Fat Babies

Tara - posted on 11/19/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )

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I recently met a mom and her 8 month old son. He weighs in at over 30 pounds. He is extremely fat. She has formula fed him all his life. Her doctor has told her that he is obese and that she needs to stop forcing him to finish his bottle and has requested that she reduce the amount of junk this baby gets. She says there is nothing wrong with him because "everyone in my family is bigger". Uggg....
He can not sit on his own, he can creep or crawl. He lays in his vibrating chair most of the time and sucks on his bottle.
This child is obese. And it's so sad.
A mutual acquaintance thinks The Childrens Aid should be called, I really don't think they will do anything.
So my question to you, should the authorities be involved in this childs life? Should it be up to her doctor to make that call? What if anything should be done in this case?

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Krista - posted on 11/20/2010

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Tara, as a compromise to calling child services, could you perhaps call your province's local public health office? I know here in Nova Scotia, they send health nurses out to check on your baby periodically during the first few months. One could go by just saying it's a regular visit (not saying she was called), and let me tell you, if she's anything like the nurses I know, and finds out that the 8 month old is being fed cheesies and pop, that girl will get an earful and then some. Most nurses I know tend to be a lot more no-nonsense than the doctors I know.

Kate CP - posted on 11/20/2010

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Okay, I have N E V E R heard of a healthy child being over 30 pounds under the age of a year. I'm sorry, but that's not "maybe he's just a big baby" that's fat.

Tara - posted on 11/20/2010

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She's not really a friend at all, just someone I met through her sister. (who isn't really that big btw), who I always don't know very well, we used to volunteer at the same place.
So... it's only been through talking to her sister and spending a couple of afternoons with this mom that I know what I know. I am not the one who wants to call it in, i just wish she would listen to the info we all gave her on thursday, to stop feeding him junk, and let him decide when he's done drinking his bottle. She thinks he's cute, like a Gerber baby. It really is sad. I hope that her Dr. will step in and do something. It would be interesting to know if parents can be held accountable for over feeding their kids and/or not providing a proper nutritional diet. Certainly parents are punished for not feeding their kids, I just wonder if it could work the other way around.
I might call in anonymously and just ask them hypothetically what if anything could be done.

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Eliz - posted on 11/20/2010

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If the doctor feels she is endangering her child's health it is the doctor's RESPONSIBILITY to report it to the appropriate authorities.

Sal - posted on 11/20/2010

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firstly there are 2 things, yes an 8 month old should not be having enough junk that it afftects his weight,and his mum should have enough sence to know that (esp if the dr said so) but just because he is formula feed isn;t why he is fat, hundred and thousands of babies are bottle feed and just fine, and i have seen breast feed babies who are super chubbby ....and his weight might have nothing to do with him not sitting or crawling, all babies develope differenty while 8 months is a little late i have know kids who haven't started crawling until 10-12 months and waking until around 14-18 months for no real reason,, and the lack of movement might be contributing to the weight, not the other way around..my husband and i are both quiet tall and solid so all my kids have been in the top percentile for weight and height, and i know over winter when we just couldn't get outside and use up much energy all of us and kids included put weight on, it has fallen off them now that the sun is out (occationally at least!) and they play outside everyday..but they are now eating more than they did during winter.

is it her 1st child? if not they might of all being fat babies and turned out just fine..

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Obesity/being overweight runs in my family too. I don't accept that fate for Roxanne -- I do everything in my power to combat that. I educate myself. I provide healthy choices for her to choose from. I do EVERYTHING in my power to try and prevent her from following in the family's footsteps.

Poor innocent babies.

Ez - posted on 11/20/2010

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Oh there is a definite difference between a child who is genetically predisposed to being big (aka tall and solid) and a child who is unusually large. Milla's Dad is 6'2 and around 100kg. I am 5'10 and of medium build, and was always the biggest kid in the class at school (and 10lb 4oz at birth). She was never going to be small. But I agree there comes a point where it's more than just genetics at play. Feeding an 8mth old shit and sitting him in a bouncer all day is doing more damage to that baby than any genetic factor.

Amie - posted on 11/20/2010

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Erin that is ridiculous too. That kid weighs almost as much as our 6 year old son. *head/desk* x infinity.

It really freaking irritates me when parents blame genetics on poor choices. My husband is a big man (he's 6'3 and somewhere between 230-240 pounds) our youngest two (who are his biological children) do not weigh an obscene amount of weight. Our 3 year old is a bigger girl but her height justifies her weight! Same with the rest of our kids!

Again, UGH!

Amie - posted on 11/20/2010

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OMG. She's probably already done damage to her son. His stomach is probably already stretched from over eating, I'd bet money on it.

That is not right. That is obese. There is no reason an 8 month old should weigh 30 freaking pounds. Our 20 month old doesn't even weight that much. Our 3 year old hit the 30 pound mark when she was about 2 and a half. (She now weighs about 35 pounds)

I don't think calling child services will do much. I do think you should call public health and see if they would send someone.

As for the junk food. *head/desk* NO 8 month old needs, chips, cookies, doughnuts or pop. My god! She's setting him up for a life of bad eating choices and habits. ugh.

Ez - posted on 11/20/2010

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That is a huge baby :-/ My 21mth old is 31ish lbs and she is in the high 90s in percentiles!! At 8 months? Holy shit.

I actually just came across a post in my Feb 09 group of a 43lb 20mth old. Her mother is saying something similar as justification - her husband is 6'5 and she expected they'd have a 'big kid'. Ugh

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Poor baby. That's just sad. I know my son is on the 'small side' (in the 25th percentile at 2 years), but he's 2.5 and only 29 pounds! Of course, his 3.5 year old cousin is only 27 pounds. ;)

Jodi - posted on 11/20/2010

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I really think that there should be laws against this stuff. Obesity can be and is just as deadly as malnutrition. Both can lead to heart attacks and strokes...and death! My doc told me babies should double their weight by the ages of 6-8 months...so unless he was born 15 lbs, he is way overweight! I feel really bad for this kid and I agree with calling public health, they don't generally feel the need to be "nice" about health issues and this lady needs a good verbal slap across the face...and then some.Inexcusable!

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Woah that's a really dispicable diet! She needs good hit over the head and maybe she'll think straight after!

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WOW! SO sad.....it actually makes me angry. How nice that his mother has already accepted his fate as a fat person?! WTF?

Do I think the authorities should be called? Meh, sure -- why not? Nothing else seems to be working. They probabaly won't take the child away but perhaps it's the wake-up call the mother needs. Obviously the doctor is trying and she quick to disregard the medical advice so...

Bonnie - posted on 11/20/2010

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IMO there is a difference between being a bit chubby like a 'Gerber Baby' and being fat. He might look cute to her now, but if she keeps this up, he won't look so cute once he runs into health problems.

Bonnie - posted on 11/20/2010

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I think that if it is that bad, the doctor would be putting the child on a strict diet, rather than just telling the mother her child needs to stop eating junk. I know it's kind of difficult if the mother doesn't want to follow anything and the child is way too young to understand and can't do anything for himself. I have a 27 month old who weighs around 30 lbs and he is a little chunky for his size so I can only imagine an 8 month old at 30 lbs. My other son just turned 4 last month and he is around 33 lbs, but he is a little tiny. You could call Children's Aid and take with someone to find out if there is anything that can be done. There is no hurt in that.

Jenn - posted on 11/20/2010

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OK - so I'm going to have to agree with you then if she's feeding him that crap and told you she wasn't listening to the Dr. Even if you don't think CAS will do anything, you could always try calling them if you are truly concerned. I know it's a hard thing to do to a friend, but if you have a real concern for the child, that is what is most important.

Tara - posted on 11/20/2010

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For clarification, she told me she isn't listening to her dr. cause some of her family are big, in my opinion they are big because they eat junk, (I know her one sister and mother). As for the junk they are giving the baby, cookies, tim bits (Donut holes for you non-Canucks), and my personal favourite offender : Cheesies. She thinks Cheesies are great cause they dissolve in the baby's mouth without any need to chew them. He sips pop from her can and eats pretty much whatever they are consuming.
The kid is FAT. She told me that she holds his bottle for him at the end of the feed cause otherwise he will just drop it and not finish it and she thinks it's a waste of money.
Anyhow, I really don't think the authorities would do anything, poor kid though. :( I fear he will have a set of moobs before he has a moustache.

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I'd say the baby is just a big baby. Here in the UK doctors don't class a child being obese a problem until they start school at age 5.

As for "making him finish a bottle" BOLLOCKS...you can't force feed formula from a bottle! Let's just say he'd be dead from choking by now if she did that. Pardon my French but personally I don't think that's possible and we're told babies stop eating when they're full, they don't eat for the sake of eating.

My son is 1 next week and he's only 20lb 6oz but he was born small and he couldn't sit unaided until he was about 8 months old. I honestly think that once he's up and moving he'll loose a lot of the weight.

Caitlin - posted on 11/19/2010

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I don't know what to make of that, there is so much info we are missing.. Sure, he's a HUGE baby, my 2 year old isn't even 24 pounds yet, and my 9 month old is about 18 pounds or so? My second one is already ahead on the weight curve compared to her older sister. At 8 months, babies can have plenty of junk! My MIL was over today and asked if the baby could have a french fry, and I just gave her a "WTF" look which said it all.. No, i'll stick to the baby food (on top of it all, we all have colds, and I was just saying how she spent the whole night throwing up, sure a french fry is a great idea...)

Making the baby finish the bottle isn't the greatest idea. I don't think CPS would do anything honestly, they have underfed kids to worry about.

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My son will be three in Feb. and weighs 26 lbs...Mayah is almost 9 months and weighs about 18-19 lbs...I would say that 30 counts as obese for an 8 month old...but at the same time, Mayah is WAY bigger at this age than her brother was, and she was EBF until 6 months...I had to supplement Miles with formula (occasionally) and he started eating solids almost a whole month earlier...there's a possibility that some of this baby's weight is genetic just like the mother is saying. I don't think there is much way of knowing until baby gets bigger and starts walking and moving around a bit...

Jessica - posted on 11/19/2010

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Holy shit, my son is more than twice his age and (probably) isn't even to 30 lbs yet! Its possible that he's just a big baby, but if she's also feeding him junk and making him finish bottles on top of his predisposition to be big, then she is making things way worse. I don't know if authorities would really do anything? She's setting him up for a lifetime of health and emotional problems though :(

Rosie - posted on 11/19/2010

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some people have big babies. i would like to know what type of "junk" she could be feeding him at 8 months old. it don't really think CPS can do much about her having the kid finish his bottles. i don't know, i think babies and toddlers are just big sometimes without reason. i think when they get to be 2-3 is when you can really tell if they are being overfed and are truly obese.

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Hmmm....A friend of mine has a 10 month old that weighs 29 pounds. Saw her last week and we compared her baby with my toddler...who weighs less! The baby was EBF for six months.

Maybe the baby is just a big baby?

I'd also like to know what kind of junk the mom is feeding the baby.

I'm not saying the mom is not harming the baby. Perhaps she is. But maybe there's more there than meets the eye?

Corinne - posted on 11/19/2010

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This child needs help and fast! What chance does he have if his mother is unwilling to change her habits? Babies should not be obese, it is extremely bad for them just like being starved or exposed to violence, the poor kid could end up dead! Yes, I do think the authorities should be involved, at least then this mother might get the support she so very clearly needs.

Jenn - posted on 11/19/2010

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First of all, how do you know she's not listening to her Dr? Did she tell you that? Or are you making some assumptions? Some babies are just bigger while others can be little skinny-minnie's and still be healthy. But if she told you or you were there to see it first-hand that's another story. If she's forcing him to finish his bottle, that's not good. Not sure what CPS would do. Oh, I see you mentioned him getting junk - what kind of junk does an 8 month old get? Is she feeding him donuts and cookies?

Kate CP - posted on 11/19/2010

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I agree with Laura but the problem is that CPS probably won't do anything. They'll take the kids if you DON'T feed them but feed them too much and you're just a peachy-keen parent. :/

Laura - posted on 11/19/2010

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Personally if she won't change anything even where her doc tells her to I think she needs to be charged with neglect or child abuse. He has a great chance of developing diabetes, have breathing problems or heart problems. If this continues he could be dead before he's 10.

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