but it's all in teasing and fun! She is a cute little rolly polly baby and she is just starting to crawl (so close!). I am sure she will loose those extra pounds when she gets more active!



My little brother was also a very fat baby, and he is skinny as a stick! My hubby too! He was 11 pounds when he is born and now only weighs 165 pounds (he's 31 years old and 6'1").



I really do think that yes, CHILD obesity is a problem, but INFANT obesity is a joke. What are you going to do? Stop feeding your baby? I think that would be considered child abuse/neglect... though you might be able to plead insanity... "but my dictor said my infant was obese, so I couldn't feed him/her!"

?? - posted on 10/07/2009

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Boob job gone wrong there - silicone went into her brain instead of her tits.

Jocelyn - posted on 10/07/2009

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aww I love chubby babies! My son was always a skinny guy tho lol. He eats non-stop and you can still see all his ribs!!! He's turning 3 in Jan and just got into the size 5 diapers :P
Anyways, in my opinion, a baby cannot be obese (lets say that a baby is a kid under one year old). They can be super skinny or have rolls galore; each is normal. Toddlers can also be skinny or chubby (look at their parents body type lol). Now, those 3 yr olds that weigh 140 lbs that you see on Maury, that is a whole different story; an extremely special case.
I do think that the whole weight issue is out of hand. I remember hearing that Anna Nicole Smith was only feeding her daughter 1.5 oz of formula instead of 2 oz because she didn't want her to get too fat. Yeah, crazy woman.

?? - posted on 10/07/2009

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The things Gabe is doin now just amaze me, watching him do people things more and more. It makes me sad but sooo proud! the fact that Gabe has the old man hair doesn't help either! He looks like an fat balding midget!!! The cutest fat balding midget ever, but still !! It's like a mini-mirror of what he might look like when he's goin through his mid-life crisis!

Sara - posted on 10/07/2009

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Quoting Jo:

My son has always been big... he's a chubba butt but he's a solid chubba butt. He's up in the 80-90% for weight, height and head curcumfrence. Now at 11 months he's 24.5lbs, 31.5 inches tall and has a big head (man I am sooo glad his head wasn't this big comin out - I feel for you women with kids with big heads)! At 6 months, he was almost 27lbs. Crawling and walking has solidified a lot of his chubbery buttness but he's still got his baby rolly polly belly and chunky legs and doughboy arms and I love every bit of chubberness on him. He is NOT a fat baby. He's a HEALTHY baby. Even though he's not so much a "baby" anymore :(



I know, Jo!  Can you believe our babies will be one this month?  I went to pick Ro up from daycare yesterday and she didn't want to come home with me...she wanted to stay and play.  :(  It made me sad because I realize how independent she is becoming, before I know it she'll be 18!

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My son has always been big... he's a chubba butt but he's a solid chubba butt. He's up in the 80-90% for weight, height and head curcumfrence. Now at 11 months he's 24.5lbs, 31.5 inches tall and has a big head (man I am sooo glad his head wasn't this big comin out - I feel for you women with kids with big heads)! At 6 months, he was almost 27lbs. Crawling and walking has solidified a lot of his chubbery buttness but he's still got his baby rolly polly belly and chunky legs and doughboy arms and I love every bit of chubberness on him. He is NOT a fat baby. He's a HEALTHY baby. Even though he's not so much a "baby" anymore :(

Jodi - posted on 10/06/2009

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My son was always about the 50th percentile for height and weight, but ballooned in rolls of fat between 6 and 9 months, and his weight went up to the 95th percentile. I wasn't worried at all - it dropped off once he started becoming active. He is now a healthy, lean 5'3" 12 year old boy. A fat baby in no way indicates obesity, it is perfectly normal!! As long as they have a healthy diet, it shouldn't be an issue.

Cindy - posted on 10/06/2009

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being a mom of two and a friend to other mom's I know what is going on.

Both my boys are 99%ers always have been, always will be. A baby needs FAT. IE MILKFAT. If you ingested the same fliuds by wieght that baby does and did not move for 9 months. How Chubby would you be?

I Laugh and smack new mom's upside the head (in fun) when they say my baby is to fat. The moment Jr. Figures out Crawling then Walking the weight is all gone.

As long as the child is moving they should slim down.



However...When a child has a disease they might not develop normally. IE: Kidney problems will cause a baby to retain water.



So. If baby is normal - dumb mom needs a butt kick, but if doc says lets worry, then lets all worry.



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I think the is too much importance placed on growth/weight charts, but I think Christa has made a good point. If a doctor is concerned about a babies weight then it should be taken on board and given consideration.

Johnny - posted on 10/06/2009

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Some doctors and nurses don't seem to know what to say about babies so they just make stupid comments about their weight. At my daughter's one year vaccinations the health nurse suggested we need to keep an eye on her weight, because she had been in the 90th percentile for weight at birth and is now only in the 75th percentile. Oh dear! Not to mention that she slipped in percentiles way back around 3 months, and has been gaining steadily ever since. And that she is way way over the 100th percentile for height, which is perhaps where all that food I feed her goes. She's just like her papa, tall and thin. I think the nurse is just used to finding fault, so she needed something to say. Crazy old bitty.

While I don't really think it is common for babies to be fat, I agree that poor dietary habits that lead to obesity can definitely start in infancy. Some people do drastically overfeed their children. I have a few other opinions about why this is, but I think I'd best keep them to myself :P

Ez - posted on 10/05/2009

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As the mother of a big baby (9lb 6oz born) this is a pet peeve of mine too. My daughter has never been below the 95th percentile for weight or 92nd for length, and has actually been off the chart completely for weight several times (as she is right now). She's just a big baby. She has looked chubby at times and then she grows in length and thins out a bit, but she's always been big.
People comment all the time on how big she is, and they assume she's at least 6 months older than she actually is. But if anyone actually suggested I reduce her food intake I would FLIP (and probably reply with "well maybe you should try dieting yourself cos you could stand to lose a few"). She eats the normal amount for a baby her age (3 x solids, 4 x bottles at 8 months old) and if any doctor told me I needed to change that because she is too fat I would be finding another doctor.

Christa - posted on 10/05/2009

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I actually think this can be a problem. I think there are parents out there who don't take the time to assess the baby's needs and just shove the boob/bottle in their mouth every time they cry. They’ve come out with studies that the eating habits of a child in the first two years of their life set the standard for the rest. Meaning if you over feed them they loose the ability to recognize when they are full, so they will be more likely to over eat their whole life. I actually just read this study the other day I wish I had it for you, but I don’t remember exactly where I read it now.



Now I also need to say that if a baby is fat that doesn't mean this is always the case, some babies like to eat. :-) My brother was a tank and as he grew he turned into and still is a bean pole. I do think it's something to keep an eye on, but not freak out over. There are some babies that start out obese and are always obese. I think some parents are under the false assumption that babies SHOULD be fat and set them up with bad behaviors. I think some parents aren’t educated enough to even think about it until it’s too late. I hope pediatricians are at least bringing it to parents attention so they can make sure they aren’t over feeding their child and they REALLY need all the food they are given. I look at it as any other “sign of trouble” that pediatricians look for, I’d rather them bring it to my attention and allow me to decide if it’s a problem then to go along blindly setting my child up for a life of struggle with their weight and more importantly their health.

Natalie - posted on 10/05/2009

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I'm another one who wishes my kiddo would gain weight. Between 4 and 7 months, he didn't gain at all, even though he ate all the time! Now that he's 8.5 months, he's finally gaining, but it's not good enough for the doctor. It drives me crazy, he eats all the time, he's hitting all his milestones, and he's cheerful and energetic. My husband and I were both scrawny kids, can't it just be genetic? Obese four month old, ridiculous...

Dana - posted on 10/05/2009

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No baby can be too fat. Although holy cow, no pun intended, 6 months and a size 5 diaper. I wish my porker was that porky but, he's like Mary's son. He's 14 months in a size 3 diaper and his size 12 month pants are big in the waist (if they're jeans). I try to fatten him up best I can but he can't eat grains so it's kind of hard.

Kylie - posted on 10/05/2009

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ahh it's totally ridiculous..but i worry about my baby being too skinny. I love babies with the michelin man fat rolls!

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I've always had the opposit problem, so I don't know much about this...My 20 month old wears size 4 diapers...and is ready to start potty training, but all of the training pants are too small for him. He wears size 12 month pants, and they fall down on him...He eats constantly, but he never sits still...my doc has never accused me of NOT feeding him enough, so, I'm not sure why you would accuse a parent of over-feeding a 3-4 month old...it's crazy. I did know one couple in CO who was told to stop night feedings of their 3 month old because he was getting heavy...but I thought even that was a little extreme!

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Yep. People get worked up over this, and I don't see why. My son was into size 5 diapers before 6 months as well - and at 13 months, he's still in them. I completely understand that childhood obesity is a concern, but babies are growing and developing so rapidly in the first year. Babies can't be obese, and they shouldn't be put on diets.

Sara - posted on 10/05/2009

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My nephew was in size 5 diapers at 6 months...but you know what? He started crawling and walking and is a normal, not morbidly obese, kid. He's huge, he's 10 and wears a size 10 men's shoe and my sister has been told that he'll probably be around 6'6"...but he's not OBESE and he never has been, even when he was the chunkiest little baby you ever saw.

Sharon - posted on 10/05/2009

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I took my 3 month old baby in for a well check and was informed he was OBESE. I flipped out. I didn't think he was obese, he was chubby like most babies. I was told to cut back on his feeding or he would grow up to be obese. I asked repeatedly what percentile growth group was he in and the doctor just got pissed and said "he's morbidly obese for a baby and its your fault!" WTF??



I was LIVID, I knew he wasn't as chubby as his older brother had been as a baby. But I drove 200 miles to see another doctor, a wellness center, WIC center and a clinic to get proof that my baby wasn't obese.



According to EVERYONE else - he was perfectly normal. I called the doctors office and ripped his nurse a new ass. They refused to give me a copy of his records for his new doctor. Including his shot records which I had left without because I was so pissed off.



Babies can be fat but I have no idea how you would restrict the caloric intake of a baby. I knew a girl whose baby was soooooo fat you could NOT bring its feet together.



Her doctor said based on her fathers' size the growth was most likely normal and that she would probably catch up in length soon. I moved away and never really got to see how that turned out.

Lindsay - posted on 10/05/2009

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Yeah, I always thought babies were supposed to be fat! I guess I was wrong. Obviously there are limits one WHAT babies should get but a 4 month old should be getting formula or breastmilk as much as they need.

Sara - posted on 10/05/2009

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Sorry...bit of a rant I know, I do realize child obesity is a problem, but we're talking about BABIES....

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