Fathers FORCED to pay Child Support on Abducted Children

Jodi - posted on 07/15/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




Abducted children taken to Japan

It's a parent's nightmare: a couple splits up, and one parent abducts the child or children and flees overseas.

There has been a spate of cases where children have been taken to Japan.

Parents whose kids were taken there without their consent say the Australian Government is failing to prevent future abductions.

They say Japanese consulates are freely issuing new passports to parents who want to abduct children.

Queensland university lecturer, Matthew Wyman, says about two-and-a-half years ago, his Japanese wife took his two young sons to Japan and never returned.

After a long battle, he finally organised a divorce in December last year.

"My ex since then has reneged on all the promises, including changing their names - they now have her name," he said.

"The Australian Child Support [Agency] are now involved and basically forcing myself, as well as fathers, to pay child support to the abductors of our children."

Japan is not yet a signatory to the Hague Convention on cross-border custody.

As a result, overseas parents have no recourse if their child is abducted to Japan.

Already struggling emotionally, Mr Wyman says when he spoke with Australia's Child Support Agency, his situation got worse.

"I called them up and I politely explained the situation. I explained that my wife had abducted the children and I couldn't understand why if someone abducts your children and then an Australian citizen is forced to pay child support," he said.

"Her response was 'well, I don't care if your children have been abducted. I don't care if you have to pay child support. I don't care if you can't see your children, there are many fathers who cannot see their children. You will pay up or else. Are you a deadbeat father?'

"And I literally fell of my chair. I couldn't believe it."

According to Mr Wyman, the Commonwealth Ombudsman's office investigated his complaint about that conversation, but told him that they were unable to find the recording of that particular phone call.

Grown men in tears

Mr Wyman says his pleas for assistance have been bounced between Australian government agencies and ministerial offices.

Instead he decided to help himself, by forming a support group with other parents in a similar situation.

"We had a father from Sydney, Toowoomba, the Gold Coast," he said.

"It was very emotional for a lot of fathers, we had grown men here actually in tears, you know, just, retelling their story about not being able to see their children.

"[For] some of the fathers, the children were abducted when they were babies, and ... a lot of these fathers [had] the realisation that their children don't even know they exist."

Teacher and father, Scott Beckingsale, drove from Adelaide to be there after his Tiger Airways flight was cancelled.

He says his ex-partner abducted his half-Japanese daughter when their child was three months old.

"One day I came home from work and she had just gone back to Japan," he said.

"After the child was born her parents came to visit us and her father hated Australia, absolutely hated it.

"After they left she wanted to get a passport but she assured me it was just for the registering of our child as a Japanese dual citizen.

"I was a bit suspicious but, when you've got a new child and there's postnatal depression, you try to give trust to the partner."

He says he too has been ordered to pay child support by the Australian Government.

Both men are highly concerned by the situation of a third man in their group.

"He is going through an emotional rollercoaster because he's so scared that his wife can just take off with the children," Mr Wyman said.

"He's got court orders and she's had to surrender her passports.

"But what has happened in the past, a Japanese mother will go to the Japanese consulate, change the children's name, and the Japanese consulate will freely give out the new passports to the Japanese mother."

The group say they want the Australian Government to tighten border checks to prevent future incidents and also not require parents whose children have been abducted to pay child support.

The ABC contacted the Child Support Agency, the Commonwealth Ombudsman's Office, the Japanese embassy and the Japanese consulate in Brisbane.

Human Services Minister Tanya Pilbersek and Families Minister Jenny Macklin said they were aware of the matter and are looking into it.


So what do you think? Should these fathers, who have absolutely no legal recourse to get their children back, or even any sort of visitation, because their partners actively abducted the children, have to pay Child Support? What do you think of the Child Support Agency's response? And what if it were a case of a mother abducting a child to another state without the permission of the father (or court), should he have to pay child support in that instance too?


Jodi - posted on 07/16/2011




I disagree Elizabeth. If the mothers had the best interests of the child at heart, she would have gone through the proper legal channels to gain primary custody and be able to move to wherever she chose to move rather than take it upon herself to do as she chose. This tells me SHE has no interest in what is BEST for the child, only for herself.

Becky - posted on 07/15/2011




Wow, that is awful! I think with the exception of cases where there is abuse and it is unsafe for the child to be in contact with a parent, for one parent to keep their child from a loving parent who wants to be involved is completely wrong. I think by abducting her children, she forfeits her right to child support. She has chosen to allow the children`s father no involvement in their lives, but still wants to take his money? I just can't swallow that. Yes, I know the money isn't for her, it's for the kids, but honestly, if she's the type of person who will abduct her children, take them to another country and allow their father no contact (again, except in cases where there is a serious safety concern), then I highly doubt she has the best interests of the children at heart and is going to use that money solely on them anyway!
And even if legally the father is required to pay, the response of the agency worker was unprofessional and heartless.

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Absolutely disgusting. If a 'parent' takes it upon themselves to remove the other parent from the children's lives w/OUT going through the proper court system.... they should also be giving up all rights to any money.

IF the woman were to fit the bill for the father to be able to regularly visit his children.... then I'd feel that the father should pay support, but it's not right to take a man's (or woman's) kids away from him just because.


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if these fathers quit paying child support though, it may potentially damage any chances of seeing their children. Moms gonna tell the govt he doesnt pay child support, he has no interest in taking care of the child. Child support was built on the money going towards the child not making the life of the mom better.

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No its his right to not have to pay support.In this situation it is his right 100%.Dads get very little rights.Its very sad.Shame on that mother.:-(

Lady Heather - posted on 07/15/2011




No, no, no, no, no. Unless the guy is abusive he should NEVER have to pay child support for a child he can't even visit. That is such utter bullshit. Fuck, I feel bad for dads that are on the receiving end of crap like this. And who are these beyotches who think their claim to their kids is more important than the dad's? Do they think dads love their kids less than mums? omg. rage.

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