FAT Nannys/babysitters....

Melissa - posted on 01/21/2011 ( 205 moms have responded )

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Would you ever hire a very over weight or obese babysitter? I dont mean a little pudgy I'm talking a pregnant women could pick something up off the floor quicker than them! My sister has an obese babysitter (I was way shocked when I met her) and more and more I'm hearing and seeing overly weight women saying they are "professional" nannys and babysitters! I am so shocked, how can these women think they are fit to look after someone's kids when they couldn't even lift them out of the crib after a nap, or sit on the floor and play with them. And its even worse to see them in a daycare situation. I would not feel comfortable leaving my baby with one.

How do you feel about FAT childworkers?

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Jaime - posted on 01/21/2011

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I'm 252lbs (was 165 when I was pregnant with Gray) and I have developed bursitis in both hips along with patella femoral syndrome in both knees...oh and just for shits and giggles I also have a bulging disc in my lower back which is just awesome! I'm 30 years old and I can't get down on the floor to play with my son...but I can assure you he is well cared for. I can understand if the nanny/daycare provider is a lazy cow, but if she makes an effort to interact with the kids and her only fault is not being able to comfortably sit on the floor then I'd say there are worse things. I am one of those FAT people and as much as it physically hurts me to interact with my kid, I manage.

One day I hope to be the size I was before I had Gray...but I don't think my size makes me incapable of properly parenting, so I disagree that overweight nannies or childcare providers are not physically competent.

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But even if i was fat and a sitter it wouldn't matter a fat fucking iotanow would it. I can keep up with kids i ccan kick a football with my kids i can sit on the floor and am regualrly asked to look after friends kids.
SO Melissa how the fuck does it make a difference if i was a professional or not?

Isobel - posted on 01/21/2011

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maybe they are kind...smart...maybe they love your child and treat them with respect. Maybe they respect your parenting choices and follow your wishes.



All of these things are FAR more important to whether or not they run with my child or not.

Kate CP - posted on 01/21/2011

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Seriously, it just sounds like you have a thing against fat people.

Ez - posted on 01/22/2011

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As for the OP... it's almost too ridiculous for me to spend my time answering it. The issue here is clearly not concern for the babysitter's mobility. Melissa, you have expressed a blatant dislike towards overweight people in general, and are now grasping at straws as to why you don't want one looking after your child. Just admit you don't want your son around a fat person and be done with it.

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"What? i have never been fat in my life, thank God"

Melissa these sorts of statements are what i'm talking about. You don't like fat people you have already said you would not go near them if you didn't have to.

Meghan - posted on 01/22/2011

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one word- Karma.
I hope you don't ever get knocked off your pedestal...what a sad lonely fall that will be!

Ez - posted on 01/22/2011

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**Mod Alert**

Ok I'm locking this thread. The OP has been debated and this thread is going nowhere fast.

Move on please ladies.

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2011

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and i do know fat people and yes they are very nice, that doesnt mean i have to leave them alone with my baby!

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well then melissa i think you need help...and a life hating on fat people is really stupid some people have medical conditions that make them fat. i dare you to go to the bariatric ward of your local hospital and get to know some of the patients

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Melissa im almost thinking you were once a very obese person who went to a fat camp and now really really hates anyone with an ounce of fat on them...its a complex ive seen before on law and order svu

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2011

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ITS NOT THE FACT THAT THEY ARE FAT!!! You people have CLOTH ears.... its that they are SO fat they cant do the job right!

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Melissa my 150kg neighbour can carry my 12.5 kg son who said fat people can't carry a child. I might add my neighbour has picked him up several times when we were out in the yard and my back has "locked" and im unable to bend over at all and pick him up

Meghan - posted on 01/22/2011

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wtf are you talking about??? We all want what is best for our children.."fat", "thin", "old", "young". "black" "white" YOU are the only person I can recall that has a serious issue with someone's physical make-up. And if that is what works for you and yours GREAT! But don't come onto a freakin debate site and spew your judgmental beliefs and expect everyone to agree with you.

*edited spelling..my bad*

Ez - posted on 01/22/2011

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*Mod Warning*

I have deleted a post with a direct name-call. Sarah has already posted two warnings, so any more indiscretions and this thread will be locked.

Erin - DM Mod

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2011

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you dont care if your babysitter cant carry your child inside if they break their leg as long as they get a hug?

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Yep, i wold prefer someone to care about my kid emotionally then just be able to keep up wiht them. Whats your point?

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2011

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people have been saying this whole thread, "i would rather have a caring awesome fat person watch my kids than a fit healthy one?"

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Thanks Loureen it seems i might be a bit slow on the stats! LOL
I never said anything bad about Skinny people i just said that young people might not be fast enough to keep up with children mentally. So, Melissa i'm not sure where you got that from?

Charlie - posted on 01/22/2011

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"no...personally the only "type" of people I find to be stupid are ignorant ones... "

Oh that is just perfect .......I agree.

And those stats I posted are from 2010 .

Meghan - posted on 01/22/2011

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no...personally the only "type" of people I find to be stupid are ignorant ones...

Charlie - posted on 01/22/2011

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No , no one has said that at all now your just pulling things out of thin ( or whatever size you like ) air .

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2011

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ok yall seem to think all skinny people are stupid and cant care for kids, so really you are the same as me

Charlie - posted on 01/22/2011

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The United States is one of the fattest nations in the world. Overall, close to seventy percent of the nation is either overweight or obese.

Mexico – 69.5%

U.S.A. – 68%

New Zealand – 62.6%

Australia – 61.4%

U.K. – 61.4%

Ireland – 61%

Iceland – 60.2%

Canada – 60%

Chile – 59.7%

Greece – 58.9%

Slovenia – 55.1%

Luxembourg – 54.8%

Spain – 54.8%

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Shannen in response to your post about america having the highest obesity rate in the world...your wrong Australia does. and i'm australian and i think it's sickening. I'm not fat my boobs are just big to hide my tummy...or at least thats the theory my aunt goes by the skinnier you are the smaller your boobs lol i doubt its accurate though im overweight but really i had a baby 14 months ago and spent 12 months with PND so the exercise has only just started

Meghan - posted on 01/22/2011

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I have posted this comment before and I think it fits here too-
people keep getting stupider and stupider

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LOL Emma, that would have been a struggle. Old people are so opinionated. Kids are so much easier and nicer.

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2011

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wow now who is discriminating, at least a teen would be fast enough to grab your kid before they where hit by a car

Charlie - posted on 01/22/2011

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The question was :
"Really Melissa? Really? You go
rock climbing
sky diving
base jumping
sperlunking
scubba diveing
with your kids? "

you answered :all except the sky diving (which i hope to take care of soon) and yes when he is old enough i will do them with him

Im sorry your comprehension skills are lacking and you cannot answer a question correctly you must have had a super fit childworker teaching you .

Anyway , keep digging that hole it would actually be funny if it wasn't so sad .

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2011

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ya but how many kids actually go for the do as i say not as i do thing

and I dont hate anyone!

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I don't have a problem with obese childcare workers (after all obese women can have babies too) my problem is young 16 to 18 year olds looking after kids in daycare centres. these girls don't know how to look after babies! i know they can have babies too but they're far too young to be looking after 6 or more children per carer. I would rather hire a 30 something obese person than a 16 year old

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Exactly Emma, a Bad nany being thin or fat would just feed your child crap and therefore teach him bad habits.

Meghan - posted on 01/22/2011

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its like "fat" = the "N" word with you

geez, its not that big a deal, your poor kid must be smothered
*direct quote from Melissa*

Yup, I guess if we compare parenting styles my kid is smothered....what a joke

Stifler's - posted on 01/22/2011

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Just because someone is thin doesn't mean they are going to enforce healthy habits with your child or even means the exercise. I know heaps of thin people who eat shit food all the time and don't exercise. A good nanny would do what you ask her to with the kids like go to the park and prepare meals out of your pantry with food you bought even if she was large or ate different foods to what you consider healthy.

Charlie - posted on 01/22/2011

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BAHAHAHA really you have done these things with your 11 month old *wipes tears * oh that is hilarious you HAVE to be a joke hahaha.

rock climbing

base jumping
sperlunking
scubba diveing

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Sarah, I agree i don't think the BMI in accurate at all, My doctor ont he other hand took it as gospel while i was pregnant.

I'm am certainly NOT a body builder, but i am quite tall, Still in your eyes i wouldn't look right to look after your children because of my size.
Again, do YOU do all those things you have mentioned? Because if you don't then the same can be said for you. Just because you SAY you can do it doesn't mean anything.

Charlie - posted on 01/22/2011

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It's scary you are responsible for raising a child , give me an overweight , empathetic human any day .

Your hate blinds you , it makes you assume things of people by merely looking at them , how shallow .

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2011

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all except the sky diving (which i hope to take care of soon) and yes when he is old enough i will do them with him

Melissa - posted on 01/22/2011

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thats true and muscle weighs more than fat so shannen is probably just a body builder

Meghan - posted on 01/22/2011

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Really Melissa? Really? You go
rock climbing
sky diving
base jumping
sperlunking
scubba diveing
with your kids?

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Thats why America has the highest obesity rates in the world?
I'm not in america and i actually live in a farming community which requires a LOT of physically hard work.

Have YOU done any of those things?

Sarah - posted on 01/22/2011

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I don't think BMI is very accurate really, when I got pregnant with my eldest, my BMI was borderline anorexic! Which I am most certainly not!!

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