Fate or Jello?

Mrs. - posted on 05/21/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )




This whole rapture thing got me thinking...

Do you believe in fate?

If you do, is it just select moments in a lifetime or people you will meet, or do you go all old school Presbyterian and believe in predestination?

Or do you think it's all a big bowl of jello that we are aimlessly sliding around?


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I believe in jello but I believe we're not aimlessly sliding around in it. We make our own "fate", if that's what you want to call it. Every time we make a choice, we change our path, hence changing our "fate". That's why it drives me batty to hear people wish they could go back and change one little thing from their past. I feel like if I went back and changed anything, however small, it would have set me on a different path and I may not be here where I am right now, with a man I love and a son I adore. I am exactly where I'm supposed to be and my choices (good and bad) and my husband's choices got us here.

I definitely don't believe in any kind of predestination.

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I believe mostly in Jello, but I also believe there are moments of fate in my life that simply cannot be explained in any other way.


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Mary Renee - posted on 05/23/2011




This discussion reminds me of this one time when I was high off some really good pot (and before everyone jumps down my throat about it was before I was pregnant and had kids and it's been YEARS since I smoked it, ok!) but anyway, I was in the passenger side of a car and there was a red light so the car stopped and because of the sudden decrease in acceleration I leaned forward a little bit, unconsciously.

Then I started to wonder about how many things we do with out even thinking about them just as a result of the laws of physics, or biology, or chemistry! I think science and the natural world plays a much larger role in our lives than we give it credit for, on both a small scale and a large scale. I don't think no matter how much research we do we'll ever "fully" be able to understand the cause and effect of all this phenomena.

Of corse at the time I was like "Oh my gosh, DUUUUUUDE! PHYSICS in the answer to the world!" haha, or something like that. But I still "get" what my THC enhanced brain was thinking.

Tara - posted on 05/23/2011




Neither. I believe in synchronicity. I also believe in chaos theory.
There is order to all things, there is a system in place, of checks and balances etc. but I think that system lives within each person not somewhere else, where someone or something is in control.
I think the choices you make in your life ultimately become the lessons you learn in life.
I think that when you go through life mindful of your actions and mindful of synchronicity, you are more open to the "fate" ness if you will.
Rather than if you go through life thinking only that life is like a bowl of jello, and it's all just random jiggles until the bowl is empty.
I don't believe in any kind of pre-destination or destiny.

Jenn - posted on 05/23/2011




Mary Renee said it perfectly for me. My brain isn't working right now - what's it called where it's the idea of an infinite number of "you" - like every different possibility of a choice to be made mishmashed with everyone else's infinite choices, etc. Am I making sense? Or do I need more coffee? LOL!!

Mary Renee - posted on 05/22/2011




hahaha, Alfrieda... I love YOUR analogy... especially with the jello "chef"

Sneaky - posted on 05/22/2011




fate :o)

But I'm pretty sure that my version of fate is different from everyone elses.

Elfrieda - posted on 05/22/2011




I think it's very jello-y, with the Jello Chef often saying, "Hey, come over to this part of the jello." and if you follow his lead, you often come to a patch of jello you were particularly perfect for.

Haha, I love analogies! They can get so mind-bending. Also, now I'm hungry for jello.

Mary Renee - posted on 05/22/2011




I think my spiritual beliefs are kind of wacky, I tend to take a little from everywhere (Hinduism, Christianity, Buddhism, etc) and decide what makes sense to me. I think the message in all of them is similiar and that is that it's worth it to try to be a good person. I tend to thing it's worth it in and of itself, and not just because of the promise of an afterlife. I think this belief conflicts with a lot of the American values of capitolism, competition, "Winning" and getting to the top by whatever means necessary. What good is the top if you had to hurt people to get there?

That said I think I believe in a little bit of both. I believe in a little bit of kismit when it comes to love. Like you meet someone, and maybe you would have met them a year ago or ten, but whatever it was, that force that drives you together (at least in my experience) has been so strong it almost feels like its out of my hands. And even if the only purpose was for us to have our beautiful child and then separate... you know, I'm not one to say, but sometimes it feels like even when I think I've made a mistake, something happens as a result of that mistake that feels like it was absolutely supposed to happen.

But I don't believe there is a big god up there moving us around like chess pieces. I think maybe it has more to do with nature, chemistry, biology. Like maybe we're drawn to certain people, we call it chemistry, and maybe it's because we would really mate well together. Haha. It seems like there are magical moments where everything ended up the only way it could have been. And if it wasn't going to be this way, it wouldn't be this way. I think our parents, our childhood, our environments, and both nature AND nurture have a much more profound effect on establishing our "destinies" then some kind of magic bearded guy in the sky.

But in all other aspects... Jello all the way.

Louise - posted on 05/22/2011




I believe in fate. I met my husband through an old boyfriend and he was his neighbour. I have got jobs from being in the right place at the right time. I found a £10 note blowing down the street. I believe that you make your own fate and being in the right place at the right time is a bonus.

Firebird - posted on 05/22/2011




I agree with Sharon. Mostly jello with a little bit of fate thrown in sometimes.

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